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Four Minutes, Four Times a Day to Improve Your Relationship

posted by Linda Mintle

I’ve been through years of relationship training. During those years, some ideas seem like good ones, others not so much. At a recent seminar I attended, I liked this idea and thought I would pass it on.

The leader of the seminar, Dr. Gary Brainerd, suggested this simple strategy. Take four minutes, four times a day to connect with your partner. A small investment of time could make a real difference. Here are the four times a day to devote four minutes:

1) When you both wake up. Take four minutes to touch, talk or do something to bring on the day.

2) When you say goodbye for the day. Start your day apart together. Say something warm and positive and send each other off to face the day.

3) The first moments you reconnect from being apart that day. Greet each other with a kiss and a few minutes of sharing your day.

4) When you say goodnight. End the day with a devotion, touch, or words of gratitude for each other.

Easy to do and I like this. Give it a try and tell me how it goes.



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  • http://www.breakup-advice.org Pat

    I think this is great advice. You really need to be intentional and proactively make time daily to communicate with your partner. It seems small but think of how much time it adds up to over the years.

  • http://www.trivedieffect.com/ Trivedi Effect

    those are some great tips! they are all true, by starting the day off right, you can increase the bond with your significant other..

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