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Stick to Those New Year’s Resolutions

I finally made it back to the gym a few week’s ago and noticed how crowded it was getting to my machines. I also know that by February, most of those eager faces will never brighten the YMCA again. Yes, we all have good intentions, but following through on them with consistent action is not so easy.

We are only a few weeks into our New Year resolutions. If you made family resolutions, it is time to evaluate how you are doing. For those of you losing steam, don’t give up on those areas of family life you know need change. Something prompted you to begin 2011 in a new way. Do not lose sight of that prompting.

Change is a process that involves several stages. Understanding those stages might help evaluate where you are so you can be successful this year.

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In order to change, people go from not thinking about the problem to:

1. to considering the pros and cons
2. to making small changes
3. to making change
4. to incorporating change into their lives
5. to jumping back on the change wagon if relapse happens

If you’ve made a resolution, you are at least on no. 3. Any small change will lead to the big change you have in mind if you stick with it. Keep going. If you decided to praise your children more, do it two or three times this week. If your goal was to help out around the house, take out the trash or wash a floor. Maybe you wanted to be less critical of your spouse; if so, make it a point to tell him two or three things you noticed he did well this week. Small changes begin the habit of bigger change.

The key is to move beyond intentions and be the change. Keep plugging away at those resolutions, asking the Holy Spirit to empower you towards those goals. With God’s help, you can make those resolutions a reality and begin 2011 on a positive note.

I’m pulling for you!

Did you make a resolution? If so, how are you doing?

  • http://www.divorcelawyerschicago.org Michael C. Craven

    Dear Linda-
    Thanks for your blog. I did make 2 resolutions and I’ve been keeping them so far. As you mentioned, come March I might need to be reminded.
    Michael C. Craven
    Chicago divorce lawyer

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