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February: The Month of Love or Divorce?

 

I was surprised to read that divorce attorneys report that January and February (just before Valentine’s Day) are the busiest time of year for divorce.

Think about it. Couples try to make it work over the holidays and hope that all the hoopla and family time will reignite an ember burning marriage. Apparently, not so much!

Connecticut therapist, Donna Ferber, reported in a Psychology Today article that she believes this is because January represents a new start to the year and parents who are thinking divorce do not want to drop that bomb on their children during the holidays. Possibly. Or maybe parents do not want to upset summer vacations, holidays and events. Maybe because kids are in school in Jan/Feb, day care isn’t such an issue. Maybe all that family time over the holidays leads to disappointment and a reality check of the work that needs to be on the relationship. Furthermore, January seems like a long month to endure given the winter and the one day holiday. So maybe unhappy couples feel the exhaustion of the holidays and have trouble gearing up for the new year. Whatever the case, the month of love is also the month of love lost. And that is sad.

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Remember that lost love can be found. That the path to divorce is known and can be fixed.

It is my hope that you will use your energy in January and February to get into marital therapy and stay out of the divorce lawyer’s office.

P.S. Today is my parents’ anniversary. My mom died last year but mom and dad were married for 67 years.

Thinking divorce? First read my book on divorce proofing your marriage.

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  • Linda Mintle

    Thanks for the underscore. So true!

  • http://www.sewelllegaloffices.com Columbus Divore Lawyer

    Just to underscore your point, an honest divorce attorney would never suggest you jump into a divorce before you’ve entered therapy and either: tried to work things out, or been advised as to how to move on. Jumping into divorce only leads to lengthy periods of bitterness and anger.

  • http://www.divorceinaustin.com Austin Divorce Lawyer

    50% end in divorce, but I’ll tell you it should be higher than that even as many stay even when they hate going home every day. I see the way men and women treat each other at every gathering of friends and family that I go to.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Melissa Heart

    Of course when you think of February, you will think that love is in the air since it’s Valentines Day month. But according to a friend of mine, who is a west palm in divorce lawyer, several married couples get divorce during this month as well. This year’s February, he handled 16 divorce cases!

  • http://www.divorcelawyerschicago.org Michael C. Craven

    Dear Linda-
    As a Chicago Divorce lawyer, I always hope my clients will work things out and not choose a divorce. Unfortunately, sometimes there is no option.
    Thank you for sharing your book.
    Michael C. Craven

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