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8 Strategies to Break Compulsive Spending

If you need help with compulsive spending, try applying these strategies to help break the cycle:

1) Admit you have a problem.

2) Get rid of your credit cards and pay with cash or check only. Hide one card for emergency uses only. You may want a spouse or trusted friend to keep this card.

3) Make a list and only buy what is on the list. No exceptions.

4) Avoid sales and discount places that give “a deal”.

5) Avoid shopping channels on TV and catalogue and Internet orders.

6) Leave your money, cards and checks at home when doing errands.

7) Substitute another behavior for the urge to shop, e.g., walk, read, meditate or pray.

8) Call someone for accountability when you have the urge to shop.

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Most important-get to the root of the problem. Buying things will never fill that empty space inside. Only a deeper and more intimate relationship with God will ever satisfy your cravings. His self-control comes as a result of receiving and giving His love and will help you overcome urges to act out of control.

Finally, instead of covering those negative feelings with temporary solutions, ask God to help you confront your areas of hurt and wounding. What is the root, the lie that keeps you bound? Jesus said, “I am the truth and the truth will set you free.” Allow His truth and His love to fill your heart and mind. God wants you free of anything that controls you and keeps you in bondage. You will continue to fail in your power if you don’t ask God to help you. As you press into a deeper relationship with God and learn to lean on Him, you’ll lose that compulsion that seems to drive you.

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  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment stephanie

    CONTINUED: I just remembered something important, even though I’m cured I wanted to tell you all the problems my addiction caused me so if you have this problem, you can really grasp the concept of “consequences”. Like for each shoe you buy or increase the credit card balance so you can just buy that one more thing before you pay it off (or aka: lie to yourself), you will understand if you dont do soemthing about it it might take YEARS to pay it off and will leave you with little time or money to do important thigns:

    > lost family and friends
    > developed work burnout (from trying to pay everything off to get more stuff)
    > had to quit my job because I physicaly couldnt anymore, I was exhausted and emotionaly overcome with my credit card bill
    > my husband took over the payments and I was unable to buy things we needed like food and I cried all the time, not just after purchases
    > I was forced to face all the problems I had been putting off for years all at once because now I had to or I would declare bankruptcy.. which didnt help my emotional state
    > In a good way but wayy too quickly I also had to deal with all the realizations of all the ugly, dark things in my emotional closet that I had never dealt with and it drained me ….
    > I had feelings of being a burden to my family and a failure because I didnt seek help from anyone

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment stephanie

    WOW I can tell you the relief it was to overcome this addiction!!! I became an entirely different person over a period of a year! But I can tell you one thing, it wasnt like tearing off a bandaid and my husband had to confiscate my credit cards because for soem reason it had physicaly grabbed hold of my honesty, self-worth and personality. Big answer to why i had such a bad addiction? Well its in the definition of shopping, but until i figured out what I was trying to “buy” to fill that void, its like when I would come home and open my bags that “item” wasnt ever there and I would fill guilty, cry and everything… it was actualy kinda pathetic. Basicaly, I was trying to buy the “love” from my lost childhood because my parents were emotionaly disconnected from me and hardly bought me stuff… I always felt like I was being rejected when I saw the other kids at school who had nice clothes and parents who loved them… but no matter how much you buy or all the wrong people that tell you they lvoe you… Jesus still loves you and if you let him, he can take those debts away and give you your self-respect back, even if you never had it before.

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