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knowing and understanding yourself | Terezia Farkas | Beliefnet | depression help

Knowing and understanding yourself isn’t easy.

We are all actors in life. The world is our stage.

Why do most of us dream of a certain life and why do so few of us actually obtain it? There are many reasons. But there are also many tools you can use to create change in your life. To make your dreams come true.

Your Change Tool

You might think you know yourself. But do you really know yourself? I didn’t. Not for a long time. For a long time I was convinced I was the opposite of who I really am.

You may be thinking, “But I know myself.” Let’s see how true that is. Check yourself against these questions:

– Were you ever so angry at somebody and finally in some way got revenge … only to find out it did NOT give you the satisfaction you thought it would?

– Did you ever want something so badly and finally got it, only to find out that once you did, it felt kinda empty?

– Did you ever collect things (and I’m not talking about valuable things, just mundane things like movies, clothes, etc) to give yourself more choice. But instead you found that the more choices you have, the more difficult it becomes to choose, forcing you to conclude that more choice does not necessarily enrich how you experience life.

We only know for sure how we will react to things, how things will affect our lives, how we will feel about things and how we would behave in certain circumstances. But what if you don’t experience something? How can you say what your reaction really would be?

Listening to those who already went through an experience like depression provides you with realistic expectations. But you still won’t know without a doubt what you’d do in that situation, facing those choices.

We all think we know ourselves. But we are all actors, so we portray ourselves differently, even contradictory to who we actually are.

Here’s a quick exercise for knowing and understanding yourself

Ask yourself these questions:

1. What drives me? What pushes me forward? Is it my need for recognition, need for affection, need for power, etc. Drive is based on your inner need. Something that’s there regardless of where you are or what your situation is.

2. What motivates me? Motivation comes from within and from outside yourself. Why do what you do? Is it my need for acceptance, need for recognition, need for affection, power, pride, etc.

3. What moves me emotionally? What makes me angry, happy, or sad? Why do my moods change?

4. What fascinates me ? Many things can be interesting. Human behaviour, entertainment, nature, technology, the universe, etc .

5. What do I want to experience ? If I could experience anything in this world, what would I choose? Would it be travel, culture, art, music, gastronomy, adventure, etc.

6. Who or what inspires me ? Is there a person, organization, community that inspires me? Am I inspired by events, like the Olympics?

Write down your answers. Check them regularly to see if any need things added to them. You’ll be surprised at how much information you’ll find out about yourself once you start asking these questions.

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