The Deacon's Bench

wedding_money_325x445.jpg A writer at the BBC is posing that question, and I can think of several members of the clergy who might agree:

Are today’s weddings a danger to the couples getting all the attention on The Big Day? [Rev.] Giles Fraser’s warmed to that theme in a Thought for the Day this week, and, judging by the media coverage his piece has received, he struck a nerve. (Read his entire Thought here.)

Money quote: “I’m delighted for Chelsea Clinton and her new husband Mark. But judging by some press reports, the most important thing about the wedding was her two Vera Wang dresses. And yes, I blame the media here, not the happy couple. For the pervasive influence of the media on the look and feel of weddings – not least those weddings that are featured in celebrity magazines – has encouraged an atmosphere of narcissism and self-promotion to work its way into the very fabric of the modern wedding celebration. Little wonder that, at their worst, some weddings can feel like an overblown vanity project, all justified by foot-stomping references to “my special day”.

I’ve heard some clergy wonder if the excessive costs of some weddings today might constitute a “sinful” excess, though thankfully they resisted the urge to reflect on that theological point during their sermon at the nuptials. Even if you are uncomfortable with religious labels such as “sin”, most people would accept that seriously excessive expenditure on a party is difficult to defend in a world where millions are starving and in need of shelter or clean water.

There’s a lot to chew on.  Check out the rest.

Meantime, as an antidote to big, overproduced weddings, take a look at this lovely account of two 80-somethings tying the knot. Be sure to check out the video at the bottom of the page. Keep a Kleenex handy.

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