The Deacon's Bench

The Deacon's Bench

When an altar server marries

Well, not just any altar server. David James was the assistant moderator of the servers at my parish for nearly a decade — and did a superb job.  (Before anyone asks: yes, we have a priest who acts as moderator for the kids, though it’s his assistant who does the heavy lifting of supervising schedules and training the kids.)

We have about 100 servers in my parish, and the work they do, week after week, liturgy after liturgy, is nothing short of spectacular. (The highest compliment I can bestow: they’re so good, they almost seem Anglican.)
David was a tough taskmaster — in his world, there’s never such a thing as too much rehearsal — but he infused everything he did with enthusiasm, joy and love for the liturgy. The kids are crazy about him, and they all love what they do. I don’t know any other parish where seven or eight servers show up on a Friday night, just to help with our Stations of the Cross during Lent — to carry torches, or the cross, or candles, or just be in the procession. Amazing. Our 11:30 mass on Sunday typically has six or eight servers — incense, torches, the whole nine yards — and there’s nothing quite like our Easter Vigil and Midnight Mass.


And, here’s the great thing.  The kids don’t quit when they enter high school. Many keep doing it, even into college. (David himself is a doctoral student at Fordham, studying church history.)

Well, yesterday David got married, and passed the torch (almost literally) to another server, who will now be drilling the kids. (I’m happy to report that David’s bride, Marian, is the granddaughter of a deacon.  Maybe God is grooming another one?) Saturday, David’s nuptial mass included four priests, a deacon (guess who) and — something I’ve never seen at a wedding — 12 servers.  It was beautiful.  

Of course, they had to pose for a picture.
Congratualtions, David and Marian!



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A Grateful OLQM Parishioner

posted June 13, 2010 at 12:12 pm

Congratulations David and Marion! Marion looked so beautiful yesterday. What a lovely and happy couple. Thank you David for all that you have done for OLQM over the years; our altar servers are truly amazing. They bring every liturgy they participate in to a higher level. The work that David has certainly set the bar high – and week after week, liturgy after liturgy and devotion after devotion the bar is not only met, but exceeded (and, yes, the parish recognizes the good and holy work of the priest moderator – Fr. Frank but this is about David. David’s letter in last week’s bulletin(Feast of Corpus Christi)was very touching. His work and faith have made a lasting impression on the parish. God Bless you and your new wife! (and God Bless the new assistant – Jonathan – who is also very special to the OLQM community)

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. Elaine Fontana

posted January 10, 2013 at 10:43 pm

The article does not state what parish this is or where it is located. But I have to tell you that in our church, many times we have up to 50 altar servers processing into Mass. It is absolutely beautiful to see these young fellas entering into Church. We always have a number of them at the Masses. Our Church offers a 6:00 am, 9:00 am and 12 noon Masses every day, and during the week we do have Mass in the evening two times a week. Love my Church and I do not want to move because of it.

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