…you hold the hand of the world.” That’s from LIVE WITH INTENTION. Appreciating my friends is one of my ten main life intentions. Recently I read that Sophie Tucker, the singer from the early 20th century who was called “The Last of the Red Hot Mama’s” said, “The secret to success in show business is knowing how to make and keep friends.”
I found myself responding to Sophie with, “That’s the secret to almost everything, not just show business.” So much of today’s conventional wisdom on success in business, of any sort, is that it begins with solid relationships. The truth of country music chimes in here with, “If you ain’t got friends, you ain’t got nuthin’.”
Observing my Dad’s last days of life, in the time he was able to speak, was a testament to the validity of this observation. He died, with only me at his side. He had not tended the garden of his friends. It is the only thing that he expressed any regret over. I endeavor to do one kind thing, one demonstration of remembering and appreciation for one of my friends, every day. No matter how busy I am or what I am doing. I know that at the end of the matter – it will not be the completed project I cherish…but the hand of a friend that I am holding.
It is a big sky and all around the wind is blowing.
There is not a cloud in the sky and all around the edge of this island
the sea is lapping and pushing and crashing.
I close my eyes. The desk and keyboard and stacks
disappear and I stand on a path and
listen to what the winds bring me:
A guitar strums,
winter-dried leaves rustle, compression brakes punctuate
the reverie and the cold afternoon.
The cloudless sky is big, promising snow, and
all around the invitation sounds,
“There is not a think that you cannot do
because you can close your eyes and imagine.”
As I considered the weight of current events, I promised myself to live to the absolute outer edge of my capacity for kindness. My own personal response to the many angry words being tossed about and the harshness of so many actions, this very day, in our world.
Being willing to be EXTRA kind was like an invitation to sweet opportunity. Are these chances around me every day? It is aptly understood that we see what we expect to see…so today I saw opportunity for extraordinary kindness one right after another.
The grace in this commitment is this: extraordinary kindnesses were unexpectedly offered to me. Kindness must move in a circle! I wonder how your day might be inpacted if you invited yourself to stand to the absolute edge of your own capacity for kindnes?