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Can anger be a good thing?

Wednesday is Question and Answer Day on the blog…a time for exploring many of the questions that people have recently asked about the nine Conversations with God books and the New Spirituality. Here’s this week’s entry…
Topic: How can anger be “positive”?
Question asked by:
Beth L.
Question: Hi Neale ~ How could anger really be a positive emotion? I can’t see it, except maybe in a “Righteous Indignation” sort of way. Very few people have this emotion ‘authentically’ in their lives. (Isn’t Anger just another manifestation of Fear and isn’t Fear something we want to alleviate?)
I was taught to go within and trust feelings over emotion. I’d hate to EMOTE all over someone with my anger.
Thank you Neale!
Keep shining your light in the darkeness.
Beth in MN.
Neale’s Response: Dear Beth…What a wonderful question! Thanks for asking it!
Anger is one of the Five Natural Emotions. These are…


…grief, anger, envy, fear, and love. And within these, also, there are two final levels: love and fear.
While the five natural emotions include love and fear, these two are the basis of all emotions. The other three of the five natural emotions are outgrowths of these two.
Ultimately, all thoughts are sponsored by love or fear. This is the great polarity. This is the primal duality. Everything, ultimately, breaks down to one of these. All thoughts, ideas, concepts, understandings, decisions, choices, and actions are based in one of these. And, in the end, there is really only one.
Love.
In truth, love is all there is. Even fear is an outgrowth of love, and when used effectively, expresses love. You may ask, “Fear expresses love?” And the answer is, in its highest form, yes. Everything expresses love, when the expression is in its highest form. Does the parent who saves the child from being killed in traffic express fear, or love?
“Well, both, I suppose,” you might say. “Fear for the child s life, and love — enough to risk one s own life to save the child.”
Precisely. And so here we see that fear in its highest form becomes love . . . is love . . . expressed as fear.
Similarly, moving up the scale of natural emotions, grief, anger, and envy are all some form of fear, which, in turn, is some form of love.
One things leads to another. Do you see?
The problem comes in when any of the five natural emotions become distorted. Then they become grotesque, and not recognizable at all as outgrowths of love, much less as God, which is what Absolute Love is.
I’ve heard of the five natural emotions before — from my wonderful association with Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. She taught me about them.
Grief is a natural emotion. It s that part of you which allows you to say goodbye when you don t want to say goodbye; to express — push out, propel — the sadness within you at the experience of any kind of loss. It could be the loss of a loved one, or the loss of a contact lens.
When you are allowed to express your grief, you get rid of it. Children who are allowed to be sad when they are sad feel very healthy about sadness when they are adults, and therefore usually move through their sadness very quickly.
Children who are told, There, there, don’t cry, have a hard time crying as adults. After all, they ve been told all their life not to do that. So they repress their grief.
Grief that is continually repressed becomes chronic depression, a very unnatural emotion. People have killed because of chronic depression. Wars have started, nations have fallen.
Anger is a natural emotion. It is the tool you have which allows you to say, “No, thank you.” It does not have to be abusive, and it never has to be damaging to another.
When children are allowed to express their anger, they bring a very healthy attitude about it to their adult years, and therefore usually move through their anger very quickly.
Children who are made to feel that their anger is not okay — that it is wrong to express it, and, in fact, that they shouldn t even experience it — will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with their anger as adults.
Anger that is continually repressed becomes rage, a very unnatural emotion.
People have killed because of rage. Wars have started, nations have fallen.
Envy is a natural emotion. It is the emotion that makes a five-year-old wish he could reach the doorknob the way his sister can — or ride that bike. Envy is the natural emotion that makes you want to do it again; to try harder; to continue striving until you succeed. It is very healthy to be envious, very natural. When children are allowed to express their envy, they bring a very healthy attitude about it to their adult years, and therefore usually move through their envy very quickly.
Children who are made to feel that envy is not okay — that it is wrong to express it, and, in fact, that they shouldn t even experience it — will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with their envy as adults.
Envy that is continually repressed becomes jealousy, a very unnatural emotion. People have killed because of jealousy. Wars have started, nations have fallen.
Fear is a natural emotion. All babies are born with only two fears: the fear of falling, and the fear of loud noises. All other fears are learned responses, brought to the child by its environment, taught to the child by its parents. The purpose of natural fear is to build in a bit of caution. Caution is a tool that helps keep the body alive. It is an outgrowth of love. Love of Self.
Children who are made to feel that fear is not okay — that it is wrong to express it, and, in fact, that they shouldn t even experience it — will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with their fear as adults.
Fear that is continually repressed becomes panic, a very unnatural emotion. People have killed because of panic. Wars have started, nations have fallen.
Love is a natural emotion. When it is allowed to be expressed, and received, by a child, normally and naturally, without limitation or condition, inhibition or embarrassment, it does not require anything more. For the joy of love expressed and received in this way is sufficient unto itself. Yet love which has been conditioned, limited, warped by rules and regulations, rituals and restrictions, controlled, manipulated, and withheld, becomes unnatural.
Children who are made to feel that their natural love is not okay — that it is wrong to express it, and, in fact, that they shouldn’t even experience it — will have a difficult time appropriately dealing with love as adults.
Love that is continually repressed becomes possessiveness, a very unnatural emotion. People have killed because of possessiveness. Wars have started, nations have fallen.
And so it is that the natural emotions, when repressed, produce unnatural reactions and responses. And most natural emotions are repressed in most people. Yet these are your friends. These are your gifts. These are your divine tools, with which to craft your experience. You are given these tools at birth. They are to help you negotiate life.
Anger is a wonderful emotion, Beth! It lets us express — that is, push out — negative energy that has built up inside of us. It is not anger that is the problem, but how we express it; what we use it for. If we use it for damaging or hurting others, that expression would be non-beneficial (obviously). Yet if we use anger to alter a situation which is hurting ourselves or others, that would be extremely beneficial. So we see, then, that anger itself is not the issue, but rather, the way in which it is expressed and used.
I hope this helps you better understand this gift of anger that God has given us, one of the Five Natural Emotions.
(Ask Neale may be accessed on a daily basis in the Messengers’ Circle at Neale’s personal website: www.nealedonaldwalsch.com. Each week Neale selects a question from those posted there and publishes it in this blog.)



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Butch Jamieson

posted December 26, 2007 at 7:14 am


Thanks for explaining the five natural Emotions. I am a counsleor and run into clients who have a dificult time expressing these emotions. what I read, will asist me in explaining it another way to help them work through their emotions as well as my own. your comments also help me understand my wife’s anger, fears, and sometimes Low self worh that I see in her. I myself hold back anger and lie about how I feel, and this has given me something to work toward coping with my own fear and anger.
God Bless you for allowing me to read this this morning.
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Wisdum

posted December 26, 2007 at 9:55 am


RE -Can anger be a good thing?
From “The Seven Deadly sins” ~ Anger
Definition – a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerance aroused by a real or supposed wrong (and or imagined!)
See: wrath, excitation, animosity, vengence, irritability, disapprobation, fury, ill humor, petulance, acrimony, hatred, hostility, huffiness, frenzy, exasperastion, rage, indignity, bitterness, enmity, malice, antagonism, belligerance, irascibility, temper, aggravation, contempt, displeasure, asperity, bad mood, ill will, resentment, detestation, loathing, abhorrence, impatience, disafection, estrangement, alienation, dissension, repugnance, antipathy, aversion, revulsion, agitation, high dudgeon, malediction, grumpiness, irateness, pigue
See Also: affront,bait, gall, incense, madden, rankle, seethe, vex, bristle, enrage, rant, annoy, insult, goad, stew, arouse, ruffle, spite, outrage, peeve, embroil, gnaw, incense, infuriate, envenom, bug, bother, needle, fume, explode, ferment, rampage, shout, glare, glower, growl, scowl, upset, frown, snark, bark, bite, snap, blow up, steam up, stir up, take offense, take umbrage, see red, go beserk, fan the flame (let me throw in burn my ass!)add fuel to the fire, raise “One’s” hackles, get on “One’s” nerves, get under One’s skin, get One’s gaot (or Lamb), get up One’s nose, get One’s dander up, push too far, bead One’s fangs, stir the blood, have a conniption, be livid, be cross (and or nailed) be apoplectic, be miffed, be furious, be disgruntled …
Just at a quick glance, it seems to not be a positive affliction!
LUV 2 ALL
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nillawafer

posted December 26, 2007 at 9:58 am


jesus said not to be angry and call your brother “raca.” the dalai lama and the buddha say not to entertain anger. are those guys just crazy men? what if we don’t even know who to be angry with? what if we’re just really, really confused? once i experienced righteous anger when my husband admitted to an affair he denied for a year and accused me of suffering from paranoia and psychosis for believing it all that time. i got so angry i pounded my fist and broke my hand. who did that anger hurt? not him. me. i was unfaithful when we were young, so now it was my turn to be hurt, i guess. what if i could have breathed through the anger and gone outside to look at the stars instead? remembered my own sins of hurting another. would i have learned compassion or at least had insight into the right thing to do? instead we had years of fighting and turmoil that damaged our children and ourselves and ended in a suicide.



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CJ

posted December 26, 2007 at 11:03 am


Wow, nilla, those are some powerful examples of anger and its aftermath. It must have been horrible. I can see how the anger hurt you, and yet, I don’t think it would have been possible for you not to feel at least some of it.
I think anger is a natural emotion, but that Neale hits the mark when he says that we should express it, and then get over it. People suffer mightily in relationships where emotions are repressed and denied because those emotions form layer after layer of junk that has to be dug through. The layers harden over time and get so deep that the couple doesn’t have the energy to dig through them and clear them out.
So, anger that is recognized, expressed in a non-hurtful way, and then dropped, is probably the healthiest. How do you drop it? Forgive. Yourself; the other person; the world. Realize that whatever it is that makes us angry is not as real as the Love which animates all of creation.
Sometimes it is a matter of expressing / dropping / expressing / dropping over and over again, continuing to love. This is “clearing out the layers” so there is no build-up. With such “light” layers you can, as Neale said, “move through the emotion quickly” and come out on the other side, in Love.



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Cully

posted December 26, 2007 at 1:46 pm


re: jesus said not to be angry and call your brother “raca.” the dalai lama and the buddha say not to entertain anger. are those guys just crazy men? what if we don’t even know who to be angry with? what if we’re just really, really confused?
Posted by: nillawafer | December 26, 2007 9:58 AM
hi Nillawafer :-)
no, Jesus, the Dalai Lama, and Buddha are not just some nutz. Anger is an outgrowth of Frustration. Usually (unless it’s a Strike and Flare anger episode – like Jesus in the Temple) by the time we experience and/or express Anger what has really (REALLY) caused it has been smoldering for so long that we don’t even think of it as why we are angry.
In Matthew 18, Jesus talks of how to deal with those who do us wrong and forgiveness (verses 15-17 and 21-22). We learn here that we must always forgive those who wrong us but we must not remain their victim(s). Forgiveness is for those who have wronged us in some way – we (can) forgive simply by realizing that people are screwed up and that they don’t even understand that what they do can and often does hurt others. Jesus said it best…Luke 23: 34, Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”
Blessings to you Nillawafer!
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ann m. hamilton

posted December 26, 2007 at 3:30 pm


I deal with emotions everyday. It’s like my Mother used to say, Emotions are like puddles of water, you can choose to step into one emotion at a time or all at once. Only you have control noone else. My Mother put me up on you Neale and i thank her in heaven everyday. You are a God Send. Have a Merry Christmas and a Blessed New Year. Mrs. Ann Hamilton



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Flying Dolphin

posted December 26, 2007 at 5:51 pm


It totally surprises me that people like Wisdum and some others don’t get the explanation of the 5 natural emotions, especially or specifically, anger. That’s ok, just surprising.
Have not all great social movements that brought greater freedom to us not come from the anger to break the hold of the power elite?
Does not the frustration and anger of a bad job or relational situation help us break out of it to something better?
There is healthy anger and unhealthy anger. There are many degrees of anger and as we learn to deal with and heal the unhealthy anger, we will all be better off and the healthy anger will in itself may most likely be used in much lesser degrees.
Many spiritual people feel anger is just bad and has no good purpose, I disagree with them. However, I do agree with them in that unhealthy anger is not beneficial or helpful and needs healing.
I was happy to see how the 5 natural emotions helped Butch J in his counseling practice.



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SuzyW

posted December 26, 2007 at 7:00 pm


A bit off the subject, but maybe not..I just watched the excellent movie”AmazingGrace.” It is how one man fought to change history by getting England to abolish the slave trade. He was inspired by the man, John Newton, who was a former slave trader whose remorse for his self- acknowledged “sins” came out in the song he wrote about himself,”Amazing Grace.” A must see…and very inspiring and hopeful.
Sometimes ones man’s anger and passion can be used positively and too energize a passion for a good cause.
Hugs, Suzy in Ohio



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Wisdum

posted December 26, 2007 at 10:19 pm


Re – Flying Dolphin | December 26, 2007 5:51 PM
It totally surprises me that people like Wisdum and some others don’t get the explanation of the 5 natural emotions, especially or specifically, anger. That’s ok, just surprising.
** Well, some of us are very familiar with the Seven Deadly Sins (not 5), Pride, Envy, Anger, Covetousness, Gluttony, Sloth, and good old faithful, Lust …and the Seven Cardinal Virtues – Chastity, Temperance, Charity, Diligence,Patience and Kindness. Of course under Neal’s “New Spirituality” they would be Spirits of…(which is of course all illusion … right ?)But then, in the Bible that’s still traditional faith.
In terms of mankind’s evolution within this appraoching “New Age of Aquarius” I think the best description of natural emotions, would be in Gary Zukav’s “Seat Of The Soul” (don’t know if you’re familiar with Zukav’s work, but Neale is!) His general term is “Multi-Sensory Perception” … (and of course perception is everything !) We are no longer restricted to the 5 Senses, simply because they are too limiting, and we need to move on to a higher plain of existance to experience “True Power” … so your perception of surprise, is not surprising to me.
LUV 2 U / LUV 2 ALL
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Michelle

posted December 26, 2007 at 11:18 pm


What are some ways to express anger in a healthy way? When someone yells, throws things, or slams doors, etc – is this something that would be recommended to accept in effort to allow a person the freedom to express their anger? If so, what are ways to induce feelings of comfort for one’s self while supporting this freedom of the other individual to express and move through their anger?
Thank you so much – Hugs~M



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somethings-fishy

posted December 26, 2007 at 11:40 pm


‘Between the idea, and the reality, Between the motion, and the act, Falls the Shadow’ wrote T.S. Eliot in his poem ‘The Hollow Men’. And again, ‘Between the conception and the creation, Between the emotion and the response, Falls the Shadow’.
Rising from the memory of Dante’s Divine Comedy, “The Hollow Men” by T. S. Eliot draws us back into the world he created in The Waste Land, this time to examine the nature of enervation as it seeks salvation. The Hollow Men, like Conrad’s Mr. Kurtz from Heart of Darkness and England’s national villain Guy Fawkes, are men of high ideals but without moral fortitude.
Eliot’s poem follows loosely and returns often to The Divine Comedy. Eliot has sent his reader on a hunt through literary history, just as he did in The Waste Land, but this time the works alluded to are less vital to understanding the poem. They endow the reader with a deeper understanding of Mr. Eliot’s vision but in the end, the poem stands up by itself.
The role of the shadow within is sometimes hidden, and sometimes rejected or repressed, by the conscious ego. In the latter case it is pushed into the unconscious, where, because of its energy, it acts as a concoction or elixir of sorts. People can, for example, be fully aware that they are avaricious, greedy, angry or aggressive and still manage to hide these truths from others beneath the mask of the persona.



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Flying Dolphin

posted December 27, 2007 at 12:55 am


Re:Wisdum You said “We are no longer restricted to the 5 Senses, simply because they are too limiting, and we need to move on to a higher plain of existance to experience”
We never ever were restricted to the 5 senses…….
I do like Gary Zukav’s work. My surprise was you seemed so ingrained in anger as only a bad emotion and that’s limiting in my view.
But I agree we should work and play at going beyond the 5 senses.



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amilius

posted December 27, 2007 at 1:08 am


Those acquainted with Neale’s books will know that there are 6 senses, not just five. Taste, touch, smell, sight, hearing, and knowing. One designed it this way before embarking on the journey of Many. We are all One. Namaste



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michelle

posted December 27, 2007 at 6:12 am


re: Michelle | December 26, 2007 11:18 PM
For the record, and for anyone who might be wondering, the post under the name “Michelle” at 11:18 PM December 26 was not posted by the same Michelle who has been posting here under the name “Michelle” for the past six or so months.
Love and Peace,
Michelle



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michelle

posted December 27, 2007 at 6:31 am


“The role of the shadow within is sometimes hidden, and sometimes rejected or repressed, by the conscious ego. In the latter case it is pushed into the unconscious, where, because of its energy, it acts as a concoction or elixir of sorts. People can, for example, be fully aware that they are avaricious, greedy, angry or aggressive and still manage to hide these truths from others beneath the mask of the persona.”
This comment by Something’s Fishy has me wondering if there is a possible connection with something I read last night in a book by Martha Nussbaum in which she claims that emotions have attached value judgments. I think it must be so. At least in some circumstances, what we feel is the result of a value judgment we have made somewhere down the line, whether consciously or unconsciously, and probably more often than not a value judgment that we have accepted wholesale from those powers that be.
For example, someone gets jealous because they perceive another acting in a way that goes against one’s own primary value judgments that the other should not be attracted to or by another.
In CWG we are told that nothing has a judgment save the one we give it, so I can’t help but wonder if the world would be a more peaceful place if we tried to be more like God without so many value judgments and just allowed the isness to be.
Love and Peace,
Michelle



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something even fishier

posted December 27, 2007 at 7:25 am


“In my own way. I’ve even done a little praying. A few years ago I wrote a very angry letter to God—and God answered.”
“Here is what I observed on this subject: Humanity is losing patience with itself—and rightly it should.”
“We are seeing that most of the institutions we’ve put into place to make life better have only made life worse. That includes government and politics, business and commerce, education, and yes, even religion.”
Our governments and politicians have made a mockery of us, our businesses and industries have betrayed us, our educational systems have failed us, and, to our great sadness, our religions have been unable to save us from the tragedies and the indignities and the horrors of our own devise.
I didn’t write the letter. I’m not angry.
Neale did.
[The Hollow Men] Fragments of The Lord’s Prayer are found in Section V, breaking Eliot’s thought flow.



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michelle

posted December 27, 2007 at 8:33 am


Something Fishy,
I may not have conveyed well the reason for my quoting your previous post which was that I found it very well written and enticingly intelligent and thought i saw a thread of a connection to what I had been thinking on last night. The connection between our thought and our emotion was just something I, too, was thinking on last night and I, in no way, was attempting to make value judgment on your own comment with my post. Just wanted to make that clear. Thanks for your insightful post.
I love Eliot too! Are there any greater lines in all of English poetry than these?– “April is the cruelest month,breeding lilacs out of dead land, mixing Memory and Desire, stirring dull roots with spring rain. Winter kept us warm, covering earth in forgetful snow, feeding a little life with dried tubers. ..”
Love and Peace,
Michelle



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Wisdum

posted December 27, 2007 at 9:15 am


Re – Flying Dolphin | December 27, 2007 12:55 AM
Re:Wisdum You said “We are no longer restricted to the 5 Senses, simply because they are too limiting, and we need to move on to a higher plain of existance to experience”
We never ever were restricted to the 5 senses…….
** We were never restricted to anything, as far as God is concerned! … and that pretty much explains why the world is in the shape it is! The restrictions are not of the spiritual world, but of the scientific world, who set the rules for the physical world. There have always(and we ALL have been taught this Way)been the “5 Senses” as laid down by our science (which to me also can explain why the world is the Way it is) They have refused to deal with human emotions like Love, Lust and all the other multi-sensory perceptions. Recently this has been changing, due to equipment and machines that can measure brain waves, and all kinds of “stuff” Here’s another example of stupid science, they define mankind as White, Black,Red,and Yellow Races… Now we ALL know and ignore, that this is pure bullshit! Show me one, (I’ll settle for just one) human, that is White, or Black, or Red, or Yellow! Human beings are ALL colors of the Rainbow, and the “ALL as ONE” is how God intended it to be ! … “You can never go wrong, underestimating the intelligence of the American Public” (PT Batnum) Let me add to that “You can never go wrong, underestimating the intelligence, and over-estimating the ignorance of the world population” Or as my “College trained/Teacher/ Spouse”, puts it “I don’t want to know about !”
I do like Gary Zukav’s work. My surprise was you seemed so ingrained in anger as only a bad emotion and that’s limiting in my view.
** Anger is a “bad” emotion, that is why we labled it that! Would you prefer that we labled it Love? This is the problem I have with all you Nealists, Paulists, Roman-tics and all the other limiting spiritualists that set out to define and restrict how human behavior should be and if not we shall either kill you or incarcerate you … how about crucifixion, that’s cool! How about stoning, or flaying off all your flesh … dam … I bet we can come up with all kinds of physical manifestations to display our personal spiritual perspective … cool! “ALL, we are is words (or Word!) and words get in the Way!”
But I agree we should work and play at going beyond the 5 senses.
**Uhhhhh … yeah! (duh!)
LUV 2 ALL
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Flying Dolphin

posted December 27, 2007 at 9:52 am


** Anger is a “bad” emotion, that is why we labled it that! Would you prefer that we labled it Love? This is the problem I have with all you Nealists, Paulists, Roman-tics and all the other limiting spiritualists that set out to define and restrict how human behavior should be and if not we shall either kill you or incarcerate you … how about crucifixion, that’s cool! How about stoning, or flaying off all your flesh … dam … I bet we can come up with all kinds of physical manifestations to display our personal spiritual perspective … cool! “ALL, we are is words (or Word!) and words get in the Way!”
Whoa, you see this as black and white with anger and blame Nealists etc of being black and white and limiting? Listen to yourself!
Expanding on a term like anger is not restricting behavior just the opposite.
You seem very attached to your own sense of rightness and thus you are the one who is being restrictive, do you see that?
Thus we can only agree to disagree on this matter.



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Wisdum

posted December 27, 2007 at 10:18 am


Re – Flying Dolphin | December 27, 2007 9:52 AM
Whoa, you see this as black and white with anger and blame Nealists etc of being black and white and limiting? Listen to yourself!
** Uhhh … Don’t skip over the Paulist Roman BS, which played a major hand in corrupting Christianity, and continues even today through Neale (the self-enthroned New Messiah)I’m not blaming anybody of being limiting. It is in the mis-translation, mis-interpretation, mis-understanding, mis construing and twisting of semantics and metaphor that has resulted in the world being what it is, since the beginning of Time … “Do not eat from the Tree of Knowledge !” … Perhaps this might enlighten you “A little bit of Knowledge is a dangerous thing !” … “A lot of Knowledge is deadly!”
Expanding on a term like anger is not restricting behavior just the opposite.
** The twisting and misconstruing of semantics in words has nothing to do with restricting behavior, other than creating con-fusion and all of the rest of those anger related words I posted above. And this is your solution to all the worlds problems ?
You seem very attached to your own sense of rightness and thus you are the one who is being restrictive, do you see that?
** As Neale says in his CWG’s “There is no right or wrong, only perception!”
Thus we can only agree to disagree on this matter.
** You are unrestricted to think that Way, or anWay you like, under God’s gift of “Freewill” … Amen ! … For me, I’ll stick with the Truth, the Light and the Way … Amen, again !
LUV 2 U / LUV 2 ALL
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Chris

posted December 27, 2007 at 4:15 pm


Hi,
I can offer a clear example of positive anger. I was served food in a resturant yesterday & it was the kind of meal that had no effort,no care & no love put into its preparation. I felt strongly that the message this meal sent out was one of indifference to the feelings of myself and other customers. When this meal was put in front of me i left & got a meal elsewhere. I felt i had offended them for awhile till i realised i was offended & projecting my anger. I when back to the waiter & explained how upset & treated like a thing this meal had made me feel. I felt afterwards that i had used my anger to express my upset without attacking or making anyone wrong-much like gandi used his anger to express his feelings about british rule.



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Wisdum

posted December 28, 2007 at 7:55 am


Re – Chris | December 27, 2007 4:15 PM
Hi,
**Hi Chris, hope you don’t mind my two cents on your post.
I can offer a clear example of positive anger.
** Anger is alWays positive for the person that’s angry. The outcome of that anger is a matter of relativity and perspective. The word the world uses to justify their anger is “retaliation” or let’s check the score and see who’s ahead, if we’re behind, we shall take measures to correct that score!
I was served food in a resturant yesterday & it was the kind of meal that had no effort,no care & no love put into its preparation.
** Is that what you went to the restaurant for ? If that was NYC where you went, you made a big mistake ! And I would venture that the “6AM to midnight job” that most employees in restaurants go to every day, does not lend itself to “effort,care & love put into its preparation” especially if they are working for minimum wage or just tips!
I felt strongly that the message this meal sent out was one of indifference to the feelings of myself and other customers.
** Ahhhh! … you must have been in New York City !
When this meal was put in front of me i left & got a meal elsewhere.
** Was it any better ? Can you reccommend the place ?
I felt i had offended them for awhile till i realised i was offended & projecting my anger.
** That’s called “Paulist, Roman, Catholic Guilt” Are you one of them types ?
I when back to the waiter & explained how upset & treated like a thing this meal had made me feel.
** And that’s tied to depression and bi-polar disease/disorder … you can get treatment for that.
I felt afterwards that i had used my anger to express my upset without attacking or making anyone wrong-much like gandi used his anger to express his feelings about british rule.
** You know what happened to Ghandi…right ? I don’t know if self-immoliation is the Way to go, although anger can surely burn you up!
Just a tip, never return food, especially a steak, in a restaurant. They will spit on it and bring it back to you with a great big smile on their face saying “We’re so sorry you were dissatisfied. We hope this suits you better !”
LUV 2 U / LUV 2 ALL
Wisdum



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To my readers on this blogsite... I have made a serious error and this note is to apologize for it. On Dec, 28 on this blog I published an anecdote about my son's class of young school children giving a Christmas Concert nearly 20 years ago, with children holding up letters that spelled out CHRISTM

posted 2:19:03pm Jan. 06, 2009 | read full post »

You are who you say you are
I hope and trust that you had a wonderful New Year's Day! And today we move into the third part of the Triad Formula, which is the First Step in a Three-Step approach to dealing with change in one's life. In the third part of The Triad Formula I decide that I am who I say I am, and my experience is

posted 5:37:36am Jan. 02, 2009 | read full post »

The decision is all yours
On the final day of this year, as the calendar page changes, let us talk more about how we can use spiritual principles to deal with changes in our life. Yesterday we explored part one of a three-part Change Process derived from the messages in Conversations with God. Today: Part Two. This second pa

posted 5:30:50am Dec. 31, 2008 | read full post »

Nothing you see is real
There are many ways to deal with the extraordinary changes that are occurring in people's lives these days. Here is one of them... It is called The Change Process, and I began to talk about this in this space yesterday. (See yesterday's blog for introductory comments.) I promised that today I would

posted 4:21:13am Dec. 30, 2008 | read full post »




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