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How Do You Stay Sane During Holidays?

I didn’t marry until I was 36, so I had about 15 years of heartache-y holidays–alone, unprotected, and bummed that nobody loved me. Or so I thought.

For many people, the period from Thanksgiving to New Year’s is miserable and unmanageable. People rush, drink, and argue to excess. As we prepare to wrap up another year, we look over our shoulders, and often experience regret. Too often, we think about what we didn’t do, instead of what we did.

So hey, healthy readers, how do you find sacred space to worship, or stay in the moment to behold all the abundance?

Click here to share with Beliefnet’s editors the strategies you’ve developed to stay serene and observant. We want to know your secrets!

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posted November 17, 2006 at 10:16 am

In high school it was always a bummer that I never got presents from anyone, yet I never gave out anything after middle school because my small class was too often mean to me because I was so different. Yet, for the last two years, it felt great that I worked at part time gigs that didn’t stock up on the decoration, because of the growing sensitivities to non-Christians and non-Jews. I mean, I hate the whole “happy holiday” instead of “Merry Christmas” thing, but at least I haven’t been pressured to getting all this stuff or desiring it as well. Or hearing pathetic Christmas tunes…

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posted November 19, 2006 at 2:38 pm

We just have to stay in the moment. Do the task at hand and then proceed to the next one. Take time every day for a little quiet time or meditation. Prioritize. LET GO of the stuff that isn t really important and that covers a lot of stuff! Let go of old habits and traditions that have lost their meaning. Simplify. Here is an example of revisiting old habits with a happy outcome that s easier for everyone: My Mom and Grandma always fixed turkey and dressing on Christmas. I really do like Turkey and dressing, so that s what I fixed. Now it is my in-laws who usually come to dinner on Christmas and they don t appreciate turkey and dressing. My daughter went to a holiday party where, instead of a meal, they had heavy hors d oeuvres , which allowed people to mingle and visit while sipping a glass of wine. It sounded like a great idea. I suggested it to my in-laws and now everybody brings a dish of finger food and we mingle and visit. Everyone is happier and I don t have to wrestle with the turkey and make the dressing! Wishing everyone a laid-back and happy holiday,

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