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‘Callboy’ or Hypocrite: Which is Worse?

Check out this “Code of the Callboy” editorial from today’s New York Times by Dan Savage. An excerpt:

“…today it is arguably more shameful and damaging to be a hypocritical closet case than it is to be a sex worker. Even those delighted by Mr. Haggard’s disgrace — disclosure: I count myself among their number — ache for his five children, all suffering now for the sins of their father. And let me be clear: their father’s sin is not his sexual orientation, but his deceit and hypocrisy. His sin is the closet.”

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posted November 8, 2006 at 10:14 pm

i think both of those things are bad beyond a threshold… a threshold where you cant tell which is worse.. but then again it doesnt really matter. if you are either then thats not very good at all :p

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posted November 9, 2006 at 1:45 am

That which we admit to since the beginning will save us. That which we deny from tyhe beginning will condemn us.

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posted November 9, 2006 at 7:02 pm

I read Ted Haggard’s letter to his congregation and was surprised to find him taking responsibility, apologizing, asking for forgiveness, and blaming no one. I thought of how Martha Stewart, Ken Lay and Mel Gibson all failed at this. So while I may deplore Haggard’s actions, I don’t condemn the man. (If anything, I empathize with his brokenness.) I’d encourage anyone who is quick to judge (or condemn) to read this letter as well as the one written by Gayle, his wife.As I was reading the op-eds and listening to the commentaries about this scandal I was thinking how much schadenfreude prevailed over grace. Forgiveness was mentioned rarely. What a sad commentary on the state of our hearts! What happens next in the Haggard’s lives may be the purest example of how they live their faith. Isn’t our response also a demonstration of our own?

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posted November 10, 2006 at 4:38 am

Forgiveness, forgiveness, forgiveness!! Or is it compassion as well…let’s start trees of forgiveness and plant them all over the universe!

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