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In What Do We Trust?

I do not consistently telegraph to my children how distressed I am about international events. The kids force me to find things I can believe in and trust–instead of complain about.

I admire families that speak openly about politics and argue issues over the dinner table. But lately, I’ve been picking up on a cosmic lack of trust in everything, alive in the mind of our 12-year-old. World news is so distressing, global warming has us in its clutch, and here he is, emerging into the world as an older young adult. He needs to bulk up on happy thoughts, and find institutions, people, and a higher power he can trust. So I was especially eager to read this article from the current issue of Forbes written by Tom Tyler, author of “Trust in the Law” and “Trust in Organizations.”


Tyler writes: “Whether you’re talking about small groups, larger institutions or society in general, trust is an important condition of effectiveness, because trust leads to high levels of engagement and motivation. When they trust authorities and institutions, people feel connected to groups and do what is needed to help them succeed.”

If your trust in others has been damaged, how do you work to reconnect? Parents, how to your nourish trust–consciusly or unconsciously–in the minds of your growing children?

Forbes’ fun sidebar on trustworthy celebrities helps to get us thinking about how trust is built. Tom Hanks tops the list, followed by Rachel Ray, Michael J. Fox, Oprah Winfrey, James Earle Jones, Denzel Washington, Morgan Freeman and more.

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Garnet David

posted October 18, 2006 at 10:48 pm

Lisa, (I think I remeber your name correctly) Trust is very fragile and takes years to heal when it’s been betrayed. But people are also fallible and selfish and often betray it, even unintentionally.Of course, family is the beginning of learning to trust. But I am now convinced the best reason for devoloping a larger spirituality is to be able to trust in something other than just humans. Sometimes we just don’t have that option. On another subject, I just submitted my blog to be listed on BeliefNet. I’m not clear as to what is required. Are external blogs listed? I saw mostly websites.

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Stacey-Robin H. Johnson

posted October 19, 2006 at 3:54 pm

I definitely agree. Trust, like love, among humans is only as good as the the individual. We’re so far from perfect, how can our love or ability to trust be anything other? There are only 3 people I trust without question–two of them are now dead! God, however, has proven to be a sure bet.

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posted October 21, 2006 at 5:20 pm

I have been going through a ordeal with health and work and I am learning that the ONLY peron you can PUT TRUST in is JESUS and let him work out the details of or life. And he will.

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posted October 22, 2006 at 7:28 pm

Our country needs to turn back to “in God we trust.” People want to take God out of every thing but that’s what we need because we lack trust in other people because they let us down. Trust also begins with each of us trusting ourselves then others will trust us. Make sense?

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posted October 23, 2006 at 3:55 am

If your trust in others has been damaged, how do you work to reconnect? Talk it out, forgive, give it time, maybe even some distance. But don’t run away from it; deal and go on. Simple, but not easy. Parents, how to your nourish trust–consciusly or unconsciously–in the minds of your growing children? It’s a combination of things: setting the example, talking about it, giving them opportunties to learn and demonstrate trust, by pointing it out “in action” and acknowledging it. (Such as when they don’t throw a party while you’re away, or finish their homework as agreed.) Plus, just about every faith tradition has historical examples of the trustworthy and not-so. And for that modern flair, there’s always the Celebrity Teasure Chest of Broken Trusts to use as examples: Z.Zidane, BodeMiller, Clinton, Bush, Enron, Parmalat, etc. Sometimes this distance and objectivity make trust easier to see and grasp.

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posted October 23, 2006 at 5:48 am

I think there’s a very fine line between trusting that we will be taken care of and taking action to make things better, in the world for example. I’m very obsessed about Dafur at the present time. I watched an unbelievable video on You Tube that has taken my breath away! I thought they all said ‘never again’. Is this some kind of lesson???

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