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A Thanksgiving Feast

What does Thanksgiving mean to you? For many people, it is about gathering together with loved ones around a table, filled to overflowing with all manner of delectable food. Perhaps it brings to mind the onset of the holiday hustle that flies in the face of the purpose for a season of good will, whatever your faith tradition.

I prefer to think of it as yet another reminder of how blessed I am.  While I face the same life stressors as many on the planet…more than some, far less than others, I have learned that an attitude of gratitude trumps challenges, overcomes doubt and vanquishes fear.  Sure, I can whine and complain about what isn’t flowing as smoothly and easily as I would like, in my day to day OR I can take a step back and do a gratitude inventory. Here are some of my blessings/blissings:

My deep and abiding, ever evolving spiritual faith.

Dear friends and family, the circles of which grow and expand daily.

Creative work that I love, for which I am abundantly compensated.

A beautiful home.

A healthy and strong body that lets me do all kinds of cool stuff, like dance, yoga, walking, doing what I call my ‘playouts’ (rather than workouts) at the gym as I ‘sweat my prayers’.

Precious time with my Mom who is receiving hospice care.

When I develop ‘spiritual amnesia’ and forget how amazing my life is, I return to my gratitude list.  It is so simple and immediately effective.  I encourage you to give it a whirl….

 

It is a feast that you can enjoy every day for the rest of your bountiful life!

 

Reggae legend whose spirit still enriches us long after his passing, Bob Marley shared his thoughts on gratitude in his song Thank You Lord

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=voPE1GaKTjU

 

 

What’s In A Name?

 

What’s in a name? I remember reading that the sweetest word someone can hear is their own name. It is what they are referred to, how they identify themselves. When it is said lovingly, it is music to the ears and the heart. My birth name is Edie Dena Weinstein. Edie is translated as “rich gift” and Dena has variations of “slender” in Hebrew, “valley” in Native American heritage and “she has saved” in various African cultures. When I was growing up, Edie was an uncommon girl’s name and it brought with it, the baggage of easy mispronunciation. Come September, on the first day of school, well educated teachers would call me Eddie. Mortified year after year, I somehow survived the childhood trauma:) When I got married, I became a hyphenate, adding Moser to an already long name. Professionally and personally, that became the way in which I was known in the world. On December 21, 1998, the man I had married and whose name I shared, died while awaiting a liver transplant. I maintained the name as much out of habit after awhile, rather than feeling married.

Fast forward and I am sitting in the office of my friend Irene Bojczuk who is a life coach. I had told her that since turning 51, my intentions had been to make this next stage of  my life one of manna-festing (I like this term because it is symbolic of ‘manna from heaven’) my heart’s desires such as an abundant career using my creative gifts of writing and speaking and attracting a committed relationship partner. She looked at me as if the question she was about to ask was the most obvious one to consider. “Then WHY are you still using your husband’s last name?” My simple response was “It has been mine for 22 years and it is how people know me.” The thought of giving it up sent an emotional ‘gulp’ ringing throughout my entire body and yet I knew she was on target. Energetically, referring to myself as Edie Weinstein-Moser was putting out a message to the Universe that I was still married, at least to the name. When I left the session, I tried it out, imagining introducing myself to people with my new (well actually old since it has also been mine for 28 years prior to meeting and marrying Michael). When I got home, I changed the voice mail messages on home and cell phone, as well as doing word surgery on my name on the various social networking websites and groups I am on. I sent an email to my friends and told my mother. Unanimously, people supported my decision, sensing the rightness of the shift. I will make the legal name change next year.

 

 

Last year around this time, I was interviewed by a talented journalist named Naila Francis who writes for The Doylestown Intelligencer, a regional newspaper in the Philadelphia area, about the subject of grief around the holidays. As both a grief counselor and someone who lost a loved one at a time when many are in celebration mode, I was well suited to speak on the topic. I told her that it was the first year that I felt a semblance of normalcy. For the first ten years, I lived in a state of remembered sadness, fatigue, poor sleep, being on auto-pilot much of the time. At year ten, I plunged headlong into the depths of the loss one last time. Last year, I was fully able to enjoy the beauty of holiday decorations and music, unencumbered by the ‘body memory’ that had me reliving the experience leading up to and following Michael’s passing. This year, as I write this entry, it is even easier.

I am convinced that the name change had a great deal to do with the ease and comfort with which I am moving through what heretofore had been a challenge. In no way does it dishonor what we had as a couple. It does however, honor the metamorphosis I am exploring as I emerge as a gloriously wing-spread butterfly, soaring on the wind~ I welcome the beauty that I know will accompany me on the journey.

Following The Tingle

Suzanne Eder is one who encourages people to live an awake and inspired life.  She knows that in order to do so, she needs to ‘walk her talk.’  I imagine that for her, each day is a brand new/grand new opportunity to do so.

 

How do you live your bliss?

I live my bliss by consciously seeking to connect with, honor and empower my soul’s longings. These longings are revealed by asking my heart of hearts, “What do I most want to create, give or experience?” For me this has translated again and again into creating work I truly love, and so I live my bliss when I teach and inspire a group, when I support a client in realizing a breakthrough and when I write something that arises from a fresh insight or revelation. And I also live my bliss when I read or witness something that moves me, when I take time for self-connection in my journal and when I surrender fully to my practices of prayer and meditation. But it’s important to note that our longings aren’t always the big, deep ones that have to do with changing the world. They are our authentic, moment-to-moment impulses that call us to rest when we are tired, reach out when we need support and dance when our bodies are alive with movement. Or maybe hang out in the sun with a few cats!

You create what I call a ‘mainstream to metaphysical’  bridge for people to cross. How do you translate those concepts?

 What a great question! It’s one that I keep open all the time: How DO I translate these concepts in a way that is useful to others? First I seek to live them, to explore and experiment and see how these concepts work for me, here in this life, with bills to pay. I also ask myself questions such as, “If I was living in accordance with what I say I believe, what would that look like?” and “What is it that seems to confuse people most often? What might they be missing or misunderstanding?” and “How can we ground this into 3-D reality without falling prey to fear and losing its essence?” Just asking those kinds of questions stimulates deeper insights and opens new places to explore.

I also rely on the great education I received at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing. Since Barbara is a physicist, everything was taught within the framework of understanding the energetic, vibrational nature of our universe. The language of energy seems to connect with both metaphysical and mainstream people.

 

What is Solid Ground? 

 Solid Ground is the name of my business, which is all about helping people live what I call an “awake and inspired life”: awake to their innate divinity and magnificence and led or inspired by the evolutionary impulse of their souls’ longings. I chose that name for two reasons: one, as a reminder of the need always to ground spiritual principles into our bodies, our lives and our world so that we are fully empowered by them; and two, as a call to remember and connect with the Ground of Being that is our true source of eternal Life.

 

Some pointers for finding peace in the midst of chaos?

Breathe! I’m always amazed at the great power of pausing to take slow, deep breaths. Bring your attention into your body. And in that pause, consciously look for the deeper truth beneath the surface situation. Something great may now be ready for your attention, ready to emerge. Or perhaps you are now ready to release something that no longer serves you.

Chaos opens up tremendous opportunity for change and transformation, and if we can remember that and find ways to stay grounded and centered, we can respond with curiosity. Again, asking the right questions can really help, questions such as, “If I assume this is serving me in some way, what might that be?” “What part of me wants expression now?” “How might this reflect where I am on my evolutionary journey?” “What might be ready to emerge now?” “What truth have I been ignoring that I am now ready to acknowledge?”

 And learn to make friends with fear, rather than denying it or caving into it! Listen to what it has to say without agreeing with it, see if there is anything useful in it, then discard the rest. Definitely a skill that requires practice!

 

How did you discover your own passions and put them to work/play in your life?

I discovered them by what I call “following the tingle.” I just kept putting my nose into things that interested me, and they kept evolving and expanding and calling me to go further. First it was teaching aerobics, then it was learning about healthy exercise and eating habits, then opening myself to learning about mind-body-spirit health and healing, and so it grew. Early on I was deeply inspired by Shakti Gawain, a pioneer in the New Age movement. I loved not only what she said, but who she was. When I listened to her at a conference as the keynote speaker, I thought to myself: “That’s what I want to do with my life! I want to teach and speak and write about things that really enlighten and help people!” Naturally I talked myself out of it as soon as the thought occurred – after all, it wasn’t remotely practical to my corporate, financial analyst mind – and so the work became learning to recognize it AS my soul’s longing and my deepest purpose, to honor it and find ways to cultivate it. And a big part of the journey is learning to navigate the fears and doubt without allowing them to stop me.

Who inspires you?

I am, and have been, inspired by so many people. Shakti Gawain, as I mentioned, Barbara Brennan, Barbara Marx Hubbard, Marianne Williamson, Tama Kieves, Eckhart Tolle, Byron Katie, and anyone who dares to step out of our culturally conditioned mindset, listen to their own wisdom and live the life they are called to live.

 

www.mysolidground.com

  

 

Heaven’s Here On Earth

How many of us go in search of Heaven, having been taught that it is some distance ‘place’ we go to when we die and only if we adhere to a certain set of regulations and rules?  In no way do I mean disrespect to anyone’s spiritual beliefs who may be reading this entry. My experience and set of life lessons tells me that Heaven can be felt in the presence of kindred spirits, in love making, while dwelling in nature,  listening to music, in the midst of prayer or meditation, even while doing the dishes.  It is a state of being, in my book…not a specific destination.

 

One of my favorite songs, that my friend Molly Nece (a.k.a. Molly Sunshine)reminded me of that sparked this blog is by singer-songwriter Tracy Chapman

Heaven’s Here on Earth

You can look to the stars in search of the answers
Look for God and life on distant planets
Have your faith in the ever after
While each of us holds inside the map to the labyrinth
And heaven’s here on earth

We are the spirit the collective conscience
We create the pain and the suffering and the beauty in this world

Heaven’s here on earth
In our faith in humankind
In our respect for what is earthly
In our unfaltering belief in peace and love and understanding

I’ve seen and met angels wearing the disguise
Of ordinary people leading ordinary lives
Filled with love, compassion, forgiveness and sacrifice

Heaven’s in our hearts
In our faith in humankind
In our respect for what is earthly
In our unfaltering belief in peace and love and understanding

Look around
Believe in what you see
The kingdom is at hand
The promised land is at your feet
We can and will become what we aspire to be

If Heaven’s here on earth
If we have faith in humankind
And respect for what is earthly
And an unfaltering belief that truth is divinity
And heaven’s here on earth

I’ve seen spirits
I’ve met angels
Touched creations beautiful and wondrous
I’ve been places where I question all I think I know
But I believe, I believe, I believe this could be heaven
We are born inside the gates with the power to create life
And to take it away
The world is our temple
The world is our church
Heaven’s here on earth

If we have faith in human kind
And respect for what is earthly
And an unfaltering belief
In peace and love and understanding
This could be heaven here on earth

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fy8Rnn95iDw

 

How can you create Heaven on Earth today?

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