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Mama-cakes

 

There are times when even a chronological grown up needs a teddy bear to hug. Today is such a day. Sitting next to me as I type these words is a purple and white gingham bodied, floral vested, starry eyed, bow tied little being. She showed up via USPS, sent from VITAS Hospice. I had anticipated her arrival since November 26th when my sister and I were asked if we would like to receive bears sewn lovingly from swatches of our mother’s nightgowns. Of course we eagerly agreed.  As I gazed at her, I was taken back in memory a few months when I visited my mother, who had been diagnosed with CHF (Congestive Heart Failure) and placed on hospice care last May. The journey meandered in time and space; frequent flier miles accumulated as I made at least half dozen trips southward from my home in Pennsylvania to hers in Florida. I watched as my heretofore independent mother who was driving until a few months before her passing, required increasing amounts of personal care. It was something that I was deeply honored to do, performing the most intimate of tasks for her as she had done when I was a child. Before bathing her, I would gather towels, washcloths, basin and soap, warm water swishing in it.  A clean nightgown selected from a freshly folded out of the dryer pile.  Two of her favorites now embellish my new cotton clad friend.

When contemplating what to call the cuddly companion…’Mama-cakes’ was a no brainer, since when she would refer to me as ‘Baby-cakes’, I would volley that nick name back to her. She is a poignant reminder that having stars in my eyes, as does the bear (actually she has stars FOR eyes), helps me see beyond this world to the next where all is love and light and neither can be extinguished.

www.vitas.com

A Mother’s Final Gift

                                                       

How do you say goodbye to someone you love?  The Vissell family: Barry, Joyce, Rami, Mira and John-Nuri share an intimate experience of the dying process of Joyce’s mother, Louise Wollenberg in the new release entitled A Mother’s Final Gift: How One Woman’s Courageous Dying Transformed Her Family. I have known Barry and Joyce for more than 20 years and have read each of their books which include The Shared Heart, Light In The Mirror and Meant To Be (I was honored to be one of the contributing authors in that book in a story called Dancing With Angels). Although they are all empowering in their own way, this, by far, is the most poignant, heart opening and soul searing. Page by page, they offer their perspective on death as seen through their eyes, as well as those of Louise whose own mother died at an early age, soon after giving birth to her sister.

When Joyce was a newly married woman, her mother shared with her that she viewed death as a great advcnture and that when her time came, she asked Joyce to celebrate and not just grieve. Joyce wasn’t able to wrap her mind around that concept initially but when called on, she gracefully approached her mother’s passing, taking the journey with her. Step by step, the family candidly expresses a mixture of emotions as they go about the daily caregiving tasks and the wonder of hearing Louise speak about returning Home to her beloved husband who had died years earlier and the angels who visited her, sharing insights and inspiration as she transitioned.

Barry is a medical doctor and Joyce a nurse, and yet, they found that their professional education only went so far to prepare them for this experience. They each lost their fathers suddenly, so for them, Louise’s process allowed them the sweetness of goodbyes, of leaving nothing left unsaid. Their young adult children, Rami, Mira and John-Nuri each took on caregiving roles and their individual contributions to the book are well thought out and beautifully written. With humor and heart, the family and Louise’s many friends made her dying a humanly divine and divinely human experience.

I needed to take breaks while reading the book, since tears blurred my vision. The Vissell’s story so mirrored my own with my mother’s recent death and I would imagine that many who have faced the death of loved ones, would recognize themselves as well.

Hospice offered respite and support and was indeed a God-send for them. A Mother’s Final Gift is also a gift for the reader and reminder that death need not be feared and that we can celebrate the life of, even as we grieve the passing of those closest to us. Love transcends death.

www.sharedheart.org

Be The Change

                                                      

The world calls out each day for those I think of as “Spiritual Warriors” to respond with implements of healing, rather than weapons of war.  In my mind, that would be someone who, to paraphrase Mother Teresa is willing to attend a ‘pro peace’ rather than ‘anti war’ gathering. I have found that when I feed any situation fear, anger, distrust or hatred, I empower it to continue in destructive ways. Now, that doesn’t mean that I don’t harbor those feelings. Each  of our greatest peace activists were also examples of full human emotional states. I’m sure that there were some days when Mother Teresa was no Mother Teresa.  I have heard His Holiness The Dalai Lama express that he feels anger even as he bears witness to compassion.

Recently I came face to face with the ways in which I disowned my full humanity, by squelching, sqooshing, denying and downplaying the emotional state of anger. I judged it as being like a wolf who seems tame on the outside, but could potentially bite someone’s head off if cornered. Rest assured….that has never happened and I prefer that the people in my life keep their heads on their shoulders.

What I have begun to accept is that when I give myself permission to feel fully, I am more authentic and my relationships are more fulfilling for both of us AND I am a greater force for good. What I  cast out, I alienate and that is how enemies get born. Those parts of myself that feel disenfranchised are more likely to rise up in rebellion.

In order to be a peacemaker, I need to ‘be the change I wish to see in the world’.

How can you embrace ALL of who you are, so that no part of you is left out in the cold?

Be The Change (a tribute to Mahatma Gandhi) by M.C. Yogi

http://youtu.be/1Qd-fAnHjPg

Renaissance Woman

When I think of Beth Rosen, the word “Renaissance Woman” immediately comes to mind. We ‘met’, although not actually face to face YET, through The Next Top Spiritual Author contest last year. We were among the top 280 entrants to make it into what I called The Round Two Crew, narrowed down from 2800 entries. When we began conversing, I recognized a kindred spirit. She is one of the few people I know who wears ‘more hats’ than I do!

 
How do you live your bliss?
 
I don’t really think about living my bliss but when I realize that I’m not enjoying the journey, I stop what I’m doing and start doing what I love, which is to create, whether it be through writing, painting, drawing, filming, dancing or helping others. Laughter is a big part of my life so I write comedy all the time. It helps to keep my spirits lifted.
 

You are quite the Renaissance Woman. How do you refer to yourself? 

 

 I refer to myself as an author, film producer, actress, screenwriter, comedy writer, songwriter, illustrator, healer, professor of yoga and attorney. 
 
 Where does your creative inspiration come from?

That’s an interesting question. It arises effortlessly when I’m not focused on it. Sometimes I write entire scripts in my head while I’m running. I get creative flashes all the time. Anything can trigger it: something someone says, something I see, something from my past, a thought, a person, a blissful moment, even a sad moment.

When I am consciously creating, meaning when I sit down and write or film a video, I take those moments of divine inspiration and I flesh them out. When I am relaxed and blissful, they take on a life of their own and I simply ride the wave. I usually turn ideas inside out, upside down, round and round until I’m satisfied with the results – I’m a bit of a perfectionist.

When you set goals for yourself, such as completing a film project, what keeps you on track?

Many of my projects involve other people. I love to connect to others and co-create. The thrill of finishing and working with others helps to keep me on track. I love to entertain and make other people smile so that also helps.

When I feel like throwing in the towel, I use certain power mantras to keep my spirits lifted and maintain focus: “Hocus Pocus Focus.” “Never give up. Give it your all.” “Don’t get stuck on yuck.” Then there are the gentle reminders from friends, fans and enlightened masters I work with who continue to ask to see my unfinished projects. Those gentle nudges help to put me back on track and head for the finish line.

How do you take your yoga off the mat?

It’s never just about me and it’s never just about you. We’re all in this together. So when I become off centered in life, I stop, come back to myself so I can feel peaceful and calm like I do on the yoga mat, and then I can expand from that place and enjoy whatever it is I’m doing.

When do you actually take “Beth time” to simply BE?

I probably don’t take enough “Beth time to simply BE.” I live and work on the water so I take mini-breaks to enjoy nature. But they don’t last very long because I usually get some flash of genius while relaxing only a few moments and then I’m off and running on another creative idea. I try to have a camera with me at all times. You never know what will show up. I also take quality time with my cats. We’re one big happy family. They remind me from time to time to put down my work and come play again.

What is that has your time and attention in terms of creative work?

I’m currently working on a movie-making course and some scripts for film and television. That is taking most of my time at the moment. I also constantly add new content to my 2 websites. I also have several books that I have published and a few more that I would like to finish.

What is the legacy you would like to leave?

I would like to leave a legacy of love, creativity and breaking through limited belief systems – pushing the envelope to make the impossible possible. I plan on implementing a global joint venture for peace, harmony, abundance and the joy of living. There are many moving peaces to that, including the entertainment industry which is why I am working so diligently to break into television and film. Enlightenment is a huge part of that as well. Recently I have gotten in touch with yogis, swamis and ascended masters from around the globe, some of who have tracked me down because they are aware of the template I have created for that joint venture. It’s very interesting and exciting at the same time. They won’t let me quit and they keep coming back to “bliss me” and encourage me to enjoy the journey.

www.bethrosen.com www.enlightenmentishere.com

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