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Complimentary Love

 

                                                                            

Even though I am chronological adult; at age 52, one of my favorite radio programs is called Kids Corner played on WXPN 88.5 , broadcast out of the University of Pennsylvania.  The ‘big kid’ host is the ever so enthusiastic Kathy O’Connell who is like the cool big sister/aunt that many would like to have. The show which airs from 7-8 pm est each weeknight, has a plethora of components that encourage listeners to love learning in the form of games, music, interesting guests and a ‘ radio stage’ on which kids can share their talents.  

A few nights ago, Kathy’s musical guests were The Verve Pipe whose songs entertain adults and children. I found myself singing along to the lyrics of a song called Complimentary Love from A Family Album.  “What if” I mused, “there really was enough love for everyone without the need to either hoard or withold? How would life be if we KNEW that to be the truth? What if love multiplied by sharing it, rather than dividing it? ”

I know that when I live from that sense of ‘enough-ness’, I have room to welcome in people each day.  I feel sad when I think that there are some I encounter who believe that those they know now are the only ones they will ever know. There are actually people waiting for you to come into their lives and make a difference.  I am one of the richest women I know, since my friends are my treasures and there was a time when I didn’t even know they existed, not even on my radar screen and then ta-da…one day we showed up at the same time and the same place. How cool is that?   Are you willing to enrich yourself by opening your heart to complimentary love?

www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWi9L12Djvw

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A Higher Possibility

                                                                           

Mali Apple and Joe Dunn are another of what I consider a ‘spiritual power couple’ whose coming together not only benefits themselves, but touches lives on a planetary level. I am convinced that when we love, full out, like they do, we created a ripple effect and can become a greater force for good in the world. Together they have birthed a book entitled The Soulmate Experience: A Practical Guide To Creating Extraordinary Relationships.  They do their best to view everything from a higher possibility…another way of seeing the world as an array of choices that extend beyond our wildest dreams. Their invitation to you is to see life through the eyes of love as well.

How do you live your bliss, both as individuals and as a couple?

By making a conscious decision to enjoy and have fun with everything that shows up, to play with life, and to appreciate it all—including the most challenging circumstances. By always doing our best to totally embrace every experience life offers us. In essence, we always endeavor to get the most life out of life.

What would be your definition of a soulmate? Do we have more than one in a lifetime?

A soulmate is someone with whom we experience a profound connection on every level: physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual.

Do we have more than one? Yes—potentially, six billion! If we were all fully enlightened, we would recognize and live our soul connection with everyone on the planet. We would recognize that everyone is our soulmate.

So the real question becomes: How aware are we of that potential soul connection with every person we meet?

Of course, most of us don’t experience such a profound connection with everyone, though we likely experience it to differing degrees with close friends, family members, and sometimes even strangers. And we’re often more open to experiencing it at the beginning of an intimate relationship than we are after fears, expectations, resentments and the like have gotten in the way.

How did the two of you meet and grow your relationship?

Interesting that you’ve asked these two questions together, because our answer to both is one and the same: We met online through a conversation about relationships—a conversation that has continued for eight years. And through that process, we’ve realized that a profound way to keep a relationship fully alive is to continually explore how to keep it alive! In other words, by approaching relationships as an exploration into LIFE.

Did it feel as if it was meant to be?

The universe was not going to let us miss that we were “meant” to be together! As is always the case when we’re truly in tune with our soul’s path, the serendipitous events and moments were off the charts.

What ingredients go into creating a conscious, loving, healthy relationship?

Way up there are taking full responsibility for your own experience; cultivating a willingness to explore, to be vulnerable, to communicate your full truth, and to find a way to have everything contribute something of value to your relationship; and continually increasing your awareness of what you’re doing, who you’re being, and what you’re bringing to your relationship.

What does intimacy mean to you?

Real intimacy is a willingness to be vulnerable, to expose ourselves, to bring our deepest thoughts, feelings, and desires out into the open, into the light. It’s a willingness to be fully naked. Of course, to be this vulnerable, it helps tremendously to know how to create a safe environment for intimacy, in which everything is okay to share, and to have the tools in place to be able to heal anything that arises. Those two things—creating a truly safe space for full intimacy, and developing tools for healing anything that comes up in that space—are important aspects of our book.

What would you like to see your book do out in the world?

Our greatest desire is to help people have better relationships, not only others, but also with themselves. We believe our book has the potential to help every person who reads it continually create an experience of more and more love in their lives.

www.thesoulmateexperience.blogspot.com

Transformational Magic Power

                                                                            
 
Lately I have been questioning just what it is that I have to offer readers, clients and students by way of synthesizing life experience into a meaningful and portable ‘life skills’ package.  Along comes a Huffington Post entry this morning,  by one of my favorite conscious living writers/teachers named Gay Hendricks. Together with his wife Kathlyn, he has been offering guidance and ideas for life and relationship healing and enhancement for more than 30 years. They had a ‘some enchanted evening’ encounter in 1980 when they say they literally met ‘across a crowded room’ and each recognized a kindred spirit. The world is richer for that initial encounter and what grew as a result.
 
Gay’s post is called:
 

He invited me as the reader to become aware of and then cultivate just what it is that I have learned in my lifetime that can be offered to feed and nurture the potential and possibility in others. He reminded me that I have a unique perspective and thus a gift that only I can offer. 
 
We are always encouraged to teach what we know and what we need to learn. In my own life, I am amazed when I consider the multitude of lessons I have amassed  from wise ones whose paths I have been blessed to have crossed over the past 52 years. The truth is, everyone and every experience is my teacher; those I openly welcome and those from which I might have wanted to hide. When I sit with patients in the hospital where I work, I tell them that each technique, method or concept I present as possibilities for them, are those that I use myself to keep on track.  Do I get de-railed at times?  Of course, but then get a message from the universe that reminds me to jump back on board.
Gay refers to this as our Transformational Magic Power. I imagine a magic wand, replete with sparkles and streamers that never runs out of steam and has the ability to alchemically change our perspective and the ways in which we communicate in the world. The cool thing for me, is the awareness that this wand is not something outside of me or outside of you. It is within us always and can be tapped to do its thing.
So, a  short list of experiences that can be translated into my own TMP:
 
 Childhood asthma
 Foster parenting and adoption
Running a business for 10 years
Being a caregiving spouse
Being widowed at 40
Re-creating my life/re-inventing myself
Death of both parents in a 2 1/2 year period
Shedding more than 40 pounds of  physical and emotional weight

 

What are some of yours?
 
www.hendricks.com
 
 

 

As If For The First Time

                                                                          

“..life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”  So began the daily group email  from Neale Donald Walsch that I receieved this past Thursday morning. I think about that concept each day, as my eyes open to greet whatever awaits in the next 24 hours. How will I be called on to stretch physically, emotionally, mentally and/or spiritually?  In yoga, we talk about ‘going to your edge’, moving your body to extend to where you have been and then perhaps a wee bit further each time, becoming more elastic in all ways. For some, going to their edge on the mat may be ‘cobra’ or ‘upward facing dog’ (similar to the position of the baby in the picture) and for some it may be an inverted pose, like a handstand.  How often have I (and perhaps you) shied away from getting anywhere near the perimeter when what is out there feels intimidating or frightening? But how can we possibly know how far we are capable of going until we know how far we are willing to go?

Last week, when in conversation with my friend Ondreah, we were musing about the things we have experienced over the past 5 decades of our lives and how hard I am on myself at times, with the drum-beat hammering thoughts in my head about ‘not doing it right’ and ‘not being enough’.  She said something to the effect of : “You know, some things you are doing for the first time.”  It is like taking those first steps as a nearly one year old. Likely, when I attempted motoring on my own two feet rather than on all fours, I wobbled and even fell.  I probably didn’t think “Oh, I’m so clumsy, I might as well scoot around on my butt for the rest of my life.” I got back up and took the next step and the next and the next and whatya’ know…..I’m truckin’ across the floor to the applause of my delighted parents. Hopefully the same is true for you.

If memory serves, Ondreah may have been referring to my new responsibilities as the executor of my mother’s affairs and how I have felt nervous about the tasks involved.   If that is the case, without a template or model, how can I expect myself to ‘do it right’?  All I can do is follow step by step, what needs to be done, ask for and be willing to receive support from people who do have experience and can be guides along the way and just give myself the space to simply BE with the process. And the same is true about publishing my ‘Bliss Book’.  I’m a seasoned writer but had not a clue how to do the editing and publishing ‘stuff’.  The experts are holding my hand and guiding me through the process. Perhaps THAT beyond all else is my own comfort zone.

What is it that you are doing for the first time?

Karen Drucker’s song I Will Be Gentle With Myself is the perfect balm that will help me stretch  so that I can reach beyond where I thought I could go. www.youtube.com/watch?v=ihWYx-QJ95I

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