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How’s Your Love Life?

                                        

 

I received this quote special delivery via email this past week:

“Whenever you see love coming, welcome it with open arms and let it enter into you. People will ask, ‘Are you in love?’ You will say, ‘No, love is in me.” ~ unknown

What do those words mean to you?  My take is that love is not a commodity to be traded for companionship, money, time, affection, your heart or your soul. It is an energy that has always and will always exist. Love is not something we need to earn or be worthy of. It is not showered only on a few ‘deserving’ folks. It is our birthright. It is simply WHAT WE ARE.  How does that land for you?  If you were taught or somehow absorbed the idea that you are unlovable because of abuse, neglect or trauma, I encourage you to consider that it could all be a big fat lie! When people feel unloved, they are more likely to lash out and do harm to themselves or others. When they KNOW that they are love incarnate, they become a greater force for good in the world.

So, what if love is what you are?  As you find yourself in uncomfortable situations, you may want to ask yourself WWLD?  (kind of like the WWJD? bracelets)  What would love do?  How would love ease pain, squelch conflict, boost spirits, mend the rift between you and another person, heal a broken heart, create peace?  Take a moment to visualize a person from whom you are estranged; could be someone living or who has passed.  See their face, their expression, their body posture.  Be aware of how you are feeling as you imagine them. How are you holding your body?  What sensations are you noticing?  Now, take a deep breath and let out a sound that expresses how you are feeling…..   

On your next inhale, breathe in the energy of love, whatever that would feel like for you. Give it a color, as you take it in and allow it to infuse your being. Then ahhhh…magine how relaxed you feel as you melt into it.  On your next exhale, ahhh…magine it flowing over the person with whom you may have had conflict. Visualize them as an innocent child, full of promise and possibility. See what happens as you do so. Chances are, you will notice that person melt as well. Although I can’t promise, I would guess that by shifting your perception of them, their demeanor, attitude and interaction with you will change. If they are no longer in body, then you are likely to receive a message of some kind that reassures you that all is well. If nothing else, YOU will experience a sense of wellbeing.

Years ago, my Mom asked “How’s your love life?” and I told her, “Great! I love life.”  When people inquire, they ususally refer to romantic love.  I notice that as I embrace life, it embraces me. As I welcome new people into my ‘overlapping soul circles’, all are enriched. That may include intimate partners, but it need not exclude platonic friends, co-workers and people I meet throughout my day. Are you willing to draw a circle that includes new people every day and create what I call family of choice?  If that is the case, then you can truly love your life and live your love.

 

 

http://youtu.be/TlFCfkyuQM  Everybody  Ingrid Michaelson

www.youtube.com/watch?v=xWnjEMbFFME  Shower the People  James Taylor

The Soul Solution

                                                   The Soul Solution: Enlightening Meditations for Resolving Life's Problems by Jonathan Parker: Book Cover

 

Is your soul yearning for expression?  Are you willing to enter into deep exploration of what it means to live from that exalted place?  Jonathan Parker’s invitation to meditation is in the form of this user friendly guide book, called The Soul Solution:  Enlightening Meditations For Resolving Life’s Problems. He opens with these profoundly simple questions: “Who are you? ”  “Where did you come from?” “Why are you here, and where are you going?”  Most people believe that we are our bodies, our roles, our achievements, when that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Parker tells the story of his own spiritual en-lightening up  when on Mt. Shasta, he had a vision that included angelic beings and what he calls “an opening to the divine source” and “the light of the soul.”

He encourages readers to fully engage in the meditations which I found not only quite relaxing, but heart opening as well. Some of my favorites are The Soul Healing Process (pg 42),  Moving Beyond Fear  (pg 86) and The Inner Child’s Journey Home (pg 183)

Parker’s view is that it is all an inside job and that where we are at any given point in our lives is as a result of the ways we have sent energy to what we think, feel and do. This 30 year veteran of teaching spiritual principles and founder of Quantum Quests International, Inc., offers insights on subjects such as: fear, facing ego challenges, and  love. He uses the acronym

Health

Enlightenment

Abundance

Love

to describe the areas of our lives that call for healing. His contention is that enlightenment is our natural state of being and that opening to Grace is our birthright. Stepping into what Parker calls The Soul Center, brings us face to face with our true essence, that opens the portal to the heart and full immersion in wonder.

Long may you glow.

www.JonathanParker.org

A Little Bit of Everything

                                                                       Beth Rotondo
 
 
What is it about your life that has you sometimes scratching your head in bewilderment, with a ‘thought bubble’ over it, that has the word “Huh?” encased within,  and at others, literally jumping for joy like a little kid on a brand new pogo stick?  Does it feel like there is no rhyme or reason or are you noticing a pattern?
 
One of my favorite a-musing activities is questioning whether life is planned (‘Beshert’ in Hebrew translates as ‘meant to be’) or happens at random, like a wafting feather called aloft by a gentle breeze. There are spiritual teachers who espouse the belief that we create soul contracts with those who cross our paths, for better or worse. Wanna learn forgiveness?  Enter into a soul contract with someone who hurts you.  Need to know about compassion?  Perhaps in a past life, you were one who harmed others and in this life you have taken on the mantle of a healer.   
 
Gifts come wrapped in unexpected packages.  In my case, they have come as a result of the deaths of my husband, father and mother over a 13 year period. Their passing and those of beloved friends have offered the gift of cherishing those who are in my life, for whatever duration. People plant seeds in our hearts and it is up to us to water and nourish them as they take root. I am blessed to have rows and rows of kindred souls who make up the ever expanding field of magnificent wildflowers.
 
I just found out today that one of those blooms; a friend I have known for several years, named Beth Rotondo Hadrava, passed this morning after a valiant bout with cancer. She leaves a huge legacy in her wake; including her husband, children and a colossal assortment of friends who will miss her deeply. She was most certainly a bright light, whose star will continue to illumine the planet. My first reaction when I saw the email, was something my father would say when he learned of a death “Ah no….” followed by tears and sadness and then a sigh of relief that I got that Beth really was at peace. I last saw her a few weeks ago in the hospital where she was ‘holding court’, surrounded by friends, flowers, cards, books, chocolate, organic yogurt and music.  She was smiling and optimistic about recovery and healing. I perceive that she had her healing and is now in her ‘light body’.
 
Her personal and professional lives overlapped. As a 4th generation Homeopath, she had a client following who would call on her expertise. As a friend, she beamed wellness and wonder on those she loved. I thought of her as a magical soul dancing through life. Something she told me several years ago following an experience that could have left her totally deflated, makes me smile as I hear her voice. She learned “You can’t keep a good woman down.” and “By letting go of what didn’t work, I  bring into my life something even better, right around the corner.”  And she did.
 
I had the joy of officiating at her marriage to her husband Jiri a few years ago. I was on my way to attend as a guest and received a call from our mutual friend Linda Hutchings who told me that the celebrant had to cancel at the last minute.  I did my first ‘wing-it’ wedding that I still laugh about. Perfectly appropriate, since Beth exemplified angelic qualities and she loved fiercely.
 
When I hear this song, it reminds me of the preciousness of life and ALL that it contains.
God Speed, Beth~ 
 
A Little Bit of Everything-Dawes
 
With his back against the San Francisco traffic,
On the bridges side that faces towards the jail,
Setting out to join a demographic,
He hoists his first leg up over the rail.
And a phone call is made,
Police cars show up quickly.
The sergeant slams his passenger door.
He says, “Hey son why don?t you talk through this with me,
Just tell me what you’re doing it for?”Oh, it’s a little bit of everything,
It’s the mountains,
It’s the fog,
It’s the news at six o’clock,
It’s the death of my first dog,
It’s the angels up above me,
It’s the song that they don’t sing,
It’s a little bit of everything.An older man stands in a buffet line,
He is smiling and holding out his plate,
And the further he looks back into his timeline,
That hard road always had led him to today,
And making up for when his bright future had left him,
Making up for the fact that his only son is gone,
And letting everything out once, His server asks him,
Have you figured out yet, what it is you want?I want a little bit of everything,
The biscuits and the beans,
Whatever helps me to forget about
The things that brought me to my knees,
So pile on those mashed potatoes,
And an extra chicken wing,
I?m having a little bit of everything.Somewhere a pretty girl is writing invitations,
To a wedding she has scheduled for the fall,
Her man says, Baby, can I make an observation?
You don’t seem to be having any fun at all.
She said, You just worry about your groomsmen and your shirt-size,
And rest assured that this is making me feel good,
I think that love is so much easier than you realize,
If you can give yourself to someone,
Then you should.

Cause it’s a little bit of everything,
The way you joke, the way you ache,
It is waking up before you,
So I can watch you as you wake.
So in the day in late September,
It’s not some stupid little ring,
I’m giving a little bit of everything.

Oh, it’s a little bit of everything,
It’s the matador and the bull,
It’s the suggested daily dosage,
It is the red moon when it’s full.
All these psychics and these doctors,
They’re all right and they’re all wrong,
It’s like trying to make out every word,
When they should simply hum along,
It’s not some message written in the dark,
Or some truth that no one’s seen,
It’s a little bit of everything.

 
 
http://youtu.be/pcaJsUNA_ww

The Shift

                                                                    

 

 

Watched a movie last night, called The Shift, made by Hay House Films, that had been on my get-to list since it came out a few years back.  As the rain poured down and thunder rumbled through, heralding a change in the weather, a shift was occurring for my friends Ondreah, Deb and myself. We sat for two hours, mesmerized by a story woven through the lives of a group of people who come together at the lovely, wind and wave swept Asilomar Conference Center in Pacific Grove, California, seemingly for many different reasons, but for a single purpose: transformation.

A film crew arrives there to interview Wayne Dyer who had chosen to use the center as a writing retreat, while he penned his next book. The project director; a cynical, but somewhat open to learning ambitious young man is facing his greatest challenge…how to maintain purpose and focus, without being caught up in ambition. He and his colleagues are intrigued by what Wayne has to share, particularly since these are new concepts for them. It was fascinating for me to observe, having been a student of metaphysics and transformation for more than 30 years, to consider what it would be like to encounter these concepts for the first time in my life, now.

Another dynamic occurs between a monetarily wealthy, but emotionally and spiritually impoverished couple who show up at Asilomar for a conference sponsored by a non-profit organization that serves homeless people. The husband is a pull-yourself-up-by-your-bootstraps developer who is only attending to make himself look like a good guy since he is facing challenges with his image as someone who puts profits before people and the environment. The wife is bored and entertains herself with shopping.

The third grouping is a family with wife, husband and two beautiful and active little boys who keep Mom and Dad hopping. Dad is kinda laid back and Mom is hovering and ‘interfering’; micromanaging nearly everything they do. In the midst of being a devoted mother and nurturing her children, she has given up one of her self nourishing activities.

Two other cool elements in the film:  Louise Hay has a cameo; one quick scene, and the other is someone I thought of as a ‘behind the scenes angel’  who turned out to be a surprising entity at Asilomar.

The concepts that Wayne explains throughout the movie, serve as fodder for amazing changes in consciousness and action for these people. Some of the most poignant:

1. The illusion is that our value as human beings is based on what we have, what we do and how other people view us.  Take a look at your own life and ask yourself if you have found that to be so. If you believe that your possessions, achievements and the ways in which you are perceived by others define you, then it seems to me that you will be at the whim of externals. The truth is that happiness, success and a full, rich life are inside jobs.

2. Wayne asks a question of one of the film crew…about how he knows that a slice of apple pie is indeed apple pie. His profound answer is that it came from the pie. In that same way, Wayne explains that we are like that from which we came. We come from our Source….Divinity, so we must be Divine as well and as such, will be supported by that same loving energy.

3. He muses about the idea that for the first 9 months from conception to birth, all of our needs are provided for and we have no thought or worry about it. Why, he wonders, do we then angst about it once we are born? Because we ‘interfere’.  What if we knew for sure, that despite appearances at times, that continues to be true?  I have found myself (or rather, lost myself) tumbling into what I call ‘spiritual amnesia’ when I forget that God/Goddess/All That Is has my back (front, sides, top and bottom too:)  Once I am reminded of that, my life flows with more grace than I had ever imagined.

4. Wayne refers to shifts as quantum moments that have these qualities in common, regardless of the form they take:

The are vivid. They are surprising. They feel good. They are enduring. 

As I fondly gaze at the quantum moments in my own life when I have surpassed the limiting beliefs and fear thoughts, I feel a sense of pure delight, a wowie-zowie sense of wonder. They often come in unexpected wrapping; not always pretty.  Sometimes they show up as disappointments or disapproval. I have the responsibility and choice to unwrap them and see what is really underneath. Recently, I discovered a precious gift hidden beneath the illusion of ‘uh-oh, now what?’.  As I contemplated this particular situation, I was able to shift from feeling like a bad little girl  who had done something wrong, to a mature woman who wasn’t going to allow this situation to cause self doubt. I was once again reminded that people operate by their own values and what feels right for them. I bless this person and situation for being a teacher for me.What a high quality quantum moment that was!

 5. You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you are. Sure, making a list of the experiences, items, people, relationships, qualities you desire is one step toward calling them into your life. A piece that people often miss is that in order to bring them to manna-festation, it is important to embody those in your own life. I don’t subscribe to the idea that opposites attract. I KNOW that like attracts like and birds of a feather flock together. If I want to bring more love into my life, I need to be a love shower (show-er and shower, both:) and sprinkle it out into the world.

What if you knew, as Wayne shares at the end of the film that you are only a thought away from changing your life?  The shift can occur in an instant. Is this the one?

 

www.waynedyer.com

http://youtu.be/wEM0SF04Rw4 

 

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