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Our biological hearts are such complex organs; a series of veins, arteries,  muscles, ventricles, pathways for blood to traverse. It is also thought of as ‘the seat of the soul,’ and the place from whence our emotions emerge. Love, passion, desire, tenderness, longing, compassion,  and altruism are associated with it. I remember a few years ago hearing a story about a cardiac surgeon performing an open heart procedure and beholding a light in the midst of this organ; think the character E.T. with his radiant glow in his chest reminding us to ‘turn on our heart lights’. This doc’s view of medicine was forever changed as a result.

There are metaphors for the heart:

tender hearted

hard hearted

heart like a wheel (when you bend it, you can’t mend it)

heart like a stone



heart of gold



heavy hearted


have a heart

open hearted

In the past few years, I have taken a journey into my own heart, while not having exactly abandoned it, have placed it a not so close second to the hearts of those around me. I had learned from Masters (mom and dad) about caretaking others, sometimes at my own expense emotionally. I had erroneously believed that I needed to earn love; as much as I tell  my clients whose own hearts are hurting,  that it isn’t so.  I had sometimes (and for many years), encased my heart in bubble wrap, so as to experience ‘pseudo safety’ from perceived rejection. Although it made a lovely popping sound at times, the plastic kept it from expanding fully. Not in a Grinch-y sort of way, but it longed to stretch its comfort zones.

Coming up on three years ago, I became ‘an adult orphan’, when my 86 year old mom joined her sweetheart of 53 years who was awaiting her, I’m sure, with open arms, after he had passed in 2008. At that moment, I sheltered my heart by staying busy (necessarily I told myself) with the tasks of being the executor of her affairs; the social worker who took care of the details of her care prior, and the minister who officiated her service afterward. Even after the dust settled, I was so accustomed to being in ‘go-mode’ that I lost track of even how to slow my pace. Grief showed itself sporadically; trickling tears being tucked back in so that I could function in the rest of my life. Career, creativity, relationships, household tasks, bills….you know ‘normal people stuff’.

A semi wake up call occurred earlier this year when my younger sister had two quite severe heart attacks. She was warned by her cardiologist that she needed to make major lifestyle changes. Challenging since at the time, her husband was ill, she held down a full time job, ran back and forth to the hospital, and had other stressors with which she was contending. Her husband died in July and there are new challenges in her life. I rationalized her health condition based on all of those factors. We also took seriously the fact that our mother died of CHF (Congestive Heart Failure).

As I write this, I am contemplating a health ‘opportunity’ as I am calling it. A few months ago, I heard about a study being conducted by a local university. It was testing an investigative medication for use with menopausal women with memory problems. As soon as the words were broadcast across the radio airwaves, I called out “Oooooh oooh, pick me!,” since my own mental hard drive was full to capacity and thoughts would often slip through my cerebral cracks. I called and was invited to come in for a series of screenings to see if I was an appropriate candidate. Nervous about what mental instability they might discover through cognitive tests that I had seen given for years as a psychiatric social worker, I bravely sat at a desk and muddled through them. Some I soared through like a champ, others I felt embarrassed that I couldn’t figure out. I cut myself some slack since spatial relations is not my forte’ anyway, having nothing to do with age. The next stage was a full physical that would include labs and an EKG. The day I came in for that, it seemed that the faeries were working their mischief. At first, the doc couldn’t easily draw blood as my vein was playing hide and seek. Then it was time for taking my blood pressure and the computerized machine wouldn’t work, so she went the old fashioned route. My BP was lower than my normal 120/80, so that was a postive. The EKG gave her trouble as well, as the leads weren’t securing themselves well and she needed to repeat the test. My resting heart rate was 60 BPM which I attributed to hours a week spent at Planet Fitness. I was told when I left that their cardiologist would take a look at the results since she detected something amiss.

Yesterday, I received a call from her, informing me of a condition called LAFB Left anterior fascicular block which has to do with a disruption of electrical impulses in the heart. She and the cardiologist didn’t feel it was life threatening, since I  had thought I was asymptomatic, but the finding would prevent me from participating in the study. She advised me to meet with my  PCP which I will do on Monday. In the mean time I have been perusing various medical sites and have been wading through doc-speak and sorting out just what it all means. Some say it’s nuthin’, others say I need to be aware of potential complications.  As I go down the list of symptoms; I acknowledge that I have been dizzy and fluttery, but I chalked it up to my zipping around at light speed.

A slew of  thoughts are swirling through my mind as I contemplate this information. It may be nothing at all, but a wake up call that I need to slooooww down. I was clearly led to this study to have a test that I would not have otherwise. I remind myself  that other than family history I have fairly low risk factors. I don’t drink, smoke or do drugs. I exercise daily. I eat a mostly veg diet. I have great social supports and strong spiritual faith and practice. I also got a cosmic-kick when I realized that the first three letters of  the condition are LAF (laugh). I do that a lot.

Of course, as any self respecting cultural creative, metaphysician would, I pulled out my copy of You Can Heal Your Life, by Louise Hay and looked up the reference for heart and was reminded that it represents ‘the center of love and security’ and that joy is what is needed to be reinforced in order for balance and healing to occur. I am reinforcing the affirmation “My heart beats to the rhythm of love.”

On Sunday, at a Volunteer Appreciation at Circle of Miracles, I won a door prize and this beautiful tiger’s eye heart came home with me. It is a reminder to stay in my heart . Stay In My Heart by Charley Thweatt


Inspiration arrives at any given moment, while engaged in the most mundane tasks. This morning while I was transferring laundry from the washer to the dryer, the words “Detach with love” echoed in my ears. Knowing exactly what that was about, I was puzzled about what it might have to do with wet towels and clothes that would soon be tumbled about and emerge warm and toasty in about 3o minutes. Even as I am typing these words, I can hear a sweatshirt zipper clicking against the inside of the appliance.

Lately, I have been letting go of expectation of outcome with people in my life. I have recognized that when I feel angry, sad, frustrated or disappointed when someone doesn’t do or say what I would prefer them to, it is because I have been invested in having them behave in a way that suits me or meets my needs. We all have images of each other, how we desire to interact based on previous times, words and experiences shared. The reality is, we are constantly changing and re-negotiating the terms of our relationships. It can be a bit disconcerting at times, since we do need some sense of consistency with the people around us and yet, there is a call to go with the flow or get washed ashore, sprawled face down in the sand. I can still completely love the people in my life, without being attached to their choices. I can choose to step back from interactions if I feel I am doing more symbolic laundry than they are.

I remember times in my life; 15-20 years ago when I would be so laissez faire that I would accept even the ‘unacceptable’ since I felt powerless to change much, at the mercy of others’ whims and expectations for how I ‘should’ behave to please them.  I let things slide rather than take charge of what I could control. Now, as a therapist who works with those in recovery from addiction, the Serenity Prayer has become even more powerful medicine.

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change.

The courage to change the things I can.

And the wisdom to know the difference.”

Reinhold Niehbuhr

As a recovering co-dependent, I am learning that what I can control, I must. I need to take responsibility for my choices and actions and no one else’s. I have discovered that most people don’t do the best they can. They do the best they are willing to do in any situation. I am abundantly aware that when I set intention for something to be so, I must take the steps to follow through. If I want clean, dry clothes, I have to put them in the machine, add detergent and then step back as the washer does its thing. Once the cycle completes, if I don’t want moldy, yucky garments, I need to transfer the laundry into the dryer and let it run until they are done. If I want neatly folded and hung wash, I have to take the steps necessary to see that through to completion. Have there been times when I haven’t immediately done those tasks?  Yup and then I needed to deal with the consequences of having to rewash or have piles of laundry to contend with. And yet, I am not obsessed with the outcome. Detachment and not caring are two different things. I am not standing over the washer and dryer, fretting and moaning that it is taking too long. When people take longer to do what I wish for, either out loud or in my head, I want to have the same degree of patience and let go. When I detach with love, all my relationships are cleaner and fresher~

Global Oneness Day 2013

What if we were to take a look at our planet from on high? Would we see borders and boundaries that separate us?  Would we have a sense of tenderness as we gaze upon this living, breathing being that we take for granted and often treat with carelessness, rather than the devotion that a Beloved who has nurtured us deserves? How would we interact with (as is expressed in Lakota) Mitakuye Oyasin which translates to “all my relations”? They are not just speaking of the ‘two leggeds’, but also the tree people and rock people, the four leggeds and the winged and finned ones.  What if we knew that we were all one, all united, all in this together.

According to the website for Global Oneness Day: ” Since the late 1960?s, when pioneering astronauts captured the first photographs of Earth from space, there has been a growing realization that everything and everyone on our beautiful blue planet are deeply connected. A realization that we are One.

And yet, the popular perspectives and dominant institutions in our society are still primarily based on a mentality of separation. The focus on “us” separate from “them”, or “me” separate from “other”, while appropriate in context, is the root cause of so many of the escalating challenges we now face. Thus, if we want to bring about a sustainable global society, nothing is more important than changing this outdated way of thinking.

Global Oneness Day was created to recognize and celebrate the fundamental interconnection of all people and all of life. It is an opportunity to join thousands of participants in the exploration not only of the idea of Oneness, but ways in which this thinking can and is being applied “on the ground” so that our global society and culture increasingly reflect it.”

Humanity’s Team has brought together a pantheon of transformational teachers including Marianne Williamson, Neale Donald Walsch, Panache Desai, Barbara Marx Hubbard, Barnet Bain, Jean Houston, Rickie Byars Beckwith, Ken Wilber, Joan Borysenko, Peter Kater, Steve Farrell and Claire Zammit. Events are taking place on line and in person and they invite us all to join them at the table. One of my favorite stories touches on that concept.

A woman dies and is greeted by St. Peter. She asks him to show her heaven and hell. He guides her to a room that has a long table laden with all kinds of scrumptious food. The aromas are mouthwatering and yet, the people around the table are starving; wailing and moaning. She asks how this can be when there is this bounty before them. St. Peter points out that the people have long forks attached to their arms and that each time they reach for a morsel of food, they drop it before they can eat it. “This is hell,” he tells her. “Oh this is horrible, please take me out of here. Show me heaven.”  He then directs her to another room where she beholds the same scenario and yet the people are laughing and smiling, well nourished and happy. Puzzled, she asks St. Peter about what she is witnessing since these people have the long forks on their arms as well. “Can you not see the difference?  They have learned to feed each other across the table.”

How would our world be if we knew that there was really enough for all of us and what was needed was a bit of ingenuity and out of the box thinking so that we could indeed ‘feed each other across the table’? Would war continue to exist?  Would abuse devastate families? Would addiction grab hold of our souls? Would violence snatch away precious lives?  Would our eco-system crumble before us? OR would we live as if this place was Heaven on Earth?

I’m on board with this. Are you? Sign up to receive information on how you can take part. This Pretty Planet by Tom Chapin




A few weeks ago, I had the pleasure of co-creating an experience with a man whose intuitive healing work is profound. He shared information with me that he would have no way of knowing since we had not met until that moment. The first was that  he noticed a symbolic Wonder Woman cape that I generally wore since I fancy myself  a Super Sh/ero at times.  He told me about the ways in which my body was reacting to the stressors I had been facing and suggestions for remediating them. He used words that I would have to describe my present state. He spoke of relationship dynamics that had been present for ages that could use some change . In the midst of a crowd of people, while attending the Mind, Body, Spirit Expo in the Philadelphia area,  it seemed that my  focus was internal and I noticed an intense re-energizing occurring when the day before, I had felt weighed down with lethargy. I found that during the session as I was able to step away from pre-conceived notions about what I might experience, the sense of literally and figuratively waking up intensified. For days afterward, there was a sense of upliftment; not quite ‘walking on sunshine,’ but close.

Robert Taub is a grounded Renaissance Man whose mainstream education and career was the foundation for a life that now, from this perspective has morphed from the mainstream to the metaphysical. He is the author of Awakening in America: An Adventure In Awareness.


Please describe the journey that led you to the work that you are doing now.


There is a clear demarcation for me between pre- and post-1987, which was the onset of the Harmonic Convergence. If you had asked me before that, I would have told you it was a complete privilege to have the life I was living at the time. I was an information systems specialist and project manager at United Airlines’ executive offices in Illinois, lived in Chicago’s upscale River North neighborhood, drove a great car and had an active social life that included unlimited first-class air travel.


Something started to change for me, though. I began to hear the word “spirituality” gently whispered into my mind. As an avid reader, I sought out spiritual texts and meditated to find the meaning of it all. In 1989, I left United to become a contract technology instructor, which gave me more time for spiritual pursuits.


It turned out that contracting was perfect for what happened next. In 1992, I became sick with a collection of challenging conditions, and by 1994, I was practically in a wheelchair. I was diagnosed with severe arthritis, psoriasis, exhaustion and alopecia. I tried allopathic remedies that didn’t work and eventually turned to alternative modalities for relief. Even then, it took me several years to discover what true healing really meant. As I became a more fully aware and present participant in my own healing, I began to recover.


As I emerged from my ordeal, it became apparent that what had really happened wasn’t just healing. It was a spiritual awakening. I felt more alive and conscious in my life than I ever had. And to ascend to that level of consciousness, it had been necessary for me to shed the outmoded beliefs and lifestyle choices that manifested such dis-ease in my body.


Later on, I read that small numbers of humans were awakening around the world, and I started to connect with them. It was an exciting time to be rediscovering exactly who I was.


Like me, many people I met were healing themselves and showing others what was possible. We were lightworkers, people who were creating healing to impact the world around us by bringing their own light to it. It was right around that time that we were approaching the year 2000, with all its Armageddon potentials as seen by Nostradamus, Edgar Cayce, Hopi Indians and in the Book of Revelations. Did the lightworking community make a difference? It obviously can’t be measured through our current scientific means, but I believe it was critical in paving the way for a new potential way of living life on Earth.


That experience showed me how much of an impact I could make in people’s lives. That stayed with me and inspired me. Although everything in my life has prepared me for becoming a healer in some way, including my corporate years and my MBA, my actual healing work on others began in 2000, after I experienced a several-day expansion in consciousness that was similar to a near-death experience but arrived at spontaneously, without trauma. It felt as if I had literally completed one lifetime but stayed on in the same body. And it changed my life completely.


My hands began to move with a knowingness I couldn’t have conjured on my own. And I felt called to use them to assist people with healing, first working with other healers to better understand what gifts I’d been given, and later on my own. In addition to moving energy through my hands, I also gained the gift of intuitive sight that lets me read people’s energy fields, receive communications from their high Self­—or soul—and channel Source energies for healing work. I honestly don’t know of other practitioners who apply this same combination of skills and gifts, and I have seen my particular approach, delivered with humility and compassionate intuitive counseling, successfully get to the root of some challenging issues and problems for people.



How would you describe your work? Would ‘medical intuitive’ be an appropriate term?


‘Medical intuitive’ is an aspect of what I do, but each session with a client is different and ends up being about quite a bit more than medical issues. I’ve worked with people experiencing challenges that range from cancer and other tough medical conditions to people who feel depressed, are frustrated by life or want to improve their relationships or family life. What connects all of my clients is that we work together—me with my intuitive sight and energy transfer and the client through their intention— to reach the root of their issue or problem, gain insights about it and heal it. Since physical problems have emotional and energetic causes, and usually start there, that’s where we do the work, and the effects transfer down to the physical body, too.


Since we’re working with energy versus linear space, it’s not hands-on. In fact, all of my one-on-one work is by phone, and I work with clients all over the U.S. and overseas, too. It works out well for clients, too, because after a session they can just relax and stay in their own space.


A session typically runs one to two hours, and it usually starts as a reading because the client seeks more clarity about their issue. I use intuitive sight to discern the areas of imbalance and to help the client understand what’s going on. Then we work to heal it. For my part, I become a conduit for a broad spectrum of energies and work with them to shift what I’m seeing with my intuitive sight. The client participates through their presence and receptivity to the energies.


As the energies work, clients and I often talk. They tell me what they are experiencing and I help them process their feelings. Other times, sessions have short or long periods of silence if the client enters a meditative state. Often they feel unstuck emotions, receive images, or experience a flow of cool or warm vibrations as the energies do their work. Since we’re working at such a deep level, I sometimes see some pretty personal or sensitive images. But for me, it’s an honor and privilege to be in such private space, and by now, I’ve seen it all. I use compassionate intuitive counseling to share with clients what their soul is allowing me to see. The fact that I’m seeing something at all is a signal from their high Self that they’re ready to work on those issues.


There are often healings or remissions during individual sessions and also among audiences who attend my workshops. But really, healing is a continuum. Smaller or singular issues can readily clear in a single session, while a deeper problem can contain multiple layers or facets, which I work through with clients over time. Sometimes healing is as simple as showing a client what responsibility they need to take about their situation to move forward. Sometimes the results are more curative. For example, I began weekly two-hour sessions with a severely depressed 40-year-old woman and after a month of addressing many of her painful memories during sessions, she felt about 50 percent better. She became a regular client and her depression went away for good.


What I do can also work as a treatment for more immediate concerns. One woman has called me twice after experiencing heart palpitations that she felt were energetic and emotional in origin. As we worked through the stress from her full-time job, part time writing, house maintenance, and relationship challenges, the symptoms subsided. I’m certainly no substitute for a doctor, but in her case, her physical heart was fine, although if she’d not addressed her energetic sensations, it might have affected her physical organ later.


Another client who also came to me initially for depression stayed on for three years of weekly sessions in order to progress spiritually. Initially, we worked through her painful, abused childhood, and in the second year we worked on the karma that was weighing her down from past lives. In the third year, she began to receive communication from departed loved ones and discovered the real meaning of the life they had agreed to create together. She then became able to read energy fields, including mine, and went on to do some amazingly compassionate social work with children. It really is amazing how much we can help others when we heal ourselves.



Where did the title Awakening in America originate?


I dreamed of a book cover featuring that title. And shortly after that, I ended up receiving thoughts, images and words that eventually became the first book of a series, Awakening in America®: An Adventure in Awareness, an e-book that’s available on Amazon. That information has become the foundation for Awakening in America® workshops, which I teach at expos around the country. The basis of the idea is that it’s incredibly difficult to do spiritual work in America. We have all the luxuries that come with being a leading first-world nation. Unlike many other places on earth, we don’t struggle to get clean water, food, electricity, personal safety, etc. And by all standards, that gives us a lot of energy we could be focusing on personal spiritual development, not to mention spiritual development that’s more community-based. But American culture makes it hard to take advantage of that higher-level space. It’s so easy to squander the opportunities we’ve been given to advance spiritually here. It’s tough to do in American life, even for people trying to stick to a path of personal growth. There’s a lot of pressure for individuals to get ahead in our culture, but where exactly are they going? Where are we going as individuals and a society?


So Awakening in America® gives people guidance on how to do it—some simple principles to live by, although they’re not always so simple to put into everyday practice. This process is important, though. It helps people lift out of the consumerism and superficial not-God bells and whistles of our society and take advantage of the opportunities it gives to live a life in more accord with their souls. And that provides the foundation for healing work by strengthening the body, mind and spirit. Besides, it feels good. Everyone should be doing this.



How do you bridge the mainstream with the metaphysical in ways that don’t seem to be what I call ‘cosmic foo foo’?


I have a very grounded approach, in part because of my business background. I used to train corporate executives as part of my job, which is as far from “foo foo” as you can get. Most people have a misperception that non-physical experiences happen someplace far, far away from us in some other dimension in outer space. But it’s not like that. There’s no need to go “out there.” Everything is inside. All of the potentials for your life—for accessing higher energy and healing—are inside you.



What are important questions that we can ask ourselves as we awaken?


What is your true authentic path? Why are you here? What have you come to accomplish in this lifetime? What can you do to achieve the life and state of health that you want?


There is always a way through challenges, or they wouldn’t be presenting themselves. But finding the answers can be tough. Especially when there’s a glut of spiritual books, workshops, teachers, gurus, events and healing methods—many of them promising instant relief. This appeals to our cultural desire for quick and effortless fix-its. But it’s important to use discernment since, of course, true healing requires your full presence and effort. There needs to be more focus on what really drives true healing and awakening, which is being willing to surrender to the process and listen to what your soul is telling you, and integrating that into your life.


Follow your heart – not your head or what someone else tells you that you need. While there are similarities across spiritual disciplines, such as study and meditation, everyone’s path is different. I took the path of the turtle, slow and steady, enjoying each revelation. Much of the work of awakening and healing that I did following the Harmonic Convergence was difficult, and I don’t think I would have been an enthusiastic cheerleader for the human experience at that time. But now, on the other side of that, I can see with much more clarity what the value of human life is.


True healing can mean making lifestyle changes, getting rid of toxic people or projects in your life, or changing unhealthy behaviors you might use as a salve for inner pain. What I do is help people lose that pain so they don’t need the salve anymore. And heal their relationships, so they can either become healthier or dissolve. And connect them to the deeper reasons for lifestyle changes so those become more appealing and easier to make. A person just needs to be willing and ready to do the real work, and healing will come. With it, more of an awakening to who they are and what their lives are about. It’s very satisfying and worth the effort. Pain is part of the journey, and helpful to remind us when we drift off course, but my journey of awakening—and helping others to do so—has been much more than I would have ever thought possible.




How do you prepare for sessions?


My connection to Source and the higher aspects of myself are always in place now, so I don’t do anything special before a session. Initially, I would sit still with my hands in a certain position, but now I get up, walk around and even lie down on the couch in my office with my headset on. When I’m comfortable during a session, it somehow seems to make my clients more comfortable, too.


Do you step aside or do you feel as if it is ‘you’ doing the work with the person as co-creator?


It’s very heart-based for me now, so I while I am aware of my lower self, or personality-me, during sessions and also my higher Self, or that which is the core of me, it’s very much one unified whole. At times I’m reading and channeling higher energies, and at other times assisting from personal experience.


But like I mentioned earlier, the client is also the co-creator. While I use my intuitive sight, their soul is always choosing what I’m able to see. So in this way, their own soul presents what we are to work on. This doesn’t always happen in as linear a fashion as we might want. For instance, if someone comes to me because they’re struggling with a certain physical issue, their soul might actually present other issues that need to be healed first. Our energetic bodies are made up of intricately interconnected layers, and conditions and experiences that seem unrelated at first can be stemming from the same cause. So what someone brings to the session ultimately gets addressed, but through whichever route is chosen by the soul.



Do people need to believe that it will work, for healing to take place?


Yes, belief is an important aspect, equally important though is participation in the process. Belief quickly turns into certainty as clients achieve results.


A man with addiction challenges called me and started out by telling me that he wanted help but was also, in his own words, “very skeptical.” He wanted to be cured – to have his addiction “taken away” – but argued with me throughout the process as the emotional underpinnings of his disease showed themselves. He ultimately refused to accept any responsibility for his situation, and after several sessions we both agreed to stop.


The desire to heal at the deepest level is also vital because it liberates clients to face and work through whatever presents itself during the sessions. The ability of the body to heal itself is well known. In my experience, healing happens when three things are in place: first is God, or really intention, meaning a complete surrender into the wholeness of being within which all is healed; second we must remove the obstacles presented by the lower self, or resistance; and third is alignment with the soul or higher Self, which is the interdimensional portion of us that knows who we are, why we are here, how we have set up each life lesson and how best to bring that lesson to completion.



What is the difference between healing and curing?


Healing to me is a more all-encompassing term. Healing for me in the mid 90s was both a journey of discovery about holistic methodologies and actual work with practitioners. I see now that although this process took me several years, I can say with certainty to clients, “I’ve tried all of this. Here is how it worked for me, and here is how it can work for you.”


The peaceful transition after a long illness can also be considered a healing of sorts, where the soul becomes prepared to leave the Earth plane and moves on to the next realm of its journey. Of course, that likely involves coming back again to continue working life lessons that were left undone from this lifetime. So we always get another chance to awaken and achieve further healing.


Curing seems to be more of a medical and marketing term. Many people are cure-seeking—as in, “Tell me what’s wrong and take it away forever”—and sometimes this does happen by either medical or holistic means. When there is a life lesson to be learned, though, or a puzzle to be solved, as was my journey of discovery in the mid 90s, I help clients to discover and complete this process – and reap the benefits.