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Values Clarification

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“We all want to live in accordance with our values. But have you ever actually articulated yours? Try it.”-Blair Glaser

Imagine that at birth, you were given a mirror into which was poured beliefs, ideas, concepts and world-views; placed there over the years by family, religion, culture, the media, friends, the educational system for the purpose of shaping you as a member of the society in which you live. Each time you look into the mirror, you see what you bring into your life, since every person you encounter is a reflection of those values. Are you comfortable with that idea or does it feel a bit stretch-y for you?

Writer and philosopher Jim Rohn who passed in 2009 was quoted as saying “You are the average of the five people you spend your time with.” When I consider those folks, I find that we are pretty much in alignment in terms of values. Do we agree on everything? Nope, that would be boring. Is there enough in common that I don’t practice cognitive dissonance too much of the time? Yes, or I would choose to move on.

Often I think that if I ran the show (not that I would want that responsibility), the world would be more peaceful, neater, cleaner, abundantly loving, more to share~

The values by which I like to think I live (and they may sound judgmental):

I believe that we are responsible for cleaning up after ourselves so no one need clean up after us~

I believe that there is enough for everyone~

I believe in leaving the campground better than I found it in all relationships~

I believe that love is never wasted~

I believe in the idea that God is too big to put in a box or be contained in any one religion~

I believe in keeping my word and if by chance I am not able, I ask to renegotiate~

I believe that people are not for intentionally hurting physically, emotionally and/or mentally and if by chance, I step on toes, I make amends~

I believe in the ‘right to arm bears’ (says this tree hugging pacifist)~

I believe in the responsibility to live lightly on the planet and be eco-conscious~

I believe that love is love is love and I gladly officiate at the weddings of same sex couples~

I believe that smoking around children and animals and even cuddling them after smoking, constitutes abuse, since they did not (unlike the smoker) choose to breathe in toxic fumes~

I believe in the power of forgiveness and do-overs~

I believe that people do the best they are willing to do~

I believe that destructive patterns and cycles can be broken~

I believe that love trumps fear~

What values do you live by?

 

 

 



  • http://www.blairglaser.com Blair Glaser

    Every morning when I post a question on Facebook, I wonder who it will touch and if it resonates. It is in alignment with my values of sparking awareness to put it out there, even if it touches no one but myself.
    Thank you so much for taking the question to heart and broadcasting the value of really defining your beliefs and values. You definitely make the world “peaceful, neater, cleaner, abundantly loving,” and “with more to share” .

  • http://www.liveinjoy.org Edie Weinstein, MSW, LSW

    Thank you, Blair. I see my values as a compass by which I steer my ship of dreams~

    Keep asking those questions.

    Blissings,

    Edie

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