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How Can This Work Out Best?  artwork and words by Jenny G. Perry


I imagine you have heard the statement: “We make plans and God laughs.” I have not only heard it, but lived it. This morning, I was having breakfast with two new friends with whom I connected following a Women’s Business Forum Speed Networking event. Think speed dating on steroids as at least 50 (mostly women and a few men) professionals from Bucks County, PA gathered to interact and offer mutual support for each other’s businesses. Good thing I can use my super-hearing to filter extraneous noise.  Among them were bankers, event planners, musicians, the owner of a classy adult store and someone who plans ‘fun funerals’ which may seem like an oxymoron, but really is a trend that allows people to celebrate loved ones and not just mourn their passing.


LisaBeth Weber (the musician)  Kyle Tevlin (the fun funeral woman) and I sat at a table at Nonno’s which is an Italian bakery and coffee shop in our small town burb of Doylestown, PA. Enjoyed soy chai and a decadent chocolate brownie (not so guilty pleasure since I knew I would be going to the gym a little later for my regular ‘playout’) as I got to know more about them. Laughed riotously as LisaBeth shared about the love between her grandparents who had been married 70 some years, said in her grandfather’s Yiddish accent.  I could relate since I am the granddaughter of Russian immigrants as well.  I could hear my Bubbe’s voice echoing in my ears as LisaBeth spoke. Got to hear more about Kyle’s I Want  A Fun Funeral: Putting A Little Life Into Your Last Wishes concept and thought about how it could revolutionize the way people view death. As a minister who officiates at personalized and not cookie cutter funerals and a bereavement counselor who helps people pick up the pieces, it makes so much sense to me. I related to them about my marital history and the things that I am now doing in my life since I had been widowed at 40. Had it not been for my husband’s passing, a series of events that wound itself to this moment, would not have unfolded.


In the shower tonight, I took it a step further as I recalled the jobs and relationships I had wanted that hadn’t panned out as I originally wished. Had my desires come to pass, I would have missed other relationships that were perhaps even more fulfilling or without which my life wouldn’t be as rich. At those times, I wasn’t always able to consider that question about things working out for the best. Yes, I am an optimist; or rather, an ‘opti-mystic’ who views the world through the eyes of possibility and still there are times when I need to be reminded that all is in Divine Order.



  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Kyle

    How nice reading about our gathering the other morning, Edie! I felt so blessed to have met you both and to have gone out and spent more time together.

    Of course I totally relate to the whole issue here of trust, of believing and having faith that everything is working out for the best. Especially when it seems to be the exact opposite… gulp. It’s how Life is, though.

    One of my tricks lately is to imagine that it’s the future already, and I’m looking back at this present moment and seeing how it really was fine after all. I’m doing that right this very minute, actually, and it’s making me feel better.

    Faith isn’t for the faint of heart, at least for me. The faith in my head is one thing, the faith in my day-to-day life requires what feels like Super Hero powers! But I can do that! Take a deep breath and do what makes your heart sing.

    Thanks for the support and inspiration!

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