I love this word: beshert which is Yiddish for ‘meant to be’. It refers to the heart and soul connection between partners whose reunion is predestined. There is a similar concept in the Gaelic language, called anam cara (soul friend). I read an article that my friend Naila Francis had written as her regular column in our regional newspaper, called The Intelligencer.
In it, her long time partner Zane asks her if they were ‘meant to be’. She answers that she believes they are, even in the midst and perhaps as a result of being in the midst of challenges brought on by depression that he faces and that they are facing together. I cried as I read the words that offered revealing of her heart, perhaps since I know for certain that every relationship I have ever been or ever will be in, has that flavor to it. Even those that I wouldn’t wish to repeat, were called to me for a valuable purpose which is to learn something I might not have, had our paths not crossed. Some taught me about what I didn’t want and some what I desire with every fiber of my being. It is said that relationships are there for a reason, season or lifetime and are no less valid even if they are brief encounters.
I count myself blessed to have many of what I consider those types of relationships that ripen by duration. There are some folks who I don’t see face to face often, but we pick up where we left off and others who I am with regularly. Depth and frequency of contact are not one in the same. I allow some people in more deeply than others, by choice, inclination and a sense of safety with them. Some of them have been lovers and our relationships have shifted. Others are platonic and no less treasured, just different energies.
How do I know that a relationship falls into the beshert box?
At our initial meeting there is a feeling of “Oh there you are again, how long has it been?”
A goofy shared sense of humor, laughing at the cosmic joke.
A heart racing feeling of I’m so excited to be in your presence whether it is physical or just emotional.
A synching up of energies; thinking of that person and then they get in contact with me.
A shared passion for life.
Being able to talk freely about ‘life, the Universe and everything’, never running out of things to say.
A knowing that there was a ‘sacred soul contract’ that we agreed to eons ago that we are living out now.
Being a greater force for good in the world together.
What does it mean to you?
http://youtu.be/hcf9LwtHTOo Beshert by Ari Gold