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Taking A Stand For Love


Tonight I came home to some amazing and ground breaking news,  that President Obama spoke out in support of same sex marriage. As a minister who marries committed heterosexual and homosexual couples, I couldn’t have been more delighted.  There may be some folks who are reading this entry who disagree and to that I say “To each his or her own.”; not wanting to debate. That did occur on my facebook page this evening as someone had really strong feelings in opposition.

My take on it has always been that love is love is love; and a relationship is about the ‘person and not the plumbing.’ From a spiritual perspective, it is hard to believe that a loving God would create people who love those of their own gender and desire relationship, only to be condemned and vilified for it.


One of the classes I teach is called The Taboo Subjects: Sex, Religion and Death and in an exercise I ask the participants to imagine a world in which things were the opposite of what people who have ‘heterosexual privelege’ experience. What if everything they saw and heard from the media was all about same sex couples?  How about if only same sex couples were permitted to make health care decisions for their partner or heterosexual couples were banned from being covered under their spouse’s insurance plan? Imagine if only Gay people could adopt children and straight people were banned from becoming parents?  What would it be like to have to keep your lover undercover or risk being stared at if you were seen holding hands on the street?  How about if you were fearful of being outed as ‘one of those’ people?  Think about what it would be like to be in fear for your safety if people with hate in their hearts harmed or killed you or someone close to you because they or you chose to be in relationship with someone of the opposite sex?  It makes for lively discussion with alot of  “Hmmm… I never thought about it that way.”


May all hearts and minds be opened by love~  ” I Do ” was Inspired by the many gay couples being married at San Francisco’s City Hall in 2004, Maryann and Ron Sfarzo composed and produced “I DO” the first ceremonial wedding song to celebrate same sex marriage.

At Walt Disney’s Fairy Tale Wedding, “I DO” has been added as one of their song selections offered to gay couples. Since 2004 “I DO” has traveled across the US into Canada and the UK.

A special Thank You to the couples that have chosen “I DO” for their wedding.
“I DO” can be found on CD Baby or by going to

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Dave Miller

    It has taken so many years to get to this point but we are coming of age. Because of celebrities like Ellen DeGeneres and Rosanna Barr and others like Melissa Etheridge, the acceptance has gained movement.

    I grew up in a household that was open and honest and it allowed be to be understanding to the transgendered, bi, poly, etc.

    To have a sitting president offer support will likely help more than hurt his chance of re-election and despite it hurting, he spoke his mind in a way that tells others to relax and be open-minded.

    I like your exercise in cognitive dissonance. It is a powerful psychological tool to help open the mind to what was previously closed. We used it in debate/public speaking class in high school.

    • Edie Weinstein, MSW, LSW

      It really DOES feel like it way past time for this to become a non-issue. There was a time in the not too distant past when it was considered taboo or radical for people of different nationalities or skin color to marry and now we look at it and think how silly it was. <3

  • Nike Requin

    children and straight people were banned from becoming parents? What would it be like to have to keep your lover

    Read more:

    • Edie Weinstein, MSW, LSW

      Thank you for acknowledging this thought thread(: <3

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