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Unrealistic Dreams

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Author and speaker Tama Kieves, Awakening Artist and author of  THIS TIME I DANCE! Creating the Work You Love (How One Harvard Lawyer Left It All to Have It All!) shared a powerful set of ideas in a facebook posting recently: “Today allow yourself to have your dreams.  Be “unrealistic” and believe that big joy is coming down the pike for you. Why not bet on your good instead of your failure? It’s always those who are “unrealistic” that change reality in the end.”

My comment in response was “I dream all the time and my dreams get bigger as I exercise my manna-festation muscles. I bet on my good, assume a win-win and the cooperation of the Universe and whatya know…all kinds of gifts come pouring in.”  There was a time, 15 or so years ago, when that would not have been my world view. I was fraught with (well hidden) anxiety about what other people thought of me, what I was doing and I how well I performed. That external validation held more weight than my own sense of satisifaction with my life.  It gets exhausting, keeping the Shirley Temple tap dancing routine going, but I had been doing it for so long, that I didn’t know how to stop.  These days, after multiple life losses, including the deaths of my husband and both parents, paradoxically, I feel a deeper and more profound sense of joy, because I have been broken open to more love and awareness of the raw and sometimes messy beauty of life , as Elizabeth Lesser, author of Broken Open, expresses.


“Make your life a spiritual adventure.
Instead of searching for answers that make you feel safe, light out on a spiritual journey where your ordinary life becomes an extraordinary adventure. On the spiritual adventure, all of your experiences—your successes and failures, your joys and sorrows—become your teachers who help you grow in fearlessness, wisdom, and gratitude.”

I was speaking with my friend Joan Schaublin recently about the losses and loves we have experienced and I observed that at times, I shy away from the messiness of  life, shutting down the feelings so as not to become entrenched in the yukkies. She reminded me that sometimes the most enjoyable aspects of life, including sex, art and nature, really ARE messy, but would we really want to forgo them?  Not me, not for a moment.


I have seen so many ‘unrealistic dreams’ come to fruition. Never would I have imagined, 15 years earlier, that I would be living the delicious life in which I am immersed at the moment,  the beyond amazing people with whom I have crossed paths and the impact I am permitted to have with the words that pour forth and the welcome I receive from those who read them. I have learned that my dreams and I are not separate, but are woven from the same fabric, with rainbow colored threads that sparkle when light shines on them.

What are your ‘unrealistic dreams’?  Are you willing to allow them to take flight? 


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