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Reclaiming Aphrodite

                                                                     Reclaiming Aphrodite-The Journey to Sexual Wholenes

Aphrodite is known as the Greek Goddess of beauty, love and sexuality. As the story goes, she rose fully formed from the sea.  Her lovers were many. Clearly, she was a woman who knew her own power. As I am typing this, I am looking at a small statue that I have on my nightstand that is of her image. Aphrodite reminds me of the importance of a healthy sense of sexuality. But what happens when, because of sexual abuse, our impulses become stunted, stagnated, exaggerated or addictive? Some of the answers can be found in Amrita Grace’s book entitled Reclaiming Aphrodite: The Journey To Sexual Wholeness 

Based in Hawaii, Amrita is a sex educator, intimacy and relationship coach and author who, along with her husband Apollo offers sessions for individuals and couples. She has come along way from being Kimmy, the one who experienced sexual wounding in childhood. As a result, her sense of self was thwarted and she found herself on a path of sexual addiction in an effort to redeem some portion of control. Paradoxically, it sent her spiraling out of control as all addictions inevitably do. She sets the stage by framing sexual addiction as ‘chemical dependency’ since the ways in which sexual feelings may land in the mind and body of the person in question, mirror those that a drug addict may feel when craving and then getting their ‘fix’.  She asks several questions that may help someone who is wondering whether they too are experiencing sexual addiction. Samples include:

Do you have feelings of shame or guilt during or after sex?

Do you coerce or pressure others into having sex with you?

Do you use sex with others as a way to punish your partner?

Do you put yourself at risk for sexually transmitted diseases or violence?

Amrita indicates that if the reader can answer yes to any of these questions, then there is something to explore further.

The book is a journey through healing into recovery as seen through the lenses of the chakra system. The word comes from Sanskrit and means ‘wheel’. Chakras are considered swirling energy vortices. Each one has a representative purpose, color, symbol and sound and can be used as guides to determine areas of our lives that call out for healing.

There are also meditation/visualization exercises, journaling, setting intention, deepening spiritual practice ideas contained in the book.

By the end  Amrita expresses gratitude that she has emerged from her self destructive patterns into a sense of integrity and and honoring the complete woman she has become. She is what I think of as a thriver, since she continues to reach out to those in need who may have been or may still be in the perilous place in which she once dwelled.

www.grace-awakening.com

www.amritagrace.com         



  • http://Mahalonuiloa! Amrita Grace

    Thank you for this lovely review of my book. It’s the first one (other than the amazon reviews) and I’m thrilled and humbled. May the beauty of these words reach far and wide and be of assistance and support where ever needed!

  • http://www.liveinjoy.org Edie Weinstein

    May the beauty of YOUR intention and YOUR words open minds, mend hearts and heal lives. I know so many sexual abuse survivors who would benefit from what you have shared. Glad too that you have recognized your wholeness. We still need to meet:) I’m sorry I missed you when you were on the East Coast. I guess I will just have to come to Hawaii…sigh…. <3

  • http://www.SusanaMayer.com Susana Mayer

    I align myself with many other sexologists. Sex addiction is rare, most people are just not controlling their impulses. I recently heard a definition of sex addiction that comes closest to what I believe. If you are not enjoying the sex afterwards, but you cannot stop yourself from having sex, then perhaps you are addicted.

  • http://www.liveinjoy.org Edie Weinstein

    Susana:

    How about the idea that addiction (regardless of the substance or behavior) is also about the impact it has on the person’s life and those around them? I know there are some who feel that since we live in such a sex negative and touch negative society,anything that questions sexual behavior is condemning it. Secrecy, spending excessive amounts of time, attention, money, energy on whatever it is…behaviors that put the person or partner(s) at risk,awareness that it is having a deleterious impact and doing it anyway, being out of integrity with their core values…those to me are hallmarks of addiction, that go far beyond impulse control. Just my two cents(:

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