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As If For The First Time

                                                                          

“..life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”  So began the daily group email  from Neale Donald Walsch that I receieved this past Thursday morning. I think about that concept each day, as my eyes open to greet whatever awaits in the next 24 hours. How will I be called on to stretch physically, emotionally, mentally and/or spiritually?  In yoga, we talk about ‘going to your edge’, moving your body to extend to where you have been and then perhaps a wee bit further each time, becoming more elastic in all ways. For some, going to their edge on the mat may be ‘cobra’ or ‘upward facing dog’ (similar to the position of the baby in the picture) and for some it may be an inverted pose, like a handstand.  How often have I (and perhaps you) shied away from getting anywhere near the perimeter when what is out there feels intimidating or frightening? But how can we possibly know how far we are capable of going until we know how far we are willing to go?

Last week, when in conversation with my friend Ondreah, we were musing about the things we have experienced over the past 5 decades of our lives and how hard I am on myself at times, with the drum-beat hammering thoughts in my head about ‘not doing it right’ and ‘not being enough’.  She said something to the effect of : “You know, some things you are doing for the first time.”  It is like taking those first steps as a nearly one year old. Likely, when I attempted motoring on my own two feet rather than on all fours, I wobbled and even fell.  I probably didn’t think “Oh, I’m so clumsy, I might as well scoot around on my butt for the rest of my life.” I got back up and took the next step and the next and the next and whatya’ know…..I’m truckin’ across the floor to the applause of my delighted parents. Hopefully the same is true for you.

If memory serves, Ondreah may have been referring to my new responsibilities as the executor of my mother’s affairs and how I have felt nervous about the tasks involved.   If that is the case, without a template or model, how can I expect myself to ‘do it right’?  All I can do is follow step by step, what needs to be done, ask for and be willing to receive support from people who do have experience and can be guides along the way and just give myself the space to simply BE with the process. And the same is true about publishing my ‘Bliss Book’.  I’m a seasoned writer but had not a clue how to do the editing and publishing ‘stuff’.  The experts are holding my hand and guiding me through the process. Perhaps THAT beyond all else is my own comfort zone.

What is it that you are doing for the first time?

Karen Drucker’s song I Will Be Gentle With Myself is the perfect balm that will help me stretch  so that I can reach beyond where I thought I could go. www.youtube.com/watch?v=ihWYx-QJ95I



  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment jan

    walking on the planet without my father to chat with….

  • http://www.liveinjoy.org Edie Weinstein, MSW, LSW

    Oh….I know that one too. My father died in 2008 and my mother joined him this past November. Although I miss them deeply in body and wish I could call them on the phone to hear their voices, I know that they are just a thought away now. Healing to your heart. <3

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Ron

    I’ve used the analogy of the baby learning how to walk as well. The baby does continue to get up and try again and again and again. And s/he does fall over and over and over. We don’t look at it as failure after failure after failure. We look at the falling as a part of the process.

    And when a baby attempts to stand and walk and falls, s/he doesn’t go back to the starting point to try again. S/he gets up right where s/he lost balance and starts from there.

    Some days are better than others. For whatever the reasons, some days we are stronger or more confident or more motivated than other days. If we can do our best at any given time without the negative self-judgments, we are well on our way to leading more productive lives.

    Thanks for the message…

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Terra Bundance

    This is AWESOME!! Thank you for sharing! :) Also, check out the song, “If I were Brave” by Jana Stanfield. If you don’t know it, you will love it! Keep on keeping on!!! And if you need support with the book, please keep me in the loop!! :)

  • http://www.liveinjoy.org Edie Weinstein, MSW, LSW

    Yes, Ron…total agreement. There are some days when I feel just like that little one…sometimes tripping and falling and some days running across the floor:)

    And Terra…I know and love Jana’s song. I profiled her in the Bliss Blog back in March http://blog.beliefnet.com/blissblog/2011/03/If-I-Were-Brave.html Check it out!

    The book should be out by the Fall…welcoming all the promo I can get:) Thank you much!

    <3

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Faith

    Hi Edie!
    Just read this………GREAT!
    Yeah, we are SO hard on ourselves……..Ondreah is SO RIGHT! We ARE doing THIS for the first time……..we do a lot for the first time and we need to be kind and supportive…….
    and yes, as babies we just KEPT GOING! Why do we lose that spirit?!?
    So, recapture the baby spirit! YEAH!
    Hugs,
    Faith

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