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When Faith Turns Neurotic

posted by Sharon Kirk

When does reciting scripture become a symptom of neurosis? Or praying the rosary an unhealthy compulsion? Not until I had the Book of Psalms practically memorized as a young girl did I learn that words and acts of faith can morph […]

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8 Tips to Manage Financial Stress

posted by Beyond Blue

What do you do when you fret about losing your home, car, stocks, junk bonds, retirement savings, college funds, and everything else in the lyrics of a bad country song (truck, sorry forgot the truck)? I don’t really know, to […]

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3 Ways to Change with the Seasons

posted by Beyond Blue

I enjoyed this post from (former) FreshLiving blogger Valerie Reiss: suggestions on how you can change with the season. Even as I love the four seasons, I do experience some anxiety with the transition from one to another. Here are her […]

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Extinguishing Anxiety: Know Your Triggers!

posted by Beyond Blue

Anxiety arrives much like a surprise visit from an unwanted guest. You can be sailing along in your recovery program, doing all the right things, and then, BAM! You feel like you need to grab the paper bag you used […]

Nerve: 12 Ways to Be Afraid (and Keep Your Cool)

posted by Beyond Blue

Taylor Clark has written a very compelling and insightful book about anxiety, our amygdala (fear center in the brain), and, in general, what makes us freak out in his new book, “Nerve: Poise Under Pressure, Serenity Under Stress, and the […]

Therapy Thursday: Be Nearsighted

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

12 Ways to Manage Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

A dozen tips and techniques for managing anxiety.

Therapy Thursday: Pick a Pace

posted by Beyond Blue

I have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. […]

Stressed On Black Friday? Try These

posted by Beyond Blue

You all may be braver than I. I do not step foot into the mall from Halloween to New Years. If I do, I usually end up locking myself in a Starbucks bathroom to finish a meltdown. So I thought […]

3 Ways to Change with the Seasons

posted by Beyond Blue

There is a season for everything. Don’t resist. Go with it.

5 Ways to Manage Autumn Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

Even as I love the autumn season, it is full of anxiety for me (like every other season, come to think of it). I start to mourn the ending of summer when I hear the cicadas grow louder the last […]

8 Ways to Manage Anxiety on an Anniversary

posted by Beyond Blue

Most of us circle a few days of the calendar year that we know will be difficult to get through: the anniversary of a death, traumatic event, or even happy occasion. These dates are charged with emotion.  September 11 falls […]

7 Quick Ways to Avoid a Meltdown

posted by Beyond Blue

When you feel like strangling the guy in front of you at Target, read these “7 Quick Ways to Calm Down,” or as the Huffington Post renamed them,  “7 Quick Ways to Avoid a Meltdown,” I laughed at the art that went with […]

15 Ways to Stop Obsessing

posted by Beyond Blue

For as long as I can remember I’ve struggled with obsessive thoughts, with severe ruminations that can interfere with daily life. My thoughts get stuck on something and like a broken record, repeat a certain fear over and over and […]

Dr. Ken Duckworth On Treating Bipolar Disorder

posted by Beyond Blue

Aside from my own psychiatrist, Dr. Smith, there are few doctors that can explain a confusing and complex condition like Bipolar Disorder with such clarity as the medical director of NAMI, Dr. Ken Duckworth. Three years ago, I had the […]

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder + Fish = Disaster

posted by Beyond Blue

Here’s an entry from my archives that you’ll appreciate. Maybe. If you have a sense of humor. And are a tad OCDish like me. The most challenging part of my sprint triathlon last weekend had nothing to do with physical […]

How Can I Make Someone Get Help?

posted by Beyond Blue

Recently I’ve gotten more involved in NAMI, the National Alliance for Mental Illness, who produces some great publications for those of us who either struggle with mental illness or live with a loved one’s disorder. One of my favorite features […]

Mindful Monday: Stressed Out Anyone? Friends, Religion, and Nature Can Help

posted by Beyond Blue

One of the most beneficial tools of my recovery from depression and anxiety is to keep a mood journal. James Bishop offers a fantastic program called Optimism software if you’re interested in a sophisticated form. I simply keep a notebook […]

Giving Up My Flask: Panic, Valium, and Vodka

posted by Beyond Blue

Do you mix alcohol with sedatives?

Group Beyond Blue: Stepmothers and Depression

posted by Beyond Blue

I started a discussion thread on Group Beyond Blue called “Stepmothers and Depression,” where I asked stepmoms to weight in on whether or not stepmothering is the “perfect storm” for depression, as author Wednesday Martin suggests. To get to the […]

Disabling Anxiety: 10 More Tips

posted by Beyond Blue

Therapist Elvira Aletta offers 10 more tips to lowering anxiety.

Video: 7 Ways to Relieve Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

Recently I’ve had to review and really work on my steps to relieve anxiety. I thought you might like a refresher, as well.To view my YouTube video, “Beyond Blue: 7 Ways to Relieve Anxiety,” click here. * Click here to subscribe […]

Mindful Monday: 11 Ways to Treat the Death Thoughts That Come with Depression and Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

Some tips for when you can’t stop thinking about death.

Mindful Monday: When Darkness Surrounds You

posted by Beyond Blue

Mother Teresa and Henri Nouwen both experienced dark nights of the soul.

Group Beyond Blue: Disabling Anxiety–What Do You Do?

posted by Beyond Blue

Tips for handling depression from my support group, Beyond Blue

Bounce: 6 Steps to Become More Resilient

posted by Beyond Blue

How do you bounce back? Tips for resilience

Use Caution With Positive Thinking

posted by Beyond Blue

positive thinking can make your thoughts worse, self-help can hurt you

5 Simple Exercises for Managing Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

techniques to manage anxiety, seasonal depression

9 Tips for Managing Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

I try to read everything that is printed from Johns Hopkins on depression and anxiety because their doctors have been such an important part of my recovery. Here are nine tips that Johns Hopkins doctors suggest to help you manage […]

On 9/11: The Saints’ Guide to Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

“Anxiety has been rampant since 9/11 and perhaps no less so in the aftermath of the war in Iraq,” writes Keith Egan (my former theology professor at St. Mary’s College in Notre Dame, Indiana) in an article called “Banishing Anxiety.” […]

Schedule of a HSF (Highly Sensitive Family)

posted by Beyond Blue

A typical Saturday morning in our highly-sensitive house looks like this: 2:00 a.m. HSH (highly sensitive husband) goes downstairs to sleep on the couch because he keeps getting awoken by the loud snoring of his HSW (highly sensitive wife), who […]

The Highly Sensitive Person in Love

posted by Beyond Blue

Elaine Aron, whose book “The Highly Sensitive Person” I’ve discussed often on Beyond Blue, also writes about the topic of sensitive-types in relationships. In fact, she devoted a whole book to it, “The Highly Sensitive Person in Love.” Here are […]

Henri Nouwen on Living with the “Not Yet”

posted by Beyond Blue

The following passage is from Henri Nouwen’s book, “The Inner Voice of Love”: Try to keep your small, fearful self close to you. This is going to be a struggle, because you have to live for a while with the […]

4 Ways to Get Past Cold Feet (or Any Kind of Anxiety)

posted by Beyond Blue

Fresh Living blogger Holly Lebowitz Rossi recently wrote a helpful post on how to get past cold feet or any second-guessing for that matter. She writes:   I have a theory about why moving inherently involves a cold-feet stage. Here […]

9 Favorite Scripture Verses

posted by Beyond Blue

On my post “6 Favorite Prayers,” Beyond Blue reader June wrote: “Thank you so much for these!?Will there be a sequel?” Here my sequel! 9 of my favorite scripture verses … Ecclesiastes 3: A Time for Everything There is a […]

Love After Love: A Poem About Mindfulness

posted by Beyond Blue

At the end of track 3, of Elisha Goldstein’s CD, “Mindful Solutions for Stress, Anxiety, and Depression,” he recites this moving poem by Derek Walcot. Each time I hear it, I get a little closer to self-acceptance. And ironically enough, […]

Mindful Monday: Don’t Let Fear Motivate You

posted by Beyond Blue

On Mindful Monday, my readers and I practice the art of pausing, TRYING to be still, or considering, ever so briefly, the big picture. We’re hoping this soul time will provide enough peace of mind to get us through the […]

Recession Anxiety: 8 Tips To Manage Financial Stress

posted by Beyond Blue

I’m reposting this piece on recession anxiety since I will be discussing it on ABC News Radio with Host/Correspondent Richard H. Davies. The show is called “Hey! It’s Your Money!” “It’s Gone!” Just kidding. (The last sentence.) Like most dinner […]

12 Ways to Overcome Jealousy and Envy

posted by Beyond Blue

I have been told that envy is my least becoming quality. But what do you expect from a girl who grew up with three gorgeous sisters within three years of me? Cute junior-high boys used me to get to my […]

Feel the Fear, But Don’t Be a Moron

posted by Beyond Blue

This is a favorite post from my archives on facing your fears (with a little common sense). Speaking of irrational phobias and obsessions, I learned an important lesson the morning (last month) I was supposed to run the 22nd Annual […]

John Grohol: 7 Ways to Cope with a Layoff

posted by Beyond Blue

John Grohol, over at PsychCentral.com, has some good tips for the recently laid off. He’s right in saying that losing your job feels like having the wind knocked out of you. I think this is especially true for men, since […]

The Big Depression (or Elephant): The Recession, Faith, and Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

With the exception of Monday’s piece, I have been avoiding the topic of the economy for months because I didn’t want to add to the panic so many of us feel, which, in turn, contributes to the crisis: because we […]

10 Tips for the Suddenly Unemployed

posted by Beyond Blue

Jennifer Kushell, the President and Co-founder of Your Success Network and author of “Secrets of the Young & Successful: How to Get Everything You Want Without Waiting a Lifetime” has compiled 10 tips for the tens of thousands of people […]

The First Blog Post: My Story So Far

posted by Beyond Blue

Although I’ve suffered from depression and anxiety from the moment I was induced from my mother’s womb, I officially joined the elite club in 1989, my freshman year at Saint Mary’s College in Notre Dame, Indiana, when I went by […]

10 Ways to Transform Toxic Thoughts

posted by Beyond Blue

In her book, “How to Heal Toxic Thoughts: Simple Tools for Personal Transformation,” Sandra Ingerman offers a few more tools you might implement in the all-consuming war against negativity. Here is a Beliefnet gallery based on her book. It begins […]

The Good News and Bad News About Being Highly Sensitive

posted by Beyond Blue

Continuing the conversation from yesterday about being highly sensitive … Here’s an excerpt from Aron’s book, which helps to lay out the pros and cons of a being a person who should stay away from Disney World and Toys-R-Us (as […]

Are You Highly Sensitive?

posted by Beyond Blue

In my video post I mentioned Elaine Aron’s book, “The Highly Sensitive Person.” I advise all depressives to read it, because most of you are going to be highly sensitive (which is not a bad thing at all). I was […]

Mindful Monday: Discipline, a System of Techniques

posted by Beyond Blue

On Mindful Monday, my readers and I practice the art of pausing, TRYING to be still, or considering, ever so briefly, the big picture. We’re hoping this soul time will provide enough peace of mind to get us through the […]

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz: They Don’t Have to Be Perfect

posted by Beyond Blue

Thanks to Beyond Blue reader Peg for directing me on the combox to my post “12 Ways to Overcome Jealousy and Envy” to Elizabeth Scott’s review of “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. As I mentioned on other posts, […]

Franco: I Believe in You

posted by Beyond Blue

I was touched by Beyond Blue reader Franco’s comment on the combox of my post, “12 Ways to Handle Jealousy and Envy,” in which he wrote: I think that three little words, I love you, always work magic at some […]

Barbara: Good Enough is Great

posted by Beyond Blue

I also appreciated Beyond Blue Barbara’s comment on the same post, “12 Ways to Overcome Jealousy and Envy,” because it reminded the wisdom in the flick “Babe,” when the farmer says to the pig, “That’ll do, Pig. That’ll do.” If […]

Video: Go To Your Happy Place

posted by Beyond Blue

I know a “happy place” sounds corny. How many times have you seen a character on a sitcom close his eyes and say, “I’m going to my happy place. I’m almost there. Up, I can’t find any parking. Hold on, […]

Saint Mary’s College: A Happy Place for Me, and Home to My Soul

posted by Beyond Blue

In “Home Coming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child,” bestselling author John Bradshaw describes his years in the seminary as nurturing, where he adopted many “new fathers” and “new mothers” to replace the abusive ones who raised him. He writes, […]

Recognizing Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

posted by Beyond Blue

Johns Hopkins Medicine has published the following information on recognizing and treating Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD): Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is marked by recurrent, repetitive thoughts (obsessions), behaviors (compulsions), or both that a person recognizes as unreasonable, unnecessary, or foolish yet are […]

7 Steps to Heal Your Inner Child

posted by Beyond Blue

According to John Bradshaw, author of “Home Coming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child,” the process of healing your wounded inner child is one of grief. And it involves these seven steps (in Bradshaw’s words): 1. Trust For your wounded […]

Mindful Monday: Replacing Old Tapes With New Ones

posted by Beyond Blue

On Mindful Monday, my readers and I practice the art of pausing, TRYING to be still, or considering, ever so briefly, the big picture. We’re hoping this soul time will provide enough peace of mind to get us through the […]

Video: Meeting My Inner Child

posted by Beyond Blue

In case you’re confused, I accidentally published this last week. Sorry! Now it makes sense given today’s mindful Monday meditation. Some of you have already seen this video about my reading through my junior-high journals and the process of coming […]

Friday’s Question: What Do I Do With My Impure Thoughts?

posted by Beyond Blue

On Fridays I will address a question related to depression and find the answer from an expert. If you have a question you want answered, please ask it on the combox of this post, and I’ll try my best to […]

Mindful Monday: I Said to Me Soul, Be Still

posted by Beyond Blue

On Mindful Monday, my readers and I practice the art of pausing, TRYING to be still, or considering, ever so briefly, the big picture. We’re hoping this soul time will provide enough peace of mind to get us through the […]

Wall Street Anxiety: 8 Tips to Manage Financial Stress

posted by Beyond Blue

Like most dinner conversations last night, ours was about Wall Street and our course of action. As Eric and I talked about what best to do at a time of financial crisis, it occurred to me that the same tools […]

Group Beyond Blue: Wall Street Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

I started a discussion thread called “Wall Street Anxiety” at Group Beyond Blue at Beliefnet Community, where I asked folks to share their tips on combatting financial panic. Join the conversation by clicking here. To read more Beyond Blue, go […]

Friday: A Day for Questions on Beyond Blue

posted by Beyond Blue

I guess because it’s the start of a new school year I want to shake things up a little and add some new features. So we have “Mindful Monday” when we get to navel gaze and be all spiritual, Wednesday […]

6 Ways to Stop Dwelling on It

posted by Beyond Blue

Beliefnet just featured an excerpt from O, The Oprah Magazine, about obsessive thoughts, which included several good pointers. You can get to the gallery by clicking here. It begins …. Ruminating regularly often leads to depression. So if you have […]

TMI (Too Much Information): 4 Ways to Clear the Mind Clutter

posted by Beyond Blue

During this hiatus from the online world, I realized that all the information I force feed myself during a normal workday is as unhealthy for me as fast food. Now that I’m back to my desk, I don’t want to […]

4 Steps to Banish Email Clutter

posted by Beyond Blue

I just found a great article on clearing e-mail clutter on a blog called “Think Simple Now.” She offers a few suggestions on how to tweak your preferences so to avoid the land of clutter anxiety. And don’t fool yourself […]

Group Beyond Blue: Count the Small (and Big) Victories Along the Way!

posted by Beyond Blue

Thanks to Group Beyond Blue member Deep Within for starting the discussion thread on Group Beyond Blue called “YOU did that!” She’s absolutely right in that we are quick to congratulate children on their small and big accomplishments throughout the […]

A Place for the Singing of Angels: The Power of Silence and Solitude (or at least no e-mail)

posted by Beyond Blue

I realize that this post is a tad hypocritical since my paycheck depends on your clicks, but I need to tell you about my inner transformation during my 19-day hiatus from the computer because, as you might suspect, my mood […]

5 Reasons Why Adults (Like Kids) Need Quiet Time

posted by Beyond Blue

The following excerpts are taken from “Modern Spiritual Masters: Writing on Contemplation and Compassion” edited by Robert Ellsberg: 1. To Hear God Talk And if we really want to pray we must first learn to listen, for in the silence of […]

10 Ways to Harness Solitude

posted by Beyond Blue

The following Beliefnet gallery was timely for me since I’m finally realizing the healing power of solitude and actually letting myself enjoy my own company, where I can be still and silent for a few minutes. To get to the […]

10 Things I’m Going to Do Differently This School Year

posted by Beyond Blue

I recently confessed to a friend who suffers from Seasonal Affective Disorder that I get anxious upon hearing the humming sound of the cicadas in late July because I know summer is about finished and it’s almost time to get […]

100 Healthy Habits You Should Start in College (or Anytime)

posted by Beyond Blue

Just when I thought I had a lot of goals, I read Alisa Miller’s article on “100 Healthy Habits You Should Start in College.” Each area of your life (like sleep) has seven or eight goals. That’s a lot of […]

Group Beyond Blue: Jealousy

posted by Beyond Blue

Awhile back I started a discussion thread on jealousy at Group Beyond Blue (you can get to by clicking here). Check some great suggestions on what fellow depressives do when they start feeling green! To read more Beyond Blue, go […]

10 Scripture Quotes About Facing Fear

posted by Beyond Blue

Beliefnet has arranged a beautiful gallery of 10 scripture quotes about facing fear. To get to the gallery, click here. It begins … Everyone feels afraid at some point — whether it’s a gnawing, anxious feeling or a paralyzing phobia. […]

Anxiety In Kids: An Interview with Dr. Daniel Pine

posted by Beyond Blue

Thanks to my blogging buddy, NYJLM, whose blog you can find by clicking here, for forwarding me this interview that ran in the New York Times a week or so ago. Irene Wielawski of the New York Times interviewed Dr. […]

When You Should Worry: 11 Red Flags for Anxiety in Your Child

posted by Beyond Blue

Tamar E. Chansky lists some red flags for anxiety in a child in her insightful book, “Freeing Your Child: Powerful, Practical Solutions to Overcome Your Child’s Fears, Worries, and Phobias”: 1. Demonstrates excessive distress out of proportion to the situation: […]

Priscilla Warner: Oh, Where Are You, God?

posted by Beyond Blue

Following is one of my favorite excerpts from “The Faith Club”: As I listened to Suzanne I felt that I was in the presence of someone with deep faith who had dealt with suffering and loss in a way that […]

Going Personal In Public: Angelina Jolie-Style or No?

posted by Beyond Blue

Entertainment Weekly asked Angelina Jolie how she reconciles her former image (doing drugs, cutting herself, etc) with her current one (mom and humanitarian). She said: The reason I talked about going through certain pains or even cutting myself is that […]

Liberate Yourself From Your Fear of Happiness

posted by Beyond Blue

In “Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment” by Tal Ben-Shahar, Ph.D. (and thanks to my Guardian Angel Ann for sending me an autographed copy!): When we do not feel that we are worthy of happiness, we […]

Spaceships In My Sleep! Go to the Safe Place!

posted by Beyond Blue

I wrote this piece awhile back, but since it applies to financial anxiety, too, I thought I’d republish it. Last visit to my therapist, I told her about an unsettling dream I’ve been having once or twice a week. “I’m […]

Priscilla Warner: How Do You Move Beyond Blue?

posted by Beyond Blue

The author I interview today is famous AND one of us!! She co-authored the bestselling book, “The Faith Club” with Ranya Idliby and Suzanne Oliver. You may have heard of it: Ranya (a Muslim), Suzanne (a Christian), and Priscilla (a […]

Anxiety, Panic, and the Fear Center

posted by Beyond Blue

Beyond Blue reader Kay e-mailed me just before Christmas to ask me to address panic and anxiety. I feel blessed to have had a few months now without that dreadful knot in your stomach—actually I think of it as more […]

Max Lucado on Letting Go of Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

Here is an excerpt from Max Lucado on how to let go of anxiety. Warning: it’s a tad simplistic. It doesn’t address the biological component of anxiety at all and therefore is somewhat unauthentic. But I do like his reminder […]

New Study: Religion Helps Panic Disorder

posted by Beyond Blue

For those who want to stay up to date with new health studies, especially those regarding depression and anxiety, you may want to sign up to receive Johns Hopkins Health Alerts, which are free, mostly targeted to people over 50. […]

Reader Jeff: This Too Shall Pass

posted by Beyond Blue

I very much appreciate what Beyond Blue reader Jeff said in response to Larry Parker’s post about his panic attack: I’ll thank Larry again (and Therese) for putting himself out here. My panic attacks are similar. Hyperventilating and feeling an […]

Group Beyond Blue: Panic and Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

Because panic and anxiety are so much a part of recovery from depression or any mental illness, I added “panic and anxiety” as a topic to the discussion boards of Group Beyond Blue on Beliefnet’s Community site. To visit, click […]

What a Panic Attack Looks Like

posted by Beyond Blue

Beyond Blue reader Larry Parker has written a brave, raw account of a recent panic attack. He has used his gift of language to describe for others exactly how it feels to be trapped by a brain’s disease. To get […]

Coping/Managing Stress and Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

You can find Therapydoc’s original post, “Coping/Managing Stress and Anxiety,” by clicking here. I have excerpted parts of it below. Someone once wrote in asking for my personal secrets, my coping strategies, not just a lot of psycho-babble. How do […]

Not So Black Friday

posted by Beyond Blue

I’ve said this in prior posts: I don’t do stores in between Halloween and New Year’s. It’s not good for my health. So I’m not shopping today. I’m doing the second most dangerous activity to my health … traveling. Therefore, […]

Toys-R-Us Support Group

posted by Beyond Blue

For those of you brave enough to walk inside a Toys-R-Us today, here is a prior post on how the Gospel of Luke might be able to save your sanity if too many toys start talking to you. To read […]

Blog Action Day

posted by Beyond Blue

As part of Blog Action Day–a collaborative effort in cyberspace to raise awareness of environmental issues, I’m republishing a post I wrote back in February, when it finally got cold outside. Global warming is a huge issue of anxiety for […]

Social Phobia Rears Its Head

posted by Beyond Blue

I didn’t used to have social anxiety or “phobia” back when I was drinking. Mingling came quite naturally during a good vodka buzz. But professional networking in a large room of strangers is very difficult to do stone sober. Even […]

Relapse: The Waiting Place

posted by Beyond Blue

Thanks to an anonymous reader on my “Is It a Relapse?” post who wrote: This is a great article! However, what have you done that helped you to come out of it since? I was hoping to read on and […]

Advice for Moira

posted by Beyond Blue

I continue to be amazed and delighted by the support offered by readers to those who post their problems on the message boards of Beyond Blue. The other day at breakfast, Eric said to me, “I feel bad for Moira.” […]

Signs of Life for Ginny and Claudia

posted by Beyond Blue

I was especially concerned about reader Ginny who wrote the following on the message board of my “When to Get Help” post: How do you find a good doctor when you’re terrified of leaving the house? When the very thought […]

Anxiety: Poop on My Head

posted by Beyond Blue

There is little need for a therapist when you have a three-year-old and a five-year-old asking you probing questions and analyzing your thoughts. “Mom, do you have an-ziety?” Katherine asked me the other day on the way to the pool. […]

Label Me, Please

posted by Beyond Blue

For a long while I was afraid to write things such as “I am mentally ill” or “I am bi-polar.” I was afraid of labels. By calling myself a manic-depressive would I trap my psyche in “sick” mode? By accepting […]

Early Saturday Morning in the House of a HSF (Highly Sensitive Family)

posted by Beyond Blue

2:00 a.m. HSH (highly sensitive husband) goes downstairs to sleep on the couch because he keeps getting awoken by the loud snoring of his HSW (highly sensitive wife), who is having anxiety dreams (she missed her final exam because she […]

Six Psychological Strategies to Calm Down

posted by Beyond Blue

Because Beyond Blue readers seemed to appreciate the physical strategies I listed on my “Six Strategies to Calm Yourself Down” post (based on the suggestions Elaine Aron gives in her book, “The Highly Sensitive Person“), I thought I’d offer her […]

Fear Busters: A 21-Day Program

posted by Beyond Blue

Of course you don’t have to swim in a muddy pond or try to run across a really high bridge to confront your fears. Here’s a cool 21-day program–“Fear Busters”–to banish the fears that are plaguing you. To read the […]

Defining High Sensitivity–Two Facts to Remember

posted by Beyond Blue

If you tested positive as a highly sensitive person in the self-diagnosis I posted yesterday, you may benefit from knowing more about the HSP. Here’s a good start (from Elaine Aron’s book, “The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When […]

Six Strategies to Calm Yourself Down

posted by Beyond Blue

Here are some physical strategies Aron mentions if you find yourself overaroused and about to have a meltdown (like I did in Toys-R-Us). She offers psychological methods, too, but I’ve found it more helpful to start with these physical suggestions. […]

Mrs. Smiley and Her Cool Flip-Flops

posted by Beyond Blue

I learned a very important lesson about jealousy driving back from J. C. Penny’s last night. David and Katherine had just picked out 15 new pairs of underwear (I’m on day three of potty training Katherine, if you hadn’t already […]

Unrealistic Expectations: Perfectionism’s Trophy Wife

posted by Beyond Blue

If perfectionism is a crippling bastard, then unrealistic expectation is his obnoxious trophy wife. The two are disgustingly inseparable, and their full-time job is manufacturing anxiety inside a depressive’s head. Take this morning’s breakfast in my household. Eric practically hyperventilated […]

Plucking the Seeds of Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

I have ten topics in mind that I want to write about right now: the value of humor, not taking things personally, the relationship between food and mood. But those are just ways to avoid what I’m really feeling at […]

Letting Go of Anxiety

posted by Beyond Blue

Bestselling Christian author Max Lucado writes about why worry is an expensive habit and how God can help us overcome it. Click here for an excerpt from his book, “Traveling Light.”

A Preschool Stress-Out

posted by Beyond Blue

No need to buy a parrot when you have an inquisitive five-year-old boy. “What does ‘stressed out’ mean, Mom?” asked David the other day. “You and Dad say it all the time.” “It means…’tired,’” I answered. “Then I’m stressed out,” […]

Monkey Brains

posted by Beyond Blue

Then again, maybe we shouldn’t blame stress on technology and taxing jobs. Maybe if we weren’t fretting over 350 e-mails in our inbox, then we’d worry about something else because we have primitive, monkey brains. In “The Emotional Brain,” Joseph […]

On “Coming Out”

posted by Beyond Blue

From my original blog, in case you missed it: I haven’t always been so candid about my depression and anxiety. A year ago, while in the eye of the storm, I bailed on delivering the keynote address to a large […]

Don’t Go There

posted by Beyond Blue

When I simply can’t be benevolent to friends and family, I at least avoid trigger points. For example, sometime in November I told Eric that I would not be walking through the automatic doors of the Annapolis Westfield Mall from […]

Be Not Afraid

posted by Beyond Blue

Three-year-old Katherine was demoted from an angel to a star in her preschool Christmas pageant. It called to mind the pangs of devastation I felt in the fifth grade when I lost out to Marci Simons for the part of […]

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