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Letting Go of Regret

posted by skirk

letting go of regretYou let the woman of your dreams get away. You made a parenting mistake that still haunts you. You quit an okay job only to replace it with a lousy one. You cheated a friend. And on and on and on. You want so badly to reverse the clock and do it again … the right way. Regrets can occupy a substantial amount of real estate in our minds, especially for those prone to obsessive thinking. I, for one, spend too many hours of my day in remorse over big and little choices—whether they be professional glitches, parenting inconsistencies, or personal shortfalls.

Here are some ways I’m trying to let go of my regret.

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  • http://www.sydneyemotionalfitness.com.au/ Scott Wright

    It is very important for us to let go of the past if we want to have a happy and worthwhile future. Counselling or talking to a therapist can help pave the way.

  • http://analyticalperspective.wordpress.com Heather

    I agree with what you are communicating. I used to beat myself up over my mistakes. My unhappiness with my actions was an indicator of my innate character. I actively worked-and continue to work-on my character and ability to be personally responsible for who I am and what I do. When regret sneaks up on me and I see my mistake like a movie reel-in my mind’s eye-I say to myself, “You are not that person anymore” and I push the memory out of my mind by focusing on the good I do every day. Besides, I am a better person for the mistakes I made. I have apologized to many I slighted. I try to make right whatever wrongs I made. I use the “empty chair” technique to talk through my pain with those I can not physically reach; it helps. Regret is a fruitless action and because I have learned to love who I have become I do not allow myself to do it. I hope you will visit me at analyticalperspective.wordpress.com and learn from my experience. Thank you. Heather.

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