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Video: Good Thoughts, Bad Thoughts

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What’s the difference between say, a nutrition bar and a piece of fudge? They share some of the same ingredients, and they both taste good with coffee, but you can rationalize one as health food, where as the other, well, forget about calling it health food. Where am I going with this? Thoughts are like food–some are better for you than others. I break them into two camps in this video: convictions and condemnations. Tune in if you want to know the difference.

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Renata

posted September 17, 2008 at 12:32 pm


Hi, Therese,
I really liked that one. Very educational, and it’s SOOOO important that people with a mood disorder change their “stinkin’ thinkin’” as they say.
Not only are convictions more rational, but they force one to think and act charitably toward his- or herself. Condemnations are the opposite, they make us angry with ourselves, and if left unchecked can lead us into a major depressive episode.
Convictions are tools in the war against negativity/depression.
No matter what therapist one goes to, we are with ourselves 100% of the time. That means we have to educate ourselves about the triggers and the solutions.
If I start getting upset about myself and my fears, I sometimes quote the Scripture over and over, “For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but faith, love and a sound mind.” That can help me to go in another direction with my thinking.
Strategies to cope … so important ….
Thanks so much for another outstanding video!
God bless you!
Renata



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ilysa

posted September 17, 2008 at 9:20 pm


WONDERFUL INFORMATION FOR ME.I SUFFER FROM BIPOLOR DEPRESSION AND I UNDERSTAND ABOUT THE COMDEMNATIONS,ESP. WHEN THE DEPRESSIVE EPISODED COME ON.I BECOME PESSIMISTIC,AGITATED AND ILL END UP NOT CARING ABOUT MYSELF PHYSICALLY,MENTALLY OR SPIRITUALLY.ILL PUT MYSELF AS LOW AS U CAN GO.IF I OVEREAT ESP. MY FAV. TRIGGER FOOD I WONT EVEN LEAVE THE HOUSE BEC. ILL FEEL TOO FAT AND NOT WANT 2 SEE ANYONE.I AM NOW WORKING ON CONVICTIONS AS U TALKED ABOUT AND TRAINING MY MYSELF NOT 2 BE SO HARD ON MYSELF.I FLIP THE NEGATIVE INTO A POSITIVE IDEA.EVEN IF I FEEL BAD I SMILE AND FORCE MYSELF 2 KEEP MY MIND ON A HEALTHIER BALANCED STATE.I PRAY A LOT AND IVE GOTTEN INTO EXERCISE WHICH IS HELPING ME NOT JUST PHYSICALLY BUT ALSO MENTALLY.NOW IF I OVEREAT MY TRIGGER FOOD WHICH IS CHOCOLATE,I SAY OK U OVERDID IT BUT YOU GOT IT OUT OF YOUR SYSTEM AND NOW UR GONNA GET BACK ON THE WAGON.AND ITS WORKING!!IM LEARNING EVERY DAY AND THATS ALL WE CAN DO.WE HAVTA TRY AND I AM 1 DAY AT A TIME.T/C AND GOD BLESS!!



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Anonymous

posted September 18, 2008 at 5:01 am


ANOTHER WONDERFUL remindr. Thanks, Therese. I think I’ve discussed here before the important work I did with my own therapist post stroke learning to differentiate between accountability and blame. My critical inner self was working overtime and pulling me ever deeper into thesnake pit to the point where my depression assessmenys at my psychiatrist’s appointments were measuring off the scale. Those of us with low self steem born of constant finger pointing during our childhoods have a difficult time understanding hese subtlties, and, at least in my own case, that lack was making my life even more difficult than it needed to be a I stuggled to adjust to my new reality. Martha finally reached me by pointing out that she was sure I knew others who, like myself, had made some unhealthy lifestyle choices like overeationg, smoking and not getting enough exercise who had NOT had strokes, which, of course was/is true Therefore, according to the work we did, it was important, evenCRITICAL, for me to understand that the “Blame Game” served no good purposebut was rather a holdover from my role as family “scapegoat” in the big picture of the alcoholic family. Her lesson was that blame implies intent whereas accountability does not. Since I had not set out to give myself a stroke, blame, then became moot. Accountability, conversely, is a more positive cousin of blame. I am accountable for those choices that contributed to my stroke rather than to blame for the stroke itself which is WHY I know others who have lived similar lifestyles without ending up with hemiparesis or the brain damage that is now a daily part of my struggle. Looking at it that way frees me to make healthier present choices rather than dwell in the past and shake a mental finger in my own face. which, at BEST, is counterproductive; same philosophy as condemnation versus conviction. Coming t understand that there were certain genetic predispositions that also played a role (i.e. a family history of diabetes) that my primary care doc had more or less ignored allowed me to find a way out of the web of blame that was only making matters worse in terms of my recovery(both physical and emotional) It was unbelievably freeing to be able to tell my critical inner self to go thake a jump in the lake! Little “tricks” like the one you shared today are essential for those of us who deal with depression as a constant in our llives. I hope othes who suffer from this kind of faulty thinking can embrace this lesson sooner than I did and thereby avoid at least SOME time curled up next to the reptiles that await us when we give in to childhood conditioning that has become a part of our individual comfort zones.



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Wendie Roeper

posted September 18, 2008 at 9:06 am


I’m using this site comment area to voice my opinion on something that Beliefnet.com brought into my home today via the internet. I go to this site for inspiration and care through religious sources. Today I got an email from the website and it was anything but what I expected. It was porn. Fling.com was there is full bloom. I don’t really think it is an appropriate place for such a site. When I looked at it, I was thinking what is this but a clever way of saying read me. No indeed it was a porn site that you could meet the girls who have lost their grace along the way, for the almighty dollar. Please remove this site as it has caused me to remove all my choices of your religious inspirations. What are you thinking?



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Richard

posted September 18, 2008 at 2:30 pm


Therese
Thank you for discussing condemnation and conviction. At the moment my subconscious seems to be in condemning mode. When I sleep I have dreams where I am working and my depression is being ignored. There is an uncaring boss whose every word is condemnation and in dream land, the real “me” doesn’t have much power to make the dream lucid and I end up trapped in that true nightmare.
I am still digesting the video and will have to watch it another time or two as I am sure that there is more in me related to this subject than I picked up on the first time.
Richard



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Mary Anne

posted September 19, 2008 at 4:19 am


T,
I was happy to see another “talkie”. Kinda like being in the same room with ya. You look GREAT! your hair looks nice in this video. Anyway, this subject was timely for me. Here with all of the help people need due to the Hurricane, loss of power etc. I have felt CONVICTED to volunteer somewhere perhaps at one of the sites where bottled water, bags of ice are being given out. Then I start CONDEMING myself because all I have done is sit at home watching the ongoing news reports, doing nothing for the community. Like you I can be my own worst enemy at times, beating myself up for not being enough, doing enough.
I had to stop and remind my BRAIN that I am physically disabled. I am not suppossed to lift more than 10 lbs! I myself am in need and that just caring for my own household, doing for my 78 yr old Mother IS a contribution. I am not physically up to being on my feet for any length of time and that it is OK if I am not one of those who rushes out to be of service when somedays it is ALL I can do to care for myself muchless anyone else.
Thanks for this reminder, I love you inside and out!
Mary Anne



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Jill

posted February 3, 2010 at 5:15 pm


Thanks so much for this Therese. Conviction/Condemnation is new for me, I had never heard those terms used to signify good/bad thoughts. :)
@Wendie: I’ve subscribed to Beyond Blue for a while now and have never gotten porn from Beliefnet’s site, I’d advise to watch what you open in your emails. Don’t go blaming this site for it!



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Henry K Evans

posted September 25, 2012 at 11:21 am


Awesome; thank you!!



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