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Why Does God Make It So Hard?

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This post is from last year this time.

A Beyond Blue reader wrote to me the other day and asked, “How do you know that you are on the right path, and that God approves? Because if He did, why would he make the path so hard?”

I responded with these three words: I don’t know.

I have been asking myself the same question for the last year, ever since the financial situation at home has compromised my ability to do what I think is my vocation and calling: mainly, writing Beyond Blue, and providing an ounce of hope to people suffering mega pain from depression, anxiety, or another crippling mood disorder.

For awhile, everything was peachy. Eric was gainfully employed. We had group health insurance through his company. I was paid a nice wage from Beliefnet so that I could devote 30 to 35 hours a week to composing two to four comprehensive, well-researched, and carefully crafted posts a day. And I received two nice advances from a major publishing house to write books that supplemented that income.

And then the bomb hit.

Eric’s work slowed down and has nearly all but evaporated. We lost the group health care coverage, which means I have to make an additional $40,000 a year to pay for our health care costs. With the sale of Beliefnet, my salary was cut in half. (Which is not an indictment against the owners, as their budget cuts are merely representative of the industry at this time.) And my books did not sell well, which makes it extremely difficult to secure another book contract, or at least one that pays a nice advance.

My list of roadblocks is not meant to elicit pity. I present them merely as a consolation to you that I am there with you. I have heard from enough of you to know that you are really struggling, especially in this economy. I hear your pain and appreciate it, because I’m going through my own. I’m frustrated alongside the reader who asked me why God is making it so hard.

I know what I am supposed to be doing—devoting more time and attention to Beyond Blue, speaking to groups about coping strategies, and answering emails of persons in need—and yet I don’t have the time or resources to do that. Like many of you, I’m handcuffed as I try to pursue my mission and ministry…what I think God created me to do. I’m tired. I’m pissed off at God. I’m confused. And I might even throw out a WTF?

While I don’t have an answer to this reader, I can tell her what prevents me from getting bitter: remembering the collective suffering of human beings everywhere. I can progress to a place of relative peace if I adhere to spiritual author Henri Nouwen’s directive: to move from MY pain to THE pain … to live in solidarity with the hungry, homeless, imprisoned, sick, and dying…with the suffering of all humanity.

I know that sounds awfully dark, but it keeps my perspective in check.

I don’t have to look far to see all the suffering around me. And I have yet to find someone with whom I want to exchange crosses. When I read your emails and your comments on my posts (I do read them all and appreciate them very much), I am humbled by your pain. Everyday I read something from one or more of you that makes me realize how good I have it, even thought it feels hard to me. I empathize, especially, for those of you who live with chronic illnesses, chronic pain, chronic fatigue. Major yuck.

And on the days I don’t log on to read your stories, I am surrounded by hardship of friends and relatives around me. My twin sister has a special-needs child that requires a kind of patience that she didn’t know she had until he came along. A friend of mine just lost her husband to suicide. She has a four-year-old to raise by herself now. Another friend lost her two year old in a boating accident three years ago. I can’t imagine …

I guess these are the times when our faith is tested, when we can interpret that quote from Hebrews in a new light: “Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Or, as a good friend put it when her husband died unexpectedly, “Faith wouldn’t be faith without a backup plan.”

One other thing I wanted to address before you start your week.

A reader whom I respect and like recently inquired why Beyond Blue isn’t as complete as it used to be. Her comment made me sad, because, on some level, I know it’s true, and I wanted to explain why.

As mentioned above, I used to have 35 hours to devote to my posts, which meant I could afford to publish two to four pieces a day and dig within myself for the good stuff. I try to do that now, of course, but I am much more rushed. I am presently working three jobs, so I have a third of the time as I did in the past to craft and load my posts. So it’s not that I have lost interest in Beyond Blue at all. As I explained to the reader, Beyond Blue will always be my home, even if I publish on other sites. I feel a bond with you all that I just don’t experience on any other site. However, because I don’t have the luxury of more hours, I have been publishing more interviews and excerpting from new books because those posts require less time and don’t demand the soul-searching writing that can’t be hurried.

Her question made me aware that I do need to invest more of myself into Beyond Blue, as I did in the past, and I will try to make a conscious effort to that in future pieces. I am hoping to consolidate my jobs this year. I desperately want to simplify, although I don’t know how that’s going to happen. At any rate, my heart and soul are still very much here, and I have in no way lost interest or passion. I’m just trying to figure out how I can write quality posts and pay for health care at the same time.

And that’s, I suppose, where faith comes into play.

Artwork by Anya Getter.

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  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment CRUSADER

    Go at Your Own Pace & You Will Win this Race! Excelsior – Ever Upward! You have Vison! IN HOC SIGNO VINCES! Join your local Chamber of Commerce. Mine up here offers Group Health Insurance.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Shelly

    Therese,
    Wow, what a wonderful post. It’s easy to get caught up in reading them and think that you’ve got it all together…

    Each of us has some cross to bear. I forget that at times as I compare myself to others. Get caught up in a pity party moment, day or week.

    I am thankful that your blog is here for me to read every day. It’s part of my morning routine as is reading a devotional titled “Jesus Calling”. I usually glean a sentence or idea that I cling to and even record in my journal. I know God has blessed you which in turn blesses me.

    We will keep plugging along, keep praying, keep loving, and keep each other held up to our Father.

    Thank you for being real…for being in the trenches with us.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment patsy

    Therese,
    I am sorry about this unfortunate happening in your life. I just finished Beyond Blue last night. You gave me hope. I have been in the black hole about three years now. Even had ECT. I hated it but think it may have helped me some. I am on prozac (4 capsules) now and am going to ask my psychiatrist to add Zoloft like you. Are you still on Prozac too? I also take Ambien (1pill) for sleep at night. I still have the shakes and break out in cold sweats all the time but I might be getting better.I also bought your book The Pocket Therapist.
    Thank you for your honesty and being straight forward, your amazing!
    patsy

  • http://God Therese

    Yes, we are so many of us in this rocky boat of financial reversal and health challenges. It is such a difficult and imperfect world. It helps me to think that God is who/what is allowing for our survival,indeed our every breath. Counting blessings really does help. Things like drinkable water and a saf clean bed. we are actually luckier than we will ever know. Even though it is a hard time

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mel

    Thank you for your message..I really needed to hear this. Having been unemployed for 2 years and no jobs to be seen in the future, possibly losing my home etc….., ALMOST losing my daughter this past Dec. to a terrible disease, this (YOUR MESSAGE) my friend jerks me back and opens my eyes. I do have so many things to be thankful for and I needed to be reminded of that.

    Thank you!

  • http://www.acrosstraditions.com Stephanie Walker

    Bless you for your passion and your compassion, Therese. Health insurance is a big deal. I know several people who would be following a different vocation if not for the health insurance consideration. We all do what we have to do. I am new to Beyond Blue, and I think it is really great just the way it is. Your work is an inspiration. Thank you!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Sharon

    Dear Therese,

    I am sorry to hear of your financial struggles and I want you to know I am adding you to my prayer list.

    I also want you to know much how your column has helped me in the past 5 years of my own personal emotional struggles after being the victim of a vicious knife assault. It wasn’t something I ever thought that I would endure at my age but the fact that I survived gives credit to my physical strength and emotional stamina – both God given gifts.

    I have read your column daily since then and I have a nice file of articles I have downloaded and printed that I now keep in a binder to share. I am getting involved in a women’s group at church and I share these articles with those that I feel will benefit from them. There are many women who suffer from post traumatic stress syndrome and depression after being the victims of violent crimes. I feel your column has helped me greatly, even after three years in emotional counseling. Unfortunately towards the end of that time I could no longer afford the $25 co-pay each week because I now live on a fixed income. So I look now to people such as yourself for insight and inspiration as I progress on my own journey of healing and emotional wellness.

    Thank you for being there for all of us. May God richly bless you and your husband.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Razz2

    There’s a quote that sticks with me at times like this…. I wish I could remember who said it. Oddly this is the second time in a few days that I’d posted it.

    “If you’re never in over your head, how will you know how tall you are?”

    God doesn’t make things hard, life does that. What God does do however is give us the ability to keep going. He gives us the strength to hold on, even if it feels like minute by minute.

    I too could write a “challenges/crisis” list if I wanted to but unless I use it to show myself how I’ve managed and coped then I’d rather write out a gratitude list. Life is hard, sometimes harder than others. It is seldom a permanent state of affairs. However since today is all we have right now we owe it to ourselves to find the small flickers of joy, or peace, or calm that are there. We may need them for tomorrow.

    Therese you are doing an excellent job! You are doing your best to do your best and we your readers and fans couldn’t expect any more than that. Thank you.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Lois

    Therese,
    I’ve enjoyed your writing for some time. Today’s message moved me to respond with some words that have helped me through some dark times. Found on a wall in a concentration camp after the war’s end: I believe in the sun, even when it is not shining. I believe in God, even when He is silent.

  • http://www.thereseborchard.com Beyond Blue

    I just wanted to check in to say thank you very much for all of your kind comments. I appreciate them more than you know! Therese

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Marc

    When I have struggled, few phrases have bugged me more than “God never gives up more than we can bear.” Does that mean, the poor and hungry and tortured were chosen by God for suffering I can’t imagine? No, it’s life, the society we live in, human nature, the uncertainties of markets, greed, genes, the luck of the draw, and a million other things. Therese, please don’t beat yourself up! You answered the question about Beyond Blue honestly and have nothing to apologize for. And I doubt the person who asked wants you to. The site is wonderful as it is and you are continually giving a great deal of yourself every day.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Pamela

    I just read your article. You kept repeating over an over again how tough you have it. How you have to work 3 jobs, etc… Have you ever thought about downsizing your home? If you have to work 3 jobs just to make ends meet, then you are way over your head.

    I am a single mother raising a 16 year old son without any assistance from his father or his fathers’ family. I do not have health insurance because I was laid off from my job over a year ago and have not been able to land a permanent job yet. I have put in at least 700 applications, however I’m still job searching for a full-time permanent job with benefits. I am not telling you this just for you or anyone else to feel sorry for me, I’m telling you this to let you know that I have not wanted to curse God! I have not had health insurance in over a year (that went away with my last permanent job). God is still providing for me and my child. I am greatful to God because if it wasn’t for Him, I would be crazy!

    You should consider reading the book of Job in the bible. Not complain and blame God because you are living way beyond your means…Of course it’s sad that your husband lost his job and your hours were cut. Things happen, but God said that He would never leave nor forsake us. You may want to re-evaluate your life.

    God Bless You.

  • http://sarahrcallender.wordpress.com Sarah Callender

    I am often comforted by this song, both by the beauty of the music and of the message: God makes beauty from dust. God bless you and your family, Therese!
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oyPBtExE4W0

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Nancy

    Therese,

    I read your book and read your posts every day. I miss it on the weekends! I appreciate your honesty, always. It doesn’t matter if your post is short, involved, a repeat, etc. – it always means something and it is there! I admire that. I always feel better after I read them. I just lost group health insurance, also. It is frightening. Until now, I have always been fortunate to have good coverage. As much as I hate that others are struggling, it gives me some strength to carry on when I read that others are also doing their best on a day to day basis. And when my mind is racing with fear about all the different scenarios I can conjure up, this helps center me.

    So, Therese, thanks for always showing up!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Nancy

    Pamela,

    I am sorry for your struggle and wish you the best. However, your response to Therese was upsetting to me. She was not complaining – she was explaining her situation in order to let her readers know that she struggles also. I am sure she is evaluating her circumstances and deciding what is best, just as you are. And the Book of Job – oh my…if I read that now, I might get even more depressed. :)

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Debbie

    What a great post. Thank you for sharing.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment wendy

    thanks for the insight on making it through days when following God seems…stupid? i hate to say that. nice to hear an honest perspective.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Peg

    Therese, so happy that I read BB today to get an update on your life. When we lived in WA state we needed health insurance and because our incomes were low, we were put on a waiting list and then called to choose the plan of our choice. You might want to check out what your state has to offer.

    So good be back in touch again and I will check in more often. Peg

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment psychaz

    Therese, you are such a breath of fresh air to me that I need to tell you know how much I truly appreciate your Beyond Blue blog. I was dx’d with BP2 last November and am still in the process of finding the right dosage (Lamictal), but while searching for information on BP2 I stumbled upon your blog–thank you, Jesus! Some days it really is a life saver when nothing else makes sense, God is seemingly silent, and my prayers seem to bounce off the ceiling. It is very helpful to hear someone else has been there, done that, and reading your blogs lets me know I am not the only person on the planet to feel like I do–most blogs bring out the recognition laughter (YES!! Exactly!! God, thank you for this woman’s ministry!) and give me a lift for the day. I greatly appreciate your transparency and how you just lay it out there… you’re pissed off at God…the WTF… sometimes it seems as though you are reading my diary! I totally related to the blog you wrote about praying for some condition to be malignant. The past 2 years have been the most difficult of my life (I am 57) with one health reversal after another, setback after setback after setback. When an incidental finding of a thyroid tumor was found, I prayed it would be malignant–God, get me off this planet, I want to come home. I don’t want to hurt anymore. I’m still here, so I guess He has other plans… I liken it to all the hell you have been through over the years that has brought to where you are today–sharing your experiences–the good, bad, and ugly–giving us hope. There is life after being dx’d with BP. I bought your book for my iPod Kindle so I can have it with me wherever I go–awesome! Keep up the excellent work–it is worth more to your readers than you will ever know. Thank you. God bless you.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Bridgette

    Thank you for your candor and strength displayed in this post. Its not easy to reveal ourselves to the world. But it sure helps to demonstrate our human struggles and how one copes. It is this openness that led me to Beyond Blue. It helps me see myself with greater perspective. I trust that you will receive your solutions in due season. Until then keep walking in faith and love for what you know is truth for you.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment psychaz

    Pamela,
    I concur with Nancy in that your response was upsetting. While I do not envy your single parenthood status–been there, done that; my husband unexpectedly walked out when our daughter was 18 months old, never paid child support, had us evicted from military housing, took the car, blah blah blah, and God took care of us, too. However, I don’t think anyone has any business telling another what they “should” do as you are not walking in their shoes and as such, do not have the full story. And for someone who has BP, unexpected losses and setbacks hit extra hard and we often find ourselves instantly in a bottomless abyss that is devoid of hope.

    You are very blessed to have good health because I can tell you from experience that if you have a health reversal and then setback after setback after setback with no improvement, no answers, and are then told you will never recover and the medical community writes you off, the physical burden and emotional toll gets old really fast and one does start to question God just as Job did. God! What’s the deal here?! Why is this happening?! What have I done?! Please tell me so I can repent of it! Job’s friends gave him advice much like you have here… you may want to check out chapter 42 because you will learn that God was not pleased with them–He was angry. Job never cursed God, but he did question him, which in today’s culture would by and large be a WTF. Job was very transparent with God just as Therese is, and I appreciate the candor of both. Nobody deserves to be kicked when they are down and struggling–a little compassion goes a long way.

    I wish you and your son well. Blessings.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Carol

    Why do we always assume that it is God who is making it hard?

    I like the concept that there is no punishment, just consequences. Augustine expressed that belief in its positive form:

    If we live good lives, the times are also good. As we are, such are the times.~Saint Augustine

    I don’t believe that God makes life difficult for us or punishes us for our *sins*. There is no need to, life has its own built-in consequences–some call it karma, some call it natural laws. And because we are social, not solitary, animals we suffer the consequences of the actions of others. That is the Message of the Cross. I don’t believe that it was God’s will that Jesus die as he did. It was God’s will that Jesus show us how to live for love, even if it meant dying an unjust death at the hands of power-driven men.

    God had one son on earth without sin, but never one without suffering.
    ~Saint Augustine

    “The extreme greatness of Christianity lies in the fact that it does not seek a supernatural remedy for suffering, but a supernatural use for it.”~Simone Weil

    To choose to suffer means that there is something wrong; to choose God’s will even if it means suffering is a very different thing. No healthy saint ever chooses suffering; he chooses God’s will, as Jesus did, whether it means suffering or not.
    –Oswald Chambers, My Utmost for His Highest

    Apart from Grace, we have the tendency to behave like selfish survivalist narcissists rather than moral persons–pursuing our own individualistic self-interests and seeking pleasure even when it is at the expense of others.

    Humanism was not wrong in thinking that truth, beauty, liberty, and equality are of infinite value, but in thinking that man can get them for himself without grace.–Simone Weil

    The secularization of our Western society has produced the consequences of aggressive self-interest hedonistic self-indulgence evoking a fear-driven, legalistic rather than a love-inspired religious response.

    Human nature being what it is, we need either the discipline of the law or the discipline of the Cross if our human societies are not to descend into the chaos of anarchy. Most people, secular and religious prefer the Law to the Cross. Fear kicks in quicker than transformation and the Cross doesn’t have any loopholes.

    Christians have always tended to transform the Christian Revelation into a Christian religion. Christianity is said to be a religion like any other or, conversely, some Christians try to show that it is a better religion than the others. People attempt to take possession of God. Theology claims to explain everything, including the being of God. People tend to transform Christianity into a religion because the Christian faith obviously places people in an extremely uncomfortable position that of freedom guided only by love and all in the context of God’s radical demand that we be holy.~Jacques Ellul

    Love and do as you please.~St. Augustine

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Christina W

    Thank you – again – for your honesty. I am at the darkest point in my life with the exception of 2005. I too am angry, at myself, at others, at God. I am tired of feeling like I have to sucked “it” up and tell people what they want to hear “I’m fine. Life is great” – instead of the truth which is “Most days I feel like dying. It took me 45 minutes just to get out of bed, brush my teeth and fed the dogs and I’m exhausted and want to get back into bed. No, I’m not happy about the new job I landed. It’s not what I wanted and I’m only taking it because it may keep us from losing our house and I feel trapped…”etc. Pretending is part of what’s killing me I think…the truth will set you free and I know brutal honesty is hard for people to take – to hear – whether its about themselves or others. But the truth is, right now, I just don’t care anymore and those of us who are out here struggling with the economy and life that are saddled with depression and anxiety have it a million times harder I think. So, while you maybe writing less to Beyone Blue, your writings are as insightful and needed as ever. And I thank you.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment bee

    In response to the posts that say :”God doesn’t give you more than you can handle”, I too believe this however, there are days when I say along with (I believe Mother Teresa) I know God won’t give me more than I can handle, but right now, I also believe that God has me mixed up with somebody else! :)

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Paul Moore

    All I can say is God Bless, THerese, and thank you.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Lisa

    Therese,

    I enjoy your post because I too have been in a deep hole of despair for 2 year and 10 months. My 60 year old husband decided his life would be better with a 27 year old co-worker than with me. I decided to let God handle it and everytime I found myself getting depressed I repeated Romans 8:28 and Proverbs 3:5-8.

    Don’t let the Pamelas of this world cause you to feel any less than the God fearing woman that you are; remember David and some of God’s prophets during their tribulations.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Joe K

    Therese,

    Please never think that you aren’t doing enough! Your posts are fantastic and helpful – my wife and I read and discuss them every day! It is helping our relationship by discussing the important things in life. It is quality time together for us. Keep up the good work – you are appreciated!

    -Joe K

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mary Jo

    Therese,
    THANK YOU!!!! YOU are a gift from God for me. I have often wondered why God makes it so hard. But He sends me little gifts like your blog and your book, Beyond Blue. I wonder if everyone, like me, expects spellbinding miracles. I just realized last night that He doesn’t. He gives us little, subtle, seemingly unnoticeable ones. We just have to pay attention….and thank Him when we recognize them, as I thank Him everyday for you! You are soo awesome!!!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mike

    Therese:

    You and I are on the same wavelength-from working three jobs to having to make a lot more money all at once (in my case way north of $40k). And, also wondering, in the meantime, about “the path” thing. I did get an answer to that, sort of along the lines of your St. Theresa medal. Keep centered, keep praying, and keep talking to God. Let yourself have time to be fascinated with the Earthly Jesus and the Risen Christ(hard, I know when there are so many distractions and things that worry and grate on you). Moving closer to the pain seems to bring God closer (I think).

    I’m very grateful to you and all of your posts. Many times they are often a reflection of what I feel.

    M.

  • http://yeomanlawyer.blogspot.com/ Yeoman

    I’ve often had a similiar thought, in that I know what I want to do in life, and have no doubt about it, but circumstances perpetually seem to operate so that I cannot do it. Instead, I’m perpetually stuck career wise in something I just hate doing, but cannot seem to get free of. From time to time I’ve wondered why God would give me such a strong desire to work in a certain area, and not seemingly give me the means to do it.

    But, in more rational moments, I tend to realize that it’s human beings, myself included, who operate to prevent me from doing that. We’re told that unpleasant work is one of the consequences of the Fall. Beyond that, when people ask “why does God allow this” more often than not what we should be asking is “why do we allow it?”

    I’m not saying that this pertains to you, of course, but I noted that your complaint is similiar to mind. I suspect we’ll be lucky if we really realize how things were operating while we’re in this Life.

  • http://www.depressedandcatholic.com Kathleen

    I definitely can relate to your circumstances. And thirty plus comments tells me all of us can relate.
    I have had a rss feed of Beyond Blue for a couple of years. I bought your book. Enjoyed it.

    When I’m in hard times I just remember that the best of Saints went through them too. Just read Paul’s letters. Hang in there. Post as you can. Most of all, keep yourself healthy. That’s first! I, and I’m sure we all, will pray for you. What was it they chanted in the 60’s (I’m old)? “We shall overcome!”

    Oh yes, I’ll still stay on the rss and I still recommend your book! Thank you for it! Don’t worry, you will publish another. When the economy picks up, publishers will get interested again.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Frank

    What a great, honest monologue – with truth and compassion at every turn. Thank you. I could identify with your dilemma/situation – and it is hard, God knows. I just said a prayer for each of us who struggle with the day. He won’t give us more than we can handle. Blessings…
    Frank,

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Vince

    For almost 3 years I’ve facilitated a group for people who have lost their jobs through no fault of their own. During this time I have shared your Beyond Blue writings with them. Many have found themselves at various stages of depression due to job loss and the impact that it has on them and their families. Your writings have been helpful to them. I just want you to know that God has a plan for you and your family. We don’t always know what that plan is but we need to keep the faith. Our prayers are with you and your family. Thank you for being there. God Bless.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Kim

    Just read your post and all of the comments. Trying to think of something profound and reflective to say, but not able to pull that together at the moment. Mostly, I just want to say that I am glad to have learned of you, your book, and this site. All are blessings to me.

  • http://www.thereseborchard.com Beyond Blue

    Thank you, all, once again, for your beautiful and supportive comments. I continue to be blown away by the empathy and compassion of you, readers. It’s really something that I haven’t experienced on any other website, and makes me think that we have such a tight, spirit-filled, unique community right here. Thank you, again. Therese

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Your Name

    I can’t understand the usage of ‘WTF’ in a post regarding my LORD! What’s up with that—-that type of language only serves to bring me down.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Viqueen

    Therese, I share your struggles. It was noticeable to me that Beyond Blue was going through a change, and have to say you’ve managed it well! Thank you.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mary Anne Thompson

    T,

    I know over 20 people have already responded to this post but I just GOTTA put in my 2 cents ;) I love you, cherish your dedication to Beyond Blue, your family, being a Mother, a wife, a live saver to all of us crazy (everyone relax I didn’t say NUTS!) depressives. I have been up against it lately too.
    First, I had to take a gal to a woman’s shelter her in Houston after letting her stay with me for a mth, rent free. She did not even try to look for a job (which she said she was going to do) or pitch in to help around the house. I DID make 4 calls to various shelters before finding one that had room for her, with a bed, a locker, she will be fed, is indoors not on the streets. She is on the busline where she can find work. I told her when I first picked her up from the bus station I do NOT give hand outs but do give a hand UP! I have learned from my higher power – GOD that we cannot help those who do not help themselves.
    She has only been gone for a wk now, left on the evening of July 4th, talk about independance ;) I have my plumbing acting up here at home. My kitchen sink drains into my bathroom basin where I have to scoop it out into a bucket and pour it outside alot during the day. This with my bad back where I am not even supposed to lift over 10 lbs. This is enough to get depressed over! I have tried taking the traps off both sinks, ran a snake thru them MYSELF! used liquid drano, liquid plumber…all to no avail. I will have to get a plumber out who will probably have to replace pipes in the wall. This was my grandmothers home and over 80 yrs old. It needs alot of work, new sheetrock, new windows, new doors, improvements as the bathroom wallpaper is the original! The kitchen floor tile is cracked and old…but the house is PAID for, since I am disabled I am tax exempt so I am try to have an attitude of gratitude and not get upset about all the things I don’t have but rather make a gratitude list for all that I DO have!
    Yesterday, was Monday. I had NO plans, no appts then at 10 a.m. my phone rang. My son had his car stolen at a local restaurant on SUNDAY, don’t thieves know that is GOD’s day? ha Anyway, he was in a state of shock. He did not know how he was going to get to work. He has just moved into his own apt a cpl of mths ago. Had spent his last paycheck on rent, just filled up the gas tank to use to get to wk until he next pay period $50 worth and then it gets stolen. I felt so bad for him. He walked to the house, he looked lost, like he was in a fog. I called his grandparents in Florida (his dad’s parents) and asked if they could loan us a little cash so I could add him to my car insurance and let him use my car so he would not loose his job. My car is old but it too is paid for! It sits in the driveway most days as I use it only to get to the store, pharmacy, Dr’s appts….
    The good news is his grandmother is overnighting us $200! I had my friend go ahead and take me to the gas station to fill my tank, then we went to the car insurance ofc to add him to my liability so he would be covered driving my car. Last night he was able to get to wk.
    ONE DAY AT A TIME! that is all any of is given. It is what we do with it that matters. When I read of your struggles T all I could do was look at the dozen roses loose petals that were being dried to send to u to add to your rose box. To freshen the ROSE scent of your office area, work station. It is going out in the mail to u today. Keep your chin up! Nothing happens in God’s World by accident. I think of the poor Astronauts who are up in the ISS right now with a Russian rocket from the 70’s coming at them. They have to figure out a way to maneuver the space station out of the projected path or die. Then there is the issue of their being 10 of our men up there and only a ride home for 6 of them. NASA and the news reporting that this WAS the final flight of the Atlantis. They will NOT be sending any more rockets up to rescue these men. Check it out, read about it online, watch the news! We, humans are expendable. Our govt no longer cares about its people.
    Now if all of u reading this have not been depressed u will be when u read the rest of what I have to share. Go to You Tube and watch the video on the Denver Airport, the underground shelters that the govt already has built and ready for the ELITE. The rest of us schmucks are gonna be left here to try to survive 2012. I know alot of you don’t think ANYTHING is going to happen on Dec 21st, 2012. I can tell you that even the Scientists have verified that we have a dwarf star coming close to Earth, it is going to impact this planet. Not only that but with the WARS going on now and the ones to come if we don’t blow ourselves us with Nukes other Countries will assist. We have been threatened with viruses being released, their is a plan to depopulate the planet. Then there are things like global warming, the weather changes we have been experiencing, hurricanes, tsunami’s, volcano’s that have not erupted in hundreds of yrs now becoming active. WE ARE IN THE LAST DAYS ! This planet is going to shift, wobble, the United States we know and love are going to be changed. Most everyone on the surface of the planet will die! Only those underground, who have prepared and have the water, food and resources available to go on with survive to start a NEW EARTH. We are not among those. Now it’s time to go take my anti depressant and anxiety pill along with the rest of you. There are REAL big problems happening on our planet. The LITTLE things that happen to us everyday… we have no business even complaining about. Just sayin’
    Blessed Be! all my love to you Therese
    Mary Anne

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Deb

    This is a first response for me, but wanted Therese to know that your writings truly help so much. Whatever, little or much is appreciated!
    I thank God that I found Beyond Blue because it has helped me on days that I feel so depressed. Just knowing there are others out there that feel as I do helps a lot. God Bless!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Jocelyn

    Thank you for sharing your feelings, present situation and most importantly your faith. So many of us experience many bumps in the road which seem to arrive at the most inopportune time. I believe God is walking with me and I must learn to be patient. May God bless you and hold you close.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Skylark

    Is God making it hard? The God who emptied Himself…became man ..and dies on a cross…made it hard on Himself in the Person of His only begotten and beloved Son. He is here with us…loving us and sustaining us in our sorrows…He has entered into our lives and all our sufferings to be with us always…so that when this valley of tears is ended we will live happily and fully healed with Him for all eternity. Faith is what gives us the hope to pick up our daily cross knowing He is walking with us while telling us to love one another by helping also each other to carry our crosses.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Steve Durham

    I greatly appreciated your “I don’t know.” That is so wise. I certainly don’t know either, not in my situation, not in anyone’s.

    Recently I converted to the E. Orthodox Church (from the Presbyterian Church, which means I also surrendered my ordination as a Presbyterian minister). One of the Taoist’s “10,000 things” that drew me to Orthodoxy was an insight I gained from reading the biography of a monk, an insight I have since had affirmed from within Orthodoxy countless times (as an Orthodox “truth” if not exactly doctrine). And I offer it here not as an “answer” — God knows I have none of those — as one *possible* direction …

    This monk learned that the piling up of frustrations and difficulties meant (for *him*, important to bear in mind; not necessarily for any given one of us) that God WAS in the situation … that it WAS a calling. The easy stuff, the fall-into-place-like-stacked-dominoes stuff as hustled by showbiz Christianity (sorry, but that’s how I view much of the stuff coming out of megachurches, tv preachers etc.) … that *is not* a sign God is involved. But it dovetails nicely with our have-it-now, consume-it-now perspectives fostered and strengthened by a culture like ours.

    Sometimes — very personally here, *very* personally — I suspect the difference between someone without a “faith” (I hesitate to say things like that), and someone *with* a faith — is that, in the Valley of the Shadow (depression, despair, crippling anxiety, etc.) we can still, if we grow very very still, hear a thin, distant Voice … affirming, if not directions and “answers,” then at least that we’re not alone. That’s about as close as I’ll ever come in saying someone’s pain and suffering is, in faith, also now Christ’s pain and suffering … that can sound so trite, so unfeeling, and it’s about the last thing that makes sense to *me* in the midst of my own. But in my calmer, more-put-together moments, such as they are, I *do* seem to find that truth in myself. As long as I’m not in the Pit at the moment.

    grace & peace,
    and my fullest possible empathies with everyone here,
    steve

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Laura

    Therese Borchard…You’re wonderful and do the most wonderful things for people.. and help people feel like they matter again…so as far as you pondering, if you’re about doing G-d’s work, don’t even think about it–I’m sure you’re more than covered!.haha I know something wonderful happens after another door shuts too…with your beautiful karma, you will find something right away…right now someone is probably looking at you and thinking of the possibilities…and I bought the Pocket Therapist, amazing…and how you could get all that lovely knowledge into a little book, haha…best of luck…we care deeply for you, and know all will be fine soon…peace Laura

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment lauraface

    GMorning…maybe people can just say wonderful things to Therese Borchard. If you really read this column, SHE’S having the problem now…just be there for HER…don’t throw the world’s problems at her, she’s going through it herself..give love and strength ONLY, PLEASE try….thanks so much…

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Richard

    I am always bothered by people who always have answers, THE answers even. There are lots of times “I don’t know” is the answer that ought to be given.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Clarissa

    I have been receiving these emails for quite some time now, but not once have I ever taken the time to read them. They always appeared to be boring. However, today for some reason the heading or title “How to Meditate” caught my eye. So I decided to read it and then the question”why God make it so hard”. Then I began to read soke more and I was able to apply my situation to the column. I recently quit my job that I had been at for 7 years as a counselor, because said it was timee for me to go becasue there was another plan for me. Well it has been 4 almost 5 weeks and it appears as everything has gotten worse. My bills are piling up, my finances are a total wreck. My husband has a good job with a decent salary, but its hard to go from a 6 figure income and still maintain the life style you use to have. Now I’m wandering If was really suppose to leave my job and follow God plan for me. And I must say it has been extremely difficult for me to keep the faith, becasue I am looking and can’t see a way out right now. I don’t know what else to do. I have prayed and seems as if God is not responding to me any more..I really enjoed this post today. After reading I feel better and I think it was actually meant for me to read it to understand no matter what the obstacles look like I have to continue to “push and reach. God would not bring me this far to leave me right now”. I would like to say thank you for this. thank you so much…

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Jean

    Please keep up the good work and don’t apologize for anything. I just about stay at the end of my rope. My sibling and I remain out of work after two years; I had two job interviews just last week that I know were a waste of time. To meet expenses and pay for health insurance, I confess that I have to borrow from a relative each month, which is a super-downer unto itself. I somewhat resent the same relative, because looking after this person’s well-being keeps me from leaving an incredibly stagnant hometown to find a good job in my chosen field. It hurts my feelings to watch travelogues on public tv and know that I might never get to travel….a lifelong goal of mine. Frankly, we’re all pretty much in the same boat, until the economy improves. Once again though, thank you to you, for being there for us, and I hope things improve soon, for ALL of us.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Bill

    Thank you and bless you, Therese. And bless each of those who are experiencing burdens which seem over the top difficult. Job would understand and be on your side. He might even understand contemporary expressions of frustration. I am sure, however, he would not be likely to criticize or give advice.

    The power of this blog and the majority of comments is the love, caring and compassion that is shared with one another, with Therese, and with ourselves. May we all continue to be blessed by this association.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Patty

    Your works are so powerful. Words cannot explain how much you have helped me keep hanging on. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Thank you!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Laurie

    Your willingness and ability to be real, transparent and genuine is so refreshing. I work as a counselor, and also have a history of depression that rears its ugly head now and again. Finding you, your site, your writings has been like a breath of fresh air to me, and therefore, to my clients. I appreciate you, and thank you.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment linda sklar

    thanks so much for your openness and honesty, for sharing your struggles, questions and perspective…..with so much coming through the internet, i often delete without reading….yet i’ve read and saved your posts (ways to increase hope, making your dreams a reality)….wishing you good time ahead, and please keep writing!!!!!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment laike

    Thank you for your thoughtful post, Therese. Yes, we all have been asked of late to prioritize the people, places and things in our lives. Paring down is not easy, but may be a correction brought about by an economy crashing in on itself. I have been in this cycle for many years, and still making reasoned decisions to simpify my life. I found that if I grocery shop weekly, I spend $100. If I grocery shop every two weeks, I spend @ $110. So staying away from stores has been good for me. I have also limited the number of credit cards I carry (usually one), and have purposed to pay them off by September 2011 if possible…. definitely by October. I am having a yard sale this week, and donating my excess that doesn’t sell in a spirit of “giving from my overflow.” Life is not perfect, but God is faithful. I trust God to be present with me, and I

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment laike

    Thank you for your thoughtful post, Therese. Yes, we all have been asked of late to prioritize the people, places and things in our lives. Paring down is not easy, but may be a correction brought about by an economy crashing in on itself. I have been in this cycle for many years, and still making reasoned decisions to simpify my life. I found that if I grocery shop weekly, I spend $100. If I grocery shop every two weeks, I spend @ $110. So staying away from stores has been good for me. I have also limited the number of credit cards I carry (usually one), and have purposed to pay them off by September 2011 if possible…. definitely by October. I am having a yard sale this week, and donating my excess that doesn’t sell in a spirit of “giving from my overflow.” Life is not perfect, but God is faithful. I trust God to be present with me, and I pray to be present with God. I truly value the encouragement you offer through Beyond Blue. Blessed be !

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Meg

    I love ya Therese! Have read your blog for at least a year. It’s nice to hear someone else say “out loud” that they are pissed off at God and “may even through out a WTF.” I’m in a WTF season… not so much because of a series of unfortunate events (and I count my blessings here), but just being stuck in the long, low grade, never get better, chronic depression and anxiety that seems stronger than Goliath, with no David in sight. God seems silent, although I believe He is here (hence the pissed off part). Anyway, your posts are always encouraging and I forward many to my friends. God bless you!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Nicole

    Thank you. There have been too many times to count when you have posted just the right words at just the right time. Thank you.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Susan

    Therese — hang in there, lovely woman. God didn’t make it hard … God gave us Life in all of its glory, and then stepped back. As a Buddhist might say, the First Noble Truth is that life is difficult. Once you understand and embrace that, then things get better. YOu do make a tremendous difference. I have extensive osteoarthritis and PTSD and am not aging gracefully. Yet, every time I read one of your blogs, I walk away feeling better, knowing that you are managing so well — especially when times are tough. We walk these paths together; hence we are never really alone. Thank you for all you do.

  • http://godsblessings Jan

    God makes plans for us all. If only we get out of the way so he can do his stuff. his plans for us has already been made. I think god tweeks things in our lives so he can do something in someone else’s lives. yet what that is , is not for us to understand or guess. just accept. he is different that way. Then again maybe i’m just guessing as well. However it sure seems thats way.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Bee

    Therese, the title of your post today took me aback a little. It is my belief that God is all about GOOD. Our Lord is not what makes life difficult for us. It’s simply the way of the world. We live in an imperfect world and we pray for relief from the torment we endure, as well as help in resolving problems we face. The comments from Pamela were harsh, I thought. You are commended to taking ON 3 jobs to help your family get by. You are not waiting for help to come TO you. In watching the videos you have done, the background says a lot about your home and the way you live. It appears you live in a comfortable but not overly expensive home decorated with unnecessary opulence. To say you need to “cut back” and change your lifestyle would be a judgmental comment from any of us who know you ONLY through what you write each day. Your lifestyle lies outside the bounds of our knowledge. Your willingness to step up to the plate and find a way to cover your family with insurance is to be admired not condemned. Anyone who has been admitted to a mental health facility knows well the dollars that must be spent in that setting even with some insurance policies now offering some type of parity in the field of mental health. As someone above 65 and now on Medicare with the best psychiatrist seeing me for almost 30 years and now retiring I found I could NOT find a new psychiatrist who would take a new patient without paying cash. Other than a state psychiatrist and our state program while necessary, is one thing that is not what I want to provide my treatment. Therefore, I pay $100 in cash for a 10 minute meds check and $200 for a 45 minute therapy session. What happened to the “50-minute hour?” I also did not take your WTF as being directed against God – but at the circumstances you find yourself facing and the feeling of just wanting to give up.
    Don’t you give you, girl. You are blessed to have the energy to do the 3 jobs and you are doing your part in providing for your family alongside your husband. (I know about the no-job thing from 2 sons being out of work for over a year). So back to the advice we must all follow to stay stable in our world of intense battering by depression and even worse, remember to take your meds, pray in thankfulness for God’s grace, remain firm in your own convictions about what you need to do to contribute to your family’s needs, and live the life you have built for yourselves without any guilt about needing to downsize what you already have put in place. All of us cut corners as our budgets dictate, but if we can offset our living environment with the good fortune of having the skills and opportunities to work, go for it. You are doing great and are a moxie lady!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Suzy

    This is not original from me, but I read it somewhere, why do we blame God when things go wrong, we should be blaming the devil and trusting in God. Just a thought.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Bobbi

    Thank you for always being so honest and so real! That is enough for me! I always find something here I feel that is not coincidence but God sent.And so are you! xoxo

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment kathyb

    Your posts are such a help…. no matter how often they come to my email or length of the post. I am personally grateful to you for sharing all you have, the insight, and the gentle reminders of changes I can and should make. Thank you ever so much! I don’t feel neglected, I feel blessed to have found you and Beliefnet.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Margaret Lee

    Dear Therese: Am so sorry for you dilemma…it seems to be par for the course due to our economic crisis these days. That thought doesn’t make it easier for you, however. I have wanted to write and say I wondered how you ever had all the time it must take to write the posts you have written with all the NEXT’s and BACL’s in place with photos and stops and starts. Matter of fact, my own time as an elderly retired massage therapist and Reiki Master, makes it difficult to find the time to read them all, when you have to go from numbers 1 thru 22 [sometimes] and I sit there wishing you would just line them all up in the same page, and not make us flit from one to the other. Very time consuming….and not anymore impressive, to my opinion…such as it is. So maybe, even though you must still put all the time and effort you can into the content and find the photos, maybe it would save you time to just “let them fly” one after the other without all the special effort to make them go page by page, number by number. I don’t know if I am making myself clear; but you have so much goodness and good advice to give, yet I can never find time to look at it all. I was wondering if others feel the same, and can we maybe keep more of YOU, if you had less formatting to do in the contents. Consider. Love you! Margaret Lee

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Margaret Lee

    PS: Wish I could have “edited” what I wrote above…would have made those words NEXT’s and BACK’S…sorry for the typo. M.L.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment natalie

    Therese,

    I have been thinking about emailing you for a long time. Now seems like a good time.

    I read your book about a year ago out of desperation. My husband had been fired from two jobs. He went from making 200,000 a year to 50,000. I thought he was going through a mid-life crisis. I felt maybe I was the one that was depressed and needed help.

    I loved the way you wote your book, Beyond Blue. As I read it I could tell that it was written in order to help people, to tell your story in way that other people would learn from your story and not make mistakes you made in the treatment process. After reading the bookI joined BeliefNet to learn more from you.

    Then you wrote the blog about Male Depression. My husband has been on a low dose of Lexapro for years for anxiety. I read the list of symtoms for male depression and thought this is my husband. I have never seen that set of symtoms in my life. It always seems to be the female type symtops (weepyness, ect.) It was like a lightbulb, finally we knew what was causing my husbands headaches, sleeplessness, restless legs, grouchyness, drug/alcohol abuse, ect. He had every symtom. Thankfully the lightbulb went off in my husbands head as well. His Lexapro was increased and he is better. He still struggles everyday with ups and downs and prefers pills to therapy and exercise.
    He has taken a job in Ct. while I decided to stay in Md. with the children for a year.

    But the bottem line is now we know what his problem is and that makes it easier for me to tolerate his bad behavior. It is because of your book and your blogs.

    Bible study has really helped my husband. More than anything else (except Lexapro). We have never been religious but it really seems to work as therapy.

    I truly hope you are better soon. You count in this world and that is a lot!

    Write a book on make depression that addresses all the men who say “I am not that bad”. I will buy it. And I will buy your pocket Therapist for my husband for Christmas.

    Take care!!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment patti

    Your posts are great and much needed in our lives today! You are still doing a great job at writing Beyond Blue. You surely show your faith is at work, so just do what you’re able to do! I will pray for you in this stressful time, but know that reading some of your writings are so much better than having none to read, so do what you can, and your fans will understand!! Patti

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Taletha

    Therese,

    Your honesty is appreciated. Every one has something they are overcoming, struggling to overcome, obstacles and the like facing them everyday. We will fight the good fight together and come out on the side, richer for having the experience.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Lisa

    I read your posts daily and get a lot of useful information from them. However, I used to be deep into faith just like you but have realized finally there is no higher being. I relied on that false hope for 30+ years and it put me deeper into the deep dark hole each time I thought I could rely on it. Now, I only fall into that deep dark hole because of the root reason for it in the first place. No false hopes and dreams.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Barbara

    I have had more problems than any one person should have to endure but even through my pain I have always felt for others and continued to try and help others in need. I have been getting to the point, however, where I am beginning to question my faith in God. How is it that so many unloving, uncaring individuals are often given everything in life and yet the amount of pain I have had to deal with is so substantial? My spouse is an abusive, alcoholic. He has never been able to support us and 100% of the responsibilities have fallen on my shoulders and his addictions have pretty much financially destroyed us. I prayed to God to help my husband find his way and thankfully he did seek help but then he fell and got seriously injured. So again he is unable to work and now he’s addicted to pain killers. I also found out that while he was drinking he fathered a child with another woman. And when I think God cannot possibly cause me any more pain, my only child was recently diagnosed with cancer and because of his cancer he’s severely depressed. How much more am I expected to endure? I am ready to give up on life because even though I have tried to stay positive and keep my faith, I have a hard time believing that God loves me right now.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Marvelyn

    Therese, I am sorry to hear about your troubles. But I am so grateful for the time you take to share your struggles with all of us– so many of us are fighting our battles in anonymity, maybe not alone but certainly not publicly — because we can’t do otherwise. I wrestle daily with a powerful chemical melancholic depression. Trying to share this with others can be … complicated… and problematic for my career. So I keep it to myself (and with my therapist(s)). Somehow I one of my hazes, I stumbled across your blog about a year ago. I visit daily now, and your stories give me strength; they’ve become one more tool in my own little box and I don’t feel so agonizingly alone. Even when they’re repeats, I find it’s what I needed to hear that day. Or I read something else you’ve written, whatever strikes me. Your voice always offers a moment of calm in my mental storm.
    So thank you for sticking with us in whatever capacity you can. This Irish alumna is just grateful you’re still here.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment kathy

    What a wonderful post and I am so sorry for your financial difficulties. Unfortunately so many of us are in the same spot. If misery makes company, or whatever that saying is, we are all in it together. Hoping things get easier for you and your family. Blessings, Kathy

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment kathy

    I was sorry to read Pamela’s post. I am going to read Job though, just to see its revelance.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment veronica

    I read your posts and feel calm and understand we are all in this together. I am trying to understand the trials and know God has a plan, or a way, or a direction for this family. My daughter has a drinking problem, chaos can be so in our faces at times. I must work and take care of the grandchildren and not be depressed, but lately so hard, and I am a wreck at times, worried and so weary. You have so much to give and we have so much to gain by reading. I pray for you and yours and all who need the Lord to have mercy and give miracles. God Bless.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment LeRoy

    Therese,

    Your reposts of previous articles is actually a good thing. I found your book and blog only within the last year, so thes previous articles are a nice way to “catch up. ” You are in my prayers daily, because I also believe Beyond Blue is your mission and calling. Your book and posts have helped me more than any other resource, wlth maybe Clonazapam running a close second. So many times your writing has been exactly what I needed to keep going that day.

    God bless you.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mary Lee Carter

    Coming off the heels of a particularing trying week of challenges and disapointments, I have been bombarded by messages of how God can use our weaknesses to do great and mighty things. I think many times, He uses our tribulations to encourage others around us as they see how we handle our own circumstances. Your posts and your books have been a lightpost to me as I love and support a family member who stuggles with anxiety and depression. It helps me so much to put yet another face on what it is like for my family member to try and do life in spite of sometimes crippling darkness and fear. Like Jeri, I have been reading your posts for over two years in silence. This time, I want to be an encourager for you. What you do makes a difference and if this is the race you are to run, then consider me one in the great cloud of witnesses that watches you run it. I am lifted up by your courage and commitment and messages of hope. Thank you for what you do.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Diana

    Hi Thereses, Thank you again for your open and honst words, as it is such a respected part of you. I feel that you are doing an amazing job and your writing is so inspirational and brings me to a point of realizing that “you too” are human with struggls just like the rest of us.
    I find your work amazing, refreshing, honest and so helpful.
    Blessings to you and yours.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Cecelia Bullard

    Thank you, Therese, for all your efforts – I wake up overwhelmed every morning and your column always helps to set me straight. I believe wholeheartedly in the power of prayer, no matter how dark and despairing I feel, and I am grateful to know there are people like you who feel the same way – you lift us up, and we are praying for you, too.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Beth

    similarly, I think of the phrase, “Why NOT me?” when I wonder “why me?” I learned this from Fred Luskin who developed such powerful teachings on forgiveness at the Stanford Forgiveness Project. Considering the amount and intensity of suffering in this world, why shouldn’t I have my share? Not that I like it, but if I’m part of humanity, then I will be a part of humanity in all of its pain and glory.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Deb Newquist

    I keep the “Pocket Therapist” readily available for those days when life is more challenging for me. The mixture of humor and sound advice has helped me keep things in perspective. I am saddened that you are struggling. For the past year I have enjoyed your posts and often reassessed my feelings based on their content. Thank you for your efforts to stay connected.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Liti

    Therese,I always read your posts and find them on other sites.Its great wherever I find them,they comfort me and make me laugh.I understand the publishing problem,my sister is a cookbook writer and she is having a tough time getting published.Thanks for what you do.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mike Leach

    Dear Therese, This is one of your best blogs ever, and one of the best blogs I’ve ever read. You are the Real Thing. You are a Blessing to the World whether you write another Beyond Blue or not. You bless the world by your very being. Your readers, like the wonderful people who have commented here, are the same. We are all going to be Okay because we are Okay already! Love and peace.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Sherry

    Therese,
    Just wanted to say that it seems whenever I read your posts, it’s exactly what I need at that time. May be a repeat, but that doesn’t matter. Sometimes I need to have things repeated to me because I was too hard headed to listen the first time. And I think of all the new readers who weren’t here to read it the first time around. So they get the help and insight too. What I’m trying to say is I believe that what you write and what you post is exactly what GOD wanted you to write and post for that day. I believe that God leads us to where he wants us to go and leads us to do what he wants us to do. I want to thank you for doing what he leads you to do because the fact that you mind the Lord means you are helping a great deal of people who wouldn’t get the help without you. Thank you so much for letting God lead you!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Margaret

    I have sometimes felt as if God had taken a long lunch and I too wonder why things are so hard.

    I then came to realize that no where in Scripture, did God promise us a perfect 10. We get that in Heaven.

    Throughout Scripture He did Promise to always be with us.

    We live in a sinful, imperfect world, and I know I have to hold onto God’s Hand throughout the difficulties.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Sam Gyura

    Hey Therese, I’m going through WTF?! at the moment too. Not only am I fighting a deep depression, but I have the flu on top of it. I don’t know what I would do without Beyond Blue and your amazing words. Sending you every good vibe I can conjour. God is so weird sometimes.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Peg

    Therese, thanks for the words that hit so close to home. God bless you and your family.

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