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Springtime Depression: Don’t Worry About Not Being Happy

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lilac.jpg(Formerly) Fresh Living blogger Valerie Reiss wrote a poignant post on Springtime depression. I found it very comforting because, although I am energized by the changing of seasons and more sunlight, I also feel pressured during the months of April and May to be one happy camper all of the time. Do you know what I mean? 

I always hated April and May in college because I felt like such a sour puss for accidentally whining here or there, for not wearing the Colgate smile everyday on my way to class. 

There are actually more suicides in April and May than in January and December, even though you’d think people would crash during or after Christmas, when the weatherman predicts a blizzard that will have your kids out of school for weeks. 

The reason for the spikes during the spring? Depressives get the boost of energy they need to kill themselves. I know that sounds horrible, but it’s true. And I can’t help but think that part of it is that melancholic folks recognize the blast of sunshine and hope around them … their friends breaking out of their gray moods as they hop on the mountain bike for a long ride … and feel even more desperate because the sunshiny mood hasn’t made it to them, yet.

In her post, “Springtime Depression Is Touching My Soul,” Valerie writes:

Though I was calling it “Ungrateful for a Break in the Cold Gray Weather” and “Lame,” apparently some doctors have a kinder, more clinical term for the nice weather blues: “Spring Exacerbation.” No one knows why exactly suicides are at their highest this time of year, or why those suffering from SAD can get an extra dose of wham-slam when the sun re-appears. Some say sadness meets a slight energy lift–just enough to act on ruminations. Others speculate that there’s a feeling of “Wow it’s gorgeous out and I still feel crappy? That must mean I will never be happy.” Whatever it is, it’s true. 

As someone who spent the weekend feeling absolutely blammoed by the extreme shift to utter gorgeousness, T.S. Eliot (above) makes sense. There’s something oddly comforting about the misery of winter, and a camaraderie with even those who aren’t normally depressed. When the sun comes and wrenches those lilacs from the earth and families and friends and couples all play frisbee and have picnics and talk about how happy they are, it’s almost too much to bear. And then that fact–that I’ve waited and prayed for spring and now I can’t even enjoy it–makes me feel like an ungrateful wretch in addition to completely alone and raw and skinless. The bad-thought pile-on.

I guess I’m writing about this for my own sense of needing to tell, but also to say to people who might think that no one else could possibly be bummed when the sun is beaming and the flowers are blooming–on a weekend no less–that you’re not alone. And from what I’ve read, things should start to level out again in June.

Valerie’s advice is spot on: Don’t feel pressured to have a FANTASTIC day because, well, everyone else is. Ease up a tad, and treat the day as you would any other … a few hours at a time, if you need to.

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  • Barbara Bowman

    I am happy to see this posting. My worst times have been in May. Back in college many years ago, I was terribly depressed about life in general, and fixated on the murder of a child that had just taken place in my city. With that obsession, and the end of a semester in which depression had put me hopelessly behind in several subjects, I told people that on the weekend I was going to kill myself. I don’t think any of my friends took me seriously, but on that Saturday night I made an attempt – really a call for help. Unfortunately, although the doctor at the hospital told my dad that I was very sick and needed treatment at the hospital(within my earshot), my dad said, “we take care of our own,” and I had to go home with him – never to have any help with the darkness for many years.
    I still find myself with down moods in the spring. During the winter they are manageable, but in the spring I’m careful.

  • Kathy

    treat the day as you would any other … a few hours at a time
    A few HOURS at a time???? Hell, try a few MINUTES, or 30 seconds at a time!

  • Your Name

    I was looking for a place to find some validation and encouragement.
    Perhaps this is it?
    This post gave me a glimpse into what I may be experiencing these past few weeks. Little things are getting me down. I’m tired, unmotivated, just generally sad.
    I did have a big let down earlier this week. My friend, boyfriend, roommate of 13 years told me “good-bye” through an email. He needed to end our relationship permanently so that he could move on in his life. I actually ended it about one year ago when I asked him to move out. He has bipolar disorder and I just could not cope with the unpredictability and drama of his illness and that of his friends any longer.
    I’m living alone now and have been really at peace most of the time.
    I think my decision about that relationship was a good one for both of us but it IS hard knowing I won’t hear from him again. Maybe it’s guilt? I don’t know… Maybe it’s my unresolved feelings of self worth? I’m not seeing a therapist right now but have in the past.
    Today I called one of our patients whose husband passed away suddenly on Friday. My doc wanted me to express his sympathy as well as take care of a prescription she needed. She was so distraught on the phone. I listened for about 40 minutes, tried
    not to give her advice or shallow words of comfort. I heard her pain in her words and it broke my heart. I told her I would keep her in my thoughts and prayers and I will.
    Usually, when the sun shines and the weather warms up I feel so much better and more energetic. This spring is different though. I’m struggling to smile. I don’t cry but feel like I could any moment.
    I’m hoping that I will meet others here who may share similar situations and feelings and help me sort out what’s really happening.
    I love God and I know He takes care of me daily. I see His blessings every morning and feel His peace at night. Kathi

  • paul L

    All I know is what I’ve learned recently be kind and gentle to yourself for not being happy and cheery during Spring or anytime. Lighten up on yourself. This of course is advise to myself as well.

  • ET

    Ya, springtime is the time for me I get down because summer looms ahead. I feel out of shape and no matter how hard I try, I can’t seem to get motivated to work out so I can look great in a swimsuit. Summer can be a bummer for me just because I don’t like my appearance in less clothing–I’m not tan and very rarely tan. I’ve been made fun of because I AM so WHITE—yes, by other supposedly mature adults. People who have said you really need to go to a tanning booth. It’s also the time people start planning summer vacations and I realize I won’t be taking one because I can’t financially afford it. Yes, finances can cause anyone stress. As for the rest of it, I do mostly accept myself for who I am, but when you deal with clinical depression, these other small negative things still manage to bum me out even a little more.

  • Your Name

    I am most glad to have seen this post. (well not glad at others suffering of course!) I don’t normally tend to open up to much about my past, one not of great comfort. I will not go into it, but I will lighten it, perhaps you will catch what I mean…..I have for years battled depression more, mood. I celebrate my birthday in April, I also share my birthday with a very….mean person in my life. For years I always thought my bad mood or depression often began in late Feb, early March and continued until end of April. I have some years successfully dodge the mood, so to say. However, some years are a BATTLE! This was one of them. I can relate to Barbra, I to have OCD somewhat and can tend to be a little over active on the thinking it out part haaa….. I have been working on it for years, and I can be pretty successful, I must add…..however, I have recently discovered that I must have a little S.A.D, or possibly just a bad time of the year for me, I know SUNSHINE Vitamin D and Magenism plays a HUGE roll in my down parts. I have also added mineral water to my diet, and Epsom salt soaking, and lots of SUNSHINE, NO FREAKING SUNSCREEN, I know go ahead and SCREAM aloud, but you know if you use your head, no need for sun screen, and even the cancer society is saying at least 15 minutes a day with out protection, because we are very lacking these essential rays that the sun provides. However, my point it this every spring I get this feeling of not so much depression, I come out of that when mid April hits, after my birthday, but I have this sense of LOSS, I being LEFT BEHIND, that is the best way I can describe it. Spiritual healing is a great method I have found, GOD, plays a HUGE part in my well-being. I truly believe that the MIND is something that we can CONTROL, like anything you can have control over you can definitely loose a grip every now and again. However, I do have a saying I like to mention, I truly believe that depression, moods, emotions, are all part of being HUMAN, possibly not fighting them so much and going with it, there is obviously a certain amount of going with it, that is should be allowed, but, I mean it is o.k to feel down, it is o.k to feel, well to just feel! Allow yourself to feel your sorrows, then think it will past, and when you are in your good points appreciate them you will, MORE! I believe we do have to have some bad things in life to really truly learn and respect the good things. I am not sure if this is what anyone wants to hear, but really we can only live for today, I truly believe that is why it is called a the PRESENT, unwrap it, embrace it, and try to look deep inside of TODAY, it really has worked for me, I hope maybe you too! Take care, all!

  • Cat

    I am glad I read this blog…
    I do have issue with the “suicide” statistics. It scares the S*** out of me to read of them, maybe because I know how close I have been. Being so blue/black so unconnected that suicide seems like the only way to stop the pain. The pain is emotional but feels physical also.
    When I go to the park for my walks and see people happy and smiling and couples lovingly hand in hand, I do try to force a smile but, feel like such a fake. Why do I have to fake it? Ya know why can’t I feel the joy and happiness that others feel? I judge my depression on how little I am able to feel. When it’s really bad I feel like the walking dead.
    I have had happy moments in between the horrible bouts of grey, it’s almost worse to know how good it can be and then have it taken away.
    I sometimes wonder if I was supposed to be born on another planet
    Does anyone ever feel so disconnected that they wonder if they were
    supposed to even be here? During my grey days I am totally anti social and if I have to see someone and it doesn’t work out that well
    It makes it so much worse that I give up trying when friends and love
    is what I really would like.

  • Your Name

    I am thankful to read I am not alone in my misery….I have been sobbing uncontrolably for about 4 days now. I have the worst depression I have ever had, and think of myself as some kind of freak, because it is stunning outside. I look out the windows of my home, and I realize I have sooooooo much to be thankful for. So many blessings have been bestowed on me, and yet, I feel like I am falling into a hole and can’t dig my way out. My waterfront home is paid for, I have a great job working in radio, as an on-air personality, I am considered somewhat attractive by most people, and yet, I want to die. I hope that this “funk” will go away, or else, I am going to have to end it, somehow. I have tried walking so as to pump my heart and kick in the endorphines, but they don’t last 10 minutes when I get home, and end up in a deeper depression. I need help….I will not take meds, I tried that a few years back, and it was just worse. I would appreciate any advise someone could throw my way…..thanks

  • Your Name

    Well, thanks for the truth..all of you! Of Course I am in agreement with everything said here…I am finding myself unhappy with EVERYTHING!! This is the time of year that CHANGE seems to be apparent and I thnk we start to reevaluate our lives and either don’t like where we are or think we need a new life. I think the new season of springtime brings this on..Fresh new beginnings and we don’t have anywhere to go!! The economy the way it is this is NOT the time to job hunt or move or sell our homes! Lets just stay put and plant a garden and some window sill gardening! Cooking helps me especially with fresh herbs..Lets find our friends in our kitchen and lighten up on ourselves. This is not the time to be alone..Let your friends help cook..Our friends actually love us you know!!! Let them…..

  • Christina W

    I was glad to read this..I thought I was the only one who was feeling down..I even thought about stopping the antidepressant I started a month ago because I thought it may not be working. It never occurred to me that Spring could make me sad. I think for me I realize or rather think about more – the people I’ve lost. Winter is comforting for me as is Fall but the warmer months – not so much.

  • lonely in maine

    as i read all of ur comments i can’t help but think…wow i’m not the only one! for two weeks now i have been in such a state of depression crying at anything my thought’s going 100mph to busy to sleep faking the smile for everyone i pass to busy being someone else not really knowing who the heck i am and yes wondering why i was born and how long will this last wanting it all to just go away.Any advice?

  • Patty

    My sister and i were just talking about what triggers our depressive moods. I knew that i had put too much pressure on myself to be happy all the time and make every minute happier than the next. I do have a lot to be thankful for, however when the weather turns nice and the flowers are blooming and it seems that everyone is out doing something fun and i’m not it makes the depressive mood even worse. I’m glad to know i’m not alone and i will take it easier knowing i’m not alone.
    Thanks

  • Your Name

    I don’t think I can make it until JUNE, jeez, that seems so far away. My depression is at a screeching high. I’ve been in bed for a month, everything is crashing…
    This is one of those days I just want to go to sleep and never wake up. I take a combo of two anti-depressant meds, but they are just barely keeping me going at this point……..
    Don’t know what to do anymore, I’m so tired

  • Margaret

    To whoever doesn’t want to take meds. TAKE THEM. If you had a bad experience before, that doesn’t mean you will now. There is help in those pills, it just sometimes takes more than one try, to get the right one for you. Caring for those of us who have any sort of mood disorder, is sometimes more art than science.

  • Caroline

    I’m so relieved to read this….thought I was the only one who HATES spring/summer….everyone is so chipper…it just magnifies the depression when the sun is out. My depression is much worse in Spring/Summer…and I LOVE GLOOMY weather…it perks me up instantly.
    I have always had a biological reaction to dark, gloomy thunderclouds…I get very happy and a sense of calm…some say it is due to the negative ions in the thunderclouds, having a positive effect on brain chemicals….
    Anyone else love gloomy weather, dark thunderclouds?
    Thank you for this article…

  • joni borger

    Yes, I like the cold, dark and dreary days of winter! It matches my mood, and I feel like I can blame it on the weather. Now of course with the beautiful long-sunny and warm days I have no excuse except what is in my head.

  • Your Name

    Wow, I have tears welling up in my eyes as I read all of these comments. This is EXACTLY how I feel! I thrive the most during the worst thunderstorms, and absolutely hate spring and summer. I cry non stop when the sun is shining because I’m not out enjoying it. I feel isolated and lonely and miserable. Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and letting me know I’m not alone.

  • Staying positive in Reno…..

    I used to have bad episodes of depression in Springtime…..but with recognizing the signs of how my moods begin to change, I am able to boost up my moods by exercise and making sure to stay in a positive frame of mind. For years I had taken medications to help me with stabilizing my moods…..little by little, I carefully got off those meds and I am staying active, working, am romantically involved with a very special man in my life, enjoying and embracing each new day with joy and vigor. I can still see how with the change in seasons such as Spring and Winter (for me), I have to be aware of how my moods change and be active and positive.

  • Your Name

    Thank you, all, as I sit here balling my eyes out for you and your sadness, i realize,”maybe i’m not nuts!!!!” I’ve always kept it all to myself, because I honestly thought i was so different, and always distanced myself from people so they wouldn’t catch on and see beyond the fake “happy smile” that i’m a miserable mess whan the sun comes out and I should be happy. when my life gets to be a mess, my home, homework and job all suffer because it takes all i’ve got just to get out of bed, so thank you again for this little ray of hope!

  • Leeann Danzig

    My troubles are the worst in the winter. I do have some depression and sadness in the spring and the summer but only b/c tragedy has been in my life in the past in the spring and summer. Good Luck to all of you who suffer. Remember God is always with you give your pain up to him and he will gradly take it. I find what helps me is to stop and listen to the birds, I know that sounds weird but it helps me to focus on something other than my illness. Plus it is wonderful to sit an watch them and see the new life out there in nature.
    God Bless
    Leeann

  • Jerry in San Diego

    Valerie’s comments were very helpful to me. I suffer from severe myofascial pain (with all of the usual pain medications that dull my mind) and am stuck in my apartment everyday. I live in a moderate climate and am spoiled by wonderful weather most of the time, I always suffered most depression on dreary days. I used to garden, walk obsessively, and consider myself an “outside” person. This condition is redefining for me what it means to be alive, but the jealousy I feel for other people outside having a good time is a tough one with which to deal. Valerie has brought to my attention that the weather can mean anything you want it to mean, so I thank you for your entry.

  • Ileana

    although in Puerto Rico is summer most of the time, i was noticing that something changed in me around this season…didnt know what was making me feel depressed and isolated…..it was an eye opening reading your post. now i know and can deal with it, thanks so much for sharing it with us…i keep telling you that the courage you have to share your own experiences brings light in others peoples lifes. God bless you

  • Solman

    Thank you Therese for this enlightening post and sharing of the other blog. It has surely helped many beyond those that visit here. For some of us, maybe the feeling that we are even less “normal” in the warming weather has been planted in our conscious thought by (many) others. I know that holds true for my mood, usually accompanied by their quoting Abraham Lincoln out of context about “people are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” So many quotes are like statistics…out of context they lose the essence of the truth they once held.
    I hope your writing is as cathartic for you as it is nurturing to your readers.
    Heaven help us all…even tho it may not mean much to anyone outside a small circle of friends.

  • Cat

    knowing you are not alone is a way out of the darkness.
    If you can’t reach out to someone in your family or a friend.
    The support you can find here is a blessing.
    You are not alone…
    read the posts and see … you are not alone in your pain.
    It helps me to remind myself that … it is my depression that causes
    my hopelessness not me, not my spirit. My spirit is not the voice inside my head telling me I’m worthless, guilty or not going to get through this. When it is winter and you feel blue somehow.. it’s ok
    it’s easier to hibernate. When the sunny weather comes and you still feel dark… it feels like it will never end.. but, it will end. The clouds will lift. It will be ok.
    We just have to work at it.
    Unlike others who don’t have depression and can feel joy easily
    We with depression have to search out what will do it for us…
    It is not easy
    But, please everyone keep trying

  • cindy

    For as long as I can remember I’ve suffered from what I’ve called my “spring depression.” Usually it is mild and round about June it simply disappears. Unfortunately a few times in my life it has deepened into a moderate to severe depression that isn’t easily burned out by summer’s heat. The way I view it, at least I’m depressed at a time during the year that offers me solace by its sheer beauty. I also appreciate that I can get outside.
    Because it didn’t occur in winter, it never dawned on me that it could be SAD-Seasonal Affective Disorder. This year brought a deeper depression. In researching depression I learned that any cyclic depression may well be SAD and I bought myself a light box. I love my light box. On rainy, gray spring days–like today–I look forward to sitting in front of my portable “sunshine.”

  • My Name

    These posts help me claw my way through the week. Thanks everybody

  • Shasta

    Very helpful posts today. I sympathize so much with those who are struggling with the spring season. I had a very bad Spring 2009 and was beside myself wondering why, after months of desperate anticipation of spring, I felt even worse when the pleasant weather arrived. Thank God, this spring is much better, but my thoughts are with those who are mired down this time of year.
    To the person who refuses to (re)try medication, I beg you to reconsider. If your last experience was years ago, let me assure you that new medications are coming out every year, and there may be something that will work for you now. And I believe one’s brain chemistry and tolerance can change over time as well – my most recent relapse was due to a host of factors, one being that my old standby medication did not work any longer. That is not to discourage you from giving meds a try again, but to let you know that, under the right medical supervision with a caring and knowledgable doctor, you can enjoy years or decades of good health and freedom. What have you got to lose? Is where you are right now good enough? Please reconsider.

  • Lysa

    With me, I feel in spring like the entire past year is coming full circle. I’ve survived the summer, pushed through the winter, and now in spring I finally have a chance to evaluate what I’ve accomplished and how it’s made me feel. Spring is a lull that allows me to process the events of the entire year, which I am usually too busy or frazzled to consider any other time. Inevitably when I think about my goals for the year versus the reality of what has actually taken place, I feel anxious, depressed and fearful.
    It’s nice to know I’m not alone. I didn’t know springtime depression was a “thing,” but it definitely makes sense!
    Take care everyone :)

  • Mariah

    Thnaks for this post. This is a hard time of year for me – I want to feel joy and rebirth and feel like crawling back to bed under the covers and crying. I live on a busy street, full of happy jogger and bikers and it makes it worse. A massage therapist once told me this was her busiest time of the year – so many people feel this way. It helps to know I am not alone.

  • http://lauradroege.wordpress.com Laura Droege

    I’ve read about the spike in suicides in April and May, and the research about “springtime depression” confirms what T.S.Eliot and Chaucer called April: the cruelest month.
    Thanks for encouraging us to not feel bad for feeling bad when everyone else seems to feel good.

  • Arl belief

    Thank you for this message, Therese. You can see how many of us feel the same way. For those of you who won’t take meds, pls read therese’s book or posts about the nearly endless efforts she made to find what worked. Many of us did too, to a lesser extent. Get a good doc and do not give up!!! Please.

  • Colletta

    Spring is always a hard time for me too. I feel like so much more is expected from my appearance, yardwork along with housework and there’s less downtime in the evenings.
    Daylight savings time throws my whole routine off. Not to mention those stinking birds chirping outside the window at 5am when I’m dreading the morning! lol

  • Mary Anne

    Talk about April being a depressing month! I turned 50 yrs old on the 15th of this mth. Yep, the big 5-0 I have had lots of people remind me that I am now a 1/2 a Century old. Then I got sick ON the day of my bday. Rather than going to the Dr. I went on out of twn on a wknd campout to treat myself for my bday, be among friends. I ended up setting up my tent in the rain, it rained most of the wknd…..which no doubt exasperated my health because I came home feeling WORSE than when I left. I went to my Primary Care Dr yesterday to learn what began as a upper respiratory infection has now turned into bronchitis. I was given 3 new Rx’s to take and am recovering in bed. The forecast here in the Houston area is for….u guessed it MORE RAIN today and Saturday! At least this wknd I will be in my own comfy bed at home and not outdoors in a tent, drudging my way down muddy roads.
    I shared that with you all to say this. While Spring may be a welcome time of the yr after the COLD, dark days of Winter. It also holds in it a whole new set of challenges. I am reminded of the Bible Scripture in Eclesiastes which says: To everything there is a time and a SEASON to every purpose under Heaven.
    I am taking meds both for my physical illness and my depression/anxiety. I am trying to hang in there like the rest of you who come to this site. Some days are diamonds and some days are stones. I am glad we all have each other and know that we are NOT alone!
    Therese, to you especially u are in my thoughts often, know that u are special….everytime I see Roses or rose petals that have fallen off of a flower it is a reminder….. ;)

  • http://www.abbyhasissues.wordpress.com Abby

    I’m so glad you wrote about this, as I am the same exact way and often question what the heck my problem is. While winter is cold, gloomy and isolating, it gives me an excuse to be cold, gloomy and isolated. When it’s sunny and nice out, even though I like the warmth so much more, I feel a pressure to always be outside “enjoying” it, being grateful for natural beauty, busy with social activities, etc. Pressure. I feel pressure to feel happy and wonder why I don’t.
    So, thank you so much for this. Even though there’s no “cure” for this, it’s nice to know I don’t suffer alone.

  • Jill

    From the perspective of someone who is living with constant sadness for a very long time it becomes as simple as….”its a beautiful day to die”.

  • S

    April 14th is my birthday & I hate it. I hate to celebrate my birthday when I am feeling so lousy inside. I hate the fact that I have not discovered the “Art of Living” even though I am nearing 30. I feel like a dudd mosta times & wonder if “normal” people have like a Life map similar to a road map which guides them as to what to do and what not to do and when to do or not to. I hate the fact that I still haven’t found my calling or purpose or is this all there is.Its depressing to know that God put me out here just to suffer and make those closest to me bear the brunt of my actions. My parents dont deserve to go through this. I do not deserve to go through this. Lots of questions but there are no answers. I feel like trashing some one who sports a Colgate smile coz it makes me feel like they have discovered the secret to life while I havent..Therese I just dont know how to express my gratitude to you. You are such a gifted writer and you keep it so real.Thanks, I abs feel like at home when ever I read your blogs.

  • http://michellebsn@embarqmail.com Michelle

    Everyone who has written are very insiteful. I think I actually enjoy the cold so that is gives a reason to stay inside in comfy clothes. While it is warmer and the days are longer it seems like you have to look your best and be in bikini shape to fit in.

  • PO

    Basically the way I have come to see it is that I am so PO’d about being miserable and cold that it is hard for me to “make up” when the weather decides to be nice. Yes, I personify the weather. I just bought a place in Fla. to be a snow bird but my family is completely unsupportive of this. I am not only feeling PO’d but I feel guilty too!
    I just take my Prozac and try to live one day at a time. May need a trip to the therapist too to talk it out.
    Thanks for listening.
    Sunflower

  • Georgia Westphal

    I found this article very interesting in that I’ve had this spring time depression period most of my life that I can remember but I don’t really agree with the conclusions, at least not in my own life.
    I am, and have always been very active in the spring, most of the year in fact, and I have a wonderful husband with a great marriage and all that stuff that is supposed to make you happy.
    I almost never get depressed in the long dark of winter, and living in Alaska I get some long, cold and dark but I am also one of those people whos biorythem runs more to the nocternal then to daytime programming and I’ve often wondered if for us nocternal types all this extra daylight wasn’t part of the problem. I remember how much I loved it when stores started staying open 24 hours a day so I did not have to change my graveyard shift work schedual to shop during the day and wiht most of my friends being nocternial we did all the visiting and dinner parties and things on our time instead of trying to do the day people routine.

  • marymargaret

    When one hears the spring sounds of life, one often feels the energy to skip about and smell those blooming flowers.
    What my depressed-self hears is the un-nerving screech of shrillness flying about and the bloomin’ flowers make my nose itch and eyes water.
    April and May can be stepping stones to the warmth of summer or they can be the wet cement that brings me to a stop.

  • carol

    hi everyone,
    these comments have really helped me ,as this past 2 weeks my depression has been so bad,and as all of you the sun is shineing out ,i should be enjoying it ,but i dont even want to leave my home.it takes everybit to just to go out side for a few minutes,so when i read all these posts it does help me to just make it another day ,in my case lately moment by moment, so thank you !!!

  • Barbara

    Funny thing is, I like the cold and rain and snow and dark. I don’t really enjoy “beautiful days” because I’m supposed to “be” happy on those days. I would rather not be put on the spot to be happy. When it’s a beautiful day, I feel like everyone is having this wonderful life, and I’m not. Rainy days never get me down….haha to all you happy people when the weather sucks.

  • NykkiGrim

    Ah ha! Finally. I thought I was the only one with Spring Moody Blues. Crappy stuff always seemed to occur in the spring, I thought I was jinxed. Let the little posies reap the sunshine, I’ll be sitting in the dark listening to The Cure. Really, it does make me happy.

  • Ashleigh

    Interesting. I actually get somewhat depressed when it becomes Spring, but it has to do with the fact that I live in a place where we have very, VERY hot summers, and also a lot more smog in the summer. I have a hard time adjusting to the warmer weather, and also I am overweight, and so it depresses me when I think of shorts and summer clothes. But also, I know that the intense heat is just around the corner. I have a hard time also adjusting to the longer days (with daylight savings time). So, for me, it’s just a lot of adjustments, and I normally get really irritable and depressed at first, but then eventually adust.

  • http://Mystery Cheryl Harris

    Omg! I’m glad I’m not the only one; I thought I was going out of my mind. I’ve been going through this for years & actually look forward to the rainy days in spring so I can allow myself to be blue.

  • viqueen

    What a comfort to find that I’m not alone; that sunny days don’t make us all smiley; that summer is not welcomed by everyone.

  • teresa

    I have the spring depressed moody thing too. I’ve always thought I was alone and crazy because I didnt get why everyone was smiling… Glad to know I’m not alone. I noticed alot of women posted in agreement. Any men get this?
    I used to try and explain my moods to my sister. I would tell her the Sun is so bright, it feels like it hurts my heart and sucks out my emotions. ( geez, i even sound nuts to me)

  • seema

    I can not handle winter, long dark nights. I wait all along for the spring season and summer. This is true that people who are lonely may find spring and summmer more painfull and depressing. I will suggest find a hobby like flower gardening, wreathing, any creative project will make your day. Spring is also the time when people should connect with their friends and spend more time with them doing all the fun stuff.

  • MELYNDAGAMEZ

    I’ve been SERIOUSLY IN A STATE OF DEPRESSION,for many years now.idon’t
    like the feeling but it seems,like i can never beat these darn BLUES.
    Coping with life on a day to day basis is very hard for me cuz,with all my illnesses,I feel like i’m drowning above water.
    trying to cope with a family is even HARDER,cuz my little girl want’s to constantly be playing,swimming,and having her little girlfriends over.Sometimes though, i just want to be in peace,lock myself in my bedroom as well..I guess i figure if “I DON’T HAVE TO THINK,THEN I WILL BE FINE,COME TO REALIZE,IT’S NOT TRUE.”
    I should really try to be optimistic,not only for myselve but my family as well.My daughter loves the summer time,I hate it because then,i have to think about what to do with my daughter,it’s HARD!!!
    i’m usually a happy go lucky woman,then the blues HIT severely.
    I’m usually the one keeping my whole family together and i’m tired. I mean, i can barely cope with my life,let alone with all my brother’s and sister’s issues. So, I guess i pretty much want to live a “normal”
    happy life,not “having to cope with the blues and all the problems that come along with it.” So,i guess i need to focus on the good and not the bad,weighing all my odds..While,thinking POSITIVE from now on
    knowing that at the end of the day,all things will be fine,”IF YOU JUST BELIEVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Kay

    It’s depressing for me Because I’m in a wheelchair & I Cant go out.

  • Don

    There must be some sort of truth to the spring spike in suicide. My brother shot himself last Thursday. As a family, we all are hoping that it was an accident, but it seems unlikely. I suppose just the fact that you have to “hope” that it was an accidnet is truth enough.
    In any case, very good article. It’s nice to know that I am not the only person who isn’t in love with the sun. Too bad I live in Florida eh?

  • http://www.sermoncentral.com Paul Fritz

    with positive thoughts (Phil. 4:8)
    45. Doubting actions, thoughts and attitudes with let not your heart be trouble, believe in God. (John 14:1,2)
    46. Displeasing attitudes with Pleasing God in all respects (Col. 1:9-11)
    47. Dissuaded with persuaded that He is able to keep what I have committed to Him. (2 Tim. 1:12)
    48. Disqualified with remaining fit to finish the race (I Cor. 9:24-27)
    49. Defeat with victory in Jesus. (I Cor. 15:57)
    50. Distant from God with draw near to God and He will draw near to you. (James 4:8-12)

  • http://I Pat

    I must have missed comments and/or advise about seeking help during this time of crisis. Medication and/or therapy can help. I sensed feelings of being alone in all of this; which is common among people who are depressed, even though they may be surrounded by loving families and friends. A good therapist is one who is nonjudgemental and understands the dynamics of depression. If you haven’t tried to reach out to a professional, use this springtime burst of motivation to do so. It will help.

  • Cyndy

    Spring has been hard. My boy friend has had more energy to get outside and do things. He said that he felt like I was holding him back. He wants to do things with me that I don’t have energy for. I am very low. Just paying a couple bills and trying the keep the house clean is about all I can do. I am in therapy. Maybe a med change is overdue. There is a part of me that has given up. I just don’t get better. Don’t know what else to say

  • Karen

    Hello All. I, too, felt like the springtime scrooge. My Mom passed away on 2/2/2009 and that first spring without her was worse than the winter holidays. I saw all of the flowers blooming and just lost it. She really loved the flowers and spring. It led me to write some thoughts down under the title of “When Even the Flowers Make You Sad”. I live in the woods and this year in particular the green is closing in on me. I make myself buy flowers and care if the yard is mowed. Don’t really though – we live on a dead end road and I have gone weeks without seeing anyone. I like the “segregation” of it all but sometimes wonder if I would do better somewhere where I at least have to get dressed. lol I don’t have kids and find myself giving thanks every day for the silly antics of my 4 dogs and cat. My Mom was my best friend and I felt that a lot of times she lived vicariously through me. Now, I feel I have switched places with her and do not have that link with the outside world and am out of the loop. The saddest part is that I am very extroverted and can meet people whenever I choose and don’t meet a stranger unless I choose that also. Until getting on here today I was getting deeper in that rut of doing nothing but as I write this I believe I will “get busy living” (Shawshank Redemption – Get busy living or get busy dying…). I have never written on here before but felt compelled to after reading Cyndy’s post. Don’t know what has brought you down this low (just the world today is enough for me most days…) but I really want you to know you are not alone. It is stated several times in different ways on here but please believe you are not alone in the way you feel/think. Having said that, and being there, that is of little consolation without a connection to those who feel the same. And being “bummed out”, we don’t seek out those connections very readily. For me, writing this knowing I will be hitting “post” and letting others read it is a good start for a connection. Cyndy, I hope you are having a great day or even a better day but I won’t tell you what kind of day to have. We both know that the happy hype person is sometimes annoying. My Mom would say, “Don’t Ziggy me!”. lol But then she would also say, “Hangeth in there”. I really miss hearing both. Thanks all.

  • MDK

    Thanks so much for this post. This is exactly what I’m struggling with! I thought I was the only one!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Does anyone else feel like this?

    I found this article interesting. I find the change of time difficult. The extra ‘daylight’ time overwhelms me; especially when the sun shines bright. I love sun-yet I struggle with a sense of over stimulation from a bright sunny day. I know it sounds weird; I know it is weird; but it is a very real feeling I struggle with…the best way to explain is I feel like I am failing the day, like I need to do something with it more then what I am especially if it is a day off work. I normally pressure myself about making the most of my days but a bright sunny day increases my anxiety. Then if the depression is visiting I feel that sense of worthlessness, waste, undeserving, guilt that I get when I begin or am experiencing an episode. WHAT IS THIS? Does anyone else feel this way? I am determined to be aware this year and find tools/solutions to stop beating myself up! I would LOVE anyone’s input, thoughts on this….

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  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Dee

    I have struggles myself with anxiety and depression for years. I always thought it was something I would just have to live with. I tried some self help methods, trying to eat right and exercise,taking vitamins, nothing seemed to help in the long run. I decided to see a counselor and she called my doctor to start me on medication, so far, it has helped me, so I just want you all to know there is hope. Try different things to see what might work for you. Even going and treating yourself to something like a pedicure or massage. Most importantly go to church and read your Bible, having a relationship with Jesus, is what can help, He went through suffering, so he can understand us more than anyone else. My counselor said I probably had a chemical inbalance, which medication could help, so I was willing to try that. Praying for you all. God Bless!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Lanelocust48

    It’s something to be said. I mean–I’m depressed moreso in the springtime than in the bleak and dreary winter months. It must be the SAD. I’ve talked to several mental health professionals and they are not too surprised.
    April is full of anniversaries (good/bad) and it also holds one of the darkest moments in my life. A wonderful friend committed suicide in April…and it hit me really hard. In fact, after I grieved over the loss, I realized several things.
    First and foremost, her decision to commit suicide was hurtful to those she left behind. For that reason, no matter how difficult it is for me (and yes, I’ve had my moments since then) I couldn’t do my family members like that. It literally left her family blaming themselves. However, like everything else, I decided that she wasn’t herself when she did the ultimate thing.
    Sometimes I just want to go to bed and cover my head up, cry my heart out and not exist until May 1st. Attempting to do something different now….it’s not easy though!
    God bless us all!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment half moon

    At the age of 9 I tried to commit suicide. I was not clinically diagnosed until the age of 35. I am now 53. I have been on several different meds with several diff side effects. The medication I am now on seems to be working. When I had health insurance I saw my therapist and she taught me some coping techniques. My advice is to keep trying different medications, I tried 10. If you can do talk therapy, do it, it has made such a difference in my life. Let your friends and family know what is going on. I hid my condition for so many years but they have actually helped me thru the rough times. Just remember that you matter and sometimes your brain plays nasty tricks on you.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Name

    I never imagined anyone else felt saddness in spring. Its a relief to not be the only one. I get the feeling J.D. Salinger’s “perfect day for a bananafish” and P.J. Harvey’s song “its a perfect day Elise” is about that, being sad on perfect days.

  • http://hangon Barb

    I have to remember a lot the words of my precious grandmother who saved my life many times by just being there for me. She use to say “When things get really tough, and you feel like you’re at the end of the rope just tie a knot in the rope and hang on.” She lived to be 96 and I still miss her. Since then I have lost a son (in 2005)and my husband. Since my husband left to be with Jesus in Feb. 2009 I have a hard time this time of year but I try to spend more time with God and let Him heal me. I get depressed and don’t understand why I can’t get out and do ALL the things I really want to do in my garden and yard. These posts are great and help ALL of us. Thanks for every one of them.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Mary Jo

    My theory is that vitamin D levels bottom out in spring after a whole winter with little sunshine, especially in the far north. A simple blood test can tell if your vitamin D is low and a simple supplement can fix the problem. This has been a tremendous help to me.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Julie

    Yes. The flowers everywhere totally stress me out because I feel like I need to be creating “perfect” gardens and making the outside of my house “perfect” as well. When this is happening I just shut down. Nice rainy days don’t require so much perfection.

  • http://streamsofconsciousnessinadesertland.blogspot.com Chris K

    I wonder if suicide rates are higher in the spring because people who had absolutely no energy in the previous months, now have enough energy to finally do something about the pain they have been suffering with?

    This spring I am finally able to honestly tell people when I need them to tone it down (hopefully in a nice way!) And enjoy the flowers in my own way for the first time and it is amazingly wonderful!!!!

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