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Therapy Thursday: See With the Heart

pocket therapist front cover small.jpgI have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. Many of them are published in my book, “The Pocket Therapist: An Emotional Survival Kit.

One of my very favorite quotes is from Antoine de Saint-Exupery’s The Little Prince: “It is only with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye.”


Every time I throw myself into a tizzy because things aren’t going as expected, or as I projected on my Excel spreadsheet for the year 2020, I have to remind myself that I’m looking with the wrong instrument or organ: I need to go back and tell my heart to get some guts and speak up to my head because it’s starting to listen to my eyes again.

For example, when I’m lost in the details–grumpy as hell about having to peddle cans of popcorn, tubs of cookie dough, 50 subscriptions to People magazine, or whatever else the school has managed to push on us parents–I miss the expression of wonder on my son’s face when he discovers the magic of capitalism … that by knocking on 56 doors and begging for money, he has, essentially, won himself a set of tickets to the Orioles game.

Writes Rabbi Harold Kushner: “If you concentrate on finding what is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude.”

  • Johleen Jeffs

    One of my favourite quotes is
    “Be the change you want to see in the world” Mahatma Ghandi
    It reminds me of our responsibility both to ourselves and the world, and that every change starts from within.

  • skylark

    Another favorite quote of mine that fits in here:
    “The heart has reasons the mind knows not!”(Pascal)
    Or St. Paul for that matter was offering this:
    ” Eye has not seen, ear has not heard, what God has
    prepared for those who love Him”!
    On some level other than the mind we can experience the transformative
    power of love, the greatest example being God’s love for man…that
    He has paid our ransom with His precious Blood!

  • barb quester

    dear therese, i absolutely love your “Pocket Therapist” book!! my sister-in-law borrowed it, wants my brother to read it, and then my niece is going to read it. then i’ll buy them all copies of their own!!
    one thing i have learned on my own journey of living with CFS, Fibromyalgia, anxiety disorder, depression and arthritis is that we have to, all of us, just take one day at a time. that is easier said than done, especially for those people like yourself, who have families to take care of; as you mentioned above about selling stuff to make money for school events, etc.
    i think it is human nature that when we feel better, we tend to overdue. i know i do that, and pay for it dearly in the days afterward. then i have to remember my friend who tells me when i feel lousy, just to let myself rest and roll with the pain, exhaustion, etc. when i do that, i know nothing is getting done as far as chores go, but i don’t really have a choice if i want to feel better tomorrow, or the next day, whenever the symptoms abate.
    so, therese, as much as you have taught me, i hope you can try and focus on yourself, because if you do that, you can be more help to eric and your children. you have to come first. learning to say no, which is so much against our womanly caretaker instinct, is critical to our health issues.
    take care of YOURSELF. then you’ll feel better to help others.
    barb quester

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