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Therapy Thursday: Keep Showing Up

pocket therapist front cover small.jpgI have decided to dedicate a post on Thursday to therapy, and offer you the many tips I have learned on the couch. They will be a good reminder for me, as well, of something small I can concentrate on. Many of them are published in my book, “The Pocket Therapist: An Emotional Survival Kit.

My running coach told me that if I wanted to run a marathon all I had to do was to show up at practice. In sweats, not in heels. And the guys who had been sober for double digits said it too: “Keep showing up to these meetings, and you won’t drink.”


Success is 99 percent perspiration, even as I’d like it at times to be a result of luck or fate, or some no-brainer thing. Alas, most great achievements–and chasing sanity day in and day out is an act of nobility deserving of a Purple Heart–are accumulated moments of bravery and perseverance gone mostly unnoticed. It’s the stuff of every day. Winston Churchill is right: “The heights of great men reached and kept were not attained by sudden flight. But they, while their companions slept, were toiling upwards in the night.”

  • joe gonzalez

    Great, Therese, as always. Will be looking on Thursdays ! Keep on keeping on, and bless those that sleep while you toil upwards ! Oh, and i meant no disrepect towards Bill W. in a comment i made a week or so ago. Tha man has achieved miracles, and should be a candidate for sanctity. Just that my Way ( After many years of following his ) proved right for me. Pls. accept my apology i didn’t include that last part.

  • Rita

    Keep going indeed. There was a period where I sat in a depressed state beside my therapist unable to talk. Sometimes she would do energy work. I kept going.

  • Clara Parker

    Wonderfully enlightening! Thank you
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  • EAJ

    Therese ~
    Thank you for today’s post, and including the 12 Ways to Keep Going, it was just what I needed. Not that I am ready to jump, just yet, but I had been doing really well. Which is when I got lazy and “quit showing up”.
    Not to my NAMI, W.R.A.P., therapy or DBT meetings, but to my own self help work – my yoga, my working out, my going out and meeting up with friends, praying, laughing, talking to my family and friends on the phone, all that went out the window. So what happened? Just what anyone who has this disease knows, everything good went out the window with it.
    So I thank you for reminding me that it really does take blood, sweat, and tears (literally) to feel good, and to stay that way. It’s just weird that on the days I choose to read your blog, you always seem to be spot on ~ thank you for the inspiration and the encouragement, you are a godsend.

  • Jackie

    What do we do if we need help, but don’t know what kind of therapist we need?? Do we go to out doctor, are they supposed to know which one we need? How does one do this?? Thanks.

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