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From the Maternity Ward to the Psych Ward: What Every Mom Should Know

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Awhile back I was asked by “Dallas News” reporter Nancy Churnin to guest blog on “Dallas Moms,” (part of “The Dallas Morning News”). They wanted me to write about motherhood and mental illness, and of course I have no trouble coming up with material there. Click here to get the original post. I have excerpted below.

What happened?”

“What was it like?”

I have about 45 responses to those two questions that I’ve written out ever since I attended a media coaching seminar in November. The presenters encouraged us to map out our stories for our listeners, taking them to the places of action that form our plot.

I have three primary stories. Unfortunately, they all involve my kids.

Here is one:

My three-year-old son and I were sitting on his bed playing with toy cars. He was pushing his toy police car down the seams of the quilt, pretending they were roads.

“You’re in the back,” he said to me.
“Why am I in the back?” I asked.
“Because you’re bad.”
“Why am I bad?”
“Because you cry so much.”

I guess that’s what it was like.

I was always crying.
Always embarrassed.
Always pretending.
To be a competent mom.
When I was the least thing from it.

What happened?

If you think about it, the early months of motherhood are the perfect storm for mood disorders to develop. You take a woman whose hormones have been rearranged and sold at a garage sale. You give her a kid who doesn’t sleep (in my case) for more than three hours for five years in a row. And you lock her in the house alone with this crying thing, so that she sits there in isolation most of her day.

Sleep deprivation and isolation alone, with perfectly balanced hormones, is enough to ship someone off to the psych ward. Dump unto that the Irish-dancing hormones, and you’re guaranteed a mess.

My mess fit into a neat diagnosis of Bipolar II, which I like to call the smoother, softer kind of manic depression.

Could I have prevented the mess?

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  • jac

    What about those of us who would have liked to have been moms but will never be? I listen to others struggle with motherhood, but part of me has a really hard time understanding. It is difficult to accept the fact that I will never be a mother because I have never been in a relationship, let alone on a date. For someone who is nearly 40 and otherwise a very smart and competent person, it is difficult to accept myself when others find me so unacceptable.

  • tha

    JAC don’t give up there is still hope. Try the dating sites (e-harmony) or church functions.
    I had 3 kids and had to work. Fortunately my spouse took his responsibility very seriously and helped me with all 3 kids. When I needed a break he watched the boys and told me to call a girlfriend and go for coffee and shopping trip. We took turns for night feedings and he worked a full time job too. Working as a team made is so I didn’t have any baby blues. My sons are now grown and their spouses also work too and guess what I see them constantly working as a team. Hope this helps

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  • Teresa

    I’m not a mom myself, but I have friends who are. I believe one of them underwent post-partum depression herself, and found it a little hard to adjust to her new role and relationship with her child.
    I admire all moms who are able to set aside or overcome their own worries and problems in order to care for their children. It’s really selfless and unconditional. It’s good too, that some husbands, friends and family members are understanding enough to know that moms need short breaks too and help out when a mom feels overwhelmed already.
    I believe each mom is capable of taking the steps mentioned above – beg for help, sleep, hang on to you – when they need to, since they know themselves better than anyone else and aim for the best for their children.
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