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Mindfulness: Building INNER Boundaries

Abby Seixas, author of “Finding the Deep River Within,” compares practicing presence to building some INNER boundaries. Just as we might opt to let our voicemail pick up when we see a 1-800 number (meaning telemarketers), we can do the same with the inner distractions. She quotes Mary Oliver who explains this kind of disruption:

Bust just as often … the interruption comes not from another, but from the self itself, or some other self within the self, that whistles and pounds upon the door panels and tosses itself, splashing, into the pond of meditation. And what does it have to say? That you must phone the dentist, that you are out of mustard, that your uncle Stanley’s birthday is two weeks hence. You react, of course. Then you return to your work, only to find the imps of the idea have fled back into the mist.


I love that. Because I so relate to that. Except it wasn’t about Uncle Stanley. What nagged me was that I couldn’t, for the life of me, remember my goddaughter’s birthday! Thinking of mindfulness as INNER boundaries offers me hope that one day I will be better at mindfulness because there was once a time, not so long ago, that I felt that outer boundaries would be impossible, too. And I’m just now starting to succeed at them. Yah!!

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  • melzoom

    Inner boundaries… sounds like a good thread for group BB. =)

  • Your Name

    Inner boundaries?Mindfulness?I want them in my life!!Outer boundaries
    were the manifestations of inner boundaries,as simple as that?I hope
    so…there was once upon a time that i am whole,i mean totally wholesome in all aspects of my being,time and bad experiences had
    shaken,rattled and rolled me,leaving me back to ground zero.Anyway,
    if you were up,there’s no other way than to go down,if you were
    down,there’s no other way than to go up,so…it just a matter of
    time and space to develope anything!!

  • SuzanneWA

    Because I’m a widow and live alone, there is PLENTY of time for me to “practice” mindfulness. However, the INNER boundaries break down, and I’m lost in “what-if’s.” I don’t have the TIME to meditate; I’m either reading, working on the computer, feeding and playing with the cats, or running errands and doctors’ visits. When does ANYONE have the TIME to concentrate on NOTHING? If you have an answer, I’m willing to hear it!

  • Shari

    In the beginning it is only possible to concentrate in small spaces of time. If you start with one minute and then build on that it is more useful than trying to go for longer periods. This is one thing that is so necessary for life especially now. It is the only thing that helps me get through my day.

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