Beyond Blue

Beyond Blue

Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway: 12 Ways to Find Your Soul Mate

Like many of you, I spent a good part of my adult life longing–and looking–for my soul mate. There were two things that helped to eventually bring my beloved and me together: I never gave up my faith that he existed. And I discovered the importance of getting ready for love. Just in time for a fresh start this Valentine’s Day, here are a few pearls of wisdom on the topic, culled from my own experience and many years of work on the front lines of love and relationships.
Read the first way to find your soul mate.

  • Candice Gale

    Usually I stay on the positive note, but after six years of believing my soul mate existed, making my life love friendly, acknowledging and slaying dragons, healing wounds, honoring the yearning, loving being single, cleaning my house for love and appreciating the path I’ve taken- I must admit- I’m fed up!!!
    However, I have seen countless examples of people who have not done these things in relationships, particularly those who are needy, clingy, consistently choose the wrong kind of people, give themselves away too fast, etc etc etc…
    On the flipside, those people usually are not in happy relationships- but sometimes they are.
    I do have to say, three years ago- I believed that I had found my soulmate, and I was at that time practicing many of the spirtual receptivity mentioned here, and lo and behold- he was snatched away from me!!!
    I’ve tried to cleanse myself from this issue, heal my wounds- and move on. It keeps coming back to haunt me. I confess that I am hurt- and believe that to be an opportunity to heal into something much more beautiful.
    I’m afraid that all this is going to do is make me stronger to be able to deal with yet another let down. I’ve went thru a lot of “things that build character” as they say- what I wanna know is- what good is character when people with absolutely no class and character step on my shoulders to lift themselves up?
    Point blank- I’m ready for my turn. I know I’d appreciate him. I’d love him, I’d acknowledge and adore his weaknesses and strengths. I’d support him, communicate regularly and be an awesome lover. We would have so much fun and at times, not so much. We’d face the tough times, learn how to overcome them and face the next battle together. We’d raise our children to expect the goodness that God has to offer his children.
    I also expect that he’d feel the same way about me. I have a realistic view on love and relationships and completely understand there will be ups and downs. I just want someone to share them with intimately until the end.
    Just had to put my two cents in… any advive???

  • Angel

    I’m trying to heal a broken heart from a man who pushed me in and would push me away.
    Every relationship has problems; I learned that both parties need to take 50% of it and LEARN in order to grow.
    If you don’t LEARN either together or apart, you will be faced with the same stuff again in a different relationship.
    He never forgave me for my stuff and at the same time, he dwells on hurt but not the role he played (and his grown children who played a huge role in destroying us).
    I think he found someone else and I pray he looks at himself and the role he played because he will repeat the same things.
    I know my role and I learned owing up; growing on mentally, spiritual levels, healing inner child work.
    I was very loving, even though he doesn’t think so, I will find someone who will cherish me and love me for my intentions to grow and love and live in peace.
    We all need to take 50% and learn from our 50% part in the relationship. If not, we are only fooling ourselves of happiness in the next.
    May God heal all the broken hearts.

  • Linda Roby

    It is hard to bring two broken pieces of a heart together again and make them fit.
    Sometimes with much effort it can be done because love is stronger than any barriers.
    But, sometimes, as in my case, letting go of what harms and reaching for what heals is the best next step to starting over.

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