The other night I was looking for an article when I came across this response to my post “Dear God: Why E-Harmony Has Got It Wrong” where I explained that I thought it was unfair that eHarmony includes depression among its character flaws, aspects of a person that you won’t tolerate. It got me thinking, Why not cancer? Why not diabetes? I grow impatient and annoyed when I see depression set aside as a weakness rather than an illness.
At any rate, I laughed at loud when I discovered feedback regarding my post from eHarmony,an “unofficial, comprehensive, and commercial-free guide to eHarmony with news, opinion, discussions, and advice” (to get there click here).
Here it is:
Mental Health columnist Therese L Borchard wrote to God yesterday saying she is angry that eHarmony lets its members screen out people with depression and mood disorders.
… that’s what made me so angry about the E-harmony selection process (not that I’m looking! I swear!): I feel like it’s so hard to love myself and accept myself for who I am, and then along comes E-Harmony with its list of negatives-obesity, laziness, shortness, depression-and I fall back into the trap of thinking I am unlovable because I suffer from a mood disorder that on some days, YES, makes me feel like a victim!
But not with you, God. I know you love me as I am-and would totally ignore all the boxes on E-Harmony because they absolutely don’t matter. Boy, did Jesus nail down the lesson on judging with his disciples.
Is it fair that eHarmony decides and denies some wonderful relationships from forming? Why DO we have depression, self-pity, laziness, hypochondria, pessimism and recklessness among our Can’t Stand lists? What do we say about eHarmony REQUIRING us to pick ten? Will we, one day, tell our long-term partner, “Sorry you’ve become sick of self-pity, I can’t be with you anymore (Do you remember my Can’t Stand list when we met?)”? Share your thoughts in the comments.