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June 2008 Archives

Dear God: 5 Habits of Highly Effective Leaders

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Dear God, Today was Peter’s big day as recorded in the Gospel of Matthew (16:13-19): When Jesus went into the region of Caesarea Philippi he asked his disciples, “Who do people say that the Son of Man is?” They replied, […]

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Who Do You Say That I Am?

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John Dear writes a wonderful reflection on this question that Jesus asks his disciples in this week’s reading–Who do you say that I am?”–in his book “The Questions of Jesus: Challenging Ourselves to Discover Life’s Great Answers”: But who do […]

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Go Ahead, Challenge Yourself!

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I’m somewhat of a competitive person in nature, which is, most of the time, a real liability. But last weekend this quality of mine came in handy. I checked my work e-mail bright and early Saturday morning, and one had […]

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Seven Ways to Boost the Power of Your Goals

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The following is a summary of Dr. Beverly Potter’s book, “High Performance Goal Setting: Using Intuition to Conceive and Achieve Your Dreams,” on how to boost the power of your goals. Again, my only advice is to say that if […]

Sex and the City of Annapolis: That’s What Friends Are For

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I hate to disappoint you, but this post isn’t about sex. You already know all the details on my sex life, (and if you need a review, you can click here to read my post “Sex Night: Beyond Blue Balls.”) […]

12 Ways to Make Friends

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I was really sad to read that so many Beyond Blue readers don’t have four friends whom they could ask to compile lists of positive qualities in order to start a self-esteem file. It seemed that almost one-fourth of the […]

Mindful Meditation and Depression: Some Lotus Therapy

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Has your therapist recommended mindful meditation? If she hasn’t already, she very well might try to integrate it into your cognitive behavioral therapy by the time you graduate from counseling. The New York Times ran an interesting piece about the […]

Doctors Who Say They’re Sorry

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There was an interesting editorial in the New York Times last month (click here) about what to do when doctors err. All the malpractice suits has driven up insurance. Says the article: The willingness of doctors at several major medical […]

Dear God: Why E-Harmony Has Got It Wrong

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Dear God, In today’s reading, Matthew writes this in his seventh chapter (verses 1-5): Jesus said to his disciples: “Stop judging, that you may not be judged. For as you judge, so will you be judged, and the measure with […]

The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions

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Here are my favorite excerpts from Don Miguel Ruiz’s chapter on the third agreement (in “The Four Agreements”): The whole world of control between humans is about making assumptions and taking things personally. Our whole dream of hell is based […]

The Vocation of Marriage: Holy, But No Fairy Tale

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I was recently invited by my parish, St. Mary’s in Annapolis, Maryland, to write a reflection about the vocation of marriage. Since Eric and I are coming up on our 12th anniversary (this Sunday), it gave me an opportunity to […]

Evander and Fotini Lomke: Little Miracle

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In the book that Mike Leach and I compiled, “I Like Being Married,” we devoted a chapter to “In Good Times and Bad.” My favorite story in that section is about a couple, Evander And Fotini Lomke, caring for their […]

This I Believe: A World of Vibrant Colors

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NPR features a collection of inspiring essays in a series called “This I Believe.” On the plane ride to my college alma mater, Saint Mary’s College (across from Notre Dame), for my 15-year reunion, I read through some of the […]

This I Believe: Family Survives (By Holly Lebowitz Rossi)

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Interestingly enough, when I shared my essay with my editor (Beliefnet’s health editor) Holly, she said that she had written her own essay, as well. I was very moved by it. And thought you might be, too. In a way, […]

Going Personal In Public: Angelina Jolie-Style or No?

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Entertainment Weekly asked Angelina Jolie how she reconciles her former image (doing drugs, cutting herself, etc) with her current one (mom and humanitarian). She said: The reason I talked about going through certain pains or even cutting myself is that […]

Dr. Drew from Celebrity Rehab and Tom Cruise

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Also from Save the Assistant’s Lilit Marcus comes this interesting nugget … Dr. Drew, the psychologist/addiction specialist who runs the clinic on the TV show “Celebrity Rehab” said the following about Tom Cruise: A lot of people in the public […]

Dear God: On Becoming a Harvester

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Dear God, In today’s reading (Matthew 9:36–1:8), Jesus talks about harvesters: Jesus said to his disciples: “The harvest is abundant but the laborers are few; so ask the master of the harvest to send out laborers for his harvest.” I’m […]

Liberate Yourself From Your Fear of Happiness

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In “Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment” by Tal Ben-Shahar, Ph.D. (and thanks to my Guardian Angel Ann for sending me an autographed copy!): When we do not feel that we are worthy of happiness, we […]

Welcome, David Gibson!

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I don’t know if you’ve heard but David Gibson, the award-winning religion writer who is the Catholic expert in most (okay, all) circles ever since he converted at the age of 30, is now blogging for Beliefnet! His blog, appropriately […]

For Father’s Day: Zen Golf and Lessons for the Mental Game

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Since it is the Friday before Father’s Day, and I wanted to dedicate a post to all the devoted fathers out there, I thought I’d share passages of a very cool book that my mother-in-law bought for Eric awhile back, […]

Group Beyond Blue: Where Are All the Guys?

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Okay, so statistically speaking, there are more women than men who suffer from mood disorders. Having to do, maybe, with all the hormonal shifts we go through during our lives. Yes, PMS and all of it. But Group Beyond Blue […]

A Little Anger Is Good

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I think I’m getting stronger. I may in fact be growing in my recovery from depression and anxiety and addiction. Because I’m getting angrier more often. For a long time, I had no temper because I never demanded respect for […]

Therapy Doc: What’s Wrong with Anger?

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Fellow blogger, Therapy Doc, has great post on anger. I’ve excerpted parts of it below, but click here to get to her entire post. It will have you fuming!!! (Kidding, of course.) There’s another “new” development in therapy. New is […]

Group Beyond Blue: How to Express Anger

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There is a great discussion thread on anger started by Group Beyond Blue member Belleo that you can find by clicking here, or going to the group discussion board of Group Beyond Blue at Beliefnet Community. Thanks Belleo! To read […]

From Beliefnet

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Dear Readers– Due to a planned technical upgrade taking place on Wednesday June 11th, the Beliefnet Blogs will not display any new content, and commenting will be disabled. We aim to be back up and running by the end of […]

If You Can Dream…

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One reason I drag my kids to Lothian, Maryland (about 20 miles south of Annapolis) once a month to visit Fr. Joe Girzone, author of the bestselling Joshua series, is so that they believe me when I tell them that […]

Perfectionism: Are You a Success Slave?

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I spent an hour last week telling my therapist that I wasn’t a perfectionist, and that David’s disabling perfectionism had nothing to do with my behavior. That’s partially true. I’m not a perfectionist in that I’m a slob. My house […]

9 Steps to Let Go of Perfectionism

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Hara Estroff Marano suggests the following techniques in her article, “Pitfalls of Perfectionism,” to let go of perfectionsim: Perfectionists fear that if they give up perfectionism, they won’t be good anymore at anything; they’ll fall apart. In fact, perfectionism harms […]

Tell Us How You Feel!

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Beliefnet is running a survey about its social networking site. Since so many of you belong to our group there, Beyond Blue, I thought I‘d post a link to the survey that you can get to by clicking here. Thanks […]

Dear God: The Divine Physician

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Dear God, In the Gospel of Matthew (9:9-13), we read: While [Jesus] was at table in his house, many tax collectors and sinners came and sat with Jesus and his disciples. The Pharisees saw this and said to his disciples, […]

8 Ways Illness Can Be a Spiritual Practice

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In light of the gospel readings this week, I thought I’d post this gallery by Toni Weingarten: 8 Ways Illness Can Be a Spiritual Practice. To get to it, click here. Here’s the intro: Most people think of illness as […]

14 Signs of Bipolar Disorder

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In this excerpt from a recent Depression and Anxiety Bulletin, medical editor Karen L. Swartz, M.D., one of the physicians who evaluated me in Spring of 2006, reviews 14 symptoms of bipolar disorder. Formerly known as manic-depressive illness, bipolar disorder […]

Nancy: When Nothing Is Funny

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If you haven’t noticed already, I’m dedicating a lot of posts to the topic of humor lately. For two reasons: as I’ve said in so many posts, humor is central to my recovery, and second, to respond to those readers […]

5 Humor Strategies

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In the “America Fitness” article I quoted yesterday, I found a list of humor strategies by Joyce Saltman, a Gestalt therapist from Southern Connecticut State University, who believes laughter is a prescription for survival. Here are some of her recommendations […]

Video: When Was Your Last Shower?

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I kind of hate to go here, but I need to for those who are EXTREMELY depressed and their loved ones. One symptom of severe depression is a lack of all self-care, and, in particular, personal hygiene. In retrospect, I […]

25 Ways to Pamper Yourself

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I published this list of ideas on how to be good to yourself back in February when I celebrated “Pamper Your Inner Child Day.” But I thought it was appropriate to revisit some of these ideas that come from Beliefnet’s […]

Humor-Help Tool Bag

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I found the following “Humor-Help Tool Bag” at the website www.learnwell.org, which you can get to by clicking here. As the paragraph suggests, sometimes you have to help the humor along. Most healing humor arises spontaneously out of situations. But […]

Laugh Yourself Skinny

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So laughter can keep you happy and sane. It can also keep you skinny! That’s according to Our Lady of Weight Loss. Eric has been reading her newly released book, “All Is Forgiven, Move On: Our Lady of Weight Loss’s […]

Dear God: On Detachment and the 10 Commandments

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I want to thank Beyond Blue reader Margaret for mentioning that my “Dear God” posts are one of the reasons she keeps coming back to Beyond Blue, because, as you can imagine, these reflections are hard to write. They force […]

When Is It Okay to Lie?

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While we’re on the topic of breaking the ten commandments, here are a few thoughts on lying … Experiments have found that ordinary people tell about two lies every ten minutes. I don’t see how that’s possible, as I’ve been […]

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