Beyond Blue

Beyond Blue


What Is Beyond Blue?

posted by Beyond Blue

Okay, so my New Year’s resolution lasted all of 15 minutes.
I couldn’t resist publishing this description of Beyond Blue by reader Margaret on the message board of my “Biggest Thrills of 2007″ post, because it nails the mission statement or at least my vision of what we are all about.
I thought it appropriate to lay out who we are as we go into 2008, especially for newbies like Linda Marie.
Thanks, Margaret!

Linda Marie: Hello and WELCOME! By posting your confusion, you HAVE interacted, or at least begun to! INTERACT. As a “newer” family member perhaps it’s not my place to attempt to define us, but since i’ve never been good at “staying in my place”, I am, of course, going to add my two cents worth.
I see us as a place where we can all come, voice our fears and struggles, and receive feedback from others who also are struggling day-to-day to stay out of the throes of deep depression, which we refer to, thanks to Winston Churchill, as “the black hole,” “the abyss,” or “being trapped in the jaws of the black dog!” (All names which to me at least are quite apt and highly descriptive!
There are some “regulars” who always have insights/advice to share, and once in a while a “new” contributor such as yourself brings a fresh infusion of suggestions and sharing (nothing like “new blood”, right?). Since I began to relate to this family, I’ve received immeasurable support and understanding. The people here are “for real” and immensely caring about the struggles of a virtual stranger!
Here’s to your also finding something worth sticking around for! If you return daily, you’ll discover that Therese always manages to prompt a lively, meaningful discussion with her posts, and although we don’t all always agree with one another, there is a mutual acceptance/respect, and, for the most part, a shared faith in a Heavenly Father to whom we all matter!



Advertisement
Comments read comments(11)
post a comment
Larry Parker

posted January 1, 2008 at 7:58 pm


Yeah, that hits it, Margaret. That really hits it!
Wish I had written it :-)



report abuse
 

Anonymous

posted January 1, 2008 at 8:58 pm


Well Maggie … there ain’t a dam thing, that I can find wrong with that statement ! I might add “Love is the answer !” What exactly that is, is highly debateable, and can only be defined by your experience and God … And if you are with God in that search, you are in the best of company … “I AM, with you all days, even till the end of the world !”
LUV 2 U /LUV 2 ALL
Wisdum



report abuse
 

Margaret Balyeat

posted January 2, 2008 at 3:17 am


Wisdum: may I PLEASE ask you to refrain from the “Maggie”? It’s a nickname I’ve never liked and so therefore never used. Not sure why, I’ve just always abhored it. second only to “CarrotTop” or “Big Red” If you want a diminuative, I’ve gone by Marg” at times and that’s how my sisters all refer to me.(I outgrew the “Margie” years ago, although that was the name by which my niece and nephews referred to me until a year or two ago. (Prefaced by “Aunt” of course!) but know, even to them, it’s become “Aunt Margaret”
Larry, don’t feel badly; there are often times I feel the same about things YOU write! You truly DO have a gift for the written word, and if you’ll allow me a little prognostication, I predict that 2008 will find you out from behind the blockbuster counter and bacck behind a keyboard where you belong! Thats certainly my prayer, anyway. Your talents are wasted renting movies and video games!



report abuse
 

Marquos

posted January 2, 2008 at 4:35 am


Wow Margaret, thanks for saying it so well.



report abuse
 

Larry Parker

posted January 2, 2008 at 5:19 pm


Just for the record:
That was Therese’s joke about working for Blockbuster.
I don’t actually work for Blockbuster — the chain I actually work for is an upscale gift store. (Can’t give the real name — don’t want to get fired, small income stream though it is — although if you read my blog carefully, you’ll figure it out.)
I have to say, I’ve learned a lot, though! If one’s goal is a public relations job — as mine is — it’s not the end of the world to have the “lemons” of retail to learn some “lemonade” sales techniques from.
I was just complimented during a job interview today for being “a highly positive person.” If she only knew …



report abuse
 

Barbara

posted January 2, 2008 at 6:24 pm


I had to laugh at the note Margaret wrote about not being called Maggie. My sister-in-law has been the only one to call me Barbara Ann, a name I hate with a passion (the Ann part). She has undermined me, pulled my brother away from me, and always put me down when around me (she is extremely insecure). When I got a Master’s Degree, the arrows really flew. But I responded always in love, and this Christmas, she sent me an email and a card, both calling me Barbara. What a wonderful gift to never have to hear “Barbara Ann” again. Silly, but that name always meant Mom was abusive/mad at me, and the rejection was triggered every time I heard the name. Yippee, I get to have some peace, finally. At 70, I deserve it, don’t I? :)



report abuse
 

Margaret Balyeat

posted January 2, 2008 at 7:50 pm


Larry,
now I feel TRULY obtuse! Not only didn’t I get the joke, that time I didn’t even realize it WAS one!! I’ve “done my time’ in retail and undertstand exactly what you’re saying bout the experience veing an opportunity to perhaps grow From my own experience(s) I’d imagine your supervisor’s comment was predicated on you treating even “difficult ” patrons(And there’s an ntire spectrim of THOSE!) respectfully and making sure they felt positive about your company before they leaft the store; NOT an easy task,



report abuse
 

Anonymous

posted January 2, 2008 at 10:32 pm


Re -Margaret Balyeat | January 2, 2008 3:17 AM
Wisdum: may I PLEASE ask you to refrain from the “Maggie”? It’s a nickname I’ve never liked and so therefore never used.
** Sorry Margaret, I have a few friends, named Margaret also, that I Love very much, and the use that nick-name. Most people never use their full names, and that is because the only time their full name was used was when they were in deep doo-doo, as it was being screamed across the mountain tops (if you catch my drift !)… “Mathew Robert Albano! You get in here right this minute !” (and often some other very choice words also !)
Not sure why, I’ve just always abhored it. second only to “CarrotTop” or “Big Red”
** Wouldn’t have anything to do with that Rod Stewart song…would it? You think “Carrot Top” is bad, I had a red beard, and they called me “Carrot Bottom !”, My beard is white now, so they just call me old !
If you want a diminuative, I’ve gone by Marg” at times and that’s how my sisters all refer to me.(I outgrew the “Margie” years ago, although that was the name by which my niece and nephews referred to me until a year or two ago. (Prefaced by “Aunt” of course!) but know, even to them, it’s become “Aunt Margaret”
** Don’t you hate that when it all becomes so formal with you family children … I hate it when my daughters friends call me Mr. … I guess I’m just not into artificial meaningless signs of respect. Don’t it make you feel better when some kid says “Wow Margie! That was cool!” (or whatever the hip trendy expression it is that day !)
LUV 2 U / LUV 2 ALL
Wisdum



report abuse
 

Nancy

posted January 2, 2008 at 10:40 pm


Larry – It’s so great to hear you (or read you) on your perspective about your current employment. I think it is great that your attitude is one of taking this as an opportunity of learning and growth in whatever way will be incorporated to your advantage in the future for your employment.
I hope that did not come across as meaning that someone would need to learn how to get a product or a number of products, ring them up, run the charges through. That’s not my intent. I’m referring to dealing with people (ugh) throughout your business hours. I LOVE the part about the “highly positive person”. I’m chuckling here as though it’s our own little group joke about ourselves, and then your comment that they should only know.
You know what, they were lucky to know you today. I know that we are responsible to take care of our illnesses and so forth, but within that framework we are trying so hard to live life with these sometimes unpredictable patterns of our body/mind chemistry that we just can’t wish away.
There’s so much I want to write about, but I’m really tired. I had an awful day. My husband thought that I was genuinely going to have a heart attack at one point today. Honestly (oh – please no one reply to this next line) – at that point (and yes, I do know better and value life) – my head and body were exploding that bad fireworks that it would have been a reprieve.
I don’t want a heart attack and die. I don’t want anything like that. In fact, I don’t want all of the illnesses that I have. I was overwhelmed today in the office, then exhausted and frustrated, then beating myself up, then crying because this is all too much.
It’s done. It’s over. I won’t say that I’m fine (by the way – does anyone in the group know what FINE stands for?) but I’m not where I was this afternoon. I know I will not be truly ok until I get my work in order, and I have a job that feeds on my defect of “it’s never good enough or done enough” as the volume is huge. I am having my husband help me some, and I’m still drowning. It’s due to 2 things; my brother and my illness. Both of which I’m pretty powerless over.
Ok – so -goodnight all – if anyone figures out fine – let me know!!
I do love this group!!
Nancy L.
and p.s. – it’s Barbara and Margaret only !!
no nicknames unless otherwise approved!



report abuse
 

Larry Parker

posted January 3, 2008 at 12:48 am


Oh (((Nancy)))
I’m glad you wrote, though. (Given the circumstances, we would have been OK if it had been briefer — I know Mark Twain’s old joke about making it shorter if he had more time, though!).
It is a needed reminder that some of us are fighting multiple battles — yours with chronic physical illness, some with dual diagnosis of addiction, still others with PTSD from childhood abuse.
I can afford to say “one step at a time, one day at a time.” I have to remember you and so many other BB members (and so many others, period) aren’t so lucky.
No wonder you overwork yourself :-(



report abuse
 

Larry Parker

posted January 3, 2008 at 12:53 am


PS –
Speaking of Mat’s and Margaret’s friendly tiff about names …
Do all BBers know that “Larry” is not a nickname but my real name — no “Lawrence,” no “Laurence”? Furthermore, it’s not my first name, but my middle name?
And boy, did I used to HATE being called by my first name. Because I’m a junior, and everyone knows about my daddy issues.
I’ve gained some, well, grace about it over the years. (Signing thousands of checks with said “hated” name will do that.) My boss at the gift store likes to goose me by calling me by my first name, but I take it in good fun these days.
Easier, though, Barbara, when there are few popular songs about your first name (or even my middle/given name — “Hats Off to Larry” by Del Shannon is about it) compared to having a mega-Beach Boys hit that was further made famous on “Welcome Back Kotter” for everyone wanting to tease you to riff off of …
(Sigh.)



report abuse
 

Post a Comment

By submitting these comments, I agree to the beliefnet.com terms of service, rules of conduct and privacy policy (the "agreements"). I understand and agree that any content I post is licensed to beliefnet.com and may be used by beliefnet.com in accordance with the agreements.



Previous Posts

Seven Ways to Get Over an Infatuation
“Bewitched, bothered, and bewildered am I” wrote US songwriter Lorenz Hart about the feeling of infatuation. It’s blissful and euphoric, as we all know. But it’s also addicting, messy and blinding. Without careful monitoring, its wild wind can rage through your life leaving you much like the

posted 12:46:43pm Feb. 19, 2014 | read full post »

When Faith Turns Neurotic
When does reciting scripture become a symptom of neurosis? Or praying the rosary an unhealthy compulsion? Not until I had the Book of Psalms practically memorized as a young girl did I learn that words and acts of faith can morph into desperate measures to control a mood disorder, that faithfulness

posted 10:37:13am Jan. 14, 2014 | read full post »

How to Handle Negative People
One of my mom’s best pieces of advice: “Hang with the winners.” This holds true in support groups (stick with the people who have the most sobriety), in college (find the peeps with good study habits), and in your workplace (stay away from the drama queen at the water cooler). Why? Because we

posted 10:32:10am Jan. 14, 2014 | read full post »

8 Coping Strategies for the Holidays
For people prone to depression and anxiety – i.e. human beings – the holidays invite countless possibility to get sucked into negative and catastrophic thinking. You take the basic stressed-out individual and you increase her to-do list by a third, stuff her full of refined sugar and processed f

posted 9:30:12am Nov. 21, 2013 | read full post »

Can I Say I’m a Son or Daughter of Christ and Suffer From Depression?
In 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, we read: “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” What if we aren’t glad, we aren’t capable of rejoicing, and even prayer is difficult? What if, instead, everything looks dark,

posted 10:56:04am Oct. 29, 2013 | read full post »




Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.