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Group Beyond Blue: A Fresh Start in 2008

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I was inspired by Beyond Blue reader Suzanne’s message to a bunch of us in Group Beyond Blue, on Beliefnet’s Community site:

I’m just writing a quick note on this, the 18th Anniversary of my dear first husband’s death at the age of 35 to a sudden heart attack, to remind you that – 2008 is a chance for all of us to start anew, and think more of the needs of others than those of ourselves.
I hope you had a blessed Christmas, and wish you a blessed, healthy, prosperous and HAPPY NEW YEAR!



  • Jeri

    Yes, a new start. I wish all my Beyong Blue friends a happy new year. May be all be happy, healthy and wise in 2008.

  • CAROLYN

    I DON’T KNOW IF YOU READ THESE THERESE BUT, I WANT TO THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING, I AM BI-POLAR AND CURRENTLY GOT MYSELF ADDICTED TO PAIN-KILLERS AGAIN. I HAVE ALOT OF NEWYEAR RESOLUTIONS AND I KNOW IT’S JUST A DAY AT A TIME. READING YOUR BLOGS ALWAYS REMINDS ME I’M NOT MY DISEASE. TODAY’S POST HOW MOST PEOPLE DON’T UNDERSTAND IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR, I JUST FORGET SOMETIMES, AND SADLY WISH SOME PEOPLE COULD JUST SUFFER WHAT WE STRUGGLE WITH FOR LIFE FOR JUST ONE WEEK. ANYWAY THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. YOU ALWAYS HELP ME THROUGH MY ROUGH TIMES. YOURS TRULY,
    CAROLYN E

  • Lisa

    This isn’t a comment on this post, just something I’d like to share.
    I go to a Depressed anonymous group on Wed night and it really has helped a lot. I’ve never seen it mentioned here. It is a 12 step program started about 10 years ago by Dr. Hugh Smith. He wrote the DA book and that we use in meetings. A friend of mine is starting a 4th
    group in our town on Thur. Here is the website if anyone would like more info in starting a group.
    http://www.depressedanon.com
    It’s really a great support group.

  • Margaret Balyeat

    I have to remind myself (Maybe some of you do as wel_ that the ONLY thing over which I have control anymore in my life is my attitude conversely, If I DO control that; in truth I’m gaining control over a myriad of things..actually, ALL things that Can Be controlled. Acceptance of things which can’t be is the next step (sound familiar? Next to my first resolution, to learn to love myself, my only other goal this year is to LIVE the serenity prayer; mot especially the part about the wisdom. Okay, so I can’t really exercise…that’s one of those things I can’t change at this point. I CAN, however, be wise enough not to beat myself up about not doing it and accept the fact that it’s not something which is within my realm of influence! And that should help with resolution number one, if I can stop flogging myself over the unchangeable!

  • Marquos

    Carolyn E,
    Therese reads wverything, she is wonderful. No, you are not your disease. For a long time I got so into being Mentally ill, it defined my life, I was an MI and proud of it. While this can be good to a point, it traps you in a never ending cycle of self limitation. I now try to focus on my wellness rather than my illness. This has caused a rift with a good friend who resents me stepping out into the “real world” but it is something I must do. I sometimes say to myself when people say insensitive things about mental illness “You wouldn’t last a day in my life” Maybe its a kind of arrogance, but it helps. hang in there, be well.

  • Liz

    Let us look behind us with understanding, before us with faith—and around us with love.

  • Liz

    Many things about tomorrow
    I don’t seem to understand.
    But I know who holds tomorrow
    And I know who holds my hand.
    So if by some still small voice
    He calls me to paths I do not know,
    I’ll answer with my hand in His,
    “I’ll go where you want me to go!”
    Let us look behind us with understanding, before us with faith—and around us with love.
    I TRY!!!

  • Anonymous

    Re -Posted by: Margaret Balyeat | January 2, 2008 3:07 AM
    Nice thought Margaret ! A lot of what ales us (or is that ails us ?) is the frustration of not being in or out of control. And I am sure you ALL will agree that can drive you crazy and to all kinds of medication from drugs (both legal and illegal)to alcohol, and yes even work ! (I am a recovering workaholic, and would still be, if God did not slam on the brakes!) My saying, in this world regarding control goes like this
    “You can control no one in this world but yourself” ( and there is dam little of that !)
    LUV 2 U / LUV 2 ALL
    Wisdum

  • susan

    I TOO CAN RELATE TO THE ADDICITION OF PAIN MEDICATION AND XANAX AND ADAPECKS, FOR THAT HAS BEEN MY DRUG OF CHOICE FOR MANY YEARS AND GETTING OFF THEM AND GOING THROUGH THE STAGES THAT MY MIND TAKES ME ON WITH THE BYPOLAR EPSODES AND DEPRESSION HAS BEEN A REAL MIND BLOWING EXPERIANCE ONE I SOMETIMES DONT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN TO MY CONSULAR ONLY A FEW TIMES AND MY PHYC. DOCTOR A FEW TIMES TOO, SO THIS ALL IS NEW TO ME AND CERTAINLY A BATTLE OVER MIND AND BODY. WITHOUT THE PAINKILLERS I FEEL LIKE I AM GOING CRAZY AND I SEE THE BYPOLAR IN ME MORE THAN I EVER HAVE, AND SOMETIMES IT REALLY OVERWHELMS ME THAT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT, BUT I AM TRYING REAL HARD TO JUST PUT ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER AND TAKE IT “ONE DAY AT A TIME”. I AM GOING TO MAKE A NEW YEARS RESOLUTION REGARDING THIS MENTAL STATE I FEEL I AM GOING THROUGH BUT I WANT TO USE IT FOR THE GOOD OF OTHERS TO TRY AND HELP SOMEONE ELSE THAT MIGHT BE WALKING DOWN THE SAME PATH I AM AND THAT IS THE PATH I WENT DOWN ON SELF DESTRUCTION OVER OUR FAMILY’S FINANCES AND THE DESCRUTION I DID WITH MY BODY WHEN I TOOK CONTROL OVER MY EATING AND STOPPED EATING UNTIL I GOT TO 98 LBS WHICH NOW I AM UPTO 112 LBS SO I GIVE THE PRAISE TO GOD FOR HELPING ME TAKE THIS ONE DAY AT A TIME AND HE HAS BEEN BY MY SIDE THROUGH THIS ALL BECAUSE I KNOW I COULD OF NEVER DONE THIS ON MY OWN. GOD HAS ALSO GIVEN ME A WONDERFUL HUSBAND AND MOTHER WHO SUPPORTS ME EVERYDAY, AND A SON WHOM I BELIEVE IS JUST TRYING TO FIGURE AT WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HIS MOTHER (HE IS 6 YEARS OLD) AND HE IS NOT SURE WHAT EMOTIONS TO SHOW ME WHEITHER THEY ARE ANGRY EMOTIONS VERSES HAPPY EMOTIONS. MY SON HAS SHOWED THE ANGRY SIDE OF HIM FOR THE PAST COUPLE OF DAYS AND IT HAS BEEN SUPER HARD TO ACCEPT THEM AS WELL AS DEAL WITH IT BUT I AM TRYING.
    THANK YOU ALL AGAIN FOR SHARING AND CARING AS I FEEL MOST OF YOU DO ON THIS SITE. MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS AND TAKE CARE OF ALL OF YOU TODAY AND ALWAYS!!!
    SUSAN

  • Lynne

    I would make (if I actually thought I’d follow through) a New Year’s resolution to be kinder to myself. Then in turn to be a little more focused on the future. ( believing there WILL be one) Also putting my ideas into action. (The up side of being an imaginative dreamer) To be more pro-active and less reactive.(close the barn door before the X#$%&* cow escapes) Finally to be happier!

  • Steve Kirk

    Four years ago, I experienced a serious health crisis. Since then, I have come to realize that each day is to be cherished, savored and welcomed. Truly, we do not know when we will be called “beyond the blue” and I, too, believe there is something beyond. I am trying to put my ideas and beliefs into action and began a blog about my passion for senior adults: Making Perfect Sense, http://www.theperfectsense.com.

  • Jim Miller

    I have heard so many struggling with their (our) unhappiness with themselves. Thinking, “If I just work harder at this or If I can just keep this one new Year’s resolution I will be happy with my self and I will be better.”
    It may or may not be important to know what has brought you to a point of dissatisfaction with yourself; but it is undoubtedly important to know that you are worth the effort to move yourself toward self satisfaction. It is undoubtedly true that you are important to the people around you no matter how deeply you feel the opposite. It is undoubtedly true that you have had and will continue to have positive impacts on the lives of those near you.
    I have been working on being good enough for years and have come to the conclusion that either I already am and have been forever or I am not and never will be. Unfortunately I vacillate; but I spend more time now on the I am side. It is a conscious effort that I try to make every day. When I do this in conjunction with prayer it is much more effective.

  • Carole Barnett

    Jim,
    You have helped me Finally find my own New Life Resolution:
    “To make the effort to move myself toward self-satisfaction.”
    How right you are. We are definitely good enough! (or if not never will be…I will leave that part out for myself…got enough voices in there screaming!)
    Thanks for sharing,
    Teafully,
    Carole

  • Stardustiam

    Thank you, Therese, for all the help you gave to me/us this year. Thank you too for the excellent job of providing Beyond Blue to us. Many Blessings.

  • Shaff

    Help me out to find my soulmate, the gal with pious heart.

  • Blanche

    This is my first time on this site and I am very impressed. I thank everyone that helped me to feel good about a site that seems to be “comfortable”. Keep up the good work.

  • CLeo

    Every day is a new beginning for me. A calendar holds no magic, it only marks days and helps us organize our days, but it’s each day that matters. Not only because it could be our last one on this earth or could be the day we see everything in a new light or not. Maybe this day is the day when I see myself as a strong independent woman, the free person that came to this world many years ago. On that day a pigeon appeared in my home, out of the blue and disappeared, just as mysteriously three years later.
    Some have told me this was a good omen, that I’d be protected, that someone is watching for me. I can say that this is true for many things have steered me into the straight and narrow and kept me safe. I’ll try to remember the solid good acts in my life and live each day the best I can. If the opportunity arises to do good I will not waste it, however I’ll not go digging like a dog trying to escape his fenced yard, for happiness or for what most of us have been told it is happiness.

  • Susan Dudley

    TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN: I HAVE MAJOR CONCERNS FOR BRITNEY SPEARS. I HOPE AND PRAY, SHE TAKES ALONG LOOK AT HER HISTERY SHE WAS A VERY RESPECTFUL GIRL AT ONE TIME. SHE CAN FIND HERSELF, IF SHE WOULD JUST STOP AND LOOK AND REMEMBER HER SELF AS A BIGGER SISTER TO HER FAMILY JUST LIKE PEOPLE WITH CHRONIC HEALTH PROBLEMS THEY CAN’T STOP. BUT IF SHE WOULD FOCUS ON GETTING HER LIFE TOGETHER AND FIX HER AND THE CHILDREN, THEY NEED TO KNOW THEIR REAL MOMMY IS A CLASSY LADY. PLEASE BUT THE CHILDREN FIRST IS’NT ANY DRUG OR DRINK WORTH IT. I KNOW YOU CAN DO THIS, I’AM PRAYING FOR YOU. AND HOPEING GOD WILL SHOW YOU THE WAY.SINCERLEY, HOPE YOU FIND YOUR SELF. SIGN CONCERNED

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