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Larry Parker: How Do You Move Beyond Blue?

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If you’ve been reading Beyond Blue with any regularity, you know Larry Parker, because Larry is my most, um, vocal and frequent, commenter. He is extremely intelligent. Philosophical and sophisticated brains like his are the reason I kept my mouth […]

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Larry Parker: Wrestling With God

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This journal entry (blog post) of Larry’s can be found at http://community.beliefnet.com/blogs/1580 (with thanks to David Kuo of Bnet’s “J-Walking” blog for the inspiration … and apologies in advance to my non-Catholic/Christian friends online and off …) David Kuo, the […]

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Larry Parker: The Best Da*n Support Group

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And this blog post/journal entry of Larry’s can be found at http://community.beliefnet.com/blogs/1741. Since I wrote a valedictory to the city of New Brunswick in one of my last posts, I thought I would share another valedictory — the thank you […]

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The Best and Worst Christmas

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Patton Dodd, Beliefnet’s Christianity Editor, is compiling best and worst Christmas stories on a Beliefnet Community page (click here). It got me thinking about mine … My best Christmas was the first year that my dad and mom were separated–I […]

Video: On Perseverance

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WARNING: I do not look like my chipper (manic) self in this video. And I wasn’t going to let you see me looking this way, but then I got an e-mail from Beyond Blue reader Nancy, and she was really […]

Perseverance Versus Steadfastness

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Thanks to Beyond Blue reader Becky P. who explained the difference between perseverance and steadfastness on the comment board of “Dear God: On Perseverance“: I had a really hard weekend and I’ve noticed those too well known symptoms of my […]

Perseverance: An Antidote to Perfectionism

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Two other comments got me thinking about how perseverance is really an antidote to the curse of perfectionism that poisons so many of us with creatively-formed brains (isn’t that a nice way of saying it?). On the comment board of […]

December’s New Features

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I mentioned last week that I will be blogging about episodes of “Saving Grace.” I have two additional holiday features. For each day in December, I’ll provide a “Holiday Survival Thought,” just a fun way of reminding everyone (myself included) […]

World Peace in Annapolis

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Yesterday on the way to David’s kindergarten: “Mommy, why are we walking to school today?” “There are going to be a lot of cars downtown because the leaders of 40 different countries are going to meet at the Naval Academy. […]

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: The Apple Is an Apple

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Over the weekend, I was reading Beyond Blue reader Cathy’s interesting blog, “Growing Curious.” She described her not-so-great Thanksgiving in a wonderful post called “This Is Your Brain on PTSD“: I know I can be dramatic and all, but Thanksgiving […]

Therapy Ruins Everything

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Here’s another of Cathy’s post that I identified with. She’s right. Sometimes life is easier BEFORE therapy, back when you blissfully ignore the problems. Once you wake up to a Thanksgiving table full of dysfunctional folks (and we ALL are […]

10 Cognitive Distortions

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Below are 10 forms of twisted thinking according to David Burns, M.D., author of “the Feeling Good Handbook.” Another great resource for cognitive behavioral therapy is Recovery, Inc. Founded by Abraham Low, this program teaches techniques to analyze negative thoughts […]

Dear God: On Inheriting Light

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Dear God, In St. Paul’s letter to the Colossians (1:12-20), we read that each of us, your children here on earth, has a trust fund (yah!): Brothers and sisters: Let us give thanks to the Father, who has made you […]

Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night

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Composed by Welsh poet Dylan Thomas in 1951 Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Though wise men at their end […]

Not So Black Friday

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I’ve said this in prior posts: I don’t do stores in between Halloween and New Year’s. It’s not good for my health. So I’m not shopping today. I’m doing the second most dangerous activity to my health … traveling. Therefore, […]

Toys-R-Us Support Group

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For those of you brave enough to walk inside a Toys-R-Us today, here is a prior post on how the Gospel of Luke might be able to save your sanity if too many toys start talking to you. To read […]

Thanksgiving Prayer

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And courtesy of Beyond Blue reader Nancy: I am thankful for the wife who says, “Hot dogs for supper” Because she is home with me, not someone else. I am thankful for the husband who is on the sofa being […]

My Gratitude List on Thanksgiving

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1. A loving God I can’t hear most of the time. 2. A faithful and devoted husband who lets me publish our sex life online and allows me to share his dance techniques with my Beyond Blue readers. 3. Two […]

Saving Grace: Angels All Around

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I became a Holly Hunter fan back in 1993 when she starred in “The Piano” as a mute woman who leaves her native Scotland with her daughter and her piano. Music was the way to her soul, and Holly Hunter […]

Some Words for the Desperate

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Back on my post “16 Ways Depression Is Like a Pumpkin,” Beyond Blue reader Kathy wrote this: I have been reading Beyond Blue for awhile. You may give hope to people with minimum to mild depression. But apparently you have […]

His Suicide Saved Me

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I wanted to share Beyond Blue reader Julia’s comment that she wrote on the message board of my post “Dear God: On Getting the Right View” for two reasons: I was taken aback by her beautiful articulation of what it’s […]

Depression: Life With No Filter

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Also intriguing was Beyond Blue reader Mary’s comment back on my post “Mother Teresa: My Saint of Darkness and Hope“: I remember once reading in an article that said that people who are depressed have a more realistic picture of […]

Dear God: On Perseverance

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Dear God, Man oh man is there is a lot of doom and gloom in Luke’s Gospel reading for today (Luke 21:5-19). I thought I had my anxiety under control until I read the part where Jesus said, “All that […]

Ordinary Talent, Extraordinary Perseverance

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Sir Thomas Foxwell Buxton, the British Abolitionist, once wrote that “with ordinary talent and extraordinary perseverance, all things are attainable.” This EVEN applies to those brave souls who go for it, ALL of it, on “American Idol.” In my prior […]

Rita Arens: How Do You Move Beyond Blue?

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This week for Beyond Blue’s series “How Do You Move Beyond Blue?” I interview a beautiful young woman I met at the BlogHer convention in Chicago. She’s the accomplished, popular chick I told to slow down because she’s on the […]

When the Reframing Gets Tiring

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I think this is my favorite blog post of Rita’s because it addresses that feeling we all encounter … “I’m so blessed … so why am I depressed?” (Hey, that rhymes! blessed and depressed … cool!) I’ve been reframing my […]

Nicole Ritchie Has Nothing On Me

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I loved this post of Rita’s as well, especially these two paragraphs, arguing that eating disorders are NOT selfish: Eating disorders are selfish, and that’s why it’s so hard for people to be understanding. Outwardly, it seems the afflicted person […]

Potatoes With Your Prozac

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In her national bestseller “Potatoes Not Prozac,” Kathleen DesMaisons offers a seven-step dietary plan for sugar-sensitive people like me. I’ve tried to implement her suggestions into my diet because, as a recovering drunk and depressive, sugar can throw me into […]

Healthy Thanksgiving Recipes

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Whenever I hear the words “healthy” and “recipe” together, I get skeptical. It sounds an awful lot like “sweat-less exercise” or “tear-free therapy.” But the “healthy” recipes listed on the Better Homes and Gardens website sounded quite delicious and none […]

Beyond Blue: A Top-10 Psych Central Depression Blog

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Yeah! We’ve made Psych Central’s top-ten list for depression blogs. I’ve included the post below. You’ll see that three of my blogging buddies also made the list: James Bishop of Finding Optimism, Katherine Stone of Postpartum Progress, and Douglas Cootey […]

Foods to Boost Your Mood

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Some food is on your side! Yahoo! And not just carrots and raw veggies. I found the following “Psychology Today” article through Revolution Health. It shows the effectiveness of omega-2 fatty acids against depression. My doctor actually told me this […]

Video Problems

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Due to technical problems on YouTube, my video is botched up and I haven’t figured out how to fix it. So I’ll save it for next week or the following week. Sorry!!! I know … it’s Wednesday Video day. To […]

Foods to Feed the Soul Group

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My editor, Health editor Holly Rossi (check out her homepage here), leads a group on Beliefnet’s Community called “Foods to Feed the Soul.” Here’s a description: We all have our “comfort foods,” from mashed potatoes to roast chicken to steaming […]

40 Ways Aren’t Always Enough

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I apologize to all Beyond Blue readers who took offense to my post, “40 Ways to Keep Your Lover.” I should have provided a qualifier that I was merely having fun with Paul Simon’s idea of linking directives to a […]

Stick with the Winners

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After reading the newest study on obesity—that the risk for obesity increased 171 percent (that wasn’t a typo!) among persons with obese friends—I realized the wisdom of my moms words when she told my sisters and me in high school […]

5 Ways to Pick a Friend

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Thanks to reader Stephanie who sent me “It Is Better To Be Alone, Than In the Wrong Company” awhile back in an e-mail. It expresses the same wisdom that my mom articulated when she told me to “stick with the […]

4 Ways to Keep Friends (+Spouse+Kids)

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Who would have thought friendship would be so difficult once you leave your cozy college campus when you can catch up with friends on the way to class or in the dining hall over a cup of Jo. Now, like […]

Toxic Talk and Friendship

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“Isn’t personal conversation with girlfriends a good thing?” asks Washington Post Staff Writer Laura Sessions Stepp in a past story, “Enough Talk, Already.” Yes and no. This is what she found out: Social scientists are realizing that while talking may […]

Dear God: 40 Ways to Keep Your Lover

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Dear God, I have to be honest. I understood this week’s gospel about as well as I comprehended Sophocles’s “Oedipus Rex” and Aeschylus’s “Prometheus Bound” back in college, so I’m grasping at literary themes much like an engineering major thrown […]

Forget the Media on Marriage

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I really like what my friend James from “Finding Optimism” wrote on the message board of my post, “Marriage Is a Discipline,” regarding how to effectively keep his spouse around: My wife and I have been married for 13 years. […]

Loving a Bipolar Person

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I joked about the woman in the gospel being bipolar only because I can’t imagine the patience it takes to live with a manic-depression. Anna Bishop, James’s wife (from “Finding Optimism“) has written five outstanding posts on what it’s like […]

Thank You, Veterans

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I just wanted to thank each and every veteran on this Veteran’s Day for all their service to this country. And I also wanted to say those veterans suffering from mental illnesses–and there are many of them–are surely in my […]

John D.: How Do You Move Beyond Blue?

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This week, for Beyond Blue’s series, “How Do You Move Beyond Blue?” I am interviewing John D., who is a fellow mental-health blogger. His site, “Storied Mind,” is full of insights on a variety of topics: anger, tears, marriage, workplace […]

It’s Not Your Marriage

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John’s post, “The Longing to Leave,” is one of the most insightful pieces I’ve ever read about how depression can really mess up a marriage. Because when a person plummets into a depression, his first reaction is to look around […]

Depression At Work

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Another blog post I read with interest was John’s piece about how his depression affects his work performance. I’ve wanted to talk about that more on Beyond Blue, but frankly that’s more difficult for me to expose to readers than […]

I Need Your Input

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I have a few more people in mind to interview for Beyond Blue’s “How Do You Move Beyond Blue?” series. That should take me through the year. In January, though, I’m wondering if I should shake it up a bit–maybe […]

Sex Night: Beyond Blue Balls

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The sticker system I’ve been using on David—where he gets a sticker for good behavior, which translates into money toward a toy–has been working so well that last night I started Eric on one. We have, in our house, what […]

Marriage Is a Discipline

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My good friend, Sue, celebrates 55 years of marriage today. I asked her what, more than anything else, kept her and her husband together for so long. “Compromise,” she said. “And friendship.” “Oh, thank God,” I replied, “I thought you […]

Water Your Husband Like a Flower

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Reader Babs shared the following story with me back in June. The information hoarder I am, I filed it to use when I hit the topic of marriage. Voila! See? Clutter can come in handy! One day I was driving […]

Sex Gets Better With Years

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I also printed out reader Marty’s comment. Back on the message board of “The Myth of Safe Sex.” Because I found it consoling. Oh my god! There’s hope for me!?! You used the phrase “debunks the assumption that good sex […]

Equal Coverage For Mental Health?

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Related to the conversation on the message board of yesterday’s post, “No Joking About Crazy (Unless You’re Crazy),” here’s an interesting piece from the “Washington Post” on the disparity of coverage between health-care insurance benefits for those battling a mental […]

Speaking Out on College Campuses

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Also in yesterday’s “Washington Post,” was a wonderful article about the group Active Minds, founded by Malmon to promote dialogue about mental health on college campuses. She lost her older brother, Brian, to suicide in 2002, when he was a […]

No Kidding About Crazy (Unless You’re Crazy)

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I always love it when my Beyond Blue readers direct me to a piece of news that pisses me off. There I was … smiling as I checked my e-mail, a strong cup of coffee in my hand, and then […]

Claire Danes and Psychotherapy

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Thankfully, plenty of feel-good articles also get passed to me. Lilit Marcus send this article–about actress Claire Danes and her 22 years of therapy to overcome a neurosis that began when she was six. Here’s the Associated Press/ABC Action News […]

Seinfeld on Humor: To Break the Face

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Since I am such a huge Seinfeld fan–I swear the script writers studied my life before crafting each episode–I thought I’d include an excerpt from Jerry Seinfeld’s book, “SeinLanguage,” which I own, of course. I try to exercise his wisdom […]

Dear God: On Getting the Right View

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Dear God, In Luke’s gospel (Luke 10:1-10), Zacchaeus, a chief tax collector and a wealthy man, wants to see Jesus. But he’s short, and there’s a crowd around Jesus, like usual. So he climbs a sycamore tree to get a […]

Fr. Bede Jarrett, O.P. on New Vision

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The following mediation by Fr. Bede Jarett was the reflection for Sunday’s reading in my devotional, “Magnificat.” It’s excerpted from the book “He Dwells in Your Soul, Encountering the Living God Within You.” The vision has come; it cannot simply […]

Frank’s Self-Esteem File

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One Beyond Blue reader has already turned in his homework assignment! I’m waiting for the others. If you haven’t already written to four friends and started your own self-esteem file, then I think Frank’s assessment of his process will prod […]

Frank’s Self-Esteem File: Exhibit A and B

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Frank generously shared with me all of his letters that he received from his friends. I have to say that reading them was as much fun as reading my own. So with his permission, I’m posting three of his letters. […]

Side Effect #2: Weight Gain

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One of Liz’s most popular video blogs is the one in which she describes weight gain as a side effect. Since so many Beyond Blue readers have expressed this frustration, I thought I’d include it here.

Psych Meds and Weight Gain

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A few months ago, I featured an interview with Dr. Sanjay Gupta on this very topic of weight gain and psych meds. To read the interview I excerpted from the Winter 2007 issue of the Johns Hopkins Depression and Anxiety […]

About Light Therapy

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From “Getting Relief From Light Therapy” in the Fall 2007 Johns Hopkins Depression and Anxiety Bulletin: After years of lurking on the sidelines of depression treatment, therapy with bright light is finally winning a more prominent place in the arsenal […]

Light Therapy: Some Instructions

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Also from “Getting Relief From Light Therapy” in the Fall 2007 Johns Hopkins Depression and Anxiety Bulletin: Bright-light therapy involves sitting in front of a bank of full-spectrum fluorescent lights for 30-60 minutes each day. To be maximally effective, the […]

Cheap Light Therapy

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Karen Swartz, M.D., offers some light-therapy options for those on a tight budget: • A light on a timer. If your experience with SAD includes difficulty getting out of bed in the morning, try putting a lamp in your bedroom […]

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