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To Everything There Is a Season

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I have always loved the verses of Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, and throughout October and November I say them daily. The beautiful words are attributed to Solomon, which isn’t surprising since, according to the Bible, God granted him abundant wisdom. Not Wisdum. […]

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Happy All Saints Day! Be Yourself

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Halloween is actually a religious holiday—it’s the Eve of All Saints Day (All Hallows Eve). But the only person dressing up as Mother Teresa was the most precious little girl I saw last year at a Barnes and Noble’s costume […]

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Halloween Blues: No Kid to Dress Up

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So often in life the grass seems greener on the other side of the septic tank (that was Erma Bombeck’s line, not mine). I’m sitting here right now totally envious of my single girlfriend who just jetted off to the […]

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Guardian Angel Ann’s Advice to Childless Women

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Since I can’t totally empathize with Suzanne—having two little blessings in my life that I scream at too often—I sent her comment to my guardian angel, Ann, because I know that not being able to conceive and bear children of […]

Empty-Nest Depression

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Even women who have conceived, bore, and raised kids of their own experience depression when they are no longer in an active mothering role. I have to be honest, I can’t really relate to that right now from where I’m […]

Dear God: On Humility of the Right Kind

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Dear God, In Luke 19:10-14, Jesus told this parable of the healthcare insurance representative, I mean tax collector and the Pharisee, who we already know is going to be the bad guy based on all of Jesus’ other stories: Two […]

The Cracked Pot: NOT Crack and Pot

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In keeping with the theme of being a tad messed up, but using the mess toward some holy end, here’s a lovely Buddhist story about the purpose of a cracked pot that reader Lisa shared on the message board of […]

Crazy George and Hidden Blessings

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I also loved this comment from reader Lynn on the message board of my “You Are Not Your Disease: You Are Not Your Pot” post. My schizophrenic partner for many years has lived in his pot, or I should say […]

Peter V. Rabins, M.D., M.P.H.: How Do You Move Beyond Blue?

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I often focus on women’s issues with regard to depression–hormonal triggers, people-pleasing, guilt, motherhood, and so forth—because, statistically speaking, more women than men suffer from depression. But, as you can read from the message boards, Beyond Blue has many male […]

Male Depression: Symptoms to Watch For

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Also in the Fall 2007 issue of the “Johns Hopkins Depression and Anxiety Bulletin,” a closer look at the symptoms of depression in men, and how they differ to classical symptoms most often found in women: It is difficult to […]

Depression Without Sadness

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Here are some classic symptoms of depression: • Persistent sadness or anxiety • Difficulty concentrating and remembering things • Fatigue and diminished energy • Changes in sleep and appetite • Feelings of hopelessness, guilt, and/or worthlessness • Thoughts of death […]

The Beyond Blue Community: A Circle of Friends

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I’m really excited about Beliefnet Community, which launched two weeks ago, because it gives the community of Beyond Blue all kinds of possibilities to grow and deepen. When I wrote in my last post that many of my supportive friendships […]

Beliefnet Health: The Place to Be

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So after I stole, I mean shared, all of Holly’s friends, I decided to model my page off of hers. Except that I really couldn’t because there is a ton of stuff that she does that isn’t even related to […]

Video: Katherine’s 4th Birthday

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Liz Spikol over at The Trouble with Spikol wrote a great blog post a few days ago that she actually LIKES office meetings. Because they are a reminder to her of how far she’s come. Birthday parties accomplish the same […]

Hormonally Triggered Mood Disorders

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On the message board of my interview with Katherine Stone, author of the blog, Postpartum Progress, reader Cindy (I can’t believe I found it!) wrote this: Is it possible that the postpartum depression can turn into something that can last […]

Mothers Act Blog Day

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Today, Wednesday October 24th, BlogHer, Postpartum Support International and Postpartum Progress are joining together to host Blog Day for the MOTHERS Act. They’ve asked bloggers from around the country to write about the MOTHERS Act for postpartum depression today and […]

Cancer and Depression: It Sucks (But You Knew That)

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A few weeks back, a Beyond Blue reader asked (I can’t find the comment, sorry!), “What do you do when you are afflicted by BOTH cancer and depression? Your twelve steps work great for healthy people. But what do you […]

Cancer and Prayer: They Need Each Other

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Michelle writes in “Any Day with Hair Is a Good Hair Day“: Whatever your beliefs are—or aren’t—it’s just as important to nourish your soul as it is to feed your body. For whatever reason, it’s often when we’re in crisis […]

(Like Depression) Cancer and Self-Talk: If She Can, You Can!

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In “Any Day with Hair Is a Good Hair Day,” I loved the story about “The House of a Thousand Mirrors” that Michelle tells at the beginning of her section on “Maintaining a Positive Attitude without Feeling Like a Human […]

Learning Recovery Tips from Cancer Patients

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In a previous post called “Six Things Cancer Patients Have Taught Me,” I outline a few techniques I have borrowed from my friends battling cancer. I realize the two are different in many ways, but many of the same recovery […]

Breast Cancer Prayers and Mantras

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In honor of National Breast Cancer Month, Beliefnet (actually, I think my editor, Holly, did it, but I’m probably not supposed to say who) compiled a beautiful gallery of prayers, mantras, and simple words of comfort for those who are […]

Dear God: On Praying, However Imperfectly

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Dear God, In Luke’s gospel Jesus tells his disciples this parable: A widow begs a crooked judge for a just sentence against her adversary. After lots of badgering and nagging, the judge says, “Dang, Lady, I’m tired of you. I’ll […]

Insights on Prayer and Depression

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Check out the message board of my post “Depression and Prayer” (by clicking here) to read some interesting insights from Beyond Blue readers about this topic. I wanted to post them all here, but I don’t have room! Besides, it’s […]

Jane Chin, Ph.D: How Do You Move Beyond Blue?

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Jane Chin’s website was one of the first in the mental health field I discovered, and I’ve been so impressed with the prolific work she does with Chinspirations.com–which includes 18 (that’s right!) of her own blogs, and, more specifically, with […]

You Are Not Your Disease: You Are Not Your Pot

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One of my favorite posts of Jane Chin’s is her essay, “I’m Here to Remind You that You Aren’t Your Illness,” about breaking free of her “pot,” or her past and all the negativity associated with her struggle with depression, […]

Nancy on Acceptance and the Serenity Prayer

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There is an interesting discussion going down on the message boards of my posts “Complaint-Free? NOT!” and “A Complaint-Free World (an excerpt).” Like Larry Parker, Margaret, and Babs–the “regulars” whose comments I’ve featured on Beyond Blue–reader Nancy has a persuasive […]

12 Depression Busters

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A few Beyond Blue readers have asked me to post the 12 Depression Busters gallery that Beliefnet featured back in July into a blog so that they can print them out. (By the way, it got 43 diggs! Not that […]

Video: Family Therapy and Charts

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I should have thought about this before procreating: every plant left to my care has died, and our dogs took over six months to house train. I figured that since the dogs didn’t die, Eric and I were ready for […]

Kay Redfield Jamison on Psychotherapy

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I often wonder what it is, exactly, about psychotherapy that is so crucial to my recovery. I wish I only had to go to the self-help section of a bookstore or sit down for coffee at a friend’s house to […]

Find a Spiritual Therapist

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If I weren’t a clutter magnet in an information-hoarding crisis at the moment, I’d be able to find my print-out of a Beyond Blue reader’s comment who wanted to know how to go about finding a spiritual therapist. More on […]

Charles Schulz: Melancholy and Laughter

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Last week there was an article in the “New York Times” about the spat between David Michaelis, the author of the biography of Charles M. Schulz (creator of the “Peanuts” comic strip) released this week by HarperCollins, and the Schulz […]

Stephen Colbert: Laugh When You’re Afraid

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With the suicide attempt of Owen Wilson a few weeks ago, I’ve been thinking a lot about humor and depression—about how so many of us depressives use wit as a remedy for our melancholy. “If we couldn’t laugh, we would […]

Owen Wilson: Darkness Invisible

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Thanks to reader Larry Parker for directing me to the story “Darkness Invisible” by Daphe Merkin in the New York Times Magazine last month. It is a powerful commentary on the public’s response to the suicide attempt of Owen Wilson. […]

Tumor Rhymes With Humor

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Tomorrow my very good friend Michelle’s book on cancer, “Any Day With Hair Is a Good Hair Day: How to Get Through Cancer and Get On with Your Life (Trust Me, I’ve Been There),” is released! I’ll talk about it […]

Dear God: On Saying Thank You

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Dear God, You sound a lot like my late (earthly) father with today’s lessons on manners in Luke’s gospel: Ten lepers had been healed, and yet only one returned to thank Jesus. So Jesus turned to that man–a Samaritan, of […]

Blog Action Day

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As part of Blog Action Day–a collaborative effort in cyberspace to raise awareness of environmental issues, I’m republishing a post I wrote back in February, when it finally got cold outside. Global warming is a huge issue of anxiety for […]

St. Teresa of Avila’s Feast Day

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Thanks to reader Sunshine who reminded me that today, October 15 is the feast day of St. Teresa of Avila, one of my very favorite saints! In memory of her loving faith, I’m republishing her “Bookmark” prayer, which is as […]

Ken Duckworth, M.D. (PART 4): How Do You Move Beyond Blue?

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Following is the fourth and last segment of my interview with Ken Duckworth, M.D., the medical director of the National Alliance for the Mentally Ill (NAMI) that I was afforded through a blogger call hosted by Revolution Health. For Part […]

Neurobiology: New Models For Depression

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I’m facinated by this “circuit-board” model of major depression–the connection between specific sets of nerve cells in different regions of the brain–explained by researchers like Helen S. Mayberg, M.D., professor of psychiatry and neurology at Emory School of Medicine. And […]

More on Deep Brain Stimulation (DBS)

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For more information on deep brain stimulation (DBS), click here for excerpts from Johns Hopkins’s interview with Helen S. Mayberg, professor of psychiatry and neurology at Emory University School of MEdicine.

Perfectionism: My Brick Wall

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Douglas Cootey over at The Splintered Mind recently wrote a poignant article about the brick walls in his life. He quoted Randy Pausch, a Carnegie Mellon University computer-science professor who had recently been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and given only […]

Perfectionism at BlogHer ’07: It Wasn’t Pretty

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Speaking of perfectionism, I thought you’d appreciate this story from the BlogHer convention I attended back in July. As I mentioned in an earlier post, sometimes these events can bring out the insecure, pimply seventh-grader in me, the one the […]

Babs On Perfectionism

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At the BlogHer conference (when I could actually listen to the speakers instead of obsess about my numbers), I learned the importance of giving my readers a chance to speak because Beyond Blue is more of a community of support […]

The Problem with Perfectionism

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One of our Beyond Blue readers, NYJLM, has a great blog herself, called “So Love Is Hard And Love Is Tough” that you can get to by clicking here. I loved her blog on perfectionism: Yesterday I baked and cooked […]

Rumi On Perfectionism

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There were some really interesting comments on the message board of my post, “Perfectionism: Ring the Bells.” I especially liked this one, from reader Chris: I understand the perfectionism/OCD connection. I struggle with it constantly. A friend told me recently […]

World Mental Health Day 2007

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I just discovered a great new blog for those of us with creative brain wiring: “Let’s Get Happy” written by Deborah Robinson. I learned of it while visiting Jane Chin’s wonderful site, Mental Health Source Page. Deborah writes about World […]

Complaint-Free? NOT!

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Our happy car was on its way to West Virginia to visit my in-laws, when Julie, my sister-in-law, spots Katherine’s purple “a complaint free world” bracelet. “Katherine, have you promised not to complain for 21 days?” she asks her niece. […]

A Complaint-Free World (an excerpt)

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In all fairness to Will Bowen, I really should include an excerpt of his book, “A Complaint-Free World: How to Stop Complaining and Start Enjoying the Life You Always Wanted.” If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t […]

The Paradox of Happiness

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Studies suggest that it’s better to be content, in general, than happy. In other words, the guy with the BMW is the first to complain about his faulty air-condition, not the guy in the beat-up Dodge Neon. The happiest person […]

Dear God: On Writing Down the Vision

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Dear God, Thanks for reminding me today in the reading from the Book of the Prophet Habakkuk (1: 2-3, 2: 2-4) that I need to write down my vision—so that I can see that it really will come to fulfillment, […]

On Writing Away Pain

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My prayer today reminded me of a past blog post I wrote, “One Artist’s Way Out of (Mild) Depression” about Julia Cameron’s classic book, “The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity.” According to her, nurturing one’s creative powers […]

My Faith Video Again

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I’m indebted to my Beliefnet editors who featured my self-esteem video last week as a lead. But I wanted to include my “Why Faith?” video, again, too in case you missed it. The next one is coming on Wednesday. (I […]

Ken Duckworth, M.D. (PART 3): How Do You Move Beyond Blue?

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Following is the third segment of my interview with Dr. Ken Duckworth, the medical director of the National Alliance for the Mentally Ill (NAMI), that I was afforded through a blogger call hosted by Revolution Health. After this segment, I […]

On Psychosocial Treatment for Bipolar Disorder

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I found the following information about the STEP-BD study (to which Dr. Duckworth refers in my interview above) on the psychosocial treatment of bipolar disorder at the NAMI website. To get to the original source and learn even more about […]

Depression and Addiction: A Very Bad Combo

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As a recovering alcoholic with bipolar disorder, I’m always looking for information on how the two are related, which illness is responsible for what behavior, and how their treatments might collaborate or clash. One of the best overviews I’ve read […]

Ready to Clean Up Your Act?

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Back in January, when we make New Year’s resolutions to clean up our act, I read this article in the Washington Post by Anita Huslin about understanding some of our bad habits. And then I filed it with the rest […]

Prayer of St. Francis of Assisi

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Since today is the feast day of St. Francis of Assisi, I wanted to post his prayer, one of my very favorites. Lord, make me an instrument of your peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there […]

Britney Loses Her Kids: Addiction and Mental Illness

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As of today Britney Spears loses her kids according to the L.A. County Superior Court Judge Scott Gordon. My reaction is probably likes yours: Part of me says, “Well I sure as hell hope this wakes her up to her […]

What Made Me an Addict?

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A month ago, the Washington Post ran an excellent article by Maia Szalavitz entited, “So, What Made Me an Addict? Experts Debate Whether Disease or Defect Is to Blame.” This question is so crucial to how we treat persons suffering […]

The Science of Addiction

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Back in May, Time magazine did a fascinating cover story on the new brain research helping us to understand how so many of us get hooked to alcohol, drugs, gambling, and so on. By zeroing in the cause, brain experts […]

Video: Why Faith?

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When Mike Leach and I compiled our book “I Like Being Catholic,” he listed ten reasons why a person should raise her kids Catholic. One was so that, as teenagers, the kids would have something to reject.When Katherine and David […]

A Religious Mind

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I came across this excerpt from John Henry Cardinal Newman just as I was thinking about why I hang onto my religion even in its disappointing moments. A religious mind is ever marveling, and irrelgious men laugh and scoff at […]

Dear God: You Got My Attention, Please Advise

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Dear God, I can’t say that I like today’s reading in Luke … about the rich man and the poor man, Lazarus, who sat at fat daddy’s door devouring the banana peels and chicken bones falling from the feasts of […]

Guided Meditation: A Testament

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Just as I was contemplating some big questions yesterday, I pulled out the book, “Hearts on Fire: Praying with Jesuits,” and read this beautiful reflection by Anthony de Mello, the late Jesuit from India who conducted countless workshops throughout the […]

Katherine’s Update

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Just so all my Beyond Blue readers know, my story has a very happy ending. Katherine had a severe case of croup, a viral illness or laryngotracheobronchitis (its formal term) that is common in children ages six months to three […]

The Feast of St. Therese

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Because it is the Feast of St. Therese today, I wanted to share some quotes of hers with you. Interestingly enough, I met Eric on the feast of St. Therese, which consoles me on those days he says things like: […]

Shower of Roses

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One of the first pieces I wrote about my depression was called “Shower of Roses,” about my devotion to St. Therese. I was so pleased when Jim Manney, senior editor at Loyola Press (who also just published Jim Martin’s book […]

A Little Child Before God

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One reason that I love my patron saint so much is that she is about becoming a child before God, and given that I am so childlike (idiotic) in so many way, I like this notion of being a baby […]

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