In order to be true to oneself—or (more accurately?) to avoid disaster—sometimes a person has to separate herself from those she loves in order to be able to love them (and herself) even more.
I just read about that yesterday in my devotional:

Do you think that I have come to establish peace on the earth? No, I tell you, but rather division. From now on a household of five will be divided, three against two and two against three, a father will be divided against his son and a son against his father, a mother against her daughter and a daughter against her mother, a mother-in-law against her daughter-in-law [now, there’s a no-brainer! Read “How To Relate to In-Laws“] and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. (Luke 50-53)