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March 2007 Archives

Reader Response: Grab the Lifeline!

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Thanks to reader “No Name” for his question on the message board of my “He Was Ill” post: “My last therapist (a nun) told me that “it was my purpose in life to suffer.” I don’t buy that for a […]

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Reader Response: Our Growing Support Group

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Thanks to all the readers who wrote heart-felt responses to my post on the recent suicides of comedian Richard Jeni and Brad Delp, lead singer for the band “Boston.” I’m so delighted that this blog has grown into a unique […]

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Celebrity Depression, Spiritual Lessons

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In case you missed this gallery of celebrities, here’s what I’ve learned from those public personalities who have the courage to share their mental health struggles with the world.

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Reader Responses: Thank You!

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Wow! Have you guys read through all the comments on my “Plucking the Seeds of Anxiety” post? They were fantastic! They brought me the combined relief of two months of therapy, two bottles of Zoloft, five hard-core workouts, three weeks […]

Recovery Inc.’s Tool Box

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Thanks so much to reader Peg, for steering me to Recovery Inc.’s Tool Box! As I mentioned in an earlier post, my great aunt GiGi, who was one of my mental health heroes, owed her life to Recovery Inc. and […]

Catch Me on Sirius

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I’m going to be appearing regularly on Sirius radio, on the Catholic Channel to discuss my Beyond Blue posts that have Catholic themes. I’ll let you know when my next appearance is so you can tune in.

The Dangers of Head Sex and the Emotional Affair

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Believe it or not, extramarital “head sex”–the emotional bond formed with a secret lover of sorts–may be worse (at least for depression) than real sex outside a marriage, according to Peggy Vaughan, author of “The Monogamy Myth” and creator of […]

Resources for the Emotional Affair

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I’ve found several excellent articles on the topic of emotional cheating. Here are a few of them: “Is Your Crush Harmless? 7 Signs of Emotional Cheating” by Carly Young, at LifeScript.com. “Love But Don’t Touch” by Mark Teich in “Psychology […]

Breaking Up From an Emotional Affair and Moving On

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Here’s what the hospital therapists/nurses advised Marjorie to do about her emotional affair: 1) Since the affair had crossed that hidden and tenuous line into a physical relationship (with the kissing), she should sell her portion of their engineering business, […]

Sorry, Wrong Number

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I dialed a number the other day, and got the following recording: “I am not available right now, but thank you for caring enough to call. I am making some changes in my life. Please leave a message after the […]

Just Say No (Between Two Yeses)

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“‘No’ may be the most powerful word in the language, but it’s also potentially the most destructive, which is why it’s hard to say,” says William Ury, director of the Global Negotiations Project at Harvard University, and author of “The […]

Jesus Had Boundaries Too

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Even Jesus had to erect some boundaries. In Matthew 14:13, he withdrew from the crowd in a boat. And do you really think he fled to the desert for 40 days to fast and pray? Don’t you think maybe that […]

Plucking the Seeds of Anxiety

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I have ten topics in mind that I want to write about right now: the value of humor, not taking things personally, the relationship between food and mood. But those are just ways to avoid what I’m really feeling at […]

Letting Go of Anxiety

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Bestselling Christian author Max Lucado writes about why worry is an expensive habit and how God can help us overcome it. Click here for an excerpt from his book, “Traveling Light.”

Blue Politics

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Is it my imagination or is the entire White House on Prozac as of late? Don’t get me wrong, with every disclosure of a prominent and successful depressive, I dance the Macarena. But I’m just wondering if by going into […]

Dogs Versus Husbands

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A dog has three things on a husband: he is happy eating the same meal every night, he doesn’t talk back, and he doesn’t want sex. Which is why, on the really bad days, I prefer the company of my […]

Holy Dog?

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Back when Mike Leach and I were compiling “I Like Being Catholic,” I remember reading a prospective essay by a man who claimed his dog had led him to God. I immediately placed it in the “reject” pile because I […]

Everything I Know I Learned From My Greyhound

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One study says that people choose dogs that resemble themselves. Eileen Mitchell thinks that’s a good thing. Because everything she needed to know she learned from her greyhound. Click here to read her story.

St. Pat: Patron of Sobriety

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How ironic that I got sober on one of the biggest drinking days of the years. As my friends cut class to drink pints of green beer and get drunk with college boys in bars near the campus of the […]

HBO’s Addiction Project Debuts

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HBO’s The Addiction Project, which the network calls “an unprecedented multi-platform campaign aimed at helping Americans understand addiction as a chronic but treatable brain disease,” debuts Thursday, March 15 at 9 p.m. ET with its feature film component, titled “Addiction.”

‘He Was Ill’

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“One only needs to have a family member or friend with a mental illness to understand that there is nothing rational, predictable, or fair about these diseases…. He was not down or blue, he was ill.” That statement was just […]

What I Can Learn From Gov. Patrick

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Massachusetts Governor Deval Patrick must have memorized Don Miguel Ruiz’s classic, “The Four Agreements“–a book introducing the wisdom of the ancient Toltec, a Mexican tribe of scientists and artists–because it appears he’s got the first agreement down: “Be Impeccable with […]

Kitty’s Shocking Story

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I was so moved by these excerpts that I read from Kitty Dukakis’ memoir about her battle with depression. With the help of medical journalist Larry Tye, Kitty shares how controversial shock therapy treatments saved her life.

The Price to Serve

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You might want to sit down for these unpleasant statistics. According to an investigation by the “Hartford Courant“: In 2005, 22 soldiers killed themselves, accounting for nearly one in five of all Army non-combat deaths. (25 in 2003.) A number […]

Prayers for Soldiers

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The following prayers are from “A Prayer Book for Soldiers and Sailors.” FOR GOD’S HELP Grant us, O Lord, in all our duties thy help, in all our perplexities thy counsel, in all our dangers thy protection, and in all […]

Rosie, My New Best Friend

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I’ve always loved Rosie O’Donnell for her courteous and tactful wit. But now I want to hang photos of this comedian all over my desk because, as a fellow depressive gone public, she has just made my job of educating […]

Celebrity Meltdowns

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If you think Britney Spears is the only one breaking down in front of the camera, read this article in Psychology Today in which Art Buchwald writes candidly about his depression and introduces a few others–like Greg Louganis, Ted Turner, […]

Reader Response: I Like Being Catholic!

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We’ve had quite a lively discussion on the comments board of my guilt post. It appears I’m not the only one with a guilt complex. But please let me reiterate this point: I do like being Catholic! I like it […]

Play (or Listen) the Blues Away

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Caught in a terrible conundrum of whether I should break my diet over New York Super Fudge Chunk or Chunky Monkey at Ben and Jerry’s yesterday, I was reading the different fliers pinned to the community bulletin board inside this […]

Treating Ills with Music

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I found a fascinating article by William J. Cromie in Harvard University’s “Gazette” about the different studies that have been done on music to treat a variety of different illnesses. Click here to read it.

The Healing Power of Music

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A singer with the popular Christian band Avalon tells how he uses faith and music to get through tough times in Beliefnet’s article “It Is Well with My Soul.”

Guilt: My Confirmation Name

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Thank you to reader Peg, who, in addition to her remark about Recovery, Inc., posted the following comment: “As a cradle Catholic and one who was raised in a girls’ Catholic boarding school for 10 years (from ’49 to ’59), […]

A Confession About Confession

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“The sacrament of Reconciliation is a place to bring all of our chaos into contact with the healing love of the Lord Jesus,” writes Kathryn J. Hermes in her excellent book, “Surviving Depression: A Catholic Approach.” Several people–even my therapist […]

Ten Forms of Twisted Thinking

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Both David Burns (bestselling author of “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy” and Abraham Low (founder of Recovery, Inc.) teach techniques to analyze negative thoughts (or identify distorted thinking) so to be able to disarm and defeat them. Since Low’s […]

Generation Me Me Me

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There is such a thing as having too much self-esteem. I would like to have that problem, just as I would like to say, “I must have a high metabolism or something, because I just can’t seem to gain weight. […]

Ten (or Eleven) Days to Self-Esteem

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Each summer I pick a project. Last year’s was to develop my self-esteem. According to David Burns, that should only take ten days. But nine months later, I’m still not there. From June to August last year, this was the […]

The Real Self

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Abandoning your self-esteem in an act of freedom–letting go of the false ego to find the true self–is what an Indian holy man and a pioneer in the dialogue between Christianity and eastern religions named Swami Abhishiktananda (Can you imagine […]

The Hole

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Consider these words by Henri Nouwen: “There is a deep hole in your being, like an abyss. You will never succeed in filling that hole, because your needs are inexhaustible. You have to work around it so that gradually the […]

Go Into the Pain?

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Now that I have mocked the meditation of one of the most prominent Catholic theologians of our time, let me say that I adore Henri Nouwen’s stuff. Because it is so raw and real. A friend of mine told me […]

Gibran on Pain

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Speaking of pain, I love what Kahlil Gibran writes about pain in “The Prophet“: “Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. “Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand […]

No Boo Hoo in the Cube?

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Thank God I’m self-employed, because I just read an article by Michele Himmelberg that says it’s uncool to cry at work. During the year of my depression, that would have been like saying I wasn’t allowed to pee at work. […]

Should You Tell? By Amy Joyce

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Awhile back, we discussed whether or not a person should disclose depression or another mood disorder to a prospective employer. Amy Joyce wrote an excellent article on this topic in the Washington Post. She discusses several things to consider before […]

Life Balance Journal

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Talia reprints an excerpt from her book, “The Art of Calm,” on her blog today that describes how to keep a “life balance journal.” Using the four categories of diet, recreation, nurturing, and relaxation, Talia helps people avoid burnout, depression, […]

Ten Years

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Thanks to all of you who asked about the ruling on the motorcycle accident case for which I almost served as a juror. The defendant faces a maximum of ten years in prison. I cringed when I read this statement […]

Move With the Cheese

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Human beings are creatures of habit, which is why Spencer Johnson sold more than ten million copies of his book, “Who Moved My Cheese?” Business executives sit down to PowerPoint presentations based on it, and depressed patients watch the “Who […]

Merton’s Cheese

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The Trappist monk Thomas Merton was able to articulate in beautiful language so many of my struggles as a mentally ill person stuck in destructive thoughts and patterns. The following passage from one of his letters (published in a collection […]

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