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Craig and Britney

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I had just finished my article about my three biggest fears in raising a daughter today–Britney, Paris, and Lindsey–when I checked out the brilliant monologue by Craig Ferguson on YouTube.

He says something like this, for all of you who can’t listen to the entire twelve-minute clip: “I’m no longer going to make fun of Britney, because I was once there.”

As a recovering alcoholic and as a depressive, I was so moved by his words, his humility, his poise.

How brave of him, as a respected comedian, to say: “Guys, lets not judge, because we don’t exactly have it together either. And there but by the grace of God, go I.”



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Babs

posted March 1, 2007 at 2:13 am


Thanks for the Ferguson video. He sums up my thinking and expresses it so much better than I could do. Brittany, and others like her, deserve prayers, not jeers.



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A Cunningham

posted March 1, 2007 at 6:45 pm


This is fabulous. What a guy. It was fascinating to feel the pull of the audience toward the big laugh, but Ferguson held on to the tension for the whole twelve minutes and gave everyone so much to think about. Huge thanks for this. Great find.–CM



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A. Stelling

posted March 1, 2007 at 9:20 pm


Much love to Craig! I felt his passion and care for Britney in his opening speach and many more people with these types of circumstances. Thanks for saying what we’ve all been wanting to say. (at least some of us). Congradulations on 15 years sober Craig!!!



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Greg

posted March 1, 2007 at 10:38 pm


I showed the monologue to three different media classes earlier this week. One of the students, an active writer and reporter, already responded with the comment that simply watching it was a “life changing” experience for him. Wouldn’t it be nice if this short monologue changed the way media covers human-interest stories in general?



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matt c

posted March 1, 2007 at 11:12 pm


Thank You Craig, I’m sober 1yr 3/1/07 thats on top of 18mo. (started 6/06). Its been the best 2&1/2 yrs of my life You sum it up 12 min. I hope the whole world will see this and show it to others. God Bless You! The media has no compassion for these Stars in trouble. These stars are real people!



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Suzanne Winter-Austin

posted March 2, 2007 at 2:50 am


While commending Craig and the others who admit to alcoholism, I believe I can come to this from a different angle. I personally believe Britney is suffering from a mental illness, like mine, which is bi-polar disorder. I had a “drinking problem” while taking very strong antipsychotic meds, and I quit, cold turkey, because I didn’t want to “wake up dead” one morning from the mix. Britney, as Craig says, is only 25, has two babies under 2, is fighting a nasty divorce, and has found a “freedom” – no one is telling her “No.” I do hope she will check herself into a psychiatric facility – and STAY. I agree, Britney needs our prayers for a complete recovery; but she also needs our sympathy and not derision. You go, girl!



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Teresa. u.k.

posted March 2, 2007 at 9:32 am


I was very moved by this video. I found it inspiring. I am glad that craig feels this way, but i do wonder why its taken him so long. Better late than never.



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carol

posted October 4, 2007 at 10:53 am


Craig really understands his disease! What an inspiring message! I really pray for Britney Spears. I am 1 year sober Oct.26th 2007. I’m 43 and wish I could have been Britney’s age when I stopped, but I had to go down the path to get to where I am now. I get tired of hearing the jokes and criticism of her problems. I really wish her well and pray that God finds a way to help open her eyes to what she is doing to herself. No one can make a person do anything..especially when it comes to admitting they have a problem. Many people were “prayed” into the rooms of AA..and Britney needs to find her own bottom and way out. I wish everyone would have a little more compassion for her and quit with all the jokes, that just adds fuel to the fire. God Bless her and Craig Ferguson!



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Maria

posted October 4, 2007 at 11:21 am


What a wonderful message. Its easy to kick someone when they’re down like the media is doing. they are thriving on Brittanys actions. Why? Because it sells more???
This young mother of 2 needs people to send good thoughts to her. Show compassion. Its sad to see anyone of out control. But its especially sad when people thrive on making fun of it.
Like Craig said…we all know someone. Do we laugh and kick them when they’re down, knowing they have a problem? No, at least I hope not. We try to be there for them. Help them in any way we can.
How DARE our society and media think they are above people like her. No one is better than anyone else. The only difference between her problems and anyone elses is that its publicized.



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Anonymous

posted October 4, 2007 at 12:30 pm


I have compasinate for Ms. Brittney Spears, she’s only human and entitle to make mistakes (haven’t we all) Brittney was caught up in to fame/attention from her fans,got caught up she needs our prayers/encouragement rather than criticism.
by Linda Glover.



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Geri

posted October 4, 2007 at 3:19 pm


I feel so bad for Britney. Why don’t they just leave her alone so she can get some help.
I certainly agree with Craig. Onlyy those of us who have been thru something like can understand what she is going through.
I Pray to our LORD and SAVIOUR that HE gives her the want to and the strength.
No, it will not be easy. Nothing that is really worthwhile doing is easy. But if she has the proper medical help and GOD on her side and our prayers, I think she will be on her feet in no time.
GOD Bless Graig and Britney and of course all of us others who have gone thru these problems.



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LESLIE

posted October 4, 2007 at 4:40 pm


I HOPE AND PRAY THIS IS A WAKE UP CALL FOR BRITNEY SHE HAS HAD PLENT OF TIME TO GET HER LIFE STRAIGHT AND SHE DID NOT DO THAT SHE THINKS JUST BECAUSE SHE HAS ALL THAT MONEY THAT EVERYTHING WOULD GO HER WAY BUT NOT THIS TIME IT IS ABOUT TIME THAT SHE KNOW THAT JUST BECAUSE SHE IS BRITNEY IT DONT GO HER WAY SHE SHOULD HAVE DONE WHAT SHE COULD TO KEEP HER KIDS BUT NO SHE JUST THOUGHT THAT SHES BRITNEY AND EVERYTHING WOULD GO HER WAY MAYBE THIS IS A WAKE UP CALL FOR EVERYONE I HOPE AND PRAY THAT SHE GETS HER 2 BOYS BACK WAKE UP BRITNEY………..



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angel

posted October 4, 2007 at 5:08 pm


This is good advice.
Who is This Man? Craig….
I could not see video, but I would like to know more about Craig…
Empathy, Love and Support…..
This is a secret problem, but like everyone is saying unless you have been through it, nobody knows what HELL AND DESTRUCTION IS?????
Many blessings for those whose families have seen this .
There is treatment and that is where Brittney comes in to get that treatment and be a spokesperson for the young people and NAMI…..



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Joan

posted October 4, 2007 at 6:02 pm


Asfor me, I intend to say a few prayers every day for this girl who hasn’t had a chance in the world to be a grown up mentally healthy person.



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Johnny Blakely

posted October 4, 2007 at 6:03 pm


As A recovering alcoholic myself, I specifically admire your lack of hesitancy in admitting that you’re in recovery yourself. Thank you. My problem was that I had become a person completely wrapped up in himself and, as such, I had become a very small package. Ms. Spears seems to be headed to where I was and, like me, she has no idea that’s where she’s headed. When completely ego-centric, I become a spiritual dead end. Anything that came to me stayed right here and could only benefit me for a very short time before becoming something that I stressed about losing or became completely bored with. I’ve never had the money or power Ms. Spears seems to have but I believe that, if I had, I’d be dead now. Until I become a conduit for God’s love and grace and begin to attempt to see what I can bring to life rather than what I can take from it, I have no chance to live to good purpose or to be truly happy. Happiness comes from giving and sharing; you don’t give a child a teddy bear so that he/she can get love from it but rather that they can learn to express love to it. It’s all about going out; not coming in. I, too, pray for Ms. Spears and admire tremendously Craig Ferguson. To truly receive the benefits of sobriety and my relationship with God I have to be willing to share what I’ve found with anyone. This is true for people in the public eye as well as for obscure figures such as me. Thank you again.



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Veronica

posted October 4, 2007 at 8:14 pm


As a mother I think brittany should think about her kids first before anything. I’m also sick I try my best to put my kids first always. She shouldn’t think that just cause she has money she can get here way.



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JOANN

posted October 4, 2007 at 8:21 pm


I AGREE WE SHOULD NOT JUDGE I DO BELIVE BRITNEY HAS PROBLEMS I ALSO BELIVE SHE WAS NOT READY TO HAVE BABIES WERE IS HER MOM I NEVER SEEN HER MOM WITH THESE BABIES WHEN I LOOK AT BRITNEY SHE LOOKS SO ALONE AND SAD THEN I HEARD HER AUNT TALK ABOUT BRITNEY THINKING THAT SHE MIGHT BE LIKE NICOLE WELL LETS NOT WAIT AUNTIE LETS HELP YOUR NIECE NOW NOT WAIT UNTIL ITS TO LATE THIS IS A YOUNG WOMAN WHO IS HURTING VERY BAD I BELIVE THE GUY SHE MARRIED HAD ALOT TO DO WITH THE WAY SHE IS NOW HE WILL SET BACK AN COLLECT WHAT HE CAN AND NOT HAVE TO WORK A MESSAGE FOR BRITNEY MOM GO TO YOUR DAUGHTER HUG HER TELL HER YOU LOVE HER AND GET HER HELP AND GET HER BABIES BACK AND PROMISE HER YOU WILL HELP HER SHE LOOKS SO ALONE I WISH I COULD HELP HER I HOPE AND PRAY THAT THE BABIES WILL BE OK BRITNEY IF YOU READ THIS I WILL BE THINKING ABOUT YOU TURN TO YOUR MOM AND GOD FOR HELP IM A MOM AND I WOULD WANT MY KIDS TO TURN TO ME NO MATTER WHAT THERE AGE IS BECAUSE THATS WHAT A LOVING MOM DOES. JOANN



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Linda

posted October 5, 2007 at 1:25 am


Craig Ferguson has exemplified the humanity we should all possess. It is easy to stand in judgment,but to be compassionate, offer understanding and to be helpful requires more. Each person has the power to help someone in their daily lives, sometimes as little as a smile or a helping hand can change a persons whole day or life. I do not endorse bad behavior nor it’s acceptance.
Let’s all be more compassionate, offer help instead of criticism. It just might make a difference.
Thank you Craig for speaking out with courage and human kindness.



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Kathy

posted October 5, 2007 at 2:54 am


Hello— I am glad to see a small glimpse of thought heading toward a possible truth that not all people wish to destroy themselves and countless others because they simply choose to. I think we ,as a society ,see the young people in “high society” so to speak, and look at the them and laugh and judge. I believe some of us like to believe it is something that only effects those with too much money and too much free time. I may be going out on a limb, but i truely believe that anyone could find themselves in the same position.I believe that if we had the same amount or even a portion of this exposure on our problems we too would have our most difficult and heartbreaking issues exploited as entertainment.We as a society are in large part to blame for this exposure,we feed off of it at times and sometimes maybe it makes us feel better about ourselves. At least we are not doing what “so and so” is or has done.
As far as Brittney Spears goes my opinion is that this is a very sick young woman who needs a tremendous amount of help and support. Not some one to be made a mockery of and to be judged and have her family judged. It does no good,it is the chiken and egg theory,it simply doesnt matter where it came from. It needs to be addressed and helped. There are 2 small children now who are not only being exploited by the media but are in a horrible place to be–even at there small age. I believe children know and pick up on alot more than we want to admit.
I have worked in the mental health and addiction field for 17 years. I can assure you- I -have never seen anyone “helped” by being made a mockery or example of. It takes love,not necessarly forgiveness but empathy and a willingness to work with people dealing with demons in their lives. I believe we all have them and can,for myself,right at this moment can think of quite a few things I would not want to deal with in the judging public eye. An empathic public eye would be more helpful but hard to find. However,I think it is a possibility.
I have rattled on here and will end with this. The next time we see someone in the spotlight who we find ourselves judging,laughing at or even thanking “Someone or something” that we are not in their positions,try to mentally put ourselves in that position. Remember being laughed at when in high school or not being picked until last for a team in 6th grade. All of us have something and if not,think of someone you love being mocked and judged for being sick in public. If none of these options help you out I would say try making about 10-15 bagged lunches and going to a train station,a public area where homeless and sick people may be. Try handing them out and talk to these people for a few minutes. Despite all, WE ALL ARE EQUALLY HUMAN.
Kathy



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sharon goettl

posted October 5, 2007 at 5:18 am


Everyone needs to grow up, ever think about the publicity? She has never had one ounce of privacy, her problem is no excuse.
Maybe now she will realize what she has lost, time heals all wounds.
Give her a chance. Hopefully she will realize, no individual is perfect. I have faith in her, everyone should also.



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A loving mom

posted October 5, 2007 at 9:49 am


I sincerely feel sorry for Brittney. I had a daughter in a simular situation. She smoked some pot. The father of my granddaughter filed for temporary custody of my grandbaby. Then, by agreement, she gained shared custody and the court is set for permanent custody. When my daughter left the situation she was in, the father told her they would talk the next day but before they could talk, he went to an attorney and filed for custody.
His family is wealthy and my daughter wasn’t. As a matter of fact, he wanted it that way. He didn’t want her to have a car or a home. He didn’t want her to have friends or family or go to church. He wanted to control her and he didn’t want anyone to know what was going on behind “closed doors”.
His family is in the “adult entertainment” business and this is all they know. He is out all night at strip clubs and bars and she and the baby were there alone. She never smoked pot when the baby was with her. He was very controlling and made her make copies of her time card and bring to him. He went through the trash looking for a reciept to see if she stopped at a store before coming home.
Since this time, my daughter lives with me. She became active in the Church and renewed her relationship with God. She is back in college and has a year to go to get a bachlors degree. She works 2 part time jobs that will work with her schedule at school and with her daughter.She is the best mother in the world and would do anything for her baby.
The morale of my story is don’t give up on Brittney. She needs love and support from her family. She needs to get help for her disease. She needs to find out what is causing her to want to do the things she does and to deal with the underlying issues. And her mom needs to be with her every step of the way.
I think instead of judging Brittney, we should all pray for her and her children. Pray that God will take control of her life again and she will get her priorities straight. Pray for good family and friends to be beside her as she goes on this journey. That’s what I am going to do.



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Doris Hickey

posted October 5, 2007 at 5:52 pm


As an 65 year old mother, grandmother, and R.N., I feel the media is destroying Britney and hope her family comes together soon to take her by the hand to a rehab center? She needs to get rehab for a few months and go back to her roots in La. with her babies and give them a real family life and lose the fake friends she has made there in Hollywood, who have not helped her in any way. No one cared to help Anna Nicole, they used and abused her until her death and hope this is not the same end for Britney? Please whoever has the power get this young woman help soon, the help she is crying out for. She had the talent before and when she gets past the drug abuse she can come back again if she even wants to? God bless you Britney you are a viable person, who just has lost the way with two beautiful sons, who are more important than anything in your life right now.



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Lee S Brown

posted October 6, 2007 at 8:43 am


Thanks Craig for your experence, strength, and hope. Finally glad to see compassion hard at work. Congrads on 15 yrs of recovery. My sobriety date is May 20, 2001.
Freind of Bill W. – God Bless 0:>)



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Kenneth Hoffman

posted October 6, 2007 at 9:51 am


What Britney or anyone else in her situation would need is a close relationship with someone who loves her and would not let her get addicted. Sad, of course.



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maria white

posted October 6, 2007 at 1:41 pm


my goes out to Britney, i think the media should leave her alone, no one can past justment on others person, instead of hurting her they should be helping her, she is a human being in need of love,understanding, she need a loving hand to show her the right path. all of ua need a good friend, we never should forget Jesus words, love one another as i have love you. Britney my prayers are with you and your childrens.love Maria white



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joanna

posted October 8, 2007 at 10:47 am


I am so glad to see all these positive comments about Britney, and wish she could be aware of all the people who are pulling for her, and not the ones who have been trying to destroy her, and her talents. I won’t even comment about her husband, who has more problems than she does and is a control freak in the worst way, to boot ! God bless those little babies ! They are so beautiful. Joanna



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Diane

posted October 16, 2007 at 12:30 pm


This was the bravest and most real thing I have seen on TV. I applaude Craig for sharing his story and for calling others to do what is right.



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Nancy

posted October 19, 2007 at 7:04 pm


I am so glad you posted that into your blog Therese….he tells it like it is, with the humor us Alkies need to see through the dark hole, and the message is extremely powerful.
The best think I ever did for myself was pick up that phone and find out where there was a AA meeting at.
My life is SOOOOO different then it was for 27 years!
Nan



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Rayhaneh

posted January 10, 2008 at 1:02 pm


As a fellow adddict currently seeking long term treatment to fix my thinking problems, I was so moved by Craig’s heartfelt talk. I am so glad to have found that today, it was something I think my closest loved ones need to read so I sent the link to those that do not understand my poor thought processes. Can’t say I understand them either, but it was somthing I needed today.



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