Beyond Blue

Beyond Blue


“Loving them when you don’t like them” is especially useful to remember when doing such maternal tasks as potty-training a stubborn three-year-old, or dragging two oppositional kids through the grocery store. It can work when dealing with explosive personalities within the family, or interacting with alcoholics and sisters that you don’t understand. It even suffices when a family member or friend makes a stupid comment about depression, which happens a lot around here.

The “loving them” directive reminds me of the poem “Anyway” that Mother Teresa posted on the wall of Shishu Bhavan, the children’s orphanage in Calcutta:


“People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.”

  • http://HASH(0xce444f8) Iris Alantiel

    Amen, Therese. God knows that there have been days when depression has made me a person people have not liked, but have loved anyway.

  • http://HASH(0xce45450) noneed4greed

    With the laws we have today,men don’t have a choice.With governments keep squeezing more money out of us,and wages still under $10 an hour from years ago,what choice dose man have especially with judges having us give hundreds of dollars to the women. Then coming along and giving them even more from government to live on.It just makes a man laugh at society.

  • http://HASH(0xce5d138) Tasa

    Aloha- I enjoyed your “column”. Please note that although “Do it anyway” was attributed to Mother Teresa, it was really written by our class president from Roosevelt High School here in Honolulu, HI. His name is Kent Keith and the name of the book is called “Do It Anyway”. Please give him credit for this. The words are spectacular to me, and thank you for writing what you have. I found your words useful and comforting. Thank you.

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