Becoming Great

Becoming Great

Facts vs. The Truth

posted by Pervis Taylor, III

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One of the biggest “A-Ha” moments of my life came to me when I was sharing with a friend some deeply personal hurts. She said to me ” Pervis that may have been the facts of your situation, but that by no means is the truth of who you are.” I remember sitting in my pain and frustration and trying to understand what she meant.  She continued, “Wilma Rudolph was born with polio. That’s a fact. But the truth was she was an Olympic Champion.”

Think about it for a second.  How long have you and I been living our lives based on the facts and circumstances that have happened to us versus the truth of who we are?  Whenever I speak to a group of students or adults I always say, “It’s not what has happened to us that defines us, but what we choose to make happen that defines us.”  If in this moment you’re finding yourself living based on the facts and not the truth, it’s okay.  You can break that cycle by shifting your focus from what was to what can possibly be.

Begin to dream and step into your future.  Who would you be if everything had gone your way? Guess what? You can be that person.  When we live in the truth of who we are that’s when the magic really happens.  God, in his infinite wisdom often allows certain unfavorable things to happen to us. Not to harm us, but to build us up and position us for the life he has laid out for us.  It’s really a matter of switching gears in our mindsets from facts to truth.

As an exercise, I want you to think of a time that you believed something wasn’t possible based on the facts.  Then I want you to think about a time you overcame the facts with the truth.  Write down how that made you feel and explore that moment.  You’ll discover that if you can do it once, you surely can do it again.

Remember we have the ability to not only change our world, but the world as a whole….BE GREAT!!

Until Next Time,

Pervis

Pervis Taylor, III is an Author, Life Coach, Speaker and Contributor. His books Pervis Principles Volume 1 and 2 are available exclusively on his website: www.pervistaylor.com/author. He is the creator of the inspiration/life coaching mobile app, I-Inspire, available for IPhones, Ipad and Ipod Touch via: www.pervistaylor.com/i-inspire/. He resides in New York City. Follow him on Twitter @pervistaylor or Facebook www.facebook.com/pervistaylor3.

 

Defining Moments

posted by Pervis Taylor, III

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During an interview for a prominent publication, the interviewer asked me what were the defining moments in my life that led me to the place I’m currently in.  I though long and hard about the question because it seemed that I’ve had so many moments in my life that shaped and molded me into the man I am today; some for the good and some for the bad.  I answered her question, but it got me to thinking about us as humans and our defining moments.

The defining moments in our lives are not always positive at first, but they are designed to take us towards greatness.  The problem occurs however, when we see them as negative and thus let them (the moments) take us away from our greatness.  Case in point for me I was bullied, called all sorts of names.  But it wasn’t until a friend let me borrow Mary J. Blige’s My Life album, in the midst of my pain, that I discovered my love for soul care.  If I allowed those negative circumstances to define me I would’ve missed out on what I now know to be my purpose.

I don’t want to minimize the impact of those negative defining moments (the positive ones are equally as important), but what I am saying is its all about your perspective.  One of my clients experienced great tragedy from early childhood that left deep scars.  But he used the scars as fuel for a now successful art career.  It’s really about perspective.  I always say it’s not what happens to us that defines us but what we choose to make happen that defines us. Today shift your perspective about those events in your life and see where you can turn them into power.

Remember we have the ability to not only change our world, but the world as a whole….BE GREAT!!

Until Next Time,

Pervis

Pervis Taylor, III is an Author, Life Coach, Speaker and Contributor. His books Pervis Principles Volume 1 and 2 are available exclusively on his website: www.pervistaylor.com/author. He is the creator of the inspiration/life coaching mobile app, I-Inspire, available for IPhones, Ipad and Ipod Touch via: www.pervistaylor.com/i-inspire/. He resides in New York City. Follow him on Twitter @pervistaylor or Facebook www.facebook.com/pervistaylor3.

 

 

Tell the truth (don’t avoid)!

posted by Pervis Taylor, III

Today I ran into a an acquaintance of mine at the store. It was good catching up with him, but while we were talking I kept sensing this overwhelming feeling that he was perplexed. I asked him what was wrong. After giving me the usual “nothing’s wrong” lines he finally caved in and shared that he was having a problem with a friend of his.

What was interesting about his story was not that there was an interruption in the relationship. However, it was the way he was handling the situation that really concerned me.  He told me that his friend really hurt him and this was a series of hurts that have built up over time.  I asked him has he took the time to share with his friend. He replied yes but, he didn’t fully express the degree of hurt it caused him.  Thus, he began avoiding him. That’s the problem.

Too often in life we don’t express to those closest to us how  we’ve been deeply hurt. We’d rather avoid.  I’ve found in coaching clients and especially those in relationships, we only share to a degree.  We won’t allow ourselves to become fully vulnerable.   We protect ourselves  (by avoiding) and won’t allow us to go past a certain point.  I told my friend that the reason why his friend may have been aloof to the situation is that he didn’t fully express how deeply hurt he was by his friend’s behavior.

Part of being great is being responsible for our feelings and making sure we are living in the truth.  The truth was my friend was hurt by his friend.  He asked for my advice. I simply told him” you have to take care of you in a healthy way, not a coping way.”  See its easy to avoid the person or just be done and cut them off (while there are certainly appropriate moments for this, this is not one).  But to truly take care of ourselves we must be brave and vulnerable and tell those who’ve harmed us that they’ve harmed us.  I’ve witnessed over and over again when couples really come clean and express their hurts to one another that healing truly begins for both parties.

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In life the harder thing to do is usually the righteous thing to do.  All that to say, if you find yourself in a place where you’re avoiding someone because you’re afraid to speak the truth of your hurt, you’re doing yourself a disservice as well as the other party.  In short, telling the truth is a growth opportunity that should never be missed.

Remember we have the ability to not only change our world, but the world as a whole….BE GREAT!!

Until Next Time,

Pervis

Pervis Taylor, III is an Author, Life Coach, Speaker and Contributor. His books Pervis Principles Volume 1 and 2 are available exclusively on his website: www.pervistaylor.com/author. He is the creator of the inspiration mobile app, I-Inspire, available for IPhones, Ipad and Ipod Touch via: http://pervistaylor.com/i-inspire/. He resides in New York City. Follow him on twitter @pervistaylor or facebook www.facebook.com/pervistaylor3.

 

Celebrate

posted by Pervis Taylor, III

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In the journey towards greatness its important to recognize where and how far you’ve come in life. Too often we get so destination oriented  that we miss the blessing because we are so caught up in the end result.  You can never celebrate what you didn’t appreciate. If you don’t appreciate the journey, you will never fully feel the joy of life.

I’ve had the pleasure of meeting some extremely successful people and even developed some meaningful relationships with some.  As a student of life I always solicit any advice that they could provide.  While I’ve gotten numerous responses, the one common piece they all say is enjoy the moment.  Why? Because, success comes at a feverish pace that if you are not prepared for it, it can take you out.

One of the most fascinating interviews I’ve seen was when Oprah Winfrey interviewed author, J. K. Rowling.  They covered a lot of things, but what stood out was when J.K. asked Oprah if she enjoyed her success and how did she get to that place.  Oprah recounted the story of Michael Jackson when he recorded Thriller, that he had no idea that it would be the biggest selling album of all time.  Thus, he spent the rest of his career chasing after Thriller and never took a moment to enjoy the journey.

While that is an extreme example, the principle is still the same.  We must celebrate our journeys.  Imagine you’ve just landed from a long trip and you have a 4 hour lay over.  How do you spend your time? Are you thinking about what you’re going to do when you get to your final destination. Or perhaps, could you sit down relax and treat yourself to lunch or dinner at the airport? Neither choice is bad, but one is rooted in relaxation and joy,while the other is rooted in anxiety.

It’s important to know that we never arrive in life.  While each achievement may seem  like the thing that’s worth celebrating. In reality it’s who we became in the process to the journey.

Remember we have the ability to not only change our world, but the world as a whole….BE GREAT!!

Until Next Time,

Pervis

Pervis Taylor, III is an Author, Life Coach, Speaker and Contributor. His books Pervis Principles Volume 1 and 2 are available exclusively on his website: www.pervistaylor.com/author. He is the creator of the inspiration mobile app, I-Inspire, available for IPhones, Ipad and Ipod Touch via: http://pervistaylor.com/i-inspire/. He resides in New York City. Follow him on twitter @pervistaylor or facebook www.facebook.com/pervistaylor3.

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