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Because This Is Your Life

At times it can involve forbidden taboos.

To others it’s no big deal  at any time.

And then you have the people who see it both ways depending on the situation.

Now let’s consider what happens when you bring something that magnifies it all…such as a TV.

Well not just any ordinary TV.

Picture this…

If your  life were broadcasted on 24 hour TV and the world got to see everything you do…would you care? Would you have a problem with that?

In other words…

If the entire world had the opportunity  to see you live your life 24 hours a day…would you be able to love the things about yourself that you would ordinarily want no one else to know…those things you usually do all you can to keep private?

Have you ever thought about this in some way?

Whether you have or haven’t, to some degree   you reveal parts of your private self to others in your public life.

So the question is…

How often are you taking your privates public?

1. The Adjusted American

There’s an interesting  book I just read called the Adjusted American. It was written back  in 1964 and is about the normal neuroses in individuals and society.

Early on in the book it talks about how most people are VERY much concerned with what others think of them…and how this is not a healthy habit. It also goes on to talk about how humans have the need to be recognized.

While the book title  may reference Americans, what they talk about applies  to humans throughout the world…

And this ties right in with the idea of you being on 24 hour world TV.

Think about it…

How many times have you been in a situation…maybe you were at the store…at work …in a crowded area…or perhaps you were about to stand up in front of a room full of people to give a speech…

And you had thoughts like…

“What if they notice I’m overweight ?””What if they notice my skin  is sagging?”

“What if they think I talk funny?”

“What if they _____________?”

Whatever it was in your situation it still left you feeling very concerned about what others think.

Now here’s the fascinating part of this…

Most people…even those who you’re worried about what they think of you…most of the time are so busy with what others think about them…that they’re actually not thinking about you at all.

Yes, there may be some here and there who don’t fit this mold.

Yet…

The overwhelming majority of people are so concerned about what’s going on in their lives that they’re not even remotely thinking about how you look, sound, or come off.

And even those that do…they forget about it and get back  on with their own lives.

Why am I bringing this up?

Because the next  time you have false evidence appearing real…FEAR…remember what I just said a moment ago.

As a result…

You would have taken the first step to taking your privates public…

Which leads to the next  part

2. Human beings only

After having consulted and coached hundreds of clients that have come through my Breakthrough to Achieve program  I still get a shocking response whenever this is brought up…

“Anything anyone says about you is true. However, it may not be in the same exact form…but it’s still true.”

Most people have a tough time realizing this at first.

Why?

Because we as humans have been taught to adopt certain traits…usually the positive ones…while disowning the so called “negative” ones.

And this results  in a one sided, pseudo, fantasy persona of who you are. In other words it’s not being authentic.

Remember…

All humans have every human trait… to include those that are the most sacred and most profane. If a trait…negative or positive…didn’t serve a purpose it wouldn’t exist.

And the reason I’m bringing this up goes back to what I said about being on 24 hour TV…along with worrying about what others think about you.

It comes down to this…

When you know with certainty that you have every trait…the so called “positive” and “negative” ones…you won’t worry about what other people say or might even be thinking regarding you…because it’s true anyway.

It’s just a matter of seeing how it serves your life.And when you do…You’ll be able to love and appreciate yourself.It’s interesting…

How many times have you heard someone…especially the personal development and self help  gurus speak about being able to “love yourself”…yet you never hear them bring in the so called “negative” parts of themselves along with the positive?”

Because the only way you’re able to love yourself is to be thankful and appreciate all the parts of who you are.

Now what you’ll see most people talk about here is the idea of acceptance…and accepting yourself (and others) for who you (and they) are.

This is not about acceptance.

You’re not here to “accept” yourself or others…because this implies something is still out of order.”

Acceptance is an illusion that I’ve convinced myself that something is right or good. It’s a one way self righteous judgment and is often a resistance to loving someone or something.”

Remember…

You are here to love…yourself and others.

And the way you do is by seeing both sides…not accepting one or the other.

3. Tuning in or out

Obviously when it comes to taking your privates public there is a limit so to speak.

What I mean is…you don’t want to go around announcing to the world everything about yourself, your family, and those you care about…

Because after all there is a trust factor involved…especially when dealing with other people.

Plus…

The idea of going around and telling everyone about yourself…even if it doesn’t bother you in revealing everything about yourself is not the wisest way to be humble and present.

What’s important here is that you’re aware and prepared for moments that come up in your life…that at first may have you feeling uneasy…and then being able to not let them (or others) bother you in what they said or think about you.

Because when you’re not worried about what others think…you’ll be focused and present.

Which in turn allows you to bring out your inner brilliance…and to shine.

It allows you to tune in and be present while tuning out the distractions.

It allows you to be in control of your life versus having others control your life.

And it allows you to get in touch with the magnificence of who you are…what you’re made of…and what you’re here to be, do, and have.

I’ve said this many times…

You never have to get rid of who you are to appreciate and love yourself.

And…

You never have to get rid of any of yourself to be appreciated and loved for who you are.

It’s a matter of embracing and seeing yourself in a way that brings tremendous amounts of value to the world through the uniqueness of who you are.

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