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Because This Is Your Life

It’s one of the most frustrating feelings you can ever have…

You’ve done everything in your power to do the right things. You listened to what other people said you were supposed to do.

You even did what other very successful people claimed to have done…

But for some reason what you set out to accomplish didn’t go as planned…

On top of that you find yourself watching other people have the type of freedom based lifestyle you’d love to have.

And now you find yourself in a situation opposite of what you would have hoped for.

Then as the days, weeks, months, and years go by you wonder, How did this happen to me?” “How did I end up in this situation that I never planned for?”

Now you have the feeling that you’re trapped in what seems like a never ending cycle with no way out.

Not only is this one of the most frustrating feelings you can ever have…

But it also leaves you so flooded with overwhelm, it’s like you’re trying to bail out the Titanic with a shot glass.

So what can you do when it seems like there’s no way out?

1. Beware of trying to live a fantasy lifestyle. This is what actually puts people in the very situations they want to avoid. What do I mean by this?

Many people are promoting the idea that the purpose in life is to be happy. You’ll also hear people, especially the self help “gurus”, say that happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.

This is half true and is also the source of most people’s “suffering.”

We live in a two sided world.

Not only is seeking a one sided life (more happy than sad) draining and disempowering (and not possible), but it also stops you from living the type of life you’d love to life…

While at the same time leaving you in situations where you feel there’s no way out.

Anytime you try and live a one sided life (more positive than negative, more happy than sad, more joy than sorrow, more support than challenge) you’re living a fantasy lifestyle…

And this is the very thing that keeps people stuck without even realizing it.

By continuing to live this fantasy lifestyle you have a very high probability of finding yourself in those situations where you feel there’s no way out.

Therefore the wisest thing you can do is to realize that you need both sides of life.

And that in certain situations what appears to be negative is the very thing you need to break out of your current situation.

If right now you are in a situation where you feel there’s no way out, look for both sides of that situation.

For example, if you perceive that someone has betrayed you and this has left you in a very challenging situation, look to see who is supporting you both now and in the past.

2. What is your vision? Whenever you have a situation where you feel there’s no way out, another wise thing to do is to realize what your vision is.

Now I understand that when you’re in the “heat of the battle” and there’s millions of thoughts going through your mind, and you feel stressed, that the last thing you may be thinking of is, “”What’s my vision?”

This is actually one of the best times that you could go about creating your vision.

Why?

Because it gives you an opportunity to use your current situation to get in touch with the needs of others. After all, any vision of success you have is going to center around having a product, service, or ideas that serves ever greater numbers of people.

As a result you can use the experiences of what you’re currently going through to come up with that product, service, or idea that can help people.

And this is something you can also do when it seems like there’s no way out.

3. Of course one of the most popular questions is, “How long will it take?” We all want that magic answer of how long it will take to go from where you are now to where you want to be.

To answer this question I have good news and bad news.

The “bad news” is that no one really knows how long it will take. It varies depending on an unlimited amount of factors and is certainly different for each person’s situation.

The good news is that you can increase the probability of it being sooner than later.

The way you do this is to get clear on what is truly most important to you.

Because then you’ll put in more time and effort to something that is inspiring to you.

This in turn will decrease the amount of time it will take.

At first it may seem like things are going slower than you like.

But as strange as it sounds, the more time you put in initially, the faster you get to whatever your goals are.

No matter what is going on in your life right now there’s always a way out.

You can look for the quick, fast, and one sided way of doing things…and remain stuck and have no idea why.

Or you can take what seems like the “slow” approach by seeing the world from both sides and in the process get clear on what your vision is.

Not only is this the faster approach but it gives you a very high probability of getting out of any situation you may currently be in.

And along the way you’ll discover how brilliant of a person you are…and the tremendous amount of value you contribute to the world with your uniqueness.

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