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You’ve heard about this many times and were told it was the right thing to do…but is it really?

What I’m speaking about is being honest.

While that is half true, there’s another very important part of being honest that is very seldom taught and handed down by our loved ones…

And that is being honest with yourself.

Even if you were one of the very few who were told that being honest with yourself is the right thing to do…

Just know that this too is only half true.

Ok, here’s the deal with all of this.

First, most of us have been taught to be honest with others more so than being honest with ourselves. The fact is that both are important and necessary.

Second, when it comes to being honest with yourself, what does that mean and is there something else involved that goes way beyond what you’ve been taught?

The answer is “yes” and this leads to the question…

“Are you truly being honest with yourself?”

Most people will say that being honest with yourself involves being true to who you are and what you feel is the right thing for you.

I agree with this.

But again this is only half of the picture.

When you’re truly being honest with yourself just know that there are two sides to this.

Your ability to be honest with yourself involves embracing both sides of who you are. What this means is that being honest with yourself includes both the positive and negative traits that you and every other human being has.

Here’s something that’s very surprising to most people…

Since being honest involves embracing both of your so called “positive” and “negative” traits…anytime you deny one or the other you are being dishonest with yourself…

And this is what most people do.

This is the “half true” part I was referring to earlier.

Here’s an example of what I mean:

Let’s say you’re beating yourself up because you feel that you’re not smart enough. Now at first you’ll say that you’re being honest with yourself. Yes, but again this is only half true. Because you’re also being dishonest with yourself.

How?

Simple, because the only way that you can see yourself as not being smart enough is if you’re comparing yourself to someone else and doing so in an area that is not highest on your values.

In other words…

You are smart enough in the areas of your life where you excel most which is dictated by your highest values. And you will not be that smart in the areas of life where you don’t excel and that are lowest on your values.

So if you’re comparing yourself to someone else’s values and they don’t match yours, then you’ll claim that you’re not smart enough in that particular area. This is where you’re being dishonest with yourself.

But when you’re being true to yourself, you’ll realize this AND then when you live according to what is most important to you (your highest values), you’ll be honest with yourself.

The bottom line here is that in order to be honest with yourself it is incredibly important to.embrace both sides of who you are, the positive and the negative…

And this will also include the things that you don’t like about yourself.

Why is all of this important?

Because when you acknowledge both sides of yourself you reduce the probability of having a roller coaster of emotions run your life. This distracts you from realizing your inner brilliance and magnificence.

Always remember…

You’re here to do amazing things in your life according to who you really are.

And who you really are is an amazing person with so much to offer the world through your uniqueness.

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