There’s a certain moment that happens in your life when you realize it to be true.
There can also be a moment in your life when you find yourself questioning if it’s real…even to the point of not believing in it and wondering if it even exists.
When this happens, you can’t help but wonder how it can happen to someone else, even though it’s something that “deep down inside” you want.
And once you start thinking about it more it leaves you with a decision to make.
Sometimes it’s an easy decision….sometimes it’s not.
In either case it still centers around the same thing…and it’s something that all humans want.
And it involves one word…Love.
But there’s also something else involved that most people either never talk about or tell you never to do when it comes to falling in love with someone and being in a relationship with them…
And it’s one of the most—if not the most—important things you can ever do that allows you to “feel” and know what love really is.
So the question is…
Where (and who) is the love in your life?
1. Selfish love
During your life and especially while you were growing up I’m sure you heard many times about being generous to people…while at the same time were told not to be selfish.
At first it stands to reason and makes perfect sense
When it comes to love and having that special person in your life that you do love it’s a different story.
Because in order to do so it’s important to be selfish…but not in the way that most people view selfishness.
This gives rise to what I call “selfish love.”
And it has to do with loving and taking care of yourself first. This is what I spoke about earlier as being one of the most important things you can ever do that allows you to “feel” and know what love really is.
Think about it…
How many relationships have you been in where you found yourself “giving up” certain things in your life just to make your partner happy?
How many times did you seem to put what was important to them first without taking the time to put what was important to you first?
How many times did you find yourself not being yourself in the relationship…and especially when you were around other people with your partner?
If you’re like me and most people you’ve experienced this quite often.
And how did the relationship turn out…most likely not the way you wanted.
As a result…how did it leave you feeling?
This brings us back to the idea of being selfish.
Naturally most people will immediately see being selfish as not caring about anybody else…but that’s not true.
The most important person you can ever care about is you…and this is absolutely vital if you’re looking to “feel” love(d) and to fall in love with that special person in your life.
And strange as it sounds it begins by being so called “selfish.”
Now of course this doesn’t mean that you don’t care about anybody else…or that everything centers around a “me me me attitude.”
What it does mean is that you care enough about yourself to put what is most important to you first…while at the same time also caring about others but in a way that allows you to give more of who you are without giving up who you are and what’s most important to you.
So this brings up what you read earlier and the question…
How is being selfish one of the most important things you can ever do that allows you to “feel” and know what love really is?
It comes down to this…
When somebody cares enough about you and truly “gets you” they’ll be ok with you being “selfish”…because they’ll know exactly what that really means and how it allows you to be you.
They’ll know that it allows you to do the things that are most important to you.
They’ll know that it allows you to have “space” and your own independence.
And they’ll know that all of this is a BIG part in showing their true love for you.
Along with that…
It’s what allows you to “feel” loved by someone and to know where love is in your life…even if at first you didn’t believe it existed.
2. Believing in love
Even when you “feel” loved by somebody and begin to have similar feelings towards a certain person there can be (and quite often is) the feeling of, “does love exist in my life?”
Naturally there’s many reasons for this and they usually have to do with what took place in your past relationships.
And what all of this leads to is…
“Do you believe in love” or “Don’t you believe in love.”
In fact this brings up a true story of what took place in my life that involved a person I used to be in a relationship with.
Back when I was 19 going on 20 I was in a relationship with a girl I really liked. We got along well. However, the relationship ended because her parents felt the age difference was too much (she was five years younger than me).
From the time our relationship ended and the two years that followed she dated many guys until she finally met the guy she is now married to. They have a wonderful marriage and are truly soulmates.
However, from the time me and her dated until she met her now husband there were a few of what she called “bad” relationships…and one in particular.
As she was telling me this on the phone one day (back in 2012) she said something I never expected to hear…and is something that is very much involved in the question, “Do you believe in love” or “Don’t you believe in love?”
She told me after those two “bad” relationships and especially the one in particular that, “Through that entire ‘bad’ experience I always thought about our relationship and how you treated me because it was always a reminder that there are great guys out there.”
She went on to say that this gave her reason to believe that she would find the “right guy” in her life…which she ended up doing.
Now how does this relate to you and being able to believe in love?
Because if you find yourself right now feeling that you don’t believe in love look in your life for what is likely to be “small clues” that there is reason to believe.
And obviously it’s going to be different for you than it is for someone else.
For you it could be something that took place in the past with someone like it did in the story I just shared with you.
It can also be…and is likely to be in someone you currently know…quite possibly in someone you just met.
This brings up what you read about earlier…that when you start thinking about it more it leaves you with a decision to make.
When you have that “gut feeling” that a certain person is the one for you go with it.
And notice I said “feeling.”
When it comes to believing in love and especially a certain person that paves the way for you to believe in love you won’t be thinking about it or them…you’ll “feel” them.
At that moment you’ll know.
This is that moment you read about earlier that happens in your life when you realize it to be true…and what you’ll be realizing is the love for them.
When this happens the decision I spoke about earlier that you’ll be left with—whether to get in to a relationship with this person—becomes an easy decision…
And one that will feel true regardless of what decisions you made in the past.
What also happens as a result is that you’ll begin to discover “the truth” in love…because the person involved will bring that feeling of truthfulness that allows you to believe in the love you deserve to experience in your life.
3. The healer of man and womankind
In my book “Because This Is Your Life” I speak about what you and every human being “deep down inside” wants…to be loved and appreciated for who you are and all you do.
The driving force of it all is “Love.”
Because after all “Love” is the most powerful healer of man and womankind.
The question is, “How do you know?”
Well it goes back to what you read about earlier…believing in love and having that selfish love. When you do you’ll bring the people and especially the person in to your life who appreciates and loves you because you appreciate and love yourself.
And it’s the appreciation and love you have for yourself that is the driving force behind any effective healing that takes place in your life.
This is what allows you to come from your heart and you’ll form a deep heartfelt connection with the person you bring in to your life…because you already did so with yourself. This is when you’ll “feel” this person (instead of thinking about them) along with the love you’ll have for this person and it’ll be true.
And it’s this heartfelt love you have…first for yourself and then for the special person in your life that makes up what is the most powerful healer of man and womankind.
It can only come from your heart. It’s a feeling. Not a “puppy love crush” or infatuation types of thoughts disguised as feelings…but rather a deep connection you have with someone else that first starts with the connection you have with yourself. You can’t fake it.
Being loved and showing love is a day in and day out process…not some quick fix “I want to feel good” type of thing.
And it’s the people who prove this to you on a daily basis…along with you proving it to yourself on a daily basis is what also makes love the most powerful healer on earth.
One of my favorite quotes is…
“When you love yourself for who you are you turn into the person that loves you for who you are”
…And this is what brings the person in to your life that cherishes and loves you for who you are.
You never have to give up any part of who you are to be loved and appreciated in the way you want.
The people that get this will make up the special people in your life.
They’ll know the “real you”…
They’ll know that the “real you” is someone that matters…
They’ll know that the “real you” is someone who is important…
And they’ll know (as will you) that you do make a difference in the world…by being the wonderful YOU!
How can something that is so helpful in your life actually be the same thing most people will say to never do…
All because it’s so called “bad” for you?
…While at the same time, these same people are trying to do themselves.
And it has to do with two simple words…
Now there’s also something else involved here that is only seen by others part of the time… and by you all of the time.
Because when you’re fully aware of this, not only are you able to love yourself…but you’ll also be in complete control of your life.
And along with that you’ll be the person who you really are.
But in order for this to happen it’s important for you to make it a habit of asking (and then answering) the following question…
What if people knew who you really are?
1. Wizard of Oz Syndrome- What did you think the first time you found out who the wizard was in the Wizard of Oz? Surprised…right? Why? Because he wasn’t what he appeared to be.
He was made out to be this larger than life” character that had people somewhat terrified in his presence. And then what happened? Dorothy’s dog Toto pulled back the curtain on the wizard and there stood an average looking man…who was actually the very opposite of what he appeared to be.
So how does this relate to you?
How many times have you seen someone you know—it could be a friend, your relationship partner, someone in the personal development industry—act one way in public and then privately is the complete opposite?
If it’s in the case of a relationship, how many times have you seen the person you’re with be all smiles and well liked publicly…and then when you’re the only one around them, they’re the complete opposite?
How about those in the personal development industry? The best example here are those who say you can live a happy, positive, and joyful life…but are they living that way? No they’re not.
And you’ll see these same type of trends among many different people.
Is this a bad thing…of course not. It’s an “aware” thing.
Why is this important?
Because the fact is that you have both sides. You’re nice and mean, happy and sad, positive and negative, kind and cruel, and all of the other equal and opposite pairs of traits.
And trying to put on a facade and being “fake” by claiming that you’re more of one side than the other may fool other people but it’s not fooling yourself.
Yes, it’s important to act appropriate in certain social situations. But at the same time it’s important to keep in mind that you have both sides.
It’s also incredibly important to be aware that other people are always watching what you do…even if they may not say it.
This can range from your children watching your every move…to your friends…to those at the store…and to those at your job or the industry you’re in.
So, the big takeaway here is to always be aware of your actions…even the ones you think don’t matter.
Well actually there’s another life transforming takeaway that’s certainly worth mentioning…
But first let’s talk more about this whole idea of loving yourself.
2. Hello me Hello you- Growing up and all through my teenage years I’d quite often hear people talk about others who had an “ego”, who were “conceited”…and in almost every case was mentioned that this person “loved themselves.”
One such example was my next door neighbor and friend Gino.
Gino was one of those kids that really stood out. At the age of 12 he could have easily passed for being 18 and quite possibly even in his 20’s. And he sure played the part.
He would drive his brother’s Firebird and Corvette. He would have one girl after another over at his house. And he was also seen as being conceited, stuck up, and “loving himself.”
That’s what people saw on the outside.
But there was another side to Gino. Being that I lived next door to him I got to see this other side. The side where he was humble, would do favors for you, and would offer you something to eat anytime you came over to his house.
Along with this, I naturally got to see the side everyone else saw and in more detail.. What was interesting with Gino is that he was consistent. He had both sides, except that he showed it more often…while those who were criticizing him, they were hiding it.
And then I came to the conclusion that this kid was being his authentic self.
Not only that but what most people never saw with Gino is that he worked his butt off. His parents owned a bakery and quite often he was up at 3am to go to work…and then to school at 8am.
Now of course there’s a good reason I’m bringing this up…
Because it contains a certain life lesson as it applies to “loving yourself.” And that lesson involves valuing yourself. Some people see it as being conceited, stuck up, or having an ego. It’s not unless you take it to extremes.
The wisdom in what can be learned from Gino is that “loving yourself” is not about being conceited, having an ego, being stuck up, while not caring about others…
It’s about honoring and valuing yourself enough while at the same time not being afraid of what other people think about you.
And this now leads to that second takeaway I mentioned a few minutes ago…
3. Being on world TV- Earlier I mentioned about something that’s only seen by others part of the time and by you all of the time. And when you’re fully aware of this, not only are you able to love yourself, but you’ll also be in complete control of your life.
This second takeaway has to do with you being on TV.
Not just any TV…but world TV.
Really take the time to think about this…
If everything you did, said, and thought was broadcasted 24 hours a day on a world TV—and everyone knew everything about you—would you have a problem with that? Would you not want this to happen?
And along with this…
If the entire world could view you on world TV that featured you 24 hrs a day, every day, would you be able to love yourself?
All of the habits and mannerisms you have that you don’t like about yourself—what you do behind closed doors when no one is looking—and everything else in between…if the world knew about them, would you still go about your business throughout your life?
Because if you would want to hide any of your private life and worry if someone found out who you really are…then you have not learned to love yourself.
Again, this has to do with realizing that you’re a two sided person. Even though in certain situations you’ll call upon one side or the other, the fact is that you have both the positives and negatives, the things you like and despise about yourself…equally.
And that anything you see in someone else is a trait you have as well.
This is what happened with the people who saw Gino as being “stuck up”, having an “ego”, and being “conceited”…the only way those people could have seen Gino that way is if they were “stuck up”, had an “ego” and were “conceited” in their own unique way.
The only difference is that they were hiding it in public…but behind closed doors were showing it. And this is something you’ve done. I’ve done it. We’ve all done it.
Now here’s the other life transforming part of this…
If you have no problem about people finding out what goes on “behind closed doors”…or in other words, when you’re able to take your privates public…then you’ve learned how to love yourself.
So what if people knew who you really are?
You’d still have people liking and disliking you.
You’d still have people supporting and challenging you.
You’d still have people praising and criticizing you.
And you’d still have people loving you…
For the true magnificence of who you really are. For the tremendous amount of value you bring to the world through your uniqueness. And for the special person that you are.
There are two things always going on in your life that each lead to one ultimate decision you make…
And it’s a decision that determines the path your life takes.
These two things are…thoughts about the past and thoughts about the future.
Thoughts about where you’ve been, what you’ve done, and the different people who were involved…
Along with thoughts of where you’ll be, what you’ll do, and the different people who will be involved in your life over time.
As for the one ultimate decision this leads to…
Well that has everything to do with what is going on now in the present moment…and this present moment can include this very second and/or the current time period in your life.
Because what’s going on in the present time for you is the very thing guiding you down the path to where your life is heading along with the events and people who become part of it.
There’s no escaping this…and it’s a good thing.
It still leaves you with that ultimate decision you’ll make…even if at first you don’t feel like making it.
But once you make this decision you’ll know you made the right one…while looking back on it and being grateful and thankful you did.
And this all starts by realizing where you are right now in your life.
Which naturally leads to the question…
“Where are you in your life right now?”
1. New beginnings New endings- It’s been said that there are three guarantees in life…life, death, and taxes. There’s actually a fourth and it’s something always going on in your life in some way. This leads to a quote of mine…
“There’s always a new door opening in your life when an old one is closing. When you stop worrying about the closed doors, you’ll see more of the new ones opening up for you.”
The fourth guarantee…
With every new ending there’s a new beginning
…And this is going on in every area of your life, especially in the different relationships you have with people.
These relationships include your friendships and certainly the ones that are your closest and most intimate.
So what does this have to do with where you are in your life right now?
Wherever you are in your life currently is the result of what took place in the past in these different relationships. Now of course there’s likely to be events that took place that you’ll always remember and those you’ll certainly want to forget.
And strange as it may seem…
They’re all worth remembering because it’s actually the spring board to the next new beginning in your life.
Let’s say you were in a relationship with someone that didn’t work out to the point where you just had enough. Naturally you won’t want to get back in to another intimate relationship for a while.
At first it stands to reason…right? I can relate because it’s something I experienced after my marriage ended in 2006.
This was an excellent time for new opportunities in my life, as it led me down the path to what I do today, along with the new relationships that came in to my life…some of which were much sooner than I thought they would at the time.
And the same is true in your life.
Any time you have a situation like this it’s nothing more than a new beginning that comes about because of a new ending.
Obviously I can’t tell you exactly what and how that will be in your life because your situation will have different details involved than mine or someone else’s.
But what I can tell you is…
When you treat these types of situations (even those that don’t involve relationships) as a new ending that gives birth to a new beginning you’ll be surprised at how things time out…even if it does have to do with getting in to a new relationship with someone that you thought at first you wouldn’t at that time.
So whatever the situation is for you, just remember that it has everything to do with where you are now in your life because that has everything to do with what took place in the past which now gives you the opportunity to determine your own future.
This brings us back to what I mentioned a few minutes ago…relationships.
2. A life of relationships- There is one thing that is certain about all humans…we’re all relational creatures. Meaning…it’s been “hard wired” into our DNA that we need to have relationships with others. Naturally this includes the different types of relationships, but especially intimate relationships too.
No matter how you look at it the entire human experience is a life of relationships.
And as you read earlier, the relationships you had in the past have led you to where you are now…but that doesn’t mean the result of those relationships will “carry-over” on to the next ones.
What this all means is that your past relationships has you where you are now in your life and they’re in essence guiding you to your new relationships.
This is a good thing even though at times it may not seem like it.
Now I’m sure you already know the feeling of not wanting to be in a relationship with someone. This can and does mean different things to different people…ranging from the mindset of, “I’m not interested in getting involved right now” all the way to, “I’ve had it with (men or women) and I don’t need anybody in my life.”
Even though that’s what you’ll hear people say on the outside the truth is…people who feel like this still want to be in a relationship with that one “special” person.
The reason why they say they don’t is because they’ve had too many past pains from their past relationships and they just don’t want to go through it anymore. Once you “dissolve” those past (feelings of) pain, you attract that special person in to your life.
So why is this important as it relates to where you are now in your life?
Because your most intimate relationships are the ones that guide you to realizing the truth about who you are. This is the purpose of relationships.
This also goes back to what I’ve spoken about before…the idea of being yourself when you’re around other people…and especially being yourself around other people (your friends and family) when you’re with the person you’re in a relationship with.
When you’re able to live according to the truth of who you are—no matter where you are in your life right now—you’ll set the stage for being able to go down the path you want in life. You’ll in a sense determine your own destiny.
And it all starts by just being YOU. And one of the best ways to start being you comes from your most intimate relationships with others.
Here’s something else that’s also interesting about this…
As important as relationships are it is equally important that you have “alone time.”
Most people think “being alone” is not healthy. It is when balanced with your most important relationships…even the intimate ones you have.
And I’m sure you can relate to this quite well.
How many times did you just want to “get away” from others and be by yourself?
Quite often…right? I know I do…we all do.
Naturally this is important because it gives you that time to “think” and as I like to say “feel” about what’s going on in your life. These are some of the best times to plan out your life and the path you want it to go down.
This is especially effective when you are in a relationships with someone. The most loving relationships you can ever be in with someone are those where the person you’re in a relationship with is “all for” you having “alone time” or “me time.”
When someone cares about you they won’t “blink an eye” or say a word about it. And this can also include having that “alone time” with your friends.
So no matter how you look at all of this, your life of relationships—especially your most intimate ones—are there to bridge the gap from where you were in the past to where you’re going in the future.
And since this is all taking place in the present time for you, obviously you can still do something about it.
3. The sunshine of your life- In every important decision you make in your life the same thing is always present…you’ll get equal amounts of pleasure and pain, support and challenge, praise and criticism, and so on. And over time they’ll be different sets of these.
Naturally, your situation will be different than someone else’s…but this is still true in every case. It’s a matter of looking to see what these are in the specific areas of your life.
Because when you do…and you see the “balance” of the different things going on in your life…not only are you less emotional, but you’ll also start to bring in to your life many of the things you’ve always wanted…to include those that at first you may have been trying to avoid.
An excellent example of this is what you read earlier about relationships.
So whether it’s relationships or any other area of your life…when you approach life this way (to include where you are in your life right now) it will bring the “sunshine of your life” in to your life by way of the new people you meet who become the special people in your life.
This is one of the driving forces responsible for taking you down the path of life you’d love to go…and it will include people who become (or are currently) your friends, along those who become the people that make up your most special relationships in your life.
And all of this emerges and grows in to you being seen as “special”…not in an entitled way, but in a way that brings out what makes you the unique person you are…in a way that serves the people around you and the world.
It bring out what makes you…YOU.
There is always a point in your life that is the “Where are you in your life right now” point…
It’s commonly referred to as the present moment.
And no matter what that moment is it makes up a piece of your life. And when you see how this moment is just as important as any other moment…and how it is responsible for the path your life goes down…that’s when you appreciate it even more, along with the people who are part of it.
The bottom line is…
Make every moment count in your life.
Because you never know if you’ll get that chance again…and even if you do you don’t know how long it will last.
Appreciate yourself…appreciate the people in your life…appreciate where you are in your life right now…And make sure you let the people in your life know how much you do.
When you do…
People will appreciate you for the person you are…
A person who is “real” and brings value to the world by just being YOU!
There’s an unseen blessing going on in your life right now…
And one that most people are not aware of.
Over time some people realize what this blessing is…most do not.
Those that do, find out something special along the way that most people unknowingly avoid like a plague…because it involves someone else who has every intention of making sure you never discover this unseen blessing.
Not only that but far too many people are also taking what this unseen blessing is for granted…even when they discover it.
What I’m talking about here is being your true self…being the unique and special person who has been put on this earth to make a difference…to matter in this world.
And this begins by knowing who you are.
There’s a quote that says, “You are who you are when no one is looking.”
It’s easy to appear and act one way in public, but when you’re “behind closed doors” and no one—except for perhaps your spouse or close friend—is around you act completely different…quite often the opposite.
Now what about when you’re around other people in a social setting? What about when you’re in a relationship (or friendship) with someone and you’re with them around other people? Who are you then?
This brings up a quote of mine…
“You are who you are when everyone is looking.”
For most people this quote at first seems anything but true because they’re being and/or trying to be somebody they’re not when they’re around other people (to certainly include someone they may be in a relationship with)…and in many cases just to please others.
And in the process they’re giving up who they are.
How many times have you been in situations like this? If you’re like me…at least one and most likely several. In fact you may even be in one right now.
In any case it still comes down to the same thing…
“Are you being yourself when you’re around other people”
…and if you’re not what can you do to recognize this and then change it?
1. Identity crisis identity blessings- Whenever it comes to being yourself around other people thoughts of two possible scenarios come up…being yourself around a group of people and being yourself around another person such as someone you may be in a relationship with.
In either case the following quote by Nietzsche comes to mind:
“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.”
And this is right at the center of whether you’re being yourself around other people.
In both scenarios you’re dealing with a “tribe”…either the group of people or that one person you may be in a relationship with. It may sound strange that one person can actually be a “tribe”…
But when it comes to being your true self around a person you just can’t seem to “let go of” in a relationship, it can seem like a tribe…especially when it comes to being with this person while hanging out with your friends and/or family.
Think about it…
How many times have you been with someone in a relationship where you found yourself doing things that you never thought you would…that before you met this person “swore” you’d never do?
Or how about this…
How many times have you been in a situation where you and the person you were in a relationship with were hanging out with your friends and/or family and you were not being who you really are…while trying to be someone other than yourself just to please your partner? How uneasy of a feeling was it?
If this sounds familiar to you…was it because you worried about what your partner would think about you if you were actually being yourself around your friends and the special people in your life?
This is certainly challenging and a situation we’ve all been in.
And isn’t it interesting that no matter how much you tried to please this other person…that it really didn’t make a difference anyway.
The fact is…it never will make a difference…because you’ll never change anyone or how you want them to act towards you as long as you’re giving up who you are. And this certainly includes those situations when you’re around the special people in your life.
If this other person has an issue with the people you love being around…it’s their issue. They’re the ones that want you to give up who you are…to give up what’s most important to you just so you can please them…which you’ll never be able to do anyway.
And this brings us back to the unseen blessing I spoke about earlier…and the person it involves who has every intention of making sure you never discover it. This is the person I was referring to and they come into your life for a reason…to “test” you to see if you’re being your true self versus being someone you’re not.
It’s what allows you to go from having an identity crisis to realizing your identity blessing…
Because it’s getting you to discover the truth of who you are.
2. Truth of who you are – There is a domain of the Earth that has been in existence since the world was formed. It’s called the journey of truth. The same is true for you and it involves discovering the truth of who you are.
This is put to the “test” in your life by way of the people you come into contact with throughout your life’s journey. This goes back to what you read earlier.
The truth of who you are is consistently being tested in the relationships you have with others…especially in your intimate relationships and (if it applies) your marriage.
And in either type of relationship the same thing applies when you’re around other people…are you being yourself?
The bottom line here is…
If the person you’re in a relationship with cares about you and loves you then they won’t have an issue with you being around other people.
This is part of you being loved for who you are…and involves you living according to the truth of who you are.
And if they do have an issue with you…so be it. Then they’re not the person for you because no relationship is worth being in if it involves giving up the magnificence of who you are just to please someone else…who isn’t likely to appreciate you either way.
It’s all about being truthful…to yourself and other people.
When you’re around someone (to sometimes include a group of people) and you’re not being yourself, you’re not being truthful to yourself. And when you’re not being truthful to yourself how can you be truthful to someone else (and the person you’re in a relationship with)?
Let’s face it, we’ve all been there…I’ve been there.
And I just knew in these types of situations that the person I was with wasn’t the one for me…whether it was in an intimate relationship situation or a friendship situation.
And in every case it was the same thing…I was worried (at the time) because I thought the person wouldn’t love me for who I was.
At times it even got to the point where my friends spoke up and told me, “This person isn’t the one for you”…and they were right.
And even though I really “knew it” to be true I still stayed in the relationship thinking it would “pass over”…which of course it never did.
What did happen was the relationship ended…but with it came another part of that unseen blessing that at the time I wasn’t aware of.
3. Being your beautiful self- There is one thing that is true with ALL humans no matter what anyone may say or tell you….every person wants to be respected, loved, and appreciated for who they are and all they do. It’s in our DNA as humans.
And this is also at the heart of being yourself around other people…
Because when you’re being yourself around other people they’ll pick up on your “realness”…your authenticity…the “inner glow” of your soul.
Life is about relationships…the relationships you have with your family, friends, yourself, and of course the intimate relationship with the one special person in your life.
Along with this, you’ll always have new relationships come into your life while others will go out of your life. It’s similar to the saying I’m sure you’ve heard, “As one door closes a new one opens.”
It’s the same with the intimate relationships you have. As one ends a new one (with someone…and someone you may not even know yet) is being birthed somewhere.
Why am I bringing this up?
Because if you’re currently with (or have been with) someone in a relationship and you found yourself not being yourself around other people when with this person…then it may be time to “shed that branch” in your life.
You deserve to be the person you were put in this world to be…to shine…and to do it in a way that is “real”…while being truthful to others and yourself.
When you do…that’s when you’re being your beautiful self…and the people who care about you most will appreciate and love you for it.
And these will be the people you’ll feel comfortable around. These will be the people who appreciate your company. These will be the people that take up a special place in your heart.
You owe it to yourself to discover your beautiful self.
Far too many people are running away from who they are while trying to please others…and in the process are going against the very nature of what makes them the beautiful person they are.
You are that beautiful person…
You are that person who matters…
You are that person who has so much to offer the world…
And you are the person who has the right to do it in a way by just being YOU!