Because This Is Your Life

Because This Is Your Life

How Many Times Have You Seen This?

posted by cweiner

As you go through your life there are times when things seem to always go the way you want and then there’s times when things never seem to go your way.

During this “balanced” journey of life as I’m calling it, there are those situations that come up that sometimes you just can’t seem to explain.

What I’m referring to is some of the things you’ll see people do.

They’ll be situations where you’ll see people do the most amazing and heartfelt things.

Then they’ll be situations where you’ll see someone doing or not doing things that really get you to “shake your head” and have you wondering…”why.”

How many times have you seen this?

We’ve all seen this type of thing and have even been involved in these situations with others as well…

And for many people they turn into very stressful situations.

So the important thing here is, “how can you turn what seems like a negative situation into a life transforming situation for you and those you care about?”

First, it is important to know that in every stressful situation there is also a relaxing part of that situation.

How can this be true when it doesn’t seem like it on the outside?

Let’s start by understanding what stress is.

Stress is an exaggeration and minimization of what is.

Take any situation for example. You may have 10 people all witnessing the same situation at the same moment and you’ll have half of the people saying it was stressful and the other half saying it wasn’t.

Along with that you’ll also have 10 different interpretations of that situation.

So where am I going with this?

Well just know that in every crisis there’s a blessing. In every  stressful situation there is an underlying gift which is present, even though it may not appear that way at first.

Therefore…

One of the best ways that you can turn your stressings into blessings is to always look for that “gift” in what appears to be a chaotic situation.

There’s always a hidden order which is present no matter what is going on around you.

It is also in that hidden order where you really get to see the brilliance of who you are and what you have to offer the world.

To many people, overcoming stress may be a way to live what some call a “peaceful” life, however the true gift in it all is you finding out how special, unique, and amazing of a person you are.

Upon realizing this, the most amazing thing you can do is to pass that on to others so they can see how special, unique, and amazing of a person they are too.

I like to call this, “passing the torch.”

And the more you get in the habit of doing this, the more you’ll realize just how valuable you are in the world and you create a ripple effect.

As a result, your legacy is born and the brilliance of who you are leaves a long lasting positive effect on others…

What Happens If Nothing Changes In Your Life?

posted by cweiner

No matter how you look at it…it’s true

And there’s a scary part to it…and possibly the feeling of security as well.

It just depends on you.

Along with this comes the strangest part of all…

The fact that you can know the “scary part” is going on in your life and still be content…even though it leaves you feeling like there’s no way out.

So what am I talking about?

Your life…and the path it’s going down.

Now if you happen to be somebody that is not feeling fulfilled in your life…and know it’s time to do something about it…

Yet…

You still find yourself not doing anything about it…and watching the same old thing go by day after day…

What’s stopping you from doing anything about it?

After all…

If today was your last day on this planet, is this how you would want your last 24 hours to be?

Let’s say today wasn’t the last day of your life…

What happens if nothing changes in your life?

1. Decision diamonds- Life wouldn’t be life without decisions. Of course that’s pretty obvious. And this also includes the decisions you didn’t make…the ones that quite often leave you saying, “I wish I _________” or “My life would have been better off if I had only done _________.”

What isn’t so obvious and goes unnoticed is what’s really going on during all of these decisions you made and didn’t make.

There’s two things going on…

One, every decision you make has an equal amount of benefits and drawbacks. At first it seems like “no way.”

However…

When you take the time to scan through your life and look closely…while being honest with yourself…you’ll see this pretty easily.

And two, as a result…

You’ll realize there’s no such things as mistakes.

See, all of what I just said comes down to knowing what your values are. Or said another way, knowing what it is that’s most important to you…what you “love” and are “inspired” to be doing.

Because when you realize this you’ll know what I said above…you’ll see the benefits and drawbacks to the decisions you made…equally.

And it’s this that gives you the courage to be confident in being more certain about making decisions that in the past you would have hesitated on…or not made at all.

This is the first step to turning your life around and leads in to the next part…

2. The people pleasing syndrome- Whether you’re aware of it or not…and most people aren’t aware of it…the situations you’re currently in that you don’t want to be in has much to do with you wanting to please people.

For example…

I know of a “then” attorney that did everything in his life just trying to please his father.

He became an attorney because his father wanted him to. He got married to a certain woman because his father wanted him to. Where he lived was where his father wanted him to live.

And no matter what he did to gain the approval of his father…it was never enough.

As a result…

This man’s health got to the point where he suffered a heart attack. After his father passed away he found out his father left him with unpaid debts. This led to his law practice going out of business…which led to his wife leaving him and taking the kids.

It reached the point where he was basically ready to take his own life.

And then he realized with his father gone…there was no one left to please anymore.

This was a revelation for him that turned his life around.

He realized that practicing law wasn’t what he loved…and that the woman he married wasn’t the type of woman he wanted to be with.

And this gave him a new lease on life to do what he truly loved…fixing up classic cars and selling them.

So now he was doing what he loved and what also happened…he met a new woman that was his “perfect” match and they ended up getting married.

What it all comes down to is this…

So many people are so worried about wanting to please others they’re infatuated with…they’ll do anything to follow through on it…even if it means “mortgaging” their life away.

And strange as it sounds…

It’s the infatuating over someone that’s at the root cause of it all.

Because after all, do you ever find yourself wanting to please someone you resent and despise…of course not.

Therefore…

When it comes to breaking the “people pleasing syndrome”, just know that no matter what you do you’ll have people liking and disliking…supporting and challenging…praising and criticizing you…equally.

And this includes friends, acquaintances, strangers, and certainly family.

Be mindful of this and stand your ground because it’s the very thing needed for you to turn your life around.

Speaking of your life…

3. What is your life- I’m sure you already know that life…especially your life…is about change. Now at first you’re likely to think it’s about changing for the “better” or “worse”…right? Because after all this is the conventional wisdom you always hear.

Yet…

That’s not true.

And the reason your life is not about changing for the “better” or “worse” goes back to what I said earlier…there’s an equal amount of benefits and drawbacks to every situation you come across.

The same is true about changing your life around.

Your life is about knowing what it is that you’d love to be, do, and have.

Once you know what this is you’ve answered the question, “what is your life?”

Of course your answer is going to be different than somebody elses because you’re unique.

Along with this also remember…

All humans have every trait (4600 total that are positive and negative). But it’s the way you express these traits based on your uniqueness and what you’re here to be, do, and have is what defines what your life is.

And once you know what your life is, you’ll also know what you want to be remembered for.

Because when you get right down to it…there’s something inside of you that you want the world to see…that leads to what you want to be remembered for.

And in doing so you want to keep asking “why.” Because when you have enough reasons “why” in what you want…and there’s enough pain from how your life will turn out if you don’t do anything about it…and you know what you “love” doing…while not worrying about what others think of you…

You’ll turn your life around.

Along with it you’ll discover how your magnificence and brilliance is a special gift to the world in a way that serves both you and others to be the change you seek in the world.

How Much Are You Worth?

posted by cweiner

This may sound very surprising and even shocking at first, and that is, every human being has a price tag…

But not in the way that you may be thinking.

Let me explain.

No matter what area of life you are talking about, you have a value in some way.

In other words you have something that is of tremendous value to others. This can be in the form of a product, service, and ideas.

This can be as it relates to your family, your career, your social network, and any other area of life that is important to you and other people.

So that “price tag” I was referring to earlier comes down to this question…

“How much are you worth?”

And the most amazing part of you answering this question is that you are the one who determines the answer.

The other amazing part of this is that whatever your answer is, just be aware of the fact that this amount you are worth is so high that it is priceless.

I want you to realize this and be the one who determines what you are worth.

So many people are allowing others to put a value on them. This occurs at their jobs, in relationships, with finances, and just about any other area of life you can think of.

Your ability in being able to achieve the type of wealth and success you want is determined by the value you put on yourself which certainly includes realizing how much you are worth.

People quite often refer to this as self worth.

To help get you going with this, here is a simple, yet powerful question, that I want you to ask and answer every day for the rest of your life…

“What is it about who I am that brings value to the world?”

Remember, the quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask. When you ask and then answer the quality question I mentioned just above you’ll be well on your way to transforming your life and in the way you want.

Along with this, you’ll also realize how magnificent and brilliant of a person you really are. Even if you’re already aware of this to some degree, you’ll gain new insights to your inner brilliance that you may not have realized at first.

The other important part of answering this question is that you’ll be helping and serving others in the process.

When you truly care and help others get what they want, you get what you want.

When you realize how valuable someone else is, you’re also realizing how valuable you are.

When you’re grateful and thankful for who you are and the value you contribute to the world, other people will be grateful and thankful for the magnificence of you.

Are You Deviating (And Elevating) From The Norm?

posted by cweiner

He is seen by some people as an off the wall character.

While others see him as a genius…

And this also includes what he was known for.

In fact, even his name has the sound of someone who is outlandish.

Not only that but the names of his children are just as bizarre as this most obvious eccentric man.

And yet…

One of his quotes without a doubt has an important place in your life. Because when you live by the meaning of this quote, your life will certainly transform in the way you want…as long as you don’t take it to extremes.

First the man…

Frank Zappa

…and the quote:

“Without deviation from the norm progress is not possible.”

And how fitting is it that Frank Zappa would say something like this?

Certainly not out of the ordinary…or perhaps it is.

Now before you see how big of an impact this has in your life, ask yourself the question…

Are you deviating (and elevating) from the norm

1. Long hair and a wooden leg- While I’m not really a fan of Frank Zappa’s music, I do find some of his quotes outrageous…and at the same time providing some profound wisdom. Here’s one such quote while being interviewed on TV:

“Interviewer: ‘So Frank, you have long hair. Does that make you a woman?’
Frank Zappa: ‘You have a wooden leg. Does that make you a table?”

While quotes like this were typical of Zappa, and seem funny on the outside they do have meaning…some more important than others.

In this case it’s an excellent example of never judging a book by its cover. Now on the outside Frank Zappa may have looked “different” at the time because of his long hair, yet that doesn’t mean he has nothing of value to contribute to others.

The same is true of the gentleman with the wooden leg.

Now I’m not sure if that gentleman took what Zappa said seriously. However my interpretation of it is that just because someone has a “disability” it doesn’t mean they can’t do extraordinary things in their lives. Hence the comment, “does that make you a table?”

And this ties right in with deviating (and elevating) from the norm.

Because unless you stand out in a large way—to the point where you are “pushing the envelope” and in the process going against the norm—you’ll be playing small in life…and get small results in the process.

And it’s worth mentioning again…

When I say deviate and go against the norm, I’m not saying to go to extremes just for the fun of it…or to where it hurts other people.

What I am saying is to have a vision that’s true to you while at the same time serves the world. Because this is how progress is made…just like Zappa says in his quote.

Just to give you a personal example…

My purpose and mission is to help people maximize their full potential and live inspiring lives…by realizing the magnificence and brilliance of who they are.

A big part of this involves showing people how to live fulfilled lives.

And while most people are out there promoting happiness and the idea of trying to live a happy life…I promote living a fulfilled life.

In the process you’ll hear me speak about how trying to live a happy life is unrealistic and how it actually causes many of the things you don’t want in your life.

Of course this goes against what most people in personal development and self help teach.

However my intention is to help people with methods that are designed to work and if that means going against what everyone else is saying…then I’m deviating from the norm and that’s ok with me…as long as it’s helping others in the process.

Now what about you?

Where can you deviate (and elevate) from the norm and in a sincere and helpful way that serves others and the world?

2. Reverse polarity- Let me briefly talk about a magnet. Why? Because it is directly involved in how your life turns out and has very much to do with deviating and elevating from the norm. This is where reverse polarity comes in.

Reverse polarity is when you have a positive hooked up with a negative. This is the same concept used with magnets.

It’s also the same concept that’s involved with you and every other human being.

Taking this a step further…

It’s also involved in every situation and event you come across in your life.

And it’s right at the core when it comes to you deviating (and elevating) from the norm.

Remember…

No matter what you do in your life, you’ll get both sides. People will be nice and mean to you, support and challenge you, like and dislike you, praise and criticize you…equally.

So in the process you may as well be your true self even if it means deviating from the norm…right?

Anything big that you’re looking to achieve in your life requires you in some way to deviate (and then elevate) from the norm.

And along the way you’re likely to have others laugh at you, while thinking you’re crazy. Look no further than Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Einstein, and any other person who made a worldwide impact …they deviated (and elevated) from the norm.

Speaking of elevating from the norm…

It’s one thing to be different and go against “the rules” so to speak, yet it’s also incredibly important that you elevate above the norm.

Why?

Because this is where you go above and beyond what most people are conditioned into…mediocrity. And I’ll be coming back to this in a minute.

Right now, however, just know that by elevating from the norm is where you go against what most people have been conditioned into thinking…and at the same time helping others be the change they seek in the world… while you’re being inspired as well.

And as strange as it sounds, this can take place within your own family…among your friends…in your career…and in any area of life most important to you.

Here’s something else to keep in mind…

3. Disguised geniuses- What exactly is “the norm?” Simply put, it’s when you follow what everyone else is doing just because someone (that was conditioned to do so) says you “should” or are “supposed to” or “have to” do it.

You can also look at this as “parroting” what others say… or following the “sheeple” mentality…or just following what the crowd does because “everyone is doing it.”

Even though at times this is necessary, it does provide a double edge sword.

And leads to a bigger problem as it relates to you…

Unless you know how to avoid it.

This is where I want to come back to what I mentioned earlier and bring up one of my quotes…

“You were born into genius and conditioned into mediocrity.”

Every person is a genius. You, your children, the people you care about most, your friends…everyone.

The only way that you cannot see this is if you’ve been conditioned…into mediocrity. And if you have, it’s certainly not your fault.

However it’s time for you to change that.

First, it starts by realizing what you’ve just read in the last few sentences.

And second…

The Frank Zappa quote.

In order for you to condition yourself back into the genius you are, it’s vital that you deviate (and elevate) from the norm to some degree.

The big reason why?

Because if you don’t… someone, an organization, or an institution will condition you the way they want. And you’ll end up subordinating your dreams and be living according to theirs.

And that is not what I desire for you.

That’s why I’m writing this…that’s why I do what I do…that’s why I teach the programs I do.

And it is my mission to make sure that you realize the magnificence and brilliance of who you are…

And to know that you’re here to provide a tremendous amount of value to the world through the uniqueness of who you are…

And to reveal your disguised genius…

Because if you don’t, nobody else will reveal or honor it in you either.

So be sure to treat yourself as the special person you are, while helping and treating those you care about as the special people they are.

And…

Be sure to “thank yourself” for who you are because there’s a lot to be thankful for.

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