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Q&A – “I don’t want to share my life with him anymore….

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring.me: “I have split recently with my partner of 12 years. He demands to know what goes on in my life and who I am seeing. I don’t want to share my life with him anymore but […]

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How to find happiness and feel real love

posted by B. Dave Walters

In my coaching work, the number one question I get is: How can I be happy?  Inevitably, the second question is: How can I find true love? A common mistake people make is believing that the solution to their problems […]

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How to stop procrastinating and do what you know you should do

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Just that you do the right thing. The rest doesn’t matter. Cold or warm. Tired or well-rested. Despised or honored. Dying…or busy with other assignments. Because dying, too, is one of our assignments in life. There as well: “To do […]

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Are you growing, or just growing older?

posted by B. Dave Walters

“I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a […]

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How to feel happy, and be at peace

posted by B. Dave Walters

“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them […]

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How to motivate yourself…finally!

posted by B. Dave Walters

“It’s a New Year and with it comes a fresh opportunity to shape our world. So this is my wish, a wish for me as much as it is a wish for you: in the world to come, let us […]

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Racism and the Law of Attraction (Video)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“I love America more than any other country in the world, and, exactly for this reason, I insist on the right to criticize her perpetually.” -James Baldwin Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I am trying to find a way to […]

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How to finally attract what you want (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Do not wait: the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along.” ― Napoleon Hill As of the […]

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Q&A: “I’m trying to smile, but I’ve hit rock bottom….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hello, I am on the journey of my life moving leaving everything i know to move to NYC by myself. I had to stay in a shelter and am still here. I have a job but […]

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The bad news about pursuing your dreams

posted by B. Dave Walters

We talked recently about what to do to have you breakthrough, and soon afterwards a friend contacted me about a hang up he’s having.  Essentially, he’s been in action towards achieving his goals, but his emotions have been all over […]

3 Simple rules for a happy life

posted by B. Dave Walters

“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them […]

Suicide, and making sense of the senseless.

posted by B. Dave Walters

“But in the end one needs more courage to live than to kill himself.” ― Albert Camus Anyone who’s lost a loved one to suicide knows how uniquely painful and confusing it can be.  The death of Robin Williams opened […]

Q&A: I STILL don’t know what to do with my life…HELP!

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I’ve been reading some of your posts, really interesting and encouraging, I kinda feel better and not that lost but I can’t stop thinking about what I can do. The thing is that I’m one […]

Expectations and the Law of Attraction

posted by B. Dave Walters

“There were two ways to be happy: improve your reality, or lower your expectations” ― Jodi Picoult Question submitted via Formspring: “How can I use the Law of Attraction to remove negativity?  I believe with all my heart I’ll achieve […]

How to Avoid Disappointment and Feel at Peace

posted by B. Dave Walters

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is.” -Eckhart Tolle On a recent […]

Q&A: I love him, but I’m afraid all he wants is sex

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Mr. Walters, I’ve been seeing this guy for about two and half months now. We spend lots of time together, sometimes he’ll call me just to chat and to see how I’m doing, he’ll even bring […]

It’s okay to not be okay

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Difficulties strengthen the mind, as labor does the body.” ― Seneca On a recent episode of Rise UP with B. Dave Walters: Simple Answers to Life’s Hard Questions we talked about getting up after falling down: Being true to yourself, why […]

How to love again

posted by B. Dave Walters

“To be rejected by someone doesn’t mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. It doesn’t mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. Remember that only ONE person has rejected […]

Resolving to do better in 2014

posted by B. Dave Walters

Cheers to a New Year and another chance for us to get it right. -Oprah Winfrey Every year around January 1, we take out a piece of paper and list our resolutions; all kinds of things we are ‘resolving’ to […]

Why you can’t sleep at night, and how to fix it.

posted by B. Dave Walters

In my Coaching work, one of the most common complaints I hear is of people not being able to sleep at night.  Whether it’s not being able to fall asleep, stay asleep, or not being able to get your mind to […]

Good news for tough times

posted by B. Dave Walters

“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” ― Fred Rogers It’s easy to start feeling […]

Three quick ways to find peace and happiness

posted by B. Dave Walters

“People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that’s B.S. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can […]

Q&A: How to deal with emotional abuse

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I think my partner is emotionally abusive, but I’m not sure if that means we need to separate. He stonewalls, withholds, ignores many of my requests for response/information, he seems entitled and self-serving, he claims to […]

Q&A: Can Christians and non-Christians date?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Can Christians and non-Christians date? If so is the outcome always one of being non-yoked?” Yes, it’s possible for a Christian and a non-Christian to date successfully.  However, it’s going to take communication and effort…just like […]

Q&A: We’re getting married, but he suffocates me; what should I do?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via formspring.me: “I am in a relationship for few years now, to everybody he seems to be a perfect lover n partner,but i get irritated very frequently due to his “over lovingness”.feel suffocated as he keeps a track […]

Q&A: Why there is no ‘One,’ and that’s a good thing

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Facebook: “I just broke up with my boyfriend for the third and final time. I’m feeling good about it, but truly discouraged at the fact that there isn’t one person in the world for everyone. Love is….not […]

How to be happy and powerful: Advice from the Emperor

posted by B. Dave Walters

This is the absolute best time in history to be alive. Let me say that again: This is the best time in history to be alive.  No human beings anywhere, ever, have had the level of peace, security, information, education, […]

Another love letter from your true self

posted by B. Dave Walters

Beloved, I have missed you since we last talked, but I’ve been with you the whole time.  I just wanted to tell you that I am SO very proud of you.  I see you every day, shining and brilliant. But, […]

Q&A: ‘Why did he go back to her?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I have been with my neighbor for a month, and we have been very close. All of the things you would expect in a loving relationship and it was all heading the right way.. except he […]

Q&A: Prayers and Inspiration for Tough Times

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring.Me/BDaveWalters: “What are some Bible verses I can share with a relative who just went to jail?” The Holy Bible is a source of inspiration for Jews, Christians, and even Muslims all over the world.  The real […]

How to be fearless

posted by B. Dave Walters

To fall seven times, it to rise eight times. Life begins today. -Bodidharma I’d like to talk a little bit here about confidence and self esteem. I’m serious, don’t roll your eyes at me! Those words, ‘self-esteem’ get thrown around […]

Q&A: How to give yourself permission to shine

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, […]

Q&A: Is it too late to work things out?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: My husband and I are separated and “trying” to work it out – although it is very one sided. Sometimes I fear that if things were to work out, I won’t feel comfortable being intimate with him […]

How to get up when you hit rock bottom

posted by B. Dave Walters

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is.  Always say “yes” to the […]

How can you create the life you really want?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Cheers to a New Year and another chance for us to get it right. -Oprah Winfrey Every year around January 1, we take out a piece of paper and list our resolutions; all kinds of things we are ‘resolving’ to […]

Q&A: ‘How can I get another chance?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve made a lot of mistakes, but I am really trying to change.  The problem is my family and friends don’t believe it, and keep treating me like the same old me; how do I show […]

Q&A: ‘Is being negative just as good as being positive?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “One of my friends actually believes being negative is as ok as being positive. He is constantly desolate and sad due to victimizing himself and not trusting anyone. Am I not able to convince him because […]

A love letter from your true self

posted by B. Dave Walters

Beloved, I’ve been trying to talk to you lately, but you’ve been so busy; hopefully writing this letter will get your attention.  I just want you to know something very important: I love you; I really, truly, do. I know it’s been […]

Q&A: ‘How can I give up stress and feel more centered?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I have had some amazing changes take place in my life. I have been very blessed and grateful for the things that have been taking place. However, I recently have been feeling uncentered. I pray, I worship, […]

Q&A: ‘How do I get over my breakup?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “My brother got dumped and he’s been listening to all kinds of break-up songs ever since. I told him to listen to more positive music, but he’s being emo and says that these bitter break-up songs […]

Q&A: How can I be confident without seeming arrogant?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “How can one be assertive and self-confident without seeming imposing or “better-than-thou”. Likewise  how can one be humble and reserved without seeming weak or insecure?” An excellent question! Just today a friend asked me if it was […]

Q&A: ‘I thought he was the one, but now I’m not so sure….’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Things started out so great. I thought I found “the one”. Now he is nice half the time, and angry the other half. I feel like I walk on eggshells. I don’t want to leave because I […]

Q&A: How to know when they are not interested

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “She was really pissed that day and when I was going to propose to her.  She said she doesn’t want to hear from me anymore. She thinks I’m a like a brother and friend and nothing […]

Q&A: ‘How do I stop being so shy?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I am perceived at work as being quiet and unassuming and unresponsive to the social interactions of others in the workplace. What should I about this when there is work to be done?” The simple answer […]

Q&A: ‘Why is my life falling apart?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I don’t understand what I am doing wrong. I have made some mistakes, and I try to be a good person, but things just keep getting worse. Why does this keep happening, and what am I […]

Q&A: ‘He has stopped responding; should I confront him?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: I had this date with a guy nearly a month ago, there were hints that he likes me, and he said he would like to see me again.   He also said that he would like to […]

Q&A: ‘Should vaccinating your child be a choice?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Should vaccinating your child be a choice? A while back a one-year-old girl in my neighborhood contracted and died of measles after playing in the park with a boy whose mother didn’t believe in vaccinations. It scares […]

Q&A: ‘How do I tell my partner about my sexual fetish?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hello, Dave; I have a foot fetish, and I am scared to tell my girlfriend of 4 months about it. I’m scared that when she finds out, she’ll get grossed out. Should I tell her? And […]

Q&A: “My husband cheated 5 times…why did I stay?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring “I have been with a man who had at least five affairs during our 27 years or marriage, and even spent 7 years with the same woman. What makes a man do this? What made me accept […]

Q&A: ‘Is it possible to be too open minded?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Is it possible to be TOO open minded?” Absolutely; especially when you consider it’s possible to be too much of anything! Although, it is far more common to find people who are too closed minded, the […]

Q&A: ‘Should I work hard for what I want, or wait and trust the Universe?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “If I try really hard to manifest something in my life, am I sending out a signal to the universe that I don’t trust in it?” We have talked about the Law of Attraction many times, […]

Q&A: “He wants his space, but I don’t want to lose him….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

  Question submitted via Formspring: “I have been in a long distance relationship since January; I’ve had an amazing time and he was the best thing in my life.  But, he’s said he wants to tone it down; feelings have changed […]

Q&A: Should you stay together for the kids?

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Two questions submitted via Formspring: I’m stuck in a loveless marriage. We do nothing together but take care of the kids and take care of other things. We are basically just roommates. Our kids are young the youngest is 3. […]

Q&A: Do opposites really attract?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Do you think opposites attract?” The short answer is: no. One (dis)advantage of life in Los Angeles, is everyone is working to be absolutely identical. It may appear like they are so different, but if you look […]

Q&A: What’s the best way to break up?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “What is the best possible way to dump someone? I wanna break-off my relationship, but I’m pretty sure my partner is still enamored with me. I wanna stay friends, and don’t want to hurt anyone, […]

Q&A: How do I stop picking the wrong guys?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I am one of those “good girls” faling in love with “bad boys”. With a dad who was never at home and a mental unstabil mum. You say, we can not trust our first […]

Q&A: The married man and the 34 year old virgin

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I am one of the oldest living virgin women at 34 years old. In dating, I have yet to trust anyone enough to take that from me. A long-time friend I trust has watched me struggle […]

Q&A: How do I know they are ‘The One'; Or, am I afraid to be alone? (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Heey. Um, how would I know if I’m with someone ’cause I’m afraid to be alone, or ’cause I actually love someone? Your responses are exact and helpful. Thanks!” And, “How would I know if […]

Q&A: “How do I attract my dream job”; Or, 40 hours of fun!

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring.me: “How do I attract the right job. The one that truly makes me happy?” An excellent question! Too many people go through life doing something they don’t enjoy, with some vague plan to be happy at some […]

Q&A: How do I make up my mind, and give up confusion?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi Dave How is your day going? I hope really well, well I know! it is going well because you find the best in everything that happens I wanted to ask a question, I hope it doesn’t […]

Q&A: ‘Is it OK to have sex with someone you don’t love?’

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring.me: “Is it OK to have sex with someone you don’t love?” A great question! The answer, is kind of complicated though; since what do you mean by “OK”? People have different moral and religious views on sex, […]

Q&A: I don’t know what to do with my life…HELP!

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m kinda lost I’m 30 years old and honesty I don’t know how to deal or what to do with my life I don’t know what makes me happy or whats is my passion I don’t have […]

Q&A: “I’m not sure if we should try again because I don’t want to get hurt”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Unedited question submitted via Formspring: “I’m in love with a guy. he broke up with me 1/2 year ago. hes(still) sometimes so sweet and says he loves me but sometimes he don’t seem to want me. I’m not sure if we […]

Q&A: “I forgot to tell him I had herpes, and now he doesn’t trust me”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring.me: “My boyfriend found out that I Was drinking behind his back. We are not together now and I am 12 days clean He says I betrayed his trust and he can’t trust me again I […]

Q&A: “I am married to an addict and don’t know how to leave”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Female married for 17 years, 47, 16 year old son. Husband drinks heavily and also addicted to prescription meds. I am not happy. Scared of what he might do if I try to leave.” And, […]

Q&A: “I’m stuck in a loveless marriage, but afraid to leave….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “Female married 20 yrs-no kids, 55. Marriage went bad 10 yrs ago when finances went bad. Stayed bc couldn’t afford not to, tried to work it out. No love. Met someone, but he will not […]

Q&A: “We met on Facebook and are in love, why won’t she talk to me? “

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “She and I met on the FB and wanted to get married(long distance relationship),she love me like anything and cant live without me and me too. But she’s quite reluctant to talk over the phone or […]

Q&A: Why is white skin believed to be so beautiful?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “Why is white so beautiful? Soap Operas all over the world only show the light-skinned people. Asian countries have surgeries and accessories to widen eyelids. Light-skinned artists are admired as the most beautiful ones (Beyonce, […]

Q&A: Is the Ego a bad thing?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve been to a lot of spiritual seminars, and most of them tend to say that the EGO is a bad thing. Is that necessarily true?” An excellent question! We discussed this question on a […]

Q&A: I caught him cheating and we broke up; but has he moved on?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve broke up with my boyfriend for kissing and texting another girl and recently i wanted him back but he said he didn’t want a relationship. I’ve recently found out that he is meeting up […]

Q&A: Why do Good Girls love Bad Boys? (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring (many, many times): Why do Good Girls love Bad Boys? This is one of those issues that has come up so many times that I covered it both on a recent episode of my radio show: […]

Q&A: “Is it OK to kiss him if he doesn’t want a relationship?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “Hi Dave, is it OK to have a kiss knowing nothing if he really wants to have a relation with me & just because I love him?” Sure, why wouldn’t it be? A kiss is a […]

Q&A: Which is the best way to remain connected?

posted by B. Dave Walters

The simple answer is: TALK TO EACH OTHER! We’ve said again and again: if you can’t communicate, you don’t have a relationship! It’s normal to settle in to a sort of routine in your relationship; almost no one has the […]

Creatheists: two sides of the same coin; Or, purity and fanaticism

posted by B. Dave Walters

(This was one of my very first and still most controversial articles to date.  Now over 500 articles later, I still couldn’t agree with this more!) A fanatic is one who can’t change his mind and won’t change the subject.  […]

Your God-given talents; Or, playing the hand you’re dealt

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, […]

Q&A: Workplace romance gone wrong; Or, dealing with insecurity (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Facebook: “It’s been wonderful to discover you … this is my problem and I’m afraid I’m so close to a breakdown… please help. I fell in love with my boss and had a strange relationship with him […]

How to deal with jealousy; Or, the green-eyed monster in the mirror (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring.me: “I feel bad when I see my ex happy. I wanted to be happy before him. I am not happy. He has moved on and I can’t. Advise?” Los Angeles is quite possibly the most superficial […]

Q&A: How do I start dating and learn how to flirt? (Video)

posted by B. Dave Walters

The video below answers these questions submitted via Formspring.me Part 1: Hi Dave, I’m a 31 year old female, and I’ve never dated, or kissed anyone. It’s not that I haven’t ever been asked out. I am a bit overweight, but […]

Q&A: “Is there any way to say what I want, and be heard, without being aggressive?” (Video)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Facebook: “Hi Dave, you are really great and I love you! :o) I just watched the video on emotions and you are right about love patterns that we learn from our parents. I’m a happy optimistic person and […]

Letting go of guilt; Or, how to make things right (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Questions submitted via Formspring: “I have deep seated guilt issues which have made my self esteem lead me down paths of bad relationships and walking away from the only decent relationship of my life. How do I rid the guilt to […]

Knowing what you want, Or, wanting what you get (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Be Content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” -Lao Tzu Now we’ve let go of the past, and figured out how to feel good all the time, […]

R.I.P. Whitney Houston; Or, The meaning of life

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Here is a test to find out if you mission on Earth is finished: if you are alive, it isn’t.” -Richard Bach On February 11, 2012, one-time singing sensation Whitney Houston died of a rumored (although as of yet unconfirmed) […]

How to deal with negative people; Or, how to be the life of the party (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“He who angers you, conquers you” -Elizabeth Kenny I have a confession to make: Los Angeles can *kind of * get under your skin. When you come here, it seems like it’s full of negative people, but that’s not really […]

One soul living in two bodies; Or, being a friend (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“A true friend is one soul in two bodies.” -Aristotle In the video below, I give several pointers on how to be a good friend, how to know when a relationship has run it’s course (or worse, turned toxic), and […]

Flying eagles and pecking pigeons, Or, the secret of success (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal” -Earl Nightingale Los Angeles is a wonderland. Actually, Disneyland, the happiest place on earth, is right here! (OK…Disneyland is just south of Los Angeles in Anaheim, but we take credit for […]

Getting rid of baggage; Or, how to change in an instant (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living. Gail Sheehy When I take on new coaching clients, either online or here in Los Angeles, one of the first things we talk about is what […]

Q&A: I love her, but she says I’m like her brother

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “I met this grl online about a year ago we were cool and metin person 2 times when she was in my areaWe gotcloserabout two months ago and pretty much talked all day evry day since […]

Q&A: We broke up, now we still hang out but I don’t feel good, what should I do?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “One month ago my 2-year relationship ended. I’m in college. That guy was my first ‘real’ relationship and I still love him a lot but we hurt each other because we were both unhappy. Now we still […]

Dreams, the ultimate teacher, Or, what does THAT mean??? (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds, wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may […]

Q&A: “I over analyze things and nag him all the time; how do I stop doing that?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Facebook : “It’s 3 am and just post it something in my wall and the first person I wanted to say something was you. Is amazing how much you can help ppl that u don’t even know. My […]

Quit being a zombie; Or, how to make a choice (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Nothing is more difficult, and therefore more precious, than to be able to decide.” -Napoleon Bonaparte. I apologize if the tone of this article is a little…harsher than usual, but I promise it’s only because I love you, and want […]

The prison in between your ears; Or, when you believe (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Condemnation without investigation is the height of ignorance.” — Albert Einstein Despite all the time we’ve spent talking about Change  up until now, we have tiptoed around the real foundation of change, and what it takes to make it. Everything you are […]

Q&A: How do I help my child without making things worse?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Two questions submitted via Formspring: “re: page Jesus is not a jerk. I want to share it with my son who is struggling with addictions. How can I explain your comment that Jesus enjoyed a good time (drinking) without him twisting […]

Q&A: “I’m pregnant and scared…should I keep the baby?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m in college, pregnant and scared. I don’t want the baby, but and couldn’t give it up if it gets born. Either the baby’s life ends or my life and hopes for law school ends.” On […]

Q&A: “How do I stay positive around all these negative people?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Questions submitted via Formspring: “Hello. I am a recent college grad who still cannot find employment. I live with my parents and younger brother at home but they are all such negative people. Constantly angry and pessimistic it’s hard to […]

Q&A: You are good enough; Or, dealing with fear, doubt, and insecurity

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring.me: “I recently realized that when I’m in love,I worry so much,I have so many fears,that even when my boyfriend had to go away for ONE weekend I suddenly became unhappy!how do you REALLY get to that point […]

Emotions, Or, you’re great, and I love you!

posted by B. Dave Walters

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Buddha I’ve written and talked many times before now about how to use your emotions and the need for self-love but this time I’d like […]

Q&A: “He loves me, but he doesn’t express it in the way that I want him to…”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted viaFormspring “I am in love with a person. He too loves me. But he doesn’t express it the way I want. How do I make him do that?” Well, there are at least three competing things going on […]

Meditation 101; Or, reining in the monkey mind (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and […]

Understanding personality; Or, 7 billion snowflakes

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” Bruce Lee The cornerstone of my Life Coaching works is a science known as NLP: Neuro-Linguistic Programming. NLP is a set […]

Q&A: How soon should we have sex?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Two questions submitted via Formspring: “On my first date with a guy I’m seeing, i ended up making out with him at the club for a long time. I really like him, but I don’t want him to think that […]

How to be HAPPY, Or, the un-given gift

posted by B. Dave Walters

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a […]

Why you self-sabotage; Or, how to stop making yourself miserable (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m in a two years relationship. I always thought, that we were indestructible, but for a few months I don’t think that anymore… And I dont wanna think all the time about “are we meant to be” […]

Spiritual parenting, Or, how to live forever (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

To bring up a child in the way he should go, travel that way yourself once in a while.  ~Josh Billings In honor of my daughter Alexandria Sophia (Lexi)’s birthday, I’d like to talk a little bit about parenting. Parenting […]

Q&A: Is it wrong to defend guilty people?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I am a defense attorney, and my job requires that I defend all of my clients regardless if they have confessed their guilt to me or if I just know that they are guilty. This worries […]

Q&A: “I’m constantly wondering when am I ever going to get married myself; how do I stop it?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Facebook “O life coach (lol) I have something that is constantly on my mind that I can’t seem to shake. I want to get married. It’s constantly on my mind. Everyone around me is getting married or […]

Q&A: A married man falls in love with another woman…is that cheating?

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring.me part 1: there is a married man. he meets the love of his life 20 years ago, but they didn’t got a chance, cause he doesn’t wanted to leave his son. now he and his love […]

Q&A: “He says he is leaving her for me but never does, what’s going on?”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I have a male friend who lives with his girlfriend and been with her years. However, he flirts with me all the time, promises to come and see me (even though I live hundreds of miles away), […]

Q&A: “Is it ever possible to love two people at the same time….”

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring “Is it ever possible to love two people at the same time ?” This is a debate that has raged for many years, and will almost certainly keep raging. The answer is simple, but the implications are […]

Q&A: “So is Mass Media negativity a good thing or a bad thing?” (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “Seeing a horrible event on the news can make people really sad, but it can also inspire other people to take action. So is mass media diffusion of horrifying and unjust realities more of a good […]

The myth of ‘Forever'; Or, tainted love (Video)

posted by B. Dave Walters

In my relationship coaching work, I often work with clients with one of two problems: an inability to start a new relationship because they are afraid it won’t work, or an inability to leave a relationship that ISN’T working because they are […]

“Why can’t I let him go;” Or, Tainted Love II

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “I was watching your video clip ‘Tainted love’ & EVERYTHING you were speaking of is me. I am in a relationship with a man who cheats, lies & really is a hypocrite. But still I stay. I recently figured […]

Getting over it; or, finding unconditional love (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past, but by the love we’re not extending in the present.” -Marianne Williamson Because of my writing, inviting people to ask me anything, and presence on Facebook, […]

Staying out of the prison of fear, Or, who are you really?

posted by B. Dave Walters

“Courage is the resistance of fear, the mastery of fear, but not the absence of fear” -Mark Twain If you’re read my other article, Breaking the prison of Fear, you may recall it ends like this: I want to leave you […]

Q&A: Who can you REALLY trust, visualization, losing weight, and More! (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

On this week’s episode of my radio show, Rise UP with B. Dave Walters, we discussed several questions submitted via Formspring: “Are some foods naturally healthier than others, or are they healthy because we have mentally conditioned our minds to […]

Q&A: Finding love, how to apply The Secret, and more! (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

If you are like many people (myself included), 2011 had some pretty difficult parts!  For me, I can say without question that the first 6 months were some of the hardest of my life; but the second 6 were some […]

Q&A: How to deal with a family member with mental illness? (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

Questions submitted via Formspring.me “How does a mother deal with loosing her first born to schizophrenia, and see him loose intrest in life, and in his own being?? How can she overcome the saddness of knowing he will never be the […]

Q&A: “No one will marry me because of how I act”

posted by B. Dave Walters

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m 30 female..but there is a child soul inside me,,, it makes me happy,,,but people dislike it,, they keep saying you are old old old girl you are not pretty to act like that… no […]

Q&A: Does the Law of Attraction blame the victim?

posted by B. Dave Walters

Question submitted via Formspring: “The Law of Attraction teaches that we create our own realities by attracting like things/events to us based on our feelings. So does that mean that the victims of crimes are are attracting those crimes to […]

How to see the future; Or, no fate but what we make (VIDEO)

posted by B. Dave Walters

“The men and women who practice the foregoing instructions will certainly get and stay forever rich in all areas. In this process, we must stay conscious to that fact that any form of wealth received will be in exact proportion […]

Missing the mark; Or, the wages of Sin

posted by B. Dave Walters

We are punished by our sins, not for them. ~Elbert Hubbard. Spirituality, especially organized Religion, often gets a bad rap as being nothing but “Thou Shalt Nots”.  And, to be honest, in many houses of worship, it IS nothing but […]

Why God sends you problems; Or, Let the Haters hate

posted by B. Dave Walters

The Codfish/Catfish Story I heard this story on the radio today, and was able to find it online here.  I loved it so much I wanted to share it with you: “Codfish is a big business. The market is huge. […]

No more worry, Or, letting go and letting God

posted by B. Dave Walters

“We hope vaguely, but dread precisely.” Paul Valéry Really, worry is more than a habit, it is an addiction. If you don’t know how we can get addicted to emotions, I HIGHLY recommend you watch ‘What The Bleep Do We […]

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